Thread: what to do about her?
05-22-2004, 10:31 AM #1
what to do about her?
So i was dating this girl at school and then summer vacation hits and not a week later she calls and says she doesn't miss me like she thought she would and she wants to be alone...........now if this girl felt about me how she showed the entire semester then i know she'll end up calling and saying she misses me but my question is what do i say to her when she calls..........like when she asks how i'm doing and if i'm seeing anyone. Do i lie and say i've never been better or do i tell her the truth, that i'm freakin miserable and havent slept since she broke up with me?!?
Sorry if this is gay but this is the first girl i've been in love with.........and i'm not handling it well and really don't know how to deal with this.........don't girls suck?!?
p.s. I know its not another guy cause i've got informants/friends from her hometown and so thats not an issue.
05-22-2004, 10:44 AM #2
Just roll with it....in my limited years, trying to "strategize" in instances like this only causes more problems than it solves. If your feelings for her remain, pine over her, hope for the best, but know that everyone gets their heart broken once or twice. If they dissipate, have a good summer. Trying to analyze the situation and plan will only give you more headaches. That being said, however, if you can toss a few "half-truths" her way without agonizing over their development (ie, off the top of your head) that can actually help. Just don't cross that line into agonizing plotting....NEVER helps - NEVER.
05-22-2004, 10:55 AM #3
I feel for you buddy. Having someone you love leave you is really really hard. You need to just focus on yourself and get your mind off of the whole ordeal. Try really devoting yourself to your workouts or something. I know it is hard but you will definity find other girls....good luck.
05-22-2004, 11:01 AM #4
NEVER NEVER EVER rule out "the other guy" Some people dont INSTANTLY jump from one person to the other. Some people take time to get to know the other person before they get careless and start being seen with that person. Informants and friends are NOT ALWAYS around her 24 7 and are not tapping her cell phone or AOL messages. You could be right and she may just want time to be by herself for summer time. She might just want to be free and not worry about cheating on someone or worrying about hurting someones feelings if she runs into someone else.
It sucks. There will always be that one girl whom you wish you had a second chance with. There is no avoiding it. I think EVERYONE has that one person they will always miss even if they are happily married to someone else.
Please do not spend your time hoping every ring of the phone is from her. It WILL NOT happen during the summer. TRUST ME. There is too much going on during summer time for someone to miss someone they dumped.
05-22-2004, 11:09 AM #5
05-22-2004, 11:23 AM #6
bermich.......bro, haha, thanks for being brutally honest and yes so far every ring of that phone makes me jump but hopefully it gets better. As not being experienced in all of this i thank you guys for the help, i'm gonna stick it out and concentrate on getting huge so when she sees me again she'll realize what she passed on.
05-22-2004, 11:35 AM #7Originally Posted by 1badcamaro
Ha ha. I am always brutally honest. Getting big is the best. It feels so good to be in control when you run into that girl that ditched you. Its happened to me a few times. The girl you got big for is finally gonna be at that pool party youve been waiting for. Its the best experience having that girl and all her friends jocking you and constantly expressing how much youve changed. Later that night, you fvck her once more, or one of her friends. Hell, maybe you get to tag em all at the same time if they are close friends. Either way, the workouts were worth it.
05-22-2004, 12:11 PM #8Originally Posted by MMC78
05-22-2004, 12:19 PM #9VET Retired
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Time alone my ass what a sorry excuse!! if you really like/ love you dont need time alone........fukk her......its hard to do i know but move on or be a slut and try to screw her from the sidelines but you cant be soft-hearted. (like me).
05-22-2004, 12:38 PM #10
being a slut for the summer sounds beautiful, i think i'll go with that.
05-22-2004, 02:22 PM #11
its pink on the inside
You young cats need to understand how many goats there are in the world.
Plenty of goats to go around.
"NEXT" is ONLY answer.
Dont try to figure them out bro b/c
your not going to do it !
05-22-2004, 03:31 PM #12
i think jeff foxworthy said it best and its so true.........women are always sayin to each other i wonder what he's thinkin............ladies i will tell you what we're thinking...........we're thinking, i'd like a beer, and i'd like to see something naked.
05-23-2004, 01:02 PM #13
check out the dating and love section on askmen.com
its got alot of articles that'll help u out dude.
I broke with my x over 4 months ago ... I'm doing fine .. good actually, I've met a BETTER GIRL IN EVERY WAY. go figure.
We talk abit now here and there, but it would never be the same and it aint worth it man.
Too little time to have to worry about someone liking yah!
05-23-2004, 01:38 PM #14
When she calls.. cause chances are she will.. just tell her that your doing fine.. if she asks if your seeing someone say no just to keep the option open for her to try and work it out.. just dont pour your heart out to her.. that never works..
05-23-2004, 03:07 PM #15
yea, i've been debating on whether or not to tell her if i was dating someone else cause jealousy always seems to work well but then again i do wanna keep the option of being with her open. Maybe i'll just tell her that i have dated a few girls but nothing serious.......Dally, lots of good stuff on that site, thanx bro.
05-23-2004, 03:15 PM #16Originally Posted by bermich
05-23-2004, 03:19 PM #17
R u married to this woman????? no??????
when she asks if you have seen other people........... after she broke it off with you.. say......... "Don't ask questions you dont want to know the answers to" and "we were taking a break."..
but never admit to anything..............The answer to your every question
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05-23-2004, 05:52 PM #18
NEXT... that's the BEST advice....
sooo many girls out there bro. too many girls and too little time. don't waste your energy on just one. life's too short for that ****
05-24-2004, 08:52 PM #19
yea you always know there are a million girls out there but its something about the one you can't have that will just drive you nuts..........UPDATE, i was told she heard about me talking to one of her good girlfriends from school that lives close to me and it was really bothering her........good sign i guess?!
05-24-2004, 09:06 PM #20
she cant be worse than my whore bag of a girlfriend!
05-29-2004, 03:49 PM #21
whore bag of a girlfriend that you're still with? lol......???
05-29-2004, 04:24 PM #22Originally Posted by 1badcamaro
In about 99 of 100 posts I make, my advice is : Fvck her best friend. That always gets her attention, whether it be for revenge or for getting her back.
05-29-2004, 04:30 PM #23LM1332 Guest
Man trust me move on dont dull over one girl. Like ive been pretty upset about my girl when she broke up with me and it seemed like my whole dating thing came crashing. So a month later i went to the club and wow was i wrong. The best way to forget about someone and meet someone nice(if not nice someone to ****) is in the club, you know?
And man you are what 22? You are in your prime move one like thegorilla said there is a lot of fish in the sea
05-30-2004, 12:10 AM #24
first to reply to bermich, her best friend is about 5'2 250 pounds, so if you really want, i can send her your way but i aint gonna be able to get it up for that. LM, i know meeting someone helps but right now i havent and moving on as you know is easier said than done. There are easier days, but its only been two weeks and most days suck ass. I havent slept more than 4 hours in a single night, crazy i know, but it can't get any worse i guess.
05-30-2004, 12:14 AM #25Originally Posted by bermich
05-30-2004, 01:10 AM #26Originally Posted by thegorilla
Well then I guess all i can say is ...Badcamaro sweetie...I'm sorry you lost your favorite goat and I hope you find something to cheer you up soon...but just so you aren't confused by gorilla's response...we're not ALL smelly sh it bags you use to milk and keep your grass short...there are some nice sheep out there and I hope you can find one that will stay still long enough for you to tie it's back legs to the fence ...and Gorilla...my neighbor has a nice donkey with your name all over it...YOU TWO A$$ES SHOULD GET ALONG JUST FINE
05-30-2004, 01:14 AM #27Originally Posted by VIXI
05-30-2004, 04:18 AM #28
No. I dont give the advice to move on or NEXT. Ive been there and know that if your mind is on a girl, you dont notice any others. Even if you had some naked chick in your bed, you arent in the mood to mess aroudn with another girl. It doesnt neccassarily take time. It takes closure. You need to know for certain that: she will come back at a certain time or there is no chance she is coming back.
If a chick just leaves without any notice or signs of leaving, it sucks. You want that one last day to spend with her and to give her that one last hug, or that one question answered.
For all these guys who tell you NEXT. They are full of shlt. Once it happens to them, they will be in the same mood as you and they wont be thinking about NEXT. They will be asking: WHY.....Why did she leave me. Will she take me back.
05-30-2004, 05:14 AM #29Anabolic Member
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here are my thoughts on your little princess
1.) she's full of ****. space means i need to see what's out there better than you or i have found someone better than you and i don't want to look like a cheating whore since this has been going on awhile.
2.) the remedy?go on a tear this summer. nothing heals a broken heart like ****ign random girls and breaking their hearts or headboards
3.)nooo revenge is beter than doing better for yourself. whether it be more $$$$, a hotter gf, a hotter you, a better job, car, clothes, anything. show this bitch how she ****ed up.
oh and don't call her either
05-31-2004, 12:51 AM #30
i said it couldnt get worse...........but dont rule out the other guy just came back to bite me in the ass. I've now heard her and her X r talking again. I thought i was as low as i could get, but ya know, it got worse. I can't deal with this, this is eating at me, i can't move on, i can't nail random girls, ****, i can't even get a hard on around other girls. I was with a hotter chick the other night with a chance for ass......and nothing, i didn't want it in the least. Bermich you are giving such great advice man and i appreciate it, i dont see getting through this, but it can't last forever. Eventually i'm gonna have to talk to her straight up and find out everything i need to find out.........a little closure i guess but i just can't right now, i dont wanna give up on things or find out something i dont wanna find out.........that maybe we'll never be together again. I guess i'm done rambling now, it was just a horrible night and i needed to vent.........thanx for helping bros
05-31-2004, 01:06 AM #31Originally Posted by 1badcamaro
We have all been there bro.... I feel ya big time. My 1st love did something similar to me and it is hard to get over. My advice is to call up that hot chick you were with the other night and bang the $hit out here. It will make you feel 100 x better than you do right now. Just keep yourself busy and try not to think about it. That is the best way to deal with things like this. I know it is hard, I went through it and I know lots of others have too, but I would honestly do what I just said and I promise you will feel somewhat better after.
05-31-2004, 01:20 AM #32
i just can't, god i feel gay saying this, but i can't. I have had sex plenty of times before, but for the past 10 months, i haven't, and it is definitely by choice. After the last time i had sex i made a promise that i would be in love the next time i had sex, and i dont wanna give that up. I think i would just really end up regretting it cause i've gone so long. There is absolutely no sex drive right now for me and no urge to bang girls........I thought this would effect my workouts for the better, but honestly i feel like **** in the gym right now. I've gotten so far in the past 11 weeks and now i feel like i'm getting nowhere. I really had my hopes up for the DNP i thought i finally found, cause i've been searching for it for weeks now and it fell through, so that just adds to my misery...........something needs to drastically happen to get my **** together and to get me working my ass off in the gym again.
05-31-2004, 01:33 AM #33
I'm sorry sweetie...and I totally apologize if my rant on gorilla seemed like I was making your problem any less significant...I know how it is when you're heart isn't into anything but where it isn't wanted...and I'm sure many of the other people here do too...it sounds like you banging anonymus chicks would take more out of you then put more in...but I will say that finding other things to throw your thought processes into would be a great idea right now...cause apparently right now you can't shake her...I say that with the understanding that there is no hope?...please correct me if I'm wrong...I really don't think the kind of closure you think you're looking for will bring you to any better of a place...and in my experience when I've left someone...if they keep trying to maintain contact it just makes me want to push them away more...like partyboy said...better yourself...but not for her...do it for you...and if she happens to see the results then so be it..then take it from there...a year from now you'll remember...but you definetely won't morn...it'll just be something that got you to where you are ...hope that helps a little...and just maybe the dnp fairy will visit you...i'll keep my fingers crossed...xxxSass
05-31-2004, 04:33 PM #34
thanx VIXI, that was some good advice, i know i'll look back on this a year from now and wonder why i let this get to me so much but i guess love is a risk you gotta take. Ill just have to work on not getting so attached so quickly. i think the only hope of me getting over this is meeting another girl that makes me forget about her, which could happen very soon, or take years, but i guess i'll just have to wait it out cause if she wasnt meant for me then i can't imagine how awesome the girl that is meant for me is going to be.........thanx again for the concern, it means a lot to me!
05-31-2004, 06:19 PM #35
if i ever see this the other guy i am going to beat the crap out of him
05-31-2004, 06:24 PM #36LM1332 GuestOriginally Posted by bermich
05-31-2004, 06:44 PM #37
kill her... hide the body
05-31-2004, 06:47 PM #38
Sorry bud ive been there (still am)... and im the same way. Banging random girls isnt my thing (despite what crazy stuff thats described in my threads i have yet to bang another chick since my last girl). Anyways it hurts and the only thing i found to make it hurt less is to keep busy! If its work, school, working out, hobbies, friends, etc... find something to keep u busy. The less time u have to sit around and think the better! Also, if u run into a cool chick dont let her pass u by. Another girl can really take ur mind off... granted she is an awesome person. Im not even talking sexually... just a nice girl to have a good time with and lend support. good luck bro. love hurts, but its awesome while it last
05-31-2004, 09:12 PM #39
yea, i need to work up the confidence though, i have a hard time approaching girls. The girls i date are usually more forward and approach me which is awesome but i guess i'll have to get over the confidence thing if i wanna get anywhere.........so we'll see what happens with that.
06-01-2004, 01:19 AM #40Originally Posted by decadbal
lol. Funny just the way I can hear it being said in a joking way.
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