Ok bros, i made a HUGE mistake and tried contacting my x gf. Boy was that a mistake!!! Just to give a little history.....When we met i was actually supposed to be setup with her sister, but for whatever reason we started talking first and immediately hit it off. I mean things went so fast it was like it was meant to be. I never connected with a female like i did with her. Not even with my x wife did i have a connection like this. We would talk at least 10 times everyday and we would see each other just about everyday. Whether it was meeting for lunch or me coming over after work and hanging out. About two, three months into our relationship she tells me she was engaged and that her "x" broke off their engagement. Now, she tells me she was going to break it off, but i guess he jumped the gun and beat her too it. She starts telling about all the horrible things he did and how much of a jerk he was and that her family didnt like him...yadda..yadda...yadda....So i had no reason to think it would be an issue. Well, about 6 months into the relationship she starts breaking down about she misses him.... :rolleyes: Im like, how can u miss someone that did the things this guy did to u?!?! Anyway, i tell her that i cant deal with this and she has to make up her mind about what she wants, and maybe its a good idea we dont talk anymore. As soon as i say that she starts crying telling me thats not what she wants. This goes on for a week or so. I tell her that im not going to compete with this guy for her. That she needs to figure out what she wants.......Ohhh, just so u know the guy doesnt even live in the same state as her/us.
Anyway, we stopped talking for the last few months. An email here or there, but nothing of any substance. Iv been dating and trying to get her out of my mind, but i just cant. Iv never believed in soul mates till i met her....errrrrrrr Well, i get the nerve up to email her and tell her how i was feeling. Please, next time i wanna do something like this someone STOP ME!! Here is a copy of her email back to me.....
M,
I wish you only the best and wanted to let you know that I have wonderful memories of times we shared too. I am so sorry it did not work out for us, but no one is to blame). I just do not see long term potential with us. Remember, as a friend am always here for you. I also know if I ever needed a friend that you would be there too. However, it is difficult for both of us to be friends at the present time. Maybe after more time passes.
Please send my regards to your family as well.
C
WTF does "I just do not see long term potential with us." mean!?! I was floored when i read that. I have a very good job, i have a great family, i own a 3 bedroom 2 bath house, im a good looking guy, good shape, good morals...etc. We got along great, if we got into a disagreement we were always able to talk it out. WTFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Im very sorry to ramble and post my problems here. I just dont have anyone to talk to about it.... :( Im hurtin bigtime!! :( :(
OG