Thread: how would you react?
10-04-2004, 01:14 PM #1
how would you react?
well since my life is one big shock after another lately...here's the latest...
soon to be ex dropped new gf off at airport so she could fly home to her family for a wedding, then got in his truck the next day and DROVE 1000 miles to be with her and her family, he calls me from the truck on the way back (with his girl) to be sure I finished up the divorce paperwork!...wtf? huh...
10-04-2004, 01:27 PM #2
Shes probaly egging him on to do stupid **** like that just to reassure her low self confidence
10-04-2004, 01:28 PM #3
lmao..Originally Posted by mass junkie
i'm just trying to be sure i'm still breathing! wow
10-04-2004, 01:29 PM #4
I feel really bad for you.........I dont think you deserved to be treated this way.
10-04-2004, 01:30 PM #5Originally Posted by mass junkie
10-04-2004, 01:32 PM #6Originally Posted by mass junkie
10-04-2004, 01:32 PM #7Originally Posted by Bigen12
10-04-2004, 01:34 PM #8
be the adult, finish the paperwork, hit the gym, go for a run and....lmao BLOW IT OFF right?
10-04-2004, 01:45 PM #9Originally Posted by kc
Exactly, rise above, all of those childish games.
10-04-2004, 01:49 PM #10Retired Vet
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You deserve better than that, and are better than that..
You're a strong one KC...
10-04-2004, 01:50 PM #11Originally Posted by kc
10-04-2004, 01:59 PM #12Originally Posted by TexasFitnessGirl
I, like most of us here have been there, but it is wonderful now to be able to look back and think, I was very strong, and I did the right thing! In the end isn't that all that really matters?
10-04-2004, 02:05 PM #13
yep, ya'll are right....yuk
10-04-2004, 02:34 PM #14
**** KC, sorry to hear your ex is being a jerk. Best thing to do, imo, finish the paperwork, certify mail it back to him and hope it's the last time you hear back from him. He'll learn soon enough he's made a huge mistake. The grass is always greener...........
10-04-2004, 02:36 PM #15
dunno, it's over either way and i'm ok with that....the whole trip freaks me out tho
10-04-2004, 03:12 PM #16Originally Posted by kc
10-04-2004, 03:29 PM #17
ugh, i hope that call doesn't come...that would mess me up way bad
hmmm, i feel some serious lifting comin on tonight....hopefully that'll help me focus on something else
10-04-2004, 05:10 PM #18Originally Posted by mass junkie
10-04-2004, 09:06 PM #19
Do not even answer the phone from now on.
He is constantly hurting you...don't allow it.
10-04-2004, 09:12 PM #20Originally Posted by Bigen12
That sucks, KC...on the bright side, I'm sure you'll move on to bigger and better things. Every new relationship should always be better than your last...(no point in moving backwards, right?) =)
10-05-2004, 08:21 AM #21
turns out they're talking about getting engaged poor fukker is gonna get stuck with some chick he doesn't even know and lose a best friend as a result....
10-05-2004, 08:23 AM #22Originally Posted by kc
10-05-2004, 08:24 AM #23Originally Posted by Juggy Snout
10-05-2004, 08:25 AM #24Originally Posted by kc
10-05-2004, 08:28 AM #25
wtf else can i do...this will either be the absolute best decision he'll make or the absolute worst....not exactly sure which I'd like it to be
10-05-2004, 08:34 AM #26Originally Posted by kc
Unless you are completely over it - but i am guessing if you were - then you wouldn't be writing in this thread and you would have signed them already.
10-05-2004, 08:45 AM #27
hell, in 4 weeks you can't "Get over" 10 years.....but, I know it's over and that it's the right decision for both of us (he's proving that) so the papers aren't a big deal, I'm just doing them myself so it's time consuming and a pretty sucky job in general. Thankfully we have kept all our debt and all our assets seperate so it's easy. I just can't believe "lets save this friendship by ending the marriage" conversations were all complete bull**** but i guess that's what i get for trusting him so completely....
10-05-2004, 08:48 AM #28Originally Posted by kc
10-05-2004, 08:51 AM #29Originally Posted by kc
10-05-2004, 09:13 AM #30
just let this all show you what your really losing... that should make it easier
10-05-2004, 11:41 AM #31
KC sign those papers and be done with this a$$hole he causing you more grief then it is worth. It is too bad though i know it sucks to lose a friend. Stay stong and take out your frustration on the gym
10-06-2004, 08:14 AM #32Member
Originally Posted by kc
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You're saying it'll mess you up way bad because you think you'll be feeling down like you are now. You won't be, though. I do think, just by reading your post, that his current gf is wanting him to rub it in. Men aren't really spiteful like that. Like Juggy said, we're not smart enough to figure out how to hurt an ex. It shows her insecurity. :spudniklu
10-06-2004, 08:24 AM #33
well, papers are signed and ready to go. I wasn't sure how that was going to go yesterday but it went well. I stuck up for myself well, didn't allow him to even THINK i could be the psycho one and basically told him I was done until he figured his **** out and was ready to be a friend. He left there, expecting to see me later to pick up my tv and stuff, pretty **** quiet. He knew he fukked up and apologized...i just let him know that I won't be the one he gets to treat like crap.
Rolled into the apt last night with a buddy of mine and he was the "old xx" apologized again and everything went well....
All in all....kc feels MUCH better than she has in weeks and might be ready to put it behind her and move the fuk on.... i'm allowed a couple weeks of freakin out aren't I?
Thanks all you guys for all your support....surprising that most of you haven't ever spoken to me but care anyway....so, thanks a million. Hopefully someday I can return the favor.
10-06-2004, 08:26 AM #34
Its hard but a Phisically fit person like yourself can find someone new....do it up...you should probably get him on the phone and tell him to not call you or even better when he does call dont pick up guys hate that ****..make him think your out living your life w/o him even if your not...and maybe by doing this you won't have him putting you down. Live your Life do it howerver you want to but live life have fun, fuk the past and look to the future.
10-06-2004, 08:27 AM #35Originally Posted by TexasFitnessGirl
How much does it take to realise this sorry sack of **** thinks nothing about her? If he cares/loves her he would be there with her working things out. Instead he is playing some very farked up emotional games that will do nothing but tear her apart mentally.
I am sorry but this totally farking pisses me off, do not settle for this ****. My god, wake up and sign those god**** papers already. Like i said earlier, he can only hurt you as long as YOU allow him to.
We can only give advice, i do not know anything about you personally but from what i have read here, you have my sympathy as i know it is hard to make sense out of everything that is going on.
Of course it is easy for me to sit here and say leave him, sign the papers bla bla bla....i have nothing invested and i can give you an outsiders perspective and sometimes that is what we need when we go through times like this because we do not think clearly with all the turmoil going on at the time.
You should know from past relationships, time is the only thing that will help you. I can only provide you with encouraging words and i am sincere in what i say.
You only have one life to live on this earth, make the best of it while you are here. Do not waste time on somehting that is as futile as this relationship.
Keep your chin up and a smile on your face and one day you can look back at this with a smile and realise it was all a learning experience.
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10-06-2004, 09:07 AM #36Anabolic Member
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honestlyOriginally Posted by kc
10-06-2004, 09:35 AM #37
KC, look up the words to that 'Mo Town oldies song "Set Me Free" I believe it's called.
Set me free why don't you baby
You just keep me hanging on
Get up, get out of my life
You keep saying that you want
To be friends, and then you
Tear out my heart.
And there ain't nothing I can do
It goes something like that. I heard it the other day on the radio, and after reading some of the posts regarding stuff like this, it stuck in my mind. I need to call the DJ and ask them who sings it and what the name is. It's got a funky guitar in it that makes it sound short and choppey like a telegraph machine.
And don't answer the phone as was said earlier. If you have to answer it, keep the convo short and specific. If he asks you how you are doing, just say "Good". But don't sound all enthused about it. Just short and choppey. If you know it's him via caller ID, just answer the phone like "What do want, I'm busy".
10-06-2004, 09:46 AM #38Originally Posted by partyboynyc
it's just a shock.....i'm ok with what he's doing but after 10 years...some stuff will still freak me out a little....i figure i can have that for awhile as long as i deal with it, don't let him see me react and move on
10-06-2004, 09:47 AM #39Originally Posted by muriloninja
10-06-2004, 09:51 AM #40Anabolic Member
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i know how it isOriginally Posted by kc
i feel for you. i know how hard it is. stay strong kiddo!
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