Holiday issues...need some advice
Hey guys. There are always an array of responses and viewpoints whenever anyone posts here so I thought I'd give it a shot and get some feed back. Yes, it's relationship based so if that bores you don't bother reading futher. Thanks in advance for any comments.
My ex and I were dating for over a year and took a three month break (we boht saw other people, but when I started seeing someone that's when he decided he couldn't be without me and wanted to give it another chance). We've been back together now since August and everything he's been saying is about the two of us being a unit and he's been really enforcing the idea that we should be the number one person in each other's lives. OK, so I'm listening and trying my best to trust him and be open again. Then the issue of holidays comes up. We both live on the east coast (his family is east coast), but my family is all west coast. Over the past year I basically spent every holiday with his family. We already agreed to spend Thanksgiving together, but whenever I start pushing the issue for him to spend Christmas with me he has every excuse as to why that's not a good idea and how he should be with "his family" and suddenly the discussion becomes about him and me forcing him into a corner and that i'm making him "prove his love" for me. I see it as the holidays are about being with loved ones and we should be together first and foremost and it shouldn't matter whose family we are with. It doesn't help that my family really dislikes him after the "break" situation.
What do you think? Am I totally wrong to be making this such a big issue?