ok im now a born again VIRGIN

**Phillyboy1** · 10-16-2004, 01:10 PM

ok this is something ive been thinking about for a while now. but i think it would help if i give some background details.

ok i lost my V when i was 16 in the back of my GTI with some girl from my HS that i forgot her name after we were done. it wasnt a very great experiance, at the time i thought it was great but really it was pretty dumb and immature. then i didnt have sex again till i started dating my ONE and ONLY girlfriend that ive ever had in life at age 18. we started dating maybe a month after i turned 18, and she was 17, she was my second, and i was her first. we were best friends for a year before we started dating and then dated for 3 years. so i guess you could say we had a 4 year relationship. then around the time i was turning 21 i decided i wanted to be single, cause of how my friends talked about going to the bars and **** like that. it sounded fun so i ditched a good thing for a party life. (just to let you know, i never touched achohol till i was 21) so after i turned 21 i went to the bars and clubs with my friends for a few months and realized it wasnt what i thought and honestly wanted to be back with my former GF. she wasnt having it and ive been single ever since. since that time when we broke up till now ive slept with about 11 girls in 3 years, 13 girls total in my life. out of all of them girls only 2 ive actually had a relationship with, 1 being my GF, and another girl i was seeing for about 2 months. pretty much they were either one night stands or sex with girls i was friends with but nothing more, we just stayed friends cause the sex was good but there was no emotional bond what so ever.

well last friday night i went out with this 19 year old girl that i know that is just a booty call. pretty much she calls me when she's horny and wants me to put the smack down. we went to a strip club cause she likes girls also, and then came back to my place for some sex. i honestly could give a **** about this girl at all. and sometimes dont even want to bang her, it just feels like a big chore. she's hot and all but i just dont feel anything for her

so after all of these chicks ive decided im sick of just banging a chick and thats it. its not that im not a sexual person, me and my ex had sex twice a day for the 3 years we were together, thats alot of sex. i watch porn all the time. and think about sex all the time, but the thing is im tired of just doing it with chicks i dont give a **** about. i know i know this may sound gay but i really would rather have a relationship, not just some random sex. i figured i can do this, i dont think it will be that hard actually, ill just bury myself in the gym and my businesses.

id figured id post my thoughts and see what you guys think or if anyone else has ever felt this way. im not having sex again till i have a serious GF!

**sooner45** · 10-16-2004, 01:37 PM

I think its a smart choice bro! You never know these days with all the girls out there and who they have been with, what kind of diseases they have??? It will be more fulfilling for you if you wait to have sex with someone you REALLY care about. Just my .02! GL bro!

**mass junkie** · 10-16-2004, 01:38 PM

Should of waited untill after your cycle bro

**Phillyboy1** · 10-16-2004, 01:50 PM

Originally Posted by mass junkie

Should of waited untill after your cycle bro

yeah i know i know lol i think ill be able to control myself though lol. hopefully ill just end up being to big that i scare girls away lol
hahaha

**khurrams** · 10-16-2004, 02:34 PM

Im the same way man............Id have a one night stand randomly here and there if and when Im in heat, otherwise I don't give a fvck about bieng on a hunt all the time looking for a pu$$y....I know exactly what u mean..............when ur with someone special....and when u'r intimate with them......It just feels different.....you feel the butterflies in your stomach......

**Phillyboy1** · 10-16-2004, 02:42 PM

Originally Posted by khurrams

Im the same way man............Id have a one night stand randomly here and there if and when Im in heat, otherwise I don't give a fvck about bieng on a hunt all the time looking for a pu$$y....I know exactly what u mean..............when ur with someone special....and when u'r intimate with them......It just feels different.....you feel the butterflies in your stomach......

exactly, i could give a f-ck about going out and looking for some girl just to abuse

**Psychotron** · 10-16-2004, 03:22 PM

ha, im 20 and still a virgin. you gotta do what ya gotta do. from my point of view i wouldnt mind banging a chick i dont know just for the sex, but ive never done it so i dont know your situation.

**Slick Arrado** · 10-16-2004, 04:00 PM

I completely understand you bro. I feel the exact same way. :spudniklu

**Wrath** · 10-16-2004, 05:00 PM

STOMPER ..I HAD THIS SAME EPIPHANY 2 WEEKS AGO MAN!!!!

A girl that I cared very deeply for and had already had sex with decided we should be celibate and i agreed. After 2 months I couldn't take it and did some bonehead **** and left her if she wouldn't give me the poom poom. Went crazy and did my thing random chicks that was just cut buddies...but was feeling empty man after getting some nookie from some broad in the back of my truck.

Long story short I lost my desire to smash other chicks man...and felt disgusted, and got back with the original chick about a month ago and have been going strong with no nookie

its weird ..it liek scales just fall from over your eyes bee..

ill definetely holla at you on aim man

**decadbal** · 10-16-2004, 05:05 PM

all this anti sex talk is making me think this is a gay board... not a bodybuilding one.. whats wrong with u girls..

**Mighty Joe** · 10-16-2004, 05:29 PM

Bro, when the right girl comes along you will know it. If the chemistry works and the relationship grows and yes, dare I say the "L" word becomes part of the picture than and only than will the SEX be amazing!
I found a girl like that and I married her and she still knocks my socks off and I'm Married 11 years to her!
I'm one lucky MoFo!

Good Luck, MJ

**Phillyboy1** · 10-16-2004, 05:36 PM

Originally Posted by Mighty Joe

Bro, when the right girl comes along you will know it. If the chemistry works and the relationship grows and yes, dare I say the "L" word becomes part of the picture than and only than will the SEX be amazing!
I found a girl like that and I married her and she still knocks my socks off and I'm Married 11 years to her!
I'm one lucky MoFo!

Good Luck, MJ

thats exactly what i had with my ex. it sucks i think about her everyday but dont see us ever getting back together. what can ya do

**calidude** · 10-16-2004, 05:39 PM

Originally Posted by jcstomper

thats exactly what i had with my ex. it sucks i think about her everyday but dont see us ever getting back together. what can ya do

You never know. It could happen.

**Phillyboy1** · 10-16-2004, 05:44 PM

Originally Posted by calidude

You never know. It could happen.

yeah your right, but until then ill just work on making one of the goal in my life happen. millionaire buy age 30.

PT · 10-17-2004, 04:58 AM

come on, you are men. we are supposed to have sex as often as we can. hell i know ill never give it up. and once your married for 5 to 10 years and have banded the same pusssy for that many years you will wish you had one of those random girls.

**w_rballs** · 10-17-2004, 09:13 AM

Originally Posted by Decadbal

all this anti sex talk is making me think this is a gay board... not a bodybuilding one.. whats wrong with u girls..

i think everyone is on PCT and its making them real emotional.

not wanting to have sex with chicks u dont care about?? maybe its me but.... i love **** like that.

**Phillyboy1** · 10-17-2004, 09:15 AM

Originally Posted by w_rballs

i think everyone is on PCT and its making them real emotional.

not wanting to have sex with chicks u dont care about?? maybe its me but.... i love **** like that.

haha, im the exact opposite, i just started a cycle lol

**cal565** · 10-19-2004, 03:09 PM

I'm about mid-way through a cycle and I feel the same way.I think about sex all the time but I dont just want to have sex with random girls. Me and my fiance' just broke up about 3 months ago and when we first broke up all I wanted to do is try to find as many girls to screw as possible, but here lately I just want her back. There is no better sex than that which you have with someone who you truely love and care for.

**Phillyboy1** · 10-19-2004, 03:14 PM

Originally Posted by cal565

I'm about mid-way through a cycle and I feel the same way.I think about sex all the time but I dont just want to have sex with random girls. Me and my fiance' just broke up about 3 months ago and when we first broke up all I wanted to do is try to find as many girls to screw as possible, but here lately I just want her back. There is no better sex than that which you have with someone who you truely love and care for.

ah ha, i knew i wasnt the only one that thought this way lol

**CarvedFromStone** · 10-19-2004, 04:16 PM

stomper how long as it been since you broke up with ya girl? i felt the same way after i broke up with my girl, but a few months went by and i started to get the urge to do the dirty. Give it some time and let that lovey love **** wash outa your head, youll be on your way again soon

**Phillyboy1** · 10-19-2004, 04:30 PM

Originally Posted by HULK1732

stomper how long as it been since you broke up with ya girl? i felt the same way after i broke up with my girl, but a few months went by and i started to get the urge to do the dirty. Give it some time and let that lovey love **** wash outa your head, youll be on your way again soon

haah, ready to laugh, its been over 3 years since i broke up with my girl. its not even that, its just that im tired of just bangin random chicks

**Commando_Barbi** · 10-19-2004, 04:31 PM

Maybe I can get you to fall in love with me in Vegas

and I can be your First

**CarvedFromStone** · 10-19-2004, 04:37 PM

Originally Posted by jcstomper

haah, ready to laugh, its been over 3 years since i broke up with my girl. its not even that, its just that im tired of just bangin random chicks

haha well i tried, that was my how i felt. Its been three years and you still think about her every day? **** man this must have been some girl, you need to get that one back.

**dolfyns70** · 10-19-2004, 04:46 PM

I just wanted to say that it takes a real man to post how he feel's on a board like this. Also, be patient with your x-gf if she truly love's you she will be back.

**cal565** · 10-19-2004, 04:58 PM

I keep telling myself that if she truly loves me she will come back, but at this point in the game she will not even talk to me. Stomper I know just how you feel though. Me and this girl dated seriously once before and we went our seperate ways, but I was lucky enough to get one more chance with her. There wasn't a day that went by since the first time we ever went out on a date that I did not think of her. Now I think I have really blown it but that is a whole nother story.

**Phillyboy1** · 10-19-2004, 05:43 PM

Originally Posted by HULK1732

haha well i tried, that was my how i felt. Its been three years and you still think about her every day? **** man this must have been some girl, you need to get that one back.

yep every day, boy it sucks lol. im just gonna work hard at making my businesses successful right now, she is back at school for some nursing thing and has a internship going on. so she's really busy too, im just gonna keep myself busy and ya never know what happens in the future. she tells me she doesnt want to talk about a relationship with me cause she isnt ready to deal with them feelings again, she said that that sherril crow song "first scare is the deepest" is me and her relationship. she's had 2 BF's since me but they dont work cause somehow she cant tell them how she feels about them and blames it on me. figures. so who the hell knows what can happen in the future

**1badcamaro** · 10-19-2004, 05:44 PM

i went 14 months without sex and recently just gave in to a girl i was dating. However, i now really regret it, i mean 14 months down the drain. Its not worth it until you find someone really meaningful......o well, just gotta start over again

**CarvedFromStone** · 10-19-2004, 05:47 PM

Originally Posted by jcstomper

yep every day, boy it sucks lol. im just gonna work hard at making my businesses successful right now, she is back at school for some nursing thing and has a internship going on. so she's really busy too, im just gonna keep myself busy and ya never know what happens in the future. she tells me she doesnt want to talk about a relationship with me cause she isnt ready to deal with them feelings again, she said that that sherril crow song "first scare is the deepest" is me and her relationship. so who the hell knows what can happen in the future

well keep on pushing bro, best thing you can do is keep busy. What kinda bussiness do you have going?

**Phillyboy1** · 10-19-2004, 05:51 PM

Originally Posted by HULK1732

well keep on pushing bro, best thing you can do is keep busy. What kinda bussiness do you have going?

contracting and real estate, the new goal is a millionaire by age 30, i have 6 years to go

**RussianVodka** · 10-19-2004, 09:51 PM

When I'm on cycle I can't live without a girl. I must have sex or I'll die.

**CarvedFromStone** · 10-19-2004, 10:29 PM

Haha great minds think alike im a realestate agent as well, same ****ing goal my man

**Phillyboy1** · 10-19-2004, 11:50 PM

Originally Posted by HULK1732

Haha great minds think alike im a realestate agent as well, same ****ing goal my man

im not a real estate agent. i have a real estate investment company. i buy houses, fix them up, flip, or rent. but i do have a real estate agent lol

**Phillyboy1** · 10-19-2004, 11:51 PM

Originally Posted by RussianVodka

When I'm on cycle I can't live without a girl. I must have sex or I'll die.

im on cycle now, i just watch alot of porn

**MASStermind** · 10-19-2004, 11:52 PM

how close are you to millionaire?

**Phillyboy1** · 10-19-2004, 11:53 PM

Originally Posted by MASStermind

how close are you to millionaire?

why do you care or want to know?

**BigGreen** · 10-20-2004, 01:59 AM

bump for relevance

**hung-solo** · 10-20-2004, 05:43 AM

Originally Posted by jcstomper

ok this is something ive been thinking about for a while now. but i think it would help if i give some background details.

ok i lost my V when i was 16 in the back of my GTI with some girl from my HS that i forgot her name after we were done. it wasnt a very great experiance, at the time i thought it was great but really it was pretty dumb and immature. then i didnt have sex again till i started dating my ONE and ONLY girlfriend that ive ever had in life at age 18. we started dating maybe a month after i turned 18, and she was 17, she was my second, and i was her first. we were best friends for a year before we started dating and then dated for 3 years. so i guess you could say we had a 4 year relationship. then around the time i was turning 21 i decided i wanted to be single, cause of how my friends talked about going to the bars and **** like that. it sounded fun so i ditched a good thing for a party life. (just to let you know, i never touched achohol till i was 21) so after i turned 21 i went to the bars and clubs with my friends for a few months and realized it wasnt what i thought and honestly wanted to be back with my former GF. she wasnt having it and ive been single ever since. since that time when we broke up till now ive slept with about 11 girls in 3 years, 13 girls total in my life. out of all of them girls only 2 ive actually had a relationship with, 1 being my GF, and another girl i was seeing for about 2 months. pretty much they were either one night stands or sex with girls i was friends with but nothing more, we just stayed friends cause the sex was good but there was no emotional bond what so ever.

well last friday night i went out with this 19 year old girl that i know that is just a booty call. pretty much she calls me when she's horny and wants me to put the smack down. we went to a strip club cause she likes girls also, and then came back to my place for some sex. i honestly could give a **** about this girl at all. and sometimes dont even want to bang her, it just feels like a big chore. she's hot and all but i just dont feel anything for her

so after all of these chicks ive decided im sick of just banging a chick and thats it. its not that im not a sexual person, me and my ex had sex twice a day for the 3 years we were together, thats alot of sex. i watch porn all the time. and think about sex all the time, but the thing is im tired of just doing it with chicks i dont give a **** about. i know i know this may sound gay but i really would rather have a relationship, not just some random sex. i figured i can do this, i dont think it will be that hard actually, ill just bury myself in the gym and my businesses.

id figured id post my thoughts and see what you guys think or if anyone else has ever felt this way. im not having sex again till i have a serious GF!

you are deff not alone on this one.. sad to say but i feel the exact same way..dont consider it gay one bit. call it growing up..aka-maturing! like you my ex would not get back together with me and it sux so bad sometimes but things happen for a reason bro you just have to wait your turn again.we have dated for almost 3 years and we broke up a little over a year ago. honestly i havent had a serious relationship since. i have been out on a few dates and have had a few one night stands but it isnt the same and you are starting to realise that....you'll miss the sex though but you can get by. hahahaha.. oh and the porn thing, sometimes if someone watches it too much it can have an effect intimacy and can also effect the way you look at women in general so kind of be careful about it..good luck man

**hung-solo** · 10-20-2004, 05:46 AM

Originally Posted by jcstomper

thats exactly what i had with my ex. it sucks i think about her everyday but dont see us ever getting back together. what can ya do

the only thing you can do, accept that fact that you arent.. it sux but what else can you do.. welll you could spill your guts to her and just tell her everything and just be honest with her and leave it at that.. hmm? maybe i need to take my own advice..

**Phillyboy1** · 10-20-2004, 06:52 AM

Originally Posted by hung-solo

the only thing you can do, accept that fact that you arent.. it sux but what else can you do.. welll you could spill your guts to her and just tell her everything and just be honest with her and leave it at that.. hmm? maybe i need to take my own advice..

tried that, did it. she dont beleive it. so im just gonna be content with being single now

**hung-solo** · 10-20-2004, 07:00 AM

Originally Posted by jcstomper

tried that, did it. she dont beleive it. so im just gonna be content with being single now

looks like you dont have a choice.. maybe things with her will get better in the future but i deff wouldnt push it. but deff be a friend to her.. and move on.. good luck..