Need advice on my girlfriend

**stayinstacked** · 12-11-2004, 10:19 AM

Hey guys, I've been with this girl now for about 3 1/2 or 4 months now. Everything with us is going fine, except for her rarely giving me head. I cant stand it, the only time she will do it is if I practically beg her to, which makes me feel stupid, and when she does it its half assed and she hardly goes down far enough to make a difference. She tells me that she has a gag reflex and it will make her throw up. She has only been with 1 guy before me(she is 25) and it took me over a month to get it, so I know she's def. NOT a slut which is totally reassuring. She really is a good girl and I was getting to the point where I was sick of whores or money hungry women. She is everything I want except for the bedroom!! It totally sucks because I've been with some real nymphos in the sack that were great, and now I got this and its almost to the point where the sex is getting so repetitive and boring that I'm starting to think about calling up some other girls and just getting it someplace else, but I dont wanna do that to her, its not just like she's some slut and I'd feel horrible afterwards. I've tried talking to her about the sex before and how it was getting repetitive and I wish she'd give me head more, and she says that she's glad I told her and was open about it, but when we get in the bed again, BORING!! She is one of these chicks that it has to be all emotional in bed EVERY SINGLE ****IN' TIME!!!! Sometimes guys dont want that, sometimes we just wanna pound it ya know? I dont know why she is so different than every other girl I've slept with but I wish she would get better. However, I do get to hit her in the ass once in awhile which is a plus to me. But I just dont know what to do if things dont change really soon. I'm trying to settle down and I'm tired of girls that are good for nothing but sex, but I guess I cant have both. They say you cant turn a ho into a housewife or vise versa, I think thats really true.

**Anhydro78** · 12-11-2004, 10:28 AM

This is easy, Just mess around untill you are no longer aroused.. Then she will have to play with it if she wants it. I have told girls that tell me they dont suck d!ck they cant have it untill they do it.. ANd that has worked for me.

Also with a girl that isnt a slut, it should be obvious why she hasnt had sex with alot of guys. Because shes not a sexual freak!! If she was she would have a longer sex partner list.

**SwoleCat** · 12-11-2004, 10:32 AM

Do you want a relationship to love/care for someone, or a whore just to bone "in the ass and give you head". I sense that's all you really care about judging by tone in your post, and how many times you mention it.

Perhaps if you did more things for her, avoided asking her to do sexual acts, put those requests on the back burner, focus on things SHE wants, etc., down the road she may WANT to do those things to/for you. As it is now, she probably doesn't because she thinks that's the only thing you care about, and that you don't really care about her. If your post is any indicator at all, I believe that is exactly what is occurring.

Just my $.02.

~SC~

**Anhydro78** · 12-11-2004, 10:40 AM

I dated and banged a 20 y/o virgin from Bogata Columbia when I was about 21 y/o. This was really the first good girl I had been with and I can tell you it takes a while to get one of these girls to open up. I agree with Swole Cat, I think she will do more for you if the relationship progresses. This girl I was with wouldnt let me have it for 3 months. I ate her pussy three times a week for a couple months before she would even touch me. By the time her Visa was allmost up she waking me up to Blow jobs everytime she awoke earlier than me.

**Polska** · 12-11-2004, 10:43 AM

Swolecat hit the nail the head, and guess what bro? Some girls simply don't like or enjoy giving head as much as others. Exactly like some guys dont like going down on a woman as much as others. Everyone's unique and you gotta live with it or move on if it bothers you so much

**WS6_KID** · 12-11-2004, 12:58 PM

I say leave her. Too many fish in the sea to settle for less than what you want. When I get married I dont wanna say well shes great here, here and here. but this sux. Please keep in mind however I am unwilling to comprimise and generally speaking an a-hole when not getting what I want just my 2 cc's

***Narkissos*** · 12-11-2004, 01:48 PM

Originally Posted by WS6_KID

I say leave her. Too many fish in the sea to settle for less than what you want. When I get married I dont wanna say well shes great here, here and here. but this sux. Please keep in mind however I am unwilling to comprimise and generally speaking an a-hole when not getting what I want just my 2 cc's

I agree wid SC somewhat ...but also with WS6_KID to a greater degree. I think in a relationship one should have a long-term goal. I won't date someone i can't see myself settling with.. I won't settle into dissatisfaction either. Sex is an important part of a relationship..so it should be a factor

**wildcatslady** · 12-11-2004, 03:09 PM

ok here is a gal's point of view on this. or at least this gal's.
I am not sure about her..but I was a little like that when I first met the guy that is now my husband...he had a lot more experince than I did and that made me nervous, I had only ever been with one guy before him...so I felt really shy about anything sexual, he had a lot of patience with me, the whole going down on him thing to me was just so weird, I was always wondering if i was doing it right or if he was just being nice and wished I could do it better or like someone else had done it to him, which I think you should be open with her and talk about things what you like and dont like but oh god please dont ever say someone else did it better or you wished she could do it like the porn stars do, that wont get you anywhere, you'll just make her feel about 2 feet tall and worthless. I guess what I am trying to say is that I know where she is coming from in a way ( at least I think I do.) I was there once too, I guess it all really depends on if she is worth it to you, do you want to work on it this with her? or just try someone else, as we all know all relationships need work no matter what the area. and I agree with Narkissos sex is a very important part of a relationship, but you also have to remember you are both at different levels in your sex lives, she sounds like she is just starting out..I would give her some time. my husband gave me the time I needed and now i am more wild than he is..I jump him every chance I get

**SickNasty** · 12-11-2004, 03:23 PM

maybe it's not very good because your not very good. I take it as a rule to blame myself before anyone else.

Have you tried writing dirty notes? talking dirty. Dude eventually you can turn someone it just takes time but I agree with someone else a relationship needs a good mix of sex and the other stuff.

**stayinstacked** · 12-11-2004, 04:02 PM

Originally Posted by wildcatslady

ok here is a gal's point of view on this. or at least this gal's.
I am not sure about her..but I was a little like that when I first met the guy that is now my husband...he had a lot more experince than I did and that made me nervous, I had only ever been with one guy before him...so I felt really shy about anything sexual, he had a lot of patience with me, the whole going down on him thing to me was just so weird, I was always wondering if i was doing it right or if he was just being nice and wished I could do it better or like someone else had done it to him, which I think you should be open with her and talk about things what you like and dont like but oh god please dont ever say someone else did it better or you wished she could do it like the porn stars do, that wont get you anywhere, you'll just make her feel about 2 feet tall and worthless. I guess what I am trying to say is that I know where she is coming from in a way ( at least I think I do.) I was there once too, I guess it all really depends on if she is worth it to you, do you want to work on it this with her? or just try someone else, as we all know all relationships need work no matter what the area. and I agree with Narkissos sex is a very important part of a relationship, but you also have to remember you are both at different levels in your sex lives, she sounds like she is just starting out..I would give her some time. my husband gave me the time I needed and now i am more wild than he is..I jump him every chance I get

Yeah, I think part of the problem is most women I've been with in the past were in their 30's and wanted it all the time ,maybe she isnt at her peak yet and its not a big issue with her as much as it is with me.

**Benches505** · 12-11-2004, 04:27 PM

Count your blessings that she gives you rear entry access!

**calidude** · 12-11-2004, 04:34 PM

i agree with wildcatslady. If you can sit and talk to her about it some things might change. Sit and watch a porn with her.

**Dimes** · 12-11-2004, 06:06 PM

I agree with sicknasty.. are you sure your doing your stuff right, is she having her orgasms, been pleased, etc?

**stayinstacked** · 12-12-2004, 12:14 PM

yeah bro, I'm doing everything right, there is no doubt on that one!!!

**arthurb999** · 12-12-2004, 12:24 PM

Being sexually compatabile is an important aspect in the relationship...
ask yourself, would you be happy if this is how it was always going to be...

**63190** · 12-12-2004, 12:57 PM

This is going to be the most challanging aspect of this relationship. Own up to it and give her time. If both of you try hard and do what wildcatslady says, you might just end up with a keeper.

wildcatslady, tell all your girlfriends to jump thier man (if they are strong enough to handle it) when ever they can. I like that sort of thing.