Who here advocates marriage?

[Hed]

Tradition, yes, but who here advocates getting married? All this talk in the other thread about telling spouses about gear use got me wondering.

Thanks, im just curious....

[seanw]

Tradition, yes, but who here advocates getting married? All this talk in the other thread about telling spouses about gear use got me wondering.

Thanks, im just curious....

Having been married once and the second one on the rocks, guess what my answer is !!

[Jdawg50]

If you had my wife, you'd be gald your married. I am sooo sick of the single scene.

[sammycasper]

I love being Married. of course it all depends on your situatuion though!! I still think I was 2 young when I got married and I know my lil bro was. I was 23 and he did it at 17.

[Animal Cracker]

Nothing wrong with marriage..everything depends on trust and honesty. If two people can be honest w/ each other, there is no reason to sneak around. My wife is my best friend. I will tell her anything.

[SMYL_GR8]

Never been married, but 85% of my friends that are HATE IT on come level within a few years. Meanwhile, I do WHAT I want, WHEN I want, WHO I want, WHERE I want and nobody spends my money but me.

[Getting There]

Marriage is a nice institution All kidding aside it's the best thing to happened to me. She keeps me in line!

[Sage]

eventually everyone breaks down, but never the less i'm still fighting off the urge to do so.........maybe somewhere in my 30's since i still wanna b able to lift db's with my kid and play ball...............

[chicamahomico]

Well said bro. I think the instituition is great in itself but unfortunately the courts haven't really updated the legislation for the 21st century. Marrying someone should not set one partner up for a legal arseraping like it currently does. In this day and age many women make more $$ than men and many dad's are better single parents than mom's. The old cookie cutter formula of man gives up custody and pays alimony has got to go IMO.

the question itself is very loaded. i have nothing against committed relationships, and there is no reason you can't have one without volunteering to be raped by the courts if things don't work out.

you can have a wonderful committed realtionship, and if you truly feel the need to give her the option of forcing you to pay her for the rest of your life if things don't work out, you can have a lawyer simply write out a contract for such. it will be much cheaper than the divorce attorney the majority of people who get married need.

don't let people sucker you into thinking you need a piece of paper to treat each other well.

[needmorestrength]

you see what i'm talking about? you have a girl you love and things you love to do. but u realize it's almost a given that for some reaon you will not be allowed to do things you love once you get married. why? why can't you keep doing the (positive) things you love? she is the same person she was b4 the marriage license was issued, why can't she respect the things you love to do afterwards?

my ex gave me an ultimatum: "you have to get your priorities straight , and decide what is more important to you, the gym or your marriage" i thought about it and realized she was right, i had to get my priorities straight. a good fighter can always get another woman, so i got rid of her. my life is better now that i have my priorities straight.

well said

[jonnytour]

I got married at the age of 20. It will be 5 years in May. I wouldn't trade it or her for anything. She is my best friend. I (because of religious beliefs) believe that in order to have a strong society we need strong families. Look at the Roman empire. It fell apart becauseof the moral coruption within the family. The family unit breaks down....society breaks down. I am sure I will be flamed forever for being so traditonal. Fortunately I don't care. This is just my humble opinion. It deffinately won't work for everyone.

[Pale Horse]

I like marriage but I think along the lines of Chica........the courts are outdated. I think one of the biggest things that needs to go is the no fault divorce, that would keep people in check and make them think b-4 trashing their spouse.

[*Narkissos*]

I look foward to marrying the girl i'm with.

On the downside...i think the laws on the post-marriage situation need updating..They're too biased towards women (i.e. unfair to men)

[Pale Horse]

MMA - agreed but in many cases parents would not financially support their children or people would just say %^&* off and take all your stuff and move in with someone else.

There are 2 issues the children and personal property, both get ungly in a broken relationship. People need to be held accountable to someone because otherwise they will run amuck.........especially in these times.

[Benches505]

Well said bro. I think the instituition is great in itself but unfortunately the courts haven't really updated the legislation for the 21st century. Marrying someone should not set one partner up for a legal arseraping like it currently does. In this day and age many women make more $$ than men and many dad's are better single parents than mom's. The old cookie cutter formula of man gives up custody and pays alimony has got to go IMO.

Amen brother!

A marriage is only as good as the man and woman in it. I've dated some very classy and great women and I've had my share of redneck trash too, you just need to hold out for the right one and not settle for less otherwise you could regret it for the rest of your days!

[Pale Horse]

MMA.....who enforces those laws? Duh..............

[jonnytour]

On the downside...i think the laws on the post-marriage situation need updating..They're too biased towards women (i.e. unfair to men)

AMEN!

[Pale Horse]

I'd say biased period. No fault divorce was for adultering husbands, maintenance and child support was for deadbeat ex-husbands/fathers as well as all the property laws.

The tables have turned, now women are as bad as or worse than men and need to be punished accordingly. No fault divorce is crap. It is someones fault in almost EVERY case. Someone is cheating or unhappy or whatever. Irregardless whoever breaks their promise of fidelity and comittment needs to be gutted. Marriage is no joke and the courts treat it like it is one these days by No fault divorces.

[jonnytour]

I'd say biased period. No fault divorce was for adultering husbands, maintenance and child support was for deadbeat ex-husbands/fathers as well as all the property laws.

The tables have turned, now women are as bad as or worse than men and need to be punished accordingly. No fault divorce is crap. It is someones fault in almost EVERY case. Someone is cheating or unhappy or whatever. Irregardless whoever breaks their promise of fidelity and comittment needs to be gutted. Marriage is no joke and the courts treat it like it is one these days by No fault divorces.

I agree. It is always someone's fault. One or the other, and sometimes both. Marriage deffinately is not a joke. It is a serious institution and should be treated as such!

[Bigen12]

the child support laws are completely seperate from marriage laws. you are required to support your children whether you were married or not.

Agreed, however those laws are extreamly biased toward the woman, I personally pay more than studies say it costs to raise 3 children. The end result is that I am paying hidden Alimony.

ADDITION to paying for everything your children need.

That is part of my point, I should pay for half of what my children need, not all of it. It just allows my sorry EX to sit at home and not work.

[Juggernaut]

Marriage is probably the second most life altering event anyone will ever do....but it has to be with someone you love more than you love yourself. If the woman you want to marry isn't your best friend, understands your short comings and still accepts you for who you are then it's going to be rough.

The most life altering event you might be wondering about.....that would be the birth of your first child....any child for that matter.

[jonnytour]

Marriage is probably the second most life altering event anyone will ever do....but it has to be with someone you love more than you love yourself. If the woman you want to marry isn't your best friend, understands your short comings and still accepts you for who you are then it's going to be rough.

The most life altering event you might be wondering about.....that would be the birth of your first child....any child for that matter.

Well put Juggy! Very impressed! And I agree 100%. My wife and I are waiting to have our first child. Currently we are only practicing conception.

[Animal Cracker]

I look foward to marrying the girl i'm with.

On the downside...i think the laws on the post-marriage situation need updating..They're too biased towards women (i.e. unfair to men)

Very true!

[tycin]

im looking foward to marrying my girl! still pretty young but we've been together for 8 yrs so maybe we'll get engaged next year. from stories i hear from buddies and wut i c im fukin luuuuuccky to have my girl! some people just rudh into things and thats why they end up not happy, u gotta make sure u get the right girl b4 u end up marrying!

[MrMondodondo]

Fellas,

Let's get back to the point....

marriage is a wonderful thing. My wife look like a goddess on our wedding night. Our first born was miraculous. I like being married. The sessions at the marriage counselor are just amazing..... It is so much fun. Dealing with the hormonal changes really allow me to get in touch with "her" feelings.
Listening to EVERY part of her day is also quite enjoyable. Watching ballgames all day on a rainy Saturday is way over exaggerated, especially when "the lazy bastard" never helps with the Laundry and always sits on his fat ass except when he's going to the gym. I used to like my friends, I know realize they are all just degenerates. Her friends are much more emotionally supportive and understanding. Hunting used to be fun, now why does Bambi have to die???? I try to teachmy son how to be a "man" but actually I'm just turning him into another emtionless desensitised jock. I still like sex tho.
I mean me and my girlfriend really like gettin it on to porn.(right hand girlfriend). It's even better when my goddess catches us at the computer.
If I stay out a little late and don't call I now realize that I am not being a suitable husband or father. If she stays out late I know now to accept it because I do not want to smother her. I used to surf a few mornings a week. But, it has been apparent that if I have time to surf I should be making breakfast and helping get the kids to school.
Divorce would be cool, but I actually LIKE to eat. See I'm in California and after 10 years of marriage your SCREWED.
I do still love her. I always will. Would I do it again???? At this stage of my life.....F*ck NO! Should you if your young......absolutely you should.
We need to continue to destroy the maleness that we have and become more effeminate. So do it....at least once.
If you are married blissfully like me, buy her the books by Laura Slessinger "The proper care and feeding of husbands" and Woman Power. These are great for us guys.(No Sh1t)
Well I should get back to work now cause the kids need clothes, she needs to get her nails done and a few new pairs of shoes.
Now if this rambling dialogue doesn't clear things up nothing will.

Married 16+ still in love and still miserable.......depending on the day

[echobeach]

Farkin funny mondodondo.

[seanw]

Fellas,

Let's get back to the point....

marriage is a wonderful thing. My wife look like a goddess on our wedding night. Our first born was miraculous. I like being married. The sessions at the marriage counselor are just amazing..... It is so much fun. Dealing with the hormonal changes really allow me to get in touch with "her" feelings.
Listening to EVERY part of her day is also quite enjoyable. Watching ballgames all day on a rainy Saturday is way over exaggerated, especially when "the lazy bastard" never helps with the Laundry and always sits on his fat ass except when he's going to the gym. I used to like my friends, I know realize they are all just degenerates. Her friends are much more emotionally supportive and understanding. Hunting used to be fun, now why does Bambi have to die???? I try to teachmy son how to be a "man" but actually I'm just turning him into another emtionless desensitised jock. I still like sex tho.
I mean me and my girlfriend really like gettin it on to porn.(right hand girlfriend). It's even better when my goddess catches us at the computer.
If I stay out a little late and don't call I now realize that I am not being a suitable husband or father. If she stays out late I know now to accept it because I do not want to smother her. I used to surf a few mornings a week. But, it has been apparent that if I have time to surf I should be making breakfast and helping get the kids to school.
Divorce would be cool, but I actually LIKE to eat. See I'm in California and after 10 years of marriage your SCREWED.
I do still love her. I always will. Would I do it again???? At this stage of my life.....F*ck NO! Should you if your young......absolutely you should.
We need to continue to destroy the maleness that we have and become more effeminate. So do it....at least once.
If you are married blissfully like me, buy her the books by Laura Slessinger "The proper care and feeding of husbands" and Woman Power. These are great for us guys.(No Sh1t)
Well I should get back to work now cause the kids need clothes, she needs to get her nails done and a few new pairs of shoes.
Now if this rambling dialogue doesn't clear things up nothing will.

Married 16+ still in love and still miserable.......depending on the day

Mondo this is brilliant, and oh so fuking true. ROFL

[EastCoaster]

i take a more libertarian view: marriage is a religious rite, why is the government involved in the first place? how about a little more seperation of church and state. if a 2 people want to declare themselves married in accordance with their religous beliefs, let them do so. if they they wish to declare that the marriage didn't work, and it's over, let them do that as well, without government interference.

there are few things the goverrnment can't screw up if it gets involved.

agreed 110%

[Commando_Barbi]

Been married and divorced. Got married TOO young and we grew apart. The mistake I made was marrying someone I didn't like when I was sober !!!!

Anyway, we had a no fault divorce. He took the things he was attached to (music system, humidor (**** him) and all his fuking motorhead tools. No child support, no fighting over bills or anything. It was a mutual and relatively painless. He took the stocks and bonds he came with and signed away his rights to my retirement.

So....not all WOMEN are blood sucking parasites. Some of us can be pretty reasonable.

Future........of course I want to get married again. I have to be sure when I do it again. The man I'm dating now.......I'm going to marry. It will be his first and my last. We share sooo many things. Love of gym, community, self improvement, etc. It's going to be a very long engagement.........there's so much to learn about one another.

I think that our society is too used to a "fast food" kind life. Need to eat, drive through and get it....no matter how bad it is for you. Want to get married.....drive through and bam....wedded bliss. Then reality sets in. All that fast food was good at the time but you eventually have to deal with the other side of it. So......when things get rough in a marriage, if there isn't a quick easy fix.......we log on line, fill out a form or two and tada....DIVORCED.

Before you can settle into a solid, successful relationship......first you have to know yourself. Then.....get to know her. Really know her. Get past the sex haze.....and make sure you are compatible outside the bedroom! Can you support one another when money gets tight....when you want to train....when she wants you to watch the kids so she can go to the gym or just have some time to herself. If you can get through all the ups and downs as a team....you'll be successful.

C.B.