Originally Posted by tonytone36
So I have been dating this girl for a few months now....She is 28 (I'm 21) and she already has 2 kids, 8 and 5 years old. She recently told me that she was going to get an IUD (Intra Uterine Device, a type of birth control) put in. She said that she had an appt coming up. She goes to it, says that she had bloodwork, got examined, and needed to go back the next day. I say OK, seems normal, and didn't think anything of it. The day of her follow up I go meet her and she tells me that she didn't get the IUD, but got something else......OK, so my first thought is she got the shot, or had decided to just get her tubes tied (she told me she had thought about having her tubes tied). But she eventually tells me that she got none of those, and that she had........................an abortion. I was speechless. Said that she had been 8 weeks in. She said that she didn't know if she should tell me or not. Now normally I'm full of intelligent things to say, but I could say nothing. I told her I didn't think any less of her, and I was glad that she finally thought that she could tell me. But I'm stuck on this. I don't really know how to feel. Am I sad? not really. I'm not angry. Abortion is such an easy issue to debate, but when it comes down to your own life, it's very difficult. I never considered myself pro-choice or pro-life, and this has not changed anything. Maybe I'm a little relieved that the weight of the decision was not put on my shoulders. Maybe I would have liked to know. There's really no way to tell. I guess the only way to describe how I feel is empty and helpless. It's so easy to say that if i got a girl pregnant that I would want her to have an abortion, but if i was really faced with the decision, all the "what ifs" go out the window. I have a feeling this will be weighing on my mind for a while. Should I look at her the same way now? Any thoughts/comments are appreciated.