Well, I know this isn't about juice but I figured some of you folks have been here before.
My wife has made it impossible to save our marriage. To give both sides of the story would take forever and I'm a little bummed right now. The gist of it is this, she will not make an effort in the marriage. I can't take the lies, deceit, and frankly just can not wait any longer for her to put forth the most basic effort.
We have been together 7 years. Since November the 1st I have been the one insisting that we go to a marriage counselor to try to resolve both of our issues. I can not take it anymore, all I have asked from her has been for her honesty and a commitment to actually put forth her best effort to make this work. All she has done is make me into this horrible person to everyone we know. I just recently found out how bad she has been manipulating the situation. She has been making up stuff about me and telling it to our mutual friends, her family, and everyone she knows. I have had to go back to save face and give my side of the story, call her on the lies, and then confront her with the lies to save face with our friends.
I've been busting my ass to be there for her. She misses marriage counselor appointments (3 out of 8), has been talking to her X boyfriend from college, and the only time she comments to me about anything is to say something negative. I have never met a more confrontational and argumentative person in my life.
I can't take it anymore. I told her that if she could not commit to being honest and not slandering my name that I wanted a divorce. She has held the D word over my head for 4 months now. I now see that it is because it gave her power over me.
I know this is sort of rambled out there and not very well written, I just needed to get this shit off my chest. What really hurts me is that this is NOT the person I married in any way. Honesty and friendship was the foundation of our marriage. I took a vow and have stood by it until this point, I cannot keep letting her rip me to pieces.
Anyway sorry to vent my crap, I just needed to get it out.
DMX