Relationships

**Ammar** · 07-30-2005, 10:38 PM

Has anyone tried online dating services?? My friend keeps telling me that I should try it but I am sorta worried for some reason.

**PaRiS2005** · 07-30-2005, 11:02 PM

I wouldn't say that I have lost all trust in men. But it's definately altered a bit now. I just started dating again, and its kind of a strange thing, after being with the same person for so long. But I'm learning what I do want from a relationship, through the mistakes I made in the last. I'm starting to see/believe that there's a reason for everything.

Originally Posted by Jerzey

I lost trust in men at a young age and it was a problem... However, with my last boyfriend I knew that in order to make it work I would have to start with a clean slate (i.e., not hold my past against him)... and I did just that. I flat out told him he has 100% of my trust until he gives me reason not to trust him, then it's gone. Two simple things, don't cheat and don't lie, either will cause one party not to trust the other. If she has done neither, why wouldn't you trust her? Do you think she would ask some guy to see a piercing below the belt? That would piss you off... wouldn't it? Remember that next time

That's how I lead my life now.. when I find someone who I feel confident is worth the chance, I take it. But I only take it when I feel I can trust them, that's key to me.

This is not something anyone can tell you how to do.. I can't tell you how to trust her.. but if you can't, that should tell you something...

That little sixth sense, if you get it, is usually correct....

**Keyser Sozey** · 07-30-2005, 11:05 PM

Originally Posted by Ammar

Has anyone tried online dating services?? My friend keeps telling me that I should try it but I am sorta worried for some reason.

Never tried it. I would be somewhat hesitant as well. I prefer to meet girls through mutual friends, or acquaintances.

**PaRiS2005** · 07-30-2005, 11:11 PM

Originally Posted by Keyser Sozey

Never tried it. I would be somewhat hesitant as well. I prefer to meet girls through mutual friends, or acquaintances.

Yeah, I would rather meet someone that way too.

**Jerzey** · 07-30-2005, 11:45 PM

Originally Posted by PaRiS2005

I wouldn't say that I have lost all trust in men. But it's definately altered a bit now. I just started dating again, and its kind of a strange thing, after being with the same person for so long. But I'm learning what I do want from a relationship, through the mistakes I made in the last. I'm starting to see/believe that there's a reason for everything.

Live and learn...

Also, I use that same phrase... "everything happens for a reason"... I just can't figure out some of the reasons

**CRUISECONTROL** · 07-30-2005, 11:50 PM

Originally Posted by Jerzey

Live and learn...

Also, I use that same phrase... "everything happens for a reason"... I just can't figure out some of the reasons

You said it girl

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 06:49 AM

u are right. Things happen for a reason but the reason for somethings i dont understand and that is what make me go crazy trying to figure it out

BG · 07-31-2005, 06:50 AM

Never tried it, too much like grab bag, not sure what your really going to get!!!

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 06:54 AM

So u just go with what u think is right and thats it since u explain it like that

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 08:26 AM

life is hard and we are the ones make it like that

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 08:50 AM

anyone hane something to add

**Jerzey** · 07-31-2005, 09:07 AM

Originally Posted by Chaos1783

u are right. Things happen for a reason but the reason for somethings i dont understand and that is what make me go crazy trying to figure it out

That's your problem right there... I've driven myself crazy a number of times that way, especially when my last relationship ended...

Time heals, it's true... and after time you look back and you say "even though at the time it sucked, I can see why it didn't work out"... even now, I can look back and see why my last bf and I broke up.. at that time, I was devastated, and I left him!!! Certain things just weren't right..

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 10:27 AM

Time does heal, but from the past couple days i feel distance from my girl like i do care but then i dont what is wrong with me

**Jerzey** · 07-31-2005, 01:32 PM

Originally Posted by Chaos1783

Time does heal, but from the past couple days i feel distance from my girl like i do care but then i dont what is wrong with me

That's normal... you have questions in your mind...

I can't tell you what they are.. they can be her, you and her, etc. but you definitely aren't sure of something in the relationship... Just take a step back and think about things and if she is the one you want to be with, etc. Maybe you don't want to be in a relationship right now? Who knows... only you can answer that but until you can just chill and don't make any drastic moves... You may mess up something good if you do.

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 01:37 PM

it is hard and i dont know what to do any more i asked her if she was going to come over to see me today and she said i dont know i said thats what u say all the time i said if u dont want that fine but if u do come, come over because u want to see me not because i asked u and then i said by and hung the phone up

**PaRiS2005** · 07-31-2005, 02:27 PM

Originally Posted by Jerzey

That's your problem right there... I've driven myself crazy a number of times that way, especially when my last relationship ended...

Time heals, it's true... and after time you look back and you say "even though at the time it sucked, I can see why it didn't work out"... even now, I can look back and see why my last bf and I broke up.. at that time, I was devastated, and I left him!!! Certain things just weren't right..

Me too. I've learned that there's a reason why people in your past didn't make it to your future. I tell myself that ALL the time.

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 02:49 PM

I dont know what to do and it is hard because i had surgery and i can not walk good to leave my house and go out to get my mind off of her but instead i sit in the house and just think of it all the time.

**Jerzey** · 07-31-2005, 03:55 PM

Originally Posted by Chaos1783

I dont know what to do and it is hard because i had surgery and i can not walk good to leave my house and go out to get my mind off of her but instead i sit in the house and just think of it all the time.

All I can say is this...if she had surgery and couldn't walk, would you be there with her? Probably... because you wanted to, right?

Maybe that is what is bothering you... that she doesn't choose to be there with you on her own. I know if someone I was with had surgery, I'd want to be there whenever I could to help them and keep them company, but that's just me...

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 07:47 PM

thats how i feel but i think with her it is different. May be because of are age, me being older and her younger. I am 21 and she is 18 what do u think

**SwoleCat** · 07-31-2005, 07:51 PM

Doggystyle solves all problems!!!

~sc~

**Evil Predator** · 07-31-2005, 08:09 PM

Originally Posted by SwoleCat

Doggystyle solves all problems!!!

~sc~

Im with this guy...

and stuff both holes..

I like a girl who's a lady in public and a whore in the bedroom

**SwoleCat** · 07-31-2005, 08:11 PM

1 in the pink
1 in the stink
1 down the throat so hard, she can't help but think,
what would she do if you left her ass
what would she do if you skipped her class
how would she act if you ignored that trick
how would she act if you shared your dick
when would she realize she's not the only one
when will you realize you don't need to be sprung?

~SC~

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 08:16 PM

Thats messed up bro, LOL LOL But i like it ur right

**Evil Predator** · 07-31-2005, 08:19 PM

Originally Posted by SwoleCat

1 in the pink
1 in the stink
1 down the throat so hard, she can't help but think,
what would she do if you left her ass
what would she do if you skipped her class
how would she act if you ignored that trick
how would she act if you shared your dick
when would she realize she's not the only one
when will you realize you don't need to be sprung?

~SC~

I guess i see women as challenges, and you cant compete for it after youve already won it, so on to the next challenge

**SwoleCat** · 07-31-2005, 08:20 PM

No offense intended, just being real.

As the people here can tell you, I'm no Willy Wonka.......

I won't sugar coat shit.

~SC~

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 08:23 PM

I am not mad at u i thought it was very funny and u are right i am very soft hearted and thats why i get F%cked all the time

**SwoleCat** · 07-31-2005, 08:25 PM

Originally Posted by Chaos1783

I am not mad at u i thought it was very funny and u are right i am very soft hearted and thats why i get F%cked all the time

Being soft hearted is good, I'll tell you why.

Because there will be that ONE girl/woman, one day, who will be just like you.

She'll respect that you are like that, and she'll be that same way in return.

It is a WONDERFUL quality to have, so don't get it twisted.

However, you are wasting that wonderful quality on someone who does not share that same possession. Therein lies your issue.

Don't get played, play the game. Better yet, make the rules.

~SC~

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 08:29 PM

U are a very smart person how old are u if u dont mind me asking

**SwoleCat** · 07-31-2005, 08:32 PM

I am 33 and have gone through a lot of shit in my lifetime.

~SC~

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 08:34 PM

I am only 21 and that means i have not gone through shit yet am i right

**SwoleCat** · 07-31-2005, 08:35 PM

Put it this way.

When I was 21, I thought I knew everything because I was old enough to drink.

At 21, simply put, you don't know shit.

Life is about experiences, and those can only happen OVER TIME.

~SC~

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 08:37 PM

U are very right on that so if the relationship with me and my girl does not get better in the next week or so should i just end it with her and foucs on recovery, gym and school

**Evil Predator** · 07-31-2005, 08:40 PM

Originally Posted by Chaos1783

U are very right on that so if the relationship with me and my girl does not get better in the next week or so should i just end it with her and foucs on recovery, gym and school

You'd be better off keeping her around till your ok to get up and find something new to play with..

A blowjob every couple of days from a bitch you cant stand is still better than no blowjobs at all...

**SwoleCat** · 07-31-2005, 08:42 PM

Don't make things so cut/dry like "by the end of this week", and "by the end of that week", etc.

Just be you, let the girls come to you. Be the property that is in demand and up for sale in the paper that everyone wants, not them. Don't cut anyone off in any "set" amount of time. I really can't tell you exactly how to go about this, because I'm the type of person who "changes on the fly" like one does in going from 2 wheel drive to 4 wheel drive.

I adjust based upon the habitat and situation, and I guess the knack for doing so only comes from experience.

I got Chinese Food to eat, and a woman to @*$(%*($*)_, so I gotta go!

Night all!

~SC~

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 08:43 PM

ur right i am going to see what happens hopefuly i will be better in the next two weeks and i am going to take it from there.

**Chaos1783** · 07-31-2005, 08:45 PM

ok see ya bro talk to u later

**Jerzey** · 08-01-2005, 06:12 AM

Originally Posted by SwoleCat

Being soft hearted is good, I'll tell you why.

Because there will be that ONE girl/woman, one day, who will be just like you.

She'll respect that you are like that, and she'll be that same way in return.

It is a WONDERFUL quality to have, so don't get it twisted.

However, you are wasting that wonderful quality on someone who does not share that same possession. Therein lies your issue.

Don't get played, play the game. Better yet, make the rules.

~SC~

This right here is great advice