bad spot with my grilfriend

**Mizfit** · 01-02-2006, 08:05 PM

Originally Posted by Doc.Sust

you are rt, i don't deny it, i just don't want to throw a way our lives together because of this, it was wrong so wrong and i know now, but to lose her because of all of this isn't worth it. i just want her to know, it was my mistake, but i wouldn't ever do anything

I'm not arguing with u

I know u see it was wrong.. this other guy doesnt seem to get it

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 08:08 PM

Originally Posted by Kale

Bro. you should get her to read this thread. That will show her how you feel.

how could i do that?

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 08:10 PM

Originally Posted by Mizfit

I'm not arguing with u

I know u see it was wrong.. this other guy doesnt seem to get it

you tell me mizfit, i know i couldn't be more wrong, but what would it take to resolve something so bad. i have never been in this position or cared about someone like this. i really thought i was going to marry her, we were so good, and i lost in all because i am a perv

**Kale** · 01-02-2006, 08:10 PM

Originally Posted by Doc.Sust

how could i do that?

Not sure what you mean ? Does she know you do gear and that you use this site ? If so then send her the link to this thread, its quite obvious from your posts that you regret what you have done and that there was nothing in it, she will see that if she reads this

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 08:12 PM

Originally Posted by Kale

Not sure what you mean ? Does she know you do gear and that you use this site ? If so then send her the link to this thread, its quite obvious from your posts that you regret what you have done and that there was nothing in it, she will see that if she reads this

she know i am a mod, she has been nothing but suporitve of my powerlifting lifestyle. hell maybe i will send it to her it can't get worse than this.

**Zapp** · 01-02-2006, 08:15 PM

I'm sure she feels like she can't trust you anymore. If I were to catch my girlfriend talking shit to another guy, her ass would be history. FOR GOOD! Sad to say, but that's probably what's gonna happen to you! Can I get her #?

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 08:18 PM

Originally Posted by Zapp

I'm sure she feels like she can't trust you anymore. If I were to catch my girlfriend talking shit to another guy, her ass would be history. FOR GOOD! Sad to say, but that's probably what's gonna happen to you! Can I get her #?

just what i needed to hear. thanks a million!, but you are rt, i cant fix her,an email is just an email, but it was so wrong and out of line, i did it to myself

**Poison Ivy** · 01-02-2006, 08:19 PM

I dont blame your gf for getting mad, I would get mad too if I found my husband talking dirty to some girl via online , ex gf or whoever it is.

If you really love her give her some time. She's just hurt right now and pist off obviously on what happened.

Good Luck!

I hope everything works out fine.

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 08:20 PM

Originally Posted by Poison Ivy

I dont blame your gf for getting mad, I would get mad too if I found my husband talking dirty to some girl via online , ex gf or whoever it is.

If you really love her give her some time. She's just hurt right now and pist off obviously on what happened.

Good Luck!

I hope everything works out fine.

thnx ivy!

**Mizfit** · 01-02-2006, 08:23 PM

Originally Posted by Poison Ivy

I dont blame your gf for getting mad, I would get mad too if I found my husband talking dirty to some girl via online , ex gf or whoever it is.

If you really love her give her some time. She's just hurt right now and pist off obviously on what happened.

Good Luck!

I hope everything works out fine.

Hey seeing as you have a hubby and flirt like no tommrrow with swolencat..guess u do the same thing huh..

not sure you should be giving him advice cupcake

**Poison Ivy** · 01-02-2006, 08:26 PM

oh gosh here we go again...

swolecat was just a good friend of mine... nothing more

I dont cheat period!

**Mizfit** · 01-02-2006, 08:28 PM

Originally Posted by Poison Ivy

oh gosh here we go again...

not here we go again, your giving him advice on something u do.... seem kinda ironic.. donctha think

**Poison Ivy** · 01-02-2006, 08:32 PM

Originally Posted by Mizfit

not here we go again, your giving him advice on something u do.... seem kinda ironic.. donctha think

do you always judge people w/o knowing them, Obviously you do!

sorry but your assumption is wrong again like the rest of what you are accusing me of.

**Hitman** · 01-02-2006, 08:33 PM

Well mate the short of it is you ****ed up. You let your ego rule when this other slapper started pulling your pubes and started paying you attention.Hey we all been there , I been in an 11 year relationship and I just about got caught(note just about) the thing is I came close to a complete mess and put a stop to it , where as you got caught and have to put your tale between your legs and kiss her ass.That is if she means anything to you.Give her space, dont keep phoneing as much, as i know it must hurt , let it ride its course and above all keep your dignity, because when all is said and done thats all you have.

**Mizfit** · 01-02-2006, 08:37 PM

Originally Posted by Poison Ivy

do you always judge people w/o knowing them, Obviously you do!

sorry but your assumption is wrong again like the rest of what you are accusing me of.

no you wrote his name on your tummy.. i assume nothing..

It's what things look like..

same in the case of what he did.. whatever im not arguing with u

I said u shouldn't give advice on thing u do (Pot calling kettle black case).. writing males names on ur tummy when u have a hubby is a flirt.. similar thing

your hubby could assume you cyber with him as well..maybe a lot more...

Just as docs gf might assume alot more from his emails..

Ur an idiot.. deal with it.. move on

doctor i hope u the best in this situation.. ur intentions may have been inncent.. but sometimes it's what it looks like that cause the downfall

**cfiler** · 01-02-2006, 08:39 PM

Gonna have to win her back. Prove to her that she is the most important thing in your life. Flowers, chocolate, and something to remind her of you would be your best bet. Let us know how it works out.

**FNG** · 01-02-2006, 08:43 PM

With all due respect,You are either 1) Unaware of your motives in talking to this chick 2)aware of your motives and trying to feed your delusions. So, it is time to either 1) Find self-awareness 2) Lose the delusion..

Respectfully, FNG

**timvds** · 01-02-2006, 08:47 PM

Originally Posted by Mizfit

I'm not arguing with u

I know u see it was wrong.. this other guy doesnt seem to get it

This other guy has a name btw.

Okay so maybe flirting is wrong to some people, but it does happen every day whether or not the guy/girl is in a relationship or not. Still in this case it is completely harmless flirting nothing more.

On the flip side she may have seen a side of him that she has never seen before, just how dirty was the emails? S&M or something? Do you ever talk that way to her? She might not be pissed because of the actual flirting but she might have read something that she couldnt handle.

**Mizfit** · 01-02-2006, 08:49 PM

Originally Posted by timvds

This other guy has a name btw.

Okay so maybe flirting is wrong to some people, but it does happen every day whether or not the guy/girl is in a relationship or not. Still in this case it is completely harmless flirting nothing more.

On the flip side she may have seen a side of him that she has never seen before, just how dirty was the emails? S&M or something? Do you ever talk that way to her? She might not be pissed because of the actual flirting but she might have read something that she couldnt handle.

haha bite me:P

Nah just the net and email / txt msging...have opened up a whole other side of meeting connecting to ppl..

Maybe it hasnt ever affected any relationship of yours.. but oh boy..
I can tell you a few horror stories

Not talking about internet dating sites either

**Poison Ivy** · 01-02-2006, 08:51 PM

Originally Posted by Mizfit

.

Ur an idiot.. deal with it.. move on

Yeah I am an idiot blah blah blah

Are you done or do you have anymore brilliant accusations more to say about me.... or are you just starting all over again....

**Hackamaniac** · 01-02-2006, 08:53 PM

this has turned into a soap

**Mizfit** · 01-02-2006, 08:54 PM

Originally Posted by Poison Ivy

Yeah I am an idiot

nope im done now that u have agreed .. thanks for making it easy

**Poison Ivy** · 01-02-2006, 08:56 PM

whatever float your boat and help your ego.

**Mizfit** · 01-02-2006, 08:57 PM

Doct Sus , you guys dont live together do you?

**ttuprincess** · 01-02-2006, 08:59 PM

Originally Posted by Mizfit

nope im done now that u have agreed .. thanks for making it easy

Does this fit?

Doc. sorry to hear about your situation, BUT she has every right to be upset. You have to be the bigger person now and leave her alone. Make it known one last time that if she wants to talk your there, but you will give her space to think about it.
good luck

**steve0** · 01-02-2006, 09:04 PM

can i ask why she was reading your e-mail, i mean why was she snooping

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 09:30 PM

Originally Posted by Mizfit

Hey seeing as you have a hubby and flirt like no tommrrow with swolencat..guess u do the same thing huh..

not sure you should be giving him advice cupcake

please dont fight about my mistake

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 09:33 PM

fng, you ever talk to me like that again i will slap the taste out of your mouth, if you like the AR, first rule, don't screw wtih a mod,especially someone in my curent situation in an open forum, have some respect,that is if you like this site and don't want to be banned

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 09:33 PM

Originally Posted by steve0

can i ask why she was reading your e-mail, i mean why was she snooping

snooping

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 09:34 PM

Originally Posted by ttuprincess

Does this fit?

Doc. sorry to hear about your situation, BUT she has every right to be upset. You have to be the bigger person now and leave her alone. Make it known one last time that if she wants to talk your there, but you will give her space to think about it.
good luck

thanks ttu princess

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 09:35 PM

Originally Posted by Mizfit

Doct Sus , you guys dont live together do you?

pretty much, she was here six days awk

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 09:37 PM

Originally Posted by Hitman

Well mate the short of it is you ****ed up. You let your ego rule when this other slapper started pulling your pubes and started paying you attention.Hey we all been there , I been in an 11 year relationship and I just about got caught(note just about) the thing is I came close to a complete mess and put a stop to it , where as you got caught and have to put your tale between your legs and kiss her ass.That is if she means anything to you.Give her space, dont keep phoneing as much, as i know it must hurt , let it ride its course and above all keep your dignity, because when all is said and done thats all you have.

thanks hitman, you guys down under always cheer me up with your unusal expressions

**juicy_brucy** · 01-02-2006, 09:53 PM

I lost my girl cause I was honest about my juicing habbits... now we are breaking up and moving appart....
Lesson learned... Lying is sometimes neccessary, but I am a terrible liar.
I can't even lie to anyone when they ask me if I juice...
I wish that I had some advice for you. I feel your pain. I never wanted to loose my girl either.
Kale's advice sounds good...
you should get her to read this thread. That will show her how you feel.

***Doc.Sust*** · 01-02-2006, 10:10 PM

Originally Posted by juicy_brucy

I lost my girl cause I was honest about my juicing habbits... now we are breaking up and moving appart....
Lesson learned... Lying is sometimes neccessary, but I am a terrible liar.
I can't even lie to anyone when they ask me if I juice...
I wish that I had some advice for you. I feel your pain. I never wanted to loose my girl either.
Kale's advice sounds good...
you should get her to read this thread. That will show her how you feel.

i am a horrible liar too, and i never had any reason to lie about anything we were open, i felt so close to her, this was a mistake, i just never realized that even talking bad could break someones trust, but now i see how, now i get it. brucy, sorry to hear about your girl, i know how it is, it sucks. don't give up hope, with your situ, you can change, so if that what it takes do it give up the gear. you have a choice, if she is the one, than fix it

**DSM4Life** · 01-02-2006, 11:24 PM

Originally Posted by Doc.Sust

i hate to air out my dirty laundry here, but i am feeling very down. today my girlfriend went into my email,and saw that i was talking dirty to a girl i hooked up with years ago. iknow it doesn't make sense and i am not sure how it even started,but all it was,was just talk, i never hooked up with her, i never did anything with her. now she is so upset, she came over and cleared all of her things out of my house. i feel SO bad, i never wanted to lose her, we were going to get engaged sometime this year, and now i lost it all.a bad judgement. i never felt so horrible in my life and don't know what to do. i really love her more than life, and now it feels if i lost it all. i don't know what to do, i feel twisted like a pretzel

I do the same thing now. The X wants to F the hell out of me but i told her no. She still sends me really dirty texts. I haven't been caught yet but ill save this post so i can refer to it

**LAW** · 01-03-2006, 06:18 AM

Originally Posted by FNG

With all due respect,You are either 1) Unaware of your motives in talking to this chick 2)aware of your motives and trying to feed your delusions. So, it is time to either 1) Find self-awareness 2) Lose the delusion..

Respectfully, FNG

Give it time. Don't hound her but flowers and a card would be nice. If she really loves you she won't let you go because of this. Consider it a test, and understand, everything happens for a purpose. Even though this is difficult for you, keep your head up. True love will survive a crisis.
I had a guy from the gym start Im'ing me out of no where. I've known him through my business. (he had my e-mail address from my business) and he started talking sexual to me, totally shocked me. He told me to keep it on the qt.

He has a wife and kids and apparently lives a pretend life. Wonder how many other women he has done this to. (Ha- he left the gym)

**tbrocato** · 01-03-2006, 06:29 AM

Well my advice is this. For one, I think it was very wrong that your gf read your private emails. Now, that doesnt make it right what your did but IMO she should of not been snooping. Best advice I could give is apolgize and buy her some really nice shoes are something lol

**juicy_brucy** · 01-03-2006, 01:16 PM

Originally Posted by Doc.Sust

i am a horrible liar too, and i never had any reason to lie about anything we were open, i felt so close to her, this was a mistake, i just never realized that even talking bad could break someones trust, but now i see how, now i get it. brucy, sorry to hear about your girl, i know how it is, it sucks. don't give up hope, with your situ, you can change, so if that what it takes do it give up the gear. you have a choice, if she is the one, than fix it

I will not be giving up the juice... or changing anything about me. I am a kind and honest person. If she can't see this, then I must go. I love her, but I have loved and lost before, so this is yet another sad chapter in my life put to rest. There is another out there for me... I will always remeber the sweet side of her, and I will never focus on on the negativity that she brings my way... Life is all about perspective. My glass is half full, not half empty, and If I wasn't geezing all of this test right now, I would be a blubbering crybaby.... P.M. me if you ever want to chat brother... I seriously feel your pain, and in a sence, your loss is greater than mine, cause it was over something so small and redicilious... I feel so sorry for you.
Stay stong and try to be level...

**Mizfit** · 01-03-2006, 01:25 PM

Up date hun

**spywizard** · 01-03-2006, 01:28 PM

didn't read everyone's advice..

here is my .02..

option #1... let her go, learn from the experience, you disrespected her, and made her feel insecure..

option #2.. start dating her again.. rebuild what you had, and make it better.. yes, you will need to be punished, but it's probably the only way.. start over.. you can't fix what happened.. you can only start anew..