Guys with girlfriends, do you cheat?

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 03:08 PM

I don't set out to myself but it's happened a few times. I feel terribly guilty and end up kissing her ass...taking her out...compliments, flowers, all the cliches. One time she even said to me, you are probably doing this out of guilt because you've been naughty!

**Smak** · 01-21-2006, 03:14 PM

Yes I do. Cheating keeps me sane.

**Tren Bull** · 01-21-2006, 03:18 PM

hell no i dont cheat cause ive been cheated on before and i know how it feels.

**Panzerfaust** · 01-21-2006, 03:24 PM

Two words:

Hell no!

If you got a problem with cheating, you have no buisness being in a "relationship" in the first place. Actually it sounds like you don't know what a real relationship is like.

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 03:32 PM

Hey man, you're just saying that too kiss ass with some of the cute girly girls who look through these threads! Anyway, whether in marraige or just dating, cheating is more common than true monotony, I mean, monogany. Scientists who study mating strategies argue that we are not wired up for monogamy (i.e., it's unnatural). They argue that monogamy is an artifice of culture. People should just have an agreement and swing - that's what I did last time but this girl won't go for that so I do the best I can and actually, I haven't cheated in over a year and a half. Not bad.

Originally Posted by muriloninja

Two words:

Hell no!

If you got a problem with cheating, you have no buisness being in a "relationship" in the first place. Actually it sounds like you don't know what a real relationship is like.

**Hackamaniac** · 01-21-2006, 03:35 PM

I have never cheated on any women and won't cause i've been cheated on and it killed me.

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 03:38 PM

That's cool. You must feel proud to have such self-restraint. I admire that.
If my girlfriend cheated on me, I don't think it would kill me. I don't feel possessive that way. I'm sure there are other people like that out there.

Originally Posted by Hackamaniac

I have never cheated on any women and won't cause i've been cheated on and it killed me.

**Mizfit** · 01-21-2006, 03:40 PM

one day it will happen to u.. karmas a bitch

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 03:46 PM

Who's to say it hasn't already. It has.

Originally Posted by Mizfit

one day it will happen to u.. karmas a bitch

**chest6** · 01-21-2006, 03:47 PM

Originally Posted by Hackamaniac

I have never cheated on any women and won't cause i've been cheated on and it killed me.

ditto. Its the worst feeling in the world.

**MASTER** · 01-21-2006, 03:47 PM

Cheating sucks!

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 03:48 PM

If that's true than why is it so common?

Originally Posted by MastaAce

Cheating sucks!

**MASTER** · 01-21-2006, 03:52 PM

Originally Posted by Mike Dura

If that's true than why is it so common?

Thats a poor argument bro, cancer and aids are common and im sure you aint gona tell me that means they dont suck!

**chest6** · 01-21-2006, 03:52 PM

I dont know, but why do you have a girlfriend if you cheat on her? Thats not fair to her. Imagine how you would feel if she cheated on you, if you do actually love her. Also, imagine how she would feel if she found out, assuming you guys are very close.

**steve0** · 01-21-2006, 03:57 PM

i think woman cheat more then men do !!! fuggin whores !! and O yeah i have cheated before but only on 1 girl and i told her the next day after i did, she was upset but forgave me but it totally f'd up are relationship she always brought it up durning fights

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 04:00 PM

I knew I'd take heat for this one. Mizfit told that I need a hug and may be crazy on another thread. Hey, I'm just being honest. It's almost like a confession. I don't feel good about it although I bet some would assume I'm bragging because I'm oppenly admitting it. It's always been a flaw. I only admit it because I can hide behind this computer screen and it's of little consequence to me if I get flamed for being honest when I'm in anonymity. Anyway, I'd feel terrible if she found out. I wouldn't want to hurt her. I haven't cheated on her in a year and a half because I no longer befriend woman I'm attracted to because I know my limits. But considering how common cheating is, and how the majority of the respondents here are sounding very like saints, I have to wonder why the infedels are so under respresented.

Originally Posted by chest6

I dont know, but why do you have a girlfriend if you cheat on her? Thats not fair to her. Imagine how you would feel if she cheated on you, if you do actually love her. Also, imagine how she would feel if she found out, assuming you guys are very close.

**chest6** · 01-21-2006, 04:04 PM

talk to my ex gf..biggest slut i know..in secret of course. Different college relationship her eyes lit up cuz she knew she could do whatever she wanted and I wouldnt find out. Stupid on my part..ill never do that again..

**timvds** · 01-21-2006, 04:08 PM

Touchy subject. I would have to say yes, I have cheated. I have been cheated on as well. Not that two wrongs make a right, just that I know how it feels to be on both ends.

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 04:11 PM

My best friend's girlfriend cheated on him with a girl. He was devastated. I used to goad him saying, "do you really think she's being faithful to you?". I was trying to get him to scoop with me and cheat on her preemptively. I would reason with him that no one is faithful to each other when they are away at school. Too many temptations. My friend was one of the few who wanted to be faithful but his girl wasn't being faithful to him. I turned out to be right about that and he wasted many opportunities on his unfaithful girlfriend.

Originally Posted by chest6

talk to my ex gf..biggest slut i know..in secret of course. Different college relationship her eyes lit up cuz she knew she could do whatever she wanted and I wouldnt find out. Stupid on my part..ill never do that again..

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 04:13 PM

Thank you! It happens. It would be different if you had children - than again, it doesn't hold alot of people back.

Originally Posted by timvds

Touchy subject. I would have to say yes, I have cheated. I have been cheated on as well. Not that two wrongs make a right, just that I know how it feels to be on both ends.

**Hackamaniac** · 01-21-2006, 04:15 PM

Originally Posted by chest6

I dont know, but why do you have a girlfriend if you cheat on her? Thats not fair to her. Imagine how you would feel if she cheated on you, if you do actually love her. Also, imagine how she would feel if she found out, assuming you guys are very close.

exactly chest

**Hackamaniac** · 01-21-2006, 04:18 PM

Originally Posted by Mike Dura

That's cool. You must feel proud to have such self-restraint. I admire that.
If my girlfriend cheated on me, I don't think it would kill me. I don't feel possessive that way. I'm sure there are other people like that out there.

and it's not just that it killed me i still wouldn't do it cause that's not the type of person i am or ever want to be.

**SnaX** · 01-21-2006, 04:19 PM

Cheating is fo insecure folks.

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 04:21 PM

It is a touchy subject. I put up a gay thread and that too brought on some heat. Some defended gays others seemed hateful. As I defended gays, some reasoned that I must be gay too. It was interesting.

**chest6** · 01-21-2006, 04:23 PM

Originally Posted by SnaX

Cheating is fo insecure folks.

Im sorry Mike, but it is. My ex herself has said so. Not directly..but when Im like "why did u mess around with that guy?" Shes like he was hot and he played tight end for UT and all the girls wanted him..and he picked me.it made me feel so wanted. What a whore. She also messed around w some guy just cuz he used to be the quarterback at Arkansas..which he prolly made up. I was faithful to her the entire time, so dont say its not possible.

**cfiler** · 01-21-2006, 04:33 PM

Never cheated. Been cheated on, and was used as "the other guy" without my knowledge. I trust my GF more than anyone else, and I expect that she would feel the same way about me.

**Panzerfaust** · 01-21-2006, 04:40 PM

Originally Posted by Mike Dura

That's cool. You must feel proud to have such self-restraint. I admire that.
If my girlfriend cheated on me, I don't think it would kill me. I don't feel possessive that way. I'm sure there are other people like that out there.

"Self-restraint"? No, its called common sense and respect.

**Pinkvelvet** · 01-21-2006, 04:45 PM

Originally Posted by Mike Dura

That's cool. You must feel proud to have such self-restraint. I admire that.
If my girlfriend cheated on me, I don't think it would kill me. I don't feel possessive that way. I'm sure there are other people like that out there.

You just don't truly love her!!!!!! If you did...you wouldn't be able to even fathom some other man's hands, caressing her...holding her.....touching her....making love to her.....

You wouldn't....period!

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 04:49 PM

I disagree with that. Plenty of people who are in loving relationships swing.

Originally Posted by Pinkvelvet

You just don't truly love her!!!!!! If you did...you wouldn't be able to even fathom some other man's hands, caressing her...holding her.....touching her....making love to her.....

You wouldn't....period!

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 04:53 PM

In order to have respect (as it is expressed in fedility) one must have self-restraint, especially when you are tempted elsewhere. "Common sense", is a phrase that is too general to mean anything. And if it's common than how good can that sense be? Sense what I'm getting at?

Originally Posted by muriloninja

"Self-restraint"? No, its called common sense and respect.

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 04:57 PM

Sorry to hear about that. But don't call her a "hoar." How about some compassion for her vulnerability. We all have some of that. Insecurity can be a cause but do you think prez. Clinton was doing it out of insecurity or is it because sex, in and of itself, just feels good?

Originally Posted by chest6

Im sorry Mike, but it is. My ex herself has said so. Not directly..but when Im like "why did u mess around with that guy?" Shes like he was hot and he played tight end for UT and all the girls wanted him..and he picked me.it made me feel so wanted. What a whore. She also messed around w some guy just cuz he used to be the quarterback at Arkansas..which he prolly made up. I was faithful to her the entire time, so dont say its not possible.

**steve0** · 01-21-2006, 05:03 PM

Mike i can see were your comming from with this thread, i understand what your what your trying to get accross, or trying to you know what im saying !!!!! but just like always people have their veiws im sitting here saying cheat any chance you get i hate cheating i have been cheated on it was never admitted but i know the ho did, but i cheated on her as well multiple times, i was a little younger then but im not much older now and i just figuerd im only gonna get 1 life here on earth and 1 day i'll prolly get married and i wont screw around on my wife, so if i can bang this hott chick a time or two and never see her again then why not ??? it's fun and it feels good its not like im gonna be gatting married anytime soon so F'it and muriloninja i can see you point of veiw as well

talking about self respect and self restraint and i also agree with that but i beleive evreything happens for a reason may it be good or bad or hurt people or not shit happens

**Mike Dura** · 01-21-2006, 05:18 PM

I'm feeling you (I think..). I like the view that boils it down to insecurity. Although there are many other reasons people cheat, I know in my case insecurity is probaly involved. I remember seeing this movie, I forget the name of it, but it was about a black family where the father, who is a doctor, cheated because it was a kind of tragic heroism for him. It made him feel significant. The film had a way of making you feel sorry for him, not as in a condenscending pittying way, but in a sense that vulnerability is common to us all. A part of the human condition. Nevertheless, there are plenty of people who probably missed that point and point the finger at the guy and yelled infedel...it's so easy to cast the stone. It's harder to reveal yourself truthfully.

Originally Posted by steve0

Mike i can see were your comming from with this thread, i understand what your what your trying to get accross, or trying to you know what im saying !!!!! but just like always people have their veiws im sitting here saying cheat any chance you get i hate cheating i have been cheated on it was never admitted but i know the ho did, but i cheated on her as well multiple times, i was a little younger then but im not much older now and i just figuerd im only gonna get 1 life here on earth and 1 day i'll prolly get married and i wont screw around on my wife, so if i can bang this hott chick a time or two and never see her again then why not ??? it's fun and it feels good its not like im gonna be gatting married anytime soon so F'it and muriloninja i can see you point of veiw as well

talking about self respect and self restraint and i also agree with that but i beleive evreything happens for a reason may it be good or bad or hurt people or not shit happens

**Dave321** · 01-21-2006, 05:23 PM

I cheat ALL the time... last night I had fries with my angus burger, and the night before I ate 3 peanut butter chocolate bars with a bag of popcorn. But, don't cheat on my girl... I'm tyin' my balls up with this one... holy shiet, I'm going to suffer from the disease, "onegina"... wish me luck boys!

**Tren Bull** · 01-21-2006, 05:23 PM

ive seen girls totally give in to temptation. i really dont think it is as hard as they try to make it seem. ive been in situations before when girls have totally thrown themselves at me... as in saying straight up that they want to fu_k me, but if ive got a girlfriend i cant do it cause i care about my girl and i wouldn't want to hurt her. even if she doesn't find out about it, i will still know. i also totally believe in karma... what goes around comes around so if you cheat dont be too surprised when it happens to you.

**Animal Cracker** · 01-21-2006, 05:25 PM

Well this is a different issue with men than women. With men, we just need a place to put it- do not need to know a womans name or what she likes or thinks about- do the deed, then forget it....women catch feelings when they cheat or cheat for revenge. Not that I have cheated on my wife, but just think that men and women cheat for diferent reasons.

**Evil Predator** · 01-21-2006, 05:26 PM

nawww... not a cheater...

Anything i can get from some skank on the street, I can ask my girl for.

**SwoleCat** · 01-21-2006, 05:30 PM

Originally Posted by Mike Dura

If that's true than why is it so common?

Because morons and immature kids are common as well.

~SC~

**SwoleCat** · 01-21-2006, 05:32 PM

Another thing I noticed:

People give advice/input, and it's shot down each and every time by you with an excuse.

F*ck it then, do what you want......who cares?? Not us.....

It's WHORE not HOAR..............

That's not even a word.

~SC~

**steve0** · 01-21-2006, 05:33 PM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

ive seen girls totally give in to temptation. i really dont think it is as hard as they try to make it seem. ive been in situations before when girls have totally thrown themselves at me... as in saying straight up that they want to fu_k me, but if ive got a girlfriend i cant do it cause if im in a relationship, then i care about the girl and i wouldn't want to hurt her. even if she doesn't find out about it, i will still know. i also totally believe in karma... what goes around comes around so if you cheat dont be too surprised when it happens to you.

exactlly i beleive woman cheat more than men do IMO woman like to stray yeas men do to but men like to always come home to something for the most part, woman i think could care less IMO woman are looking for " IT " and that IT is what ever can help them out and make there life better and that IT is a man

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