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    When did you admit that you loved someone?

    Took me 9 whole months, but I think I finally let myself accept it. I had to loose what I had in a matter of hours before it finally kicked in how much my relationship meant to me. I'm just wondering though, how long did you wait to tell your special someone that you loved them?

    I think its a pet-peeve of mine maybe?

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    I'm lucky in one sense. I have always been able to express my feelings to the special people in my life.

    But i must admit it was the hardest thing i did to actually say it out loud the first time to my wife (girlfriend then naturally).

    She was the most beautiful woman i had ever been near and it took me 2 weeks to build up the courage to say the L word, since then ive taken time every day to make sure she knows.

    Learn from your life, if you regret something you have done in the past learn from it and never repeat it.

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    never, cuz when you do, thats when you get hurt.

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    When I first seen 'Debbie does Dallas', Geeze was I in love.

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    Red, ain't that the truth brother. It took me a whole 8 months to finally get those three words out. I mean, I had been in relationships that lasted usually less than 28 days, where the girl would say it and it was just kinda a mannerism than a close connection. I vowed not to do it again after the disasster with my ex-gf. Well, I think I waited long enough to say the words, even though I've been thinking them for about 3-4 months. But honestly, we came the closest ever to breaking up today, and that's when I realized how much she meant to me. The hardest part, I think, is admitting it to yourself and believing it.

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    Originally posted by Bouncer AKA bouncer
    When I first seen 'Debbie does Dallas', Geeze was I in love.

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    Well, a 'part' of all of us fall in love when pornstars show their mad skill. Nothing wrong with that! Just make sure you don't commit to a pornstar bro!

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    awwwwwwwwwww

    first time i met my girlfriend i knew she was the one person for me.awwwwwwwwwwwwwww.ok shut up i can be mushy too!!!ok i hate all of you

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    Ok I'll be honest, I'm with my wife since I was 16 (she was 15). We're 35 and 36 now and still happily married. Apart from military service oversea's we've never been apart, but I honesly can't remember that first time I told her I loved her.

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    Ive only told one girl i loved her i was 15 and got laid after

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    ahh the oldest trick in the book

    told one girl i loved her i was 15 and got laid after
    that's an all too familiar line in my game book. i actually mean it w/ my gf, but i have to laugh when i tell it to a girl i've had sex w/ and she actually believes it!!!i'm just like, how stupid are you??

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    I really can't remember. I know that in my last two long term relationships , the gf said it first. I have no problems expressing my feelings for the most part. Having to say those three words first is a tough one though.

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    Never! Pimp rule #7!

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    i'll have to agree with clocky on this 1. love just gets ya hurt! after 3 years of being w/ a girl, then...you aren't anymore. it hurts! love sucks in my book! haha

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    Brought a tear to my eye the first time i said it to my last longterm relationship, and boy did it suck when we broke up.

    "Love hurts and it don't" - Jon B. Good song if you want a little love R&B song...

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    Saying "I love you" means jack shit and you think of all those promises that you make in a r-ship and when it ends what does it mean? S.F.A

    Showing someone that you love them is the only true way you can walk upto a stranger in the street and tell them you love them.Its all to easy to just say those 3 little words.

    Saying that I think I,ve said it in every r-ship but only meant it twice.Maybe that would explain why I,m single LOL

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    It isn't always a choice though, love is more like a virus. You didn't ask for it, you don't necessary want it, but yet you can't rid yourself of it.

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    I feel ya billy, I said it to my ex since she said it first. We only dated 28 days, and it wasn't a pleasent experience in retrospect. I didn't mean it when I said it; in fact, I even told her that I love her in a way, but im not in love with her. haha The current gal though, I have been with almost 9 months, which is 10x longer than the longest before her, and its been great. I almost got dumped because I cheated on her, and when I had a mental breakdown, it finally struck me how I felt about her. this beter not effect my workouts.

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    i feel ya rampage. you cant help if you love some1, regardless of whether you want to or not. i know i still love her, but i hate her as a person. if it was my choice, id alltogether hate her.

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    TTB, no shit huh? as much as you gonna try to be a hard ass, fucking emotions get in the way.

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    the firsti time you kicked ass in the gym didnt it hurt like hell afterward?

    so i guess you stopped going since it hurt?

    life does hurt. its supposed to

    I got stepped on and screwed over by two wives before i finally met the woman of my soul.

    dont stop trying because you didnt get it right, nothing easy is that rewarding.

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    haha, you have a point, but its not like she hurt me once. comparing the gym thing to her, i went back everyday for 3 years and then quit, love is so much more taxing than a workout.

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    I can still remember the first time I met my love....
    It was tough to deal with it at first...but as the time went by it just appeared to be an everyday thing...
    To this day she has never let me down,cared if I don't call if I'm not coming home,never ever cared if any other woman went thru my life or bed.
    She makes me feel like no one else does,silly,funny,clumpsey and happy as nobody else.
    To this day my heart beats faster,I blush and my eyes get all watery and I walk like in a haze every time I'm around her....
    After all this years I realized:
    I LOVE YOU MARY JANE!!!
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    Originally posted by rampage76
    It isn't always a choice though, love is more like a virus. You didn't ask for it, you don't necessary want it, but yet you can't rid yourself of it.
    So true bro

    I want to hate my ex and I convince myself I do until I see her than I think of all the good times and I know I should think of the bad times so I hate her again!Confused I sure as hell am

    "Love is a trully wonderful emotion - the only problem is you never really own it"

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    love is a four letter word!, but many people use inapriopetly(sp) "i love ice cream", "i love to lift" and so on but only when you show it does it count ive said i love you plenty to girls, but i only showed to my wife who ive been with for the past 7yrs, words are cheap actions are what counts!

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    Originally posted by Billy Boy


    So true bro

    I want to hate my ex and I convince myself I do until I see her than I think of all the good times and I know I should think of the bad times so I hate her again!Confused I sure as hell am

    "Love is a trully wonderful emotion - the only problem is you never really own it"
    Damn bro, I don't have the problems with the ex's because I havn't stayed with a girl this long before. I can't really think of any bad times I've had in the past 9 months with my girl. Since she is so perfect, I had to go and fuck up by cheating on her when I was drunk. Normally, I would say 'screw it, I'll be single again', but I couldn't do it this time.

    ITS A DAMN VIRUS, i swear!

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    finding out she's sick, and I feel like I got the shit kicked out of me...god it sucks. When there is a chance of losing someone, you tend to really realize how much they mean to you...or how much they don't.

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    Yeah, the hardest part was having to tell her what happened because I could see it hurting her. I felt like I had someone driving an iron rod through my heart when she started crying. DEFINITELY not something I want to go through again. I probably was more of a wreck then she was.

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    Originally posted by rampage76
    Yeah, the hardest part was having to tell her what happened because I could see it hurting her. I felt like I had someone driving an iron rod through my heart when she started crying. DEFINITELY not something I want to go through again. I probably was more of a wreck then she was.
    I know what you mean just looking into their eyes and seeing the hurt,despair and disbelief.I would never do that to someone again.I don't know about the iron bar but as the truth unvieled it was like I was fighting for air.Its a pretty low thing to do but for her to forgive you just means how much you mean to her.It takes a big person to forgive someone for doing something like that.I don't think I could.

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    Billy, you hit the nail right on the head! That's exactly what my girl is dealing with right now. Wanting to stay together, but morals say no. It is definitely pretty hard to forgive someone, but if you care about them enough, hopefully you'll find it in you to give them a second chance (that's what I'm running on at the moment). However, there's only one "get out of jail" token, if you know what I mean. So, no more risky business for me, I do care too much. It would be like giving up the iron! It just ISN'T gonna happen.

    Originally posted by Billy Boy


    I know what you mean just looking into their eyes and seeing the hurt,despair and disbelief.I would never do that to someone again.I don't know about the iron bar but as the truth unvieled it was like I was fighting for air.Its a pretty low thing to do but for her to forgive you just means how much you mean to her.It takes a big person to forgive someone for doing something like that.I don't think I could.

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    i told my girl when i was fucked up in a club. RULE #1 makes sure they say it first.
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