Just hacked into my ex's myspace

**J-Dogg** · 12-16-2008, 12:42 AM

I'm an idiot and feel bad for it now though.

We are "working things out" but she is still seeing someone, so I got curious.

She's been honest with me, and here I am hacking her account like a insecure, curious idiot.

/endlife

information is like crack, you really want to know some things I guess!

**Amorphic** · 12-16-2008, 12:47 AM

duuuuuude. obsessed!

**Nicotine** · 12-16-2008, 12:51 AM

been there, done it....in the same token, if you guys are working sh1t out or still getting it on, then you have the right to know everything - and if it takes a bit of detective work to find out, so be it

edit: and how can you be working things out, if she is still seeing someone else.....

all or nothing IMO..

**Amorphic** · 12-16-2008, 12:55 AM

i think you should just start fresh with someone else personally. unless this girl is really worth all the trouble your own insecurities could get the better of you.

i used to always look at my ex's facebook page and secretly try to 'spy' on her, but after a good amount of time removing her from my life and keeping her blocked etc, i find my feelings changing and dont find myself interested anymore.

i'll agree with nicotine on this one, its all or nothing dude, dont sit in the grey area.

**firmechicano831** · 12-16-2008, 01:39 AM

so was she writting to anyone else?

PT · 12-16-2008, 04:33 AM

Originally Posted by Amorphic

i think you should just start fresh with someone else personally. unless this girl is really worth all the trouble your own insecurities could get the better of you.

i used to always look at my ex's facebook page and secretly try to 'spy' on her, but after a good amount of time removing her from my life and keeping her blocked etc, i find my feelings changing and dont find myself interested anymore.

i'll agree with nicotine on this one, its all or nothing dude, dont sit in the grey area.

^^agreed^^ obviously you dont trust her or you wouldnt have to spy on her and a relationship without trust will never last.

**im here to learn** · 12-16-2008, 04:46 AM

feeling guilty? dont be silly, guilty is when ye get a different girl pregnant when the womans waiting at home for you. thats no reason to feel bad

**Narkissos** · 12-16-2008, 05:42 AM

Originally Posted by PT

a relationship without trust will never last.

What 'relationship'?

She claims to be 'working on it' with him... but is seeing another dude.

Sounds like he's been strung along.

J-Dogg... break that shit off.

Seriously man.

Women like to have their cake and eat it too.

PT · 12-16-2008, 05:45 AM

thats exactly what i am saying. he is hoping to reestablish a relationship with someone he dosnt trust

**Narkissos** · 12-16-2008, 05:55 AM

^^He has no reason to trust her... She's just stringing him along.

**George Dubya** · 12-16-2008, 06:15 AM

If Ms. Bush pulled that BS with me...i would have her quitely...."DISAPPEAR!"

Yep...i get myself a New First Lady....RIGHT AWAY!

Time to start hunting...and Fast!....cause believe it or not...i'm one horny president....with a full script of viagra!

**paulzane** · 12-16-2008, 06:41 AM

Originally Posted by *Narkissos*

What 'relationship'?

She claims to be 'working on it' with him... but is seeing another dude.

Sounds like he's been strung along.

J-Dogg... break that shit off.

Seriously man.

Women like to have their COCK and eat it too.

Well said Nark!!

**Narkissos** · 12-16-2008, 07:39 AM

^^

**J-Dogg** · 12-16-2008, 08:34 AM

She is seeing another girl right now.

We broke up a year ago, and she has been begging me to just try and work things out with her for the past year.

To be honest, I really wanted too all along. I still loved her and thought about her all the time.

When we broke up, it was because she moved to another city 150 miles away and it caused a ton of stress on us both. She suggest a break, I reacted with "a break? forget it".

It REALLY hurt me, to be honest, my first real broken heart. I've dated 5 girls in the past year, just trying to get over her. I'll never fully commit to them though, because I still love this one.

I finally called her over while she was already seeing this girl for 4 months. I just told her I've always loved her, and I've always wanted to work everything out, but I've been scared to be hurt for one, and also did not want to be the cause of her break up with her girl friend. I don't like being the cause of anyone's heart break.

So she is seeing another girl, but it's because I was a selfish scared ass hole who did not open up to her until it was honestly too late. Lucky for me, she understands me, belives me. So I try to be understanding that she can't drop her girl friend like a bad habit to run back to me. She's trying to do things right, and I agree with it.

I checked her myspace because I'm in the dark on what is going on with her girl friend. I don't ask her, because it's none of my business. I can't just demand to know everything, but it drove me nuts not knowing. I know her girl friend and she is a little sweet heart, and I honestly feel bad for her.

When I checked her myspace, it's just a bunch of messages from her gf telling her how she loves her and wants to be with her forever. Normal stuff people say when they sense the end is near. My Ex just replies with appropritate responses, for the situation.

**CMPD213** · 12-16-2008, 08:54 AM

So your ex is bisexual???... I agree with everything else though, you should move on bro.. I understand it may be hard but a broken heart is just like any other wound, takes time to heal.

You have to want to get over her though, if you don't want to get over her you won't let yourself

**J-Dogg** · 12-16-2008, 08:59 AM

Originally Posted by jp2007

So your ex is bisexual???... I agree with everything else though, you should move on bro.. I understand it may be hard but a broken heart is just like any other wound, takes time to heal.

You have to want to get over her though, if you don't want to get over her you won't let yourself

She is in one of those "non sexual" relationships with a girl.

I definatly understand the bros saying to move on. I tend to disgagree. I've thought about this for a year away from her. I'm not one to belive in absolute love, but I think things will work fine with us.

We did not break up because anyone was doing anything wrong, the distance was just bad. We had a pretty good relationship.

I just can't expect her to drop her life the day I finally open up. She is excited to work things out, but is trying to be sensitive to her girl friend. I understand her situation too. I was with other girls, I cared about them, I did not love them, but I cared enough I would not want to hurt them either, so I would try to do things as soft as possible also.

Not to mention, she's been honest with me all along, her myspace messages proved it.

**MuscleScience** · 12-16-2008, 09:04 AM

Unsexual? that is a new one by me..

**zimmy** · 12-16-2008, 09:10 AM

gotta say... i hate how people use the word hack so much. Guessing a password is hardly "hacking"

**ilovesus** · 12-16-2008, 09:29 AM

Stalker!

**ilovesus** · 12-16-2008, 09:30 AM

Sometimes its better not to know things man and try to let them go.

**Canadream** · 12-16-2008, 10:45 AM

any pics? will help you decide

**J-Dogg** · 12-16-2008, 10:51 AM

I did hack it, I planted a keylogger in her laptop that updates to my computer.

Kidding, what are you some l33t hacker that takes offense because I did not want to put "I knew the security questions to her email account and had her password sent to her email then got into her myspace"?

I guess the kids are calling them "Platonic" relationships. They are quite popular with girls these days as they are "trendy".

**Canadream** · 12-16-2008, 10:56 AM

nahh I wouldn't call that hacking per say...I call it something simple that anyone can do to some else computer if it's not properly protected. nobody is allowed to use my computer and I would never in a million years use someone else....I'm way to smart for that.

**Jfew44** · 12-16-2008, 01:43 PM

Been in kinda the same situation, only it was a phone. She was sleeping and I felt she was not being completely honest with me. I looked through her texts and didn't like what I saw. I felt instantly bad for doing it though. I couldn't let her know why I was mad at her, so I'd pick a fight the first chance I could.

Seems to me like she's being honest though. Good luck whatever you decide..

**WOLFCRAFT** · 12-16-2008, 01:56 PM

Dude if you checked into it and she's being honest then cool.
You now KNOW she's trustworthy, and don't have any reason to snoop again.
I'd ignore the dudes telling you to move on. If you really love a girl it's worth it to work things out.

**Flagg** · 12-16-2008, 02:14 PM

Originally Posted by WOLFCRAFT

Dude if you checked into it and she's being honest then cool.
You now KNOW she's trustworthy, and don't have any reason to snoop again.
I'd ignore the dudes telling you to move on. If you really love a girl it's worth it to work things out.

Okay, this whole "trust" thing being banded about...let me ask you this, after you broke into her account, but just say for arguments sake that she was infact as clean as a whistle, would YOU have told her what you had done?

**J-Dogg** · 12-16-2008, 03:10 PM

Actually thinking of talking to her about it tonight...... Tried to this morning.

I think she'll understand me being a little insecure being in the posistion I'm in. I'll feel better talking about it too. Will also show if she is as understanding as I am.

I know it's a ****ed up situation, sounds wierd. But It is what it is, i want to work things out, she does too but I don't want to apply pressure or put her in a posistion that forces her to do somthing or pick. I have to be selfless about things if I love her and want to do what is best for her, my needs have to come second some times.

**QuieTSToRM33** · 12-16-2008, 03:14 PM

Not cool man ... not cool at all.

**Flagg** · 12-16-2008, 03:14 PM

My two cents on this is:

Whether she was guilty or not, the moment you got into her MySpace account, the relationship was finished. Because if she was innocent, you would have either told her what you done, which she would have hated you for, or you would have kept it quiet but still have done a shitty thing, an untrustworthy thing. Okay, so she was guilty of stuff...you still broke into her account. It was doomed from that moment on.

Move on, is what id suggest now.

**Kratos** · 12-16-2008, 03:17 PM

Originally Posted by J-Dogg

Actually thinking of talking to her about it tonight...... Tried to this morning.

I think she'll understand me being a little insecure being in the posistion I'm in. I'll feel better talking about it too. Will also show if she is as understanding as I am.

I know it's a ****ed up situation, sounds wierd. But It is what it is, i want to work things out, she does too but I don't want to apply pressure or put her in a posistion that forces her to do somthing or pick. I have to be selfless about things if I love her and want to do what is best for her, my needs have to come second some times.

First of all congrads on reaching the highest level of cyber stalker. I'm guilty of checking out ex's facebook pages so I won't fault you too much.

Don't tell her dude, is the only thing I would add. What you did is creepy and isn't going to help things. Just don't do it again. If she knows you were in there, her response isn't going to be a positive one.

You need to decide if this is a healthy relationship though and concider moving on.

**sizerp** · 12-16-2008, 03:24 PM

You should pose a Christian threesome to the girl and her GF! Lol... residualness rules.

**J-Dogg** · 12-16-2008, 03:30 PM

jesh, you guys are ass holes, lol.

is it really that bad? Do you just blindly trust someone after a year? Do you just give them your heart, trust and hope they are being honest even though they are seeing someone else?

Maybe I'm more curious than you more confident alpha males.

If a guy thinks his wife is cheating, sets him up, and he passes, she is reassured, feels better, he should be understanding given the situation.

If she can't understand my situation, then maybe I should move on. But if I don't tell her, and hide it, that makes the relationship unhealthy at that point. If she is okay with it, tells me "it's okay, I would want to do the same" then it's worth trying.

**scibble** · 12-16-2008, 03:36 PM

Originally Posted by J-Dogg

jesh, you guys are ass holes, lol.

is it really that bad? Do you just blindly trust someone after a year? Do you just give them your heart, trust and hope they are being honest even though they are seeing someone else?

Maybe I'm more curious than you more confident alpha males.

If a guy thinks his wife is cheating, sets him up, and he passes, she is reassured, feels better, he should be understanding given the situation.

If she can't understand my situation, then maybe I should move on. But if I don't tell her, and hide it, that makes the relationship unhealthy at that point. If she is okay with it, tells me "it's okay, I would want to do the same" then it's worth trying.

i can see that point of view....but still wouldn't tell her i did it.

**J-Dogg** · 12-16-2008, 03:38 PM

Originally Posted by scibble

i can see that point of view....but still wouldn't tell her i did it.

If she did it to me, and found nothing, I would expect her to tell me, and tell me in a way that she was happy and felt good about me being honest all along.

I would not flip out, or be mad if I had nothing to hide.

If she found me talking to a girl in another town, trying to setup a play date, then I'd be pissed, yell and tell her she had no right to violate my privacy.

**Kratos** · 12-16-2008, 03:41 PM

Originally Posted by J-Dogg

If she did it to me, and found nothing, I would expect her to tell me, and tell me in a way that she was happy and felt good about me being honest all along.

I would not flip out, or be mad if I had nothing to hide.

If she found me talking to a girl in another town, trying to setup a play date, then I'd be pissed, yell and tell her she had no right to violate my privacy.

I get what you're saying...but you're talking about an invasion of privacy here. If you have a guilty concience about conducting covert-ops, don't do it again.

**J-Dogg** · 12-16-2008, 03:59 PM

Originally Posted by Kratos

I get what you're saying...but you're talking about an invasion of privacy here. If you have a guilty concience about conducting covert-ops, don't do it again.

I was actually listening to the radio this morning, on a show they had people call in who thought their spouse was cheating on them.

To attempt to catch them, they would call the spouse, tell them they won a dozen free rozes. Then ask who they wanted them delivered too.

None of the guys/girls got mad. They did it on air, with both people on the phone. IN every situation, the suspect-ee would say "oh baby, it's just you work late, or go over to hang out with the guys a lot, stay out late, I was just worried"

The other person always understood.

But I mean, I would not send flowers I won to my mistress either, so the guys probably were cheating and got away with it.

What was the point of me bringing that up now? hrm

**firmechicano831** · 12-16-2008, 09:56 PM

post some pics of her and her ex.

**Flagg** · 12-17-2008, 08:04 PM

Originally Posted by firmechicano831

post some pics of her and her ex.

If you are suggesting he posts pics of her and an ex in here, don't...that's likely to get the OP suspended or banned. He shouldn't be even contemplating doing stuff like that as it is, but given what he's already done im guessing he doesnt have many scruples in the first place.

**Nicotine** · 12-17-2008, 11:50 PM

Originally Posted by zimmy

gotta say... i hate how people use the word hack so much. Guessing a password is hardly "hacking"

yeah, it's not like myspace is as hard as a gibson :P (hackers, 1995, best cyber movie EVER!)

**Chitown Raider** · 12-18-2008, 12:32 AM

Originally Posted by *Narkissos*

What 'relationship'?

She claims to be 'working on it' with him... but is seeing another dude.

Sounds like he's been strung along.

J-Dogg... break that shit off.

Seriously man.

Women like to have their cake and eat it too.

U got that right! Forget her!!!!!!! There's more fish in the ocean.