yet another girl problem post

**skinnyhb** · 01-16-2003, 12:20 AM

alright, me and this girl are pretty into each other, we haven't done anything, but we have discussed our feelings. the problem is, her best friend is my ex girl friend, whom i broke up with about 4 months ago. the ex is supposedly over it, but on new years, me and this girl were flirting and it looked like we were makin out, and the ex got pretty pissed (there was alcohol involved so her feelings were unrestrained). anyways, this girl and i have been hangin out, supposedly just as friends, but we have both admitted to each other our feelings. neither of us know what to do. everyone around us thinks we should go for it, but we dont want to hurt any feelings. i also should add that the ex and this girl haven't been talking because the ex has been hanging out with her other best friend every day. any ideas?

**Strut99GT** · 01-16-2003, 07:35 AM

Go for it holmes! You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

***Pheedno*** · 01-16-2003, 07:51 AM

When it comes to a person wanting to date their friends ex, it's between the friends. I say you shouldn't ignore your feelings. If she needs to sit down and talk with her friend about it then let her. It seems like yall are going to partake in this adventure sooner or later, alcohol induced or not.

I don't know how your are with your friends, I wouldn't date my friends ex, it's just an unwritten rule, but women are different and it sounds as if her mind is either made up, or is about to be.

If you've talked about your mutual feelings for each other, then their is no reason you couldn't sit down and discuss this little dilema.

Your ex's piss fit about your make-out session in a drunken stupor could be a couple of things. 1. Resentment that she doens't have the same thing. 2. Jealousy over you 3. Disgust that you two didn't have the respect and consideration for her feelings to take it somewhere besides in front of her like a couple of..well. drunken, horny, mutually attracted people.

Talk with this new love of yours and see what the best plans for getting things "official" would be.

**EXCESS** · 01-17-2003, 01:28 PM

You'll never know if you never try. If she's game, there's no reason you should worry about your ex.

**BigGreen** · 01-17-2003, 01:58 PM

Please clarify..."and it looked like we were makin out"

Well, were you, or were you not? That's a pretty significant detail my friend.

**clockworks** · 01-20-2003, 01:50 AM

Originally posted by Strut99GT
Go for it holmes! You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

wtf? adam, i outta slap you...

nevermind what strut99gt said...he's appearently outta his mind...what he meant to say is avoid drama at all cost...=)

-- clocky baby

P.S. no disrespect, A, i'm just kidding around...but i'm serious about the no drama stuff...=)

P.S.S A, find me a new gf...STAT!

**Warrior** · 01-20-2003, 02:06 AM

Hey Clocky - didn't you see the new match makers section on the AR homepage. You just plug in some details and all available members pop up.

Guys can plug in training experience, measurements, gear use, clitorial size, ... the basics.

Woman can plug in training experience, measurements, gear use, testicular size... again, the basics.

**skinnyhb** · 01-20-2003, 03:52 AM

no, we were not makin out. and we didn't really talk all weekend, but tonight we hung out and had a good time, and im pretty sure she did as well. there was an opportunity to make my move, but i kinda want to talk to her about where she wants this to go first. i am kinda pissed right now that i didn't go for it, but at the same time i don't want her to feel bad about going behind her best friends back. what do you guys think i should do? should i just go for it (if i even get another chance), or should i see how she feels about "betraying her friend"

**clockworks** · 01-20-2003, 12:13 PM

haha, funny...for a sec i thought you were serious...=)

-- clocky baby

Originally posted by Warrior
Hey Clocky - didn't you see the new match makers section on the AR homepage. You just plug in some details and all available members pop up.

Guys can plug in training experience, measurements, gear use, clitorial size, ... the basics.

Woman can plug in training experience, measurements, gear use, testicular size... again, the basics.

**chicamahomico** · 01-20-2003, 12:29 PM

Well dude here's my two cents. If you are truly over your ex, and it sounds like you are, then you should go for her. Think of it this way. What if she's the one but you never made a move because you were worried about your ex having hard feelings, could you deal with that? I couldn't. Granted your ex is her friend so she needs to handle that end of it. As for the ex's feelings from your point of view..... I say FUCK her! She's your ex for a reason.

**Steele** · 01-20-2003, 01:08 PM

don't stop to think,just do it. never look back. a year from now no one in that circle of friends will give a damn. been there, done that and it worked out fine.

**Butch** · 01-21-2003, 05:38 PM

Get after it dude...time is a wasting!

away

**5minsforfighting** · 01-22-2003, 06:25 PM

Let your ex and her handle all the drama. Regardless she will probably be mad seeing you make out with any girl. I say go for it bro.

**Hardcore_pb** · 02-07-2004, 11:33 AM

Go for it bro, it is not your problem to think about the ex. she´s just a ex to you thats it !

/Hardcore

**daman1** · 02-07-2004, 11:36 AM

Originally Posted by Pheedno

When it comes to a person wanting to date their friends ex, it's between the friends. I say you shouldn't ignore your feelings. If she needs to sit down and talk with her friend about it then let her. It seems like yall are going to partake in this adventure sooner or later, alcohol induced or not.

I don't know how your are with your friends, I wouldn't date my friends ex, it's just an unwritten rule, but women are different and it sounds as if her mind is either made up, or is about to be.

If you've talked about your mutual feelings for each other, then their is no reason you couldn't sit down and discuss this little dilema.

Your ex's piss fit about your make-out session in a drunken stupor could be a couple of things. 1. Resentment that she doens't have the same thing. 2. Jealousy over you 3. Disgust that you two didn't have the respect and consideration for her feelings to take it somewhere besides in front of her like a couple of..well. drunken, horny, mutually attracted people.

Talk with this new love of yours and see what the best plans for getting things "official" would be.

Wow. It amazes me how much you concote from your brain with your responses. I couldn't agree more.

**hoss827** · 02-07-2004, 11:40 AM

If you're over your ex go for her...Thats my advice. If you still have feelings towards her, that could lead to a biiigggg problem if you and this other girl get together bro. Good luck,

--Hoss

**Danielle** · 02-07-2004, 12:18 PM

i would NEVER go for one of my friends ex's........thats just off-limits.........there is way too many guys out there to stress over the same one........

and i would expect the same from my friend......

**abstrack** · 02-07-2004, 12:53 PM

Originally Posted by Warrior

Hey Clocky - didn't you see the new match makers section on the AR homepage. You just plug in some details and all available members pop up.

Guys can plug in training experience, measurements, gear use, clitorial size, ... the basics.

Woman can plug in training experience, measurements, gear use, testicular size... again, the basics.

.....Abstrack is over there plugging away numbers and nothing is comming up

Are you sure it was installed Warrior??

**spywizard** · 02-07-2004, 01:34 PM

Sorry to put a blanket on this......

worse case.............

You date the girl.. she loses a friend..
you and here don't work out..

and all three of you end up alone or with other people..

best case...

You find the love of your life.........

you decide

**Da Bull** · 02-07-2004, 02:46 PM

Why are you guys responding to a thread from 1 yr ago that a newbie bumped up???

**Mr. Death** · 02-07-2004, 04:37 PM

Originally Posted by Da Bull

Why are you guys responding to a thread from 1 yr ago that a newbie bumped up???

**spywizard** · 02-07-2004, 04:50 PM

Just keeping my post count up.........

Originally Posted by Da Bull

Why are you guys responding to a thread from 1 yr ago that a newbie bumped up???

**skinnyhb** · 02-07-2004, 08:58 PM

haha, this is funny. i just clicked in here, and i realized i wrote this one year ago. anyways, that girl and i have been together since that post. and she did lose her best friend. but im still friends wiht the ex.

**spywizard** · 02-07-2004, 10:41 PM

Friends with privledges???

good for you.................

Originally Posted by skinnyhb

haha, this is funny. i just clicked in here, and i realized i wrote this one year ago. anyways, that girl and i have been together since that post. and she did lose her best friend. but im still friends wiht the ex.