Originally Posted by BimBamBoom
Let me stress that I believe one on one relationships are far more important than being the "cool guy" of any group. One on one relationships is what life is really all about. I believe Johans referring to it being hard for him to be collected when such events occur in which he is in a large group. It is hard to be yourself somtimes in big group, and I think that taking small steps to help better his self esteem by "practicing" being more open will , in the end, help him grow out of that fear. So just try finding things in common with people and that could be your ice breaker. You already have the listening part down, so just sit back pay attention to what you are hearing. By doing so you will know the person you wish to meet before they even know you. ( this also helps filter out assholes before you even have to deal with them, haha)
I sit back and pay attention to people and how they interact with others before I ever talk to them, it gives me an idea of how that person is before I even speak one word to them....
excuse me for rambling, ill shut up now... haha