how would you handle your girl coming home from a photo shoot with riske pictures...?

[broncojosh]

question for you guys. The girl I was with for the past year and a half had another photo shoot this weekend. We broke up 3 weeks ago, but have been back and forth since...so keep that in mind. Well she showed me some of the pics tonight, and some are a little too trashy for my taste. Really left a bad taste in my mouth. She asked my opinion, and i gave it to her, saying that she's her own person and can do what she feels comfortable with, but I personally think they look cheap, and they aren't going to help her in any way. Now the last day of the shoot is tomorrow, and she wants me to come over for dinner and to look over all the pics. How do i act about the pics i don't like? I'm thinking i've said enough, she knows how i feel.???I don't know, just pissed, and dont' want to handle this wrong, because it could make me look insecure if i do.

[Rickson]

I guess my first question is are you being insecure? If you don't think you are and you want to have a relationship (or continue one) then you have a right to set some limits and define expectations. If the two of you can't come to a compromise on that in terms of her modeling then the relationship will never work. I would be honest but remain calm during the conversation. There is no reason to be jealous or get angry but you guys need to find some middle ground.

[LORDBLiTZ]

I think you have said enough. I guess this dinner is about her trying to change ur mind about pictures.

[peaker]

well i dont think that telling her what you think makes you insecure. there are limits and boundarys to what we all can take and if she has stepped over them then mate, you be honest and dont worry about how she takes it. alot of people worry about how the other person will take it and in the end they take it bad because its some half arsed comment about how they really feel. make sure that you tell you that its not about your insecurities but your honest opinion on it. best of luck bro

[Iron horse]

take the dinner, explain to her exactly why you dont like them or certain photo's but you support her decision if thats what she truely wants to do

good luck

[ripped4fsu]

What do you mean by "Trashy"? I have seem some very tastefully done nudes, but also seen some partically clothed that weren't fit for anything but a gas station bathroom.

I think you may be feeling a little defensive since your relationship is rocky... kinda threatened maybe?!
post a couple,,, we'll tell ya what we think.. unbiased opinions

[BOUNCER]

Pop a viagra and I promise you'll say all the right things

[broncojosh]

i've always supported her with her modeling. Some of these pictures are just a ways off of what she has always expressed to me she wants to do. Like I told her, she is the classiest woman I've ever been with, and everything she has done to this point has given me that opinion of her. These pictures aren't in character. If they were just for her to get sexy pics taken, for her to enjoy, that's one thing, but this shoot is supposed to be for her portfolio...which these certainly wont go. And no I'm not insecure. I just truely feel like what we do defines who we are...and if this is what she wants to do, maybe i was wrong about who she is...but i'm not going to make any conclusions until i see all the pics tonight.

[whackedmytoe]

Been there Bro-
You need to focus on the bottom line man; are in crazy in love with this woman and is she your soulmate, OR is she a friend, f**kbuddy, or just another woman? Sounds like the relationship is weak from your comments, and that is were the insecurity is coming from. Think about this- if she had made the pics for only YOU, how would you feel? My advice is the focus deep down on your thoughts and feelings about her, THEN define were she fits into your life, and act from there. Woman are mystery wrapped in an enigma. Just figure out what you want from her, and do things that will let you get those things.

Peace,
Harley

[ichiban]

Woman are mystery wrapped in an enigma

---whackedmytoe

We are really not so different , but I will leave that alone.

Do you really think those pics are trashy? If so, then that is your opinion, not you being insecure. If she wants your opinion then give it to her, just try to do it gracefully. If you can't deal with her choice, and she can't deal with yours, and nobody is willing to change, then I would say it is not meant to be. Just my .02.

[OverDrive]

I have to disagree with everyone thinking broncojosh is insecure ... I would go with uptight and conservative. I'd say the same thing about myself and would have the same view if my long term girlfriend who I hope to have a future with came home with pics that were "out of character."

Question is though man ... she did the shoot .. sounds like she's proud of them and enjoyed it ... so maybe that is part of her character, a part you've never experienced. Perhaps because she doesn't show that side of herself around you knowing that you wouldnt approve.

I have an ex who turned out to be like that .. we dated 2 years. She would act one way when we were together but would be totally different when we were away from one another. I'm conservative, she was hiding her wild side that she knew wouldn't fit in my lifestyle.

Women Dunno what to tell you bro

[bermich]

I dont think it has to do with the pictures being trashy. I think you are concerned about where these pictures could lead to. It starts off with trashy pics then goes on to other shit. "Oh I made a lot of money doing trashey pics, how much if it was totally nude? Oh thats good money. How bout if I do videos." Ive seen it lead to that many times. Now a couple of them are in porn. NOW a couple of them are in DP inter racial porn. And it all started out with modeling trashy porn. I SWEAR. She wants you to tell her what SHE WANTS TO HEAR. Thats all anybody wants usually when they ask advice or your opinion. Everyone usually knows the right answer but just in hopes of persuaying themselves they ask someone. So she is hoping you will get frustrated and just tell her what she wants to hear so she can feel better about it. If she felt ok with the pics she would not be cncerned since you two are not going out.

[broncojosh]

naw, i'm not worried about her doing anything like porn. The girl has been with 3 people, including me, and it took me a rocord. She's a class act. I had to work last night, so i didn't get a chance to take a look at all the pics, but I truely hope it was just one set of a million pics, and she'll make the right decision on her own. If not, she's on her own, because overdrive is pretty right...i guess i am a little uptight. I think it's just that I expect the person i'm with to do right, and be respected. At least respected by me.

[righton]

My g/f did the same thing however her being a dancer i'm a little more open minded than most. She showed me some bondage pics that included a coupla spread shots but they were not close-ups the only thing that pissed me off about the pics is that the photog knew nothing about background. I was giving her shit about how amature looking the pics were! You guys can check out her "set" at www.flashyourrack.com under the name "terriblet".