Have you been in a long relationship (4+ years)? If so, come on in!
Okay, here is the deal, and i suspect I may catch some crap for this, but whatever...i think i'll explain it in sufficient detail as to avoid my looking like an a-hole.
So, long story short - I've been with my current girlfriend for five years...i got into a few schools comparable to dartmouth, but chose dartmouth to be near her while we finished school. I'm not saying dartmouth was the wrong choice, just that this represents our level of commitment to one another. Currently, however, as I imagine everyone does at some point, I'm having crazy second thoughts about total commitment to this girl. And here's the kicker: i'm not attracted to other chicks in an "i want you in bed" sort of way...not at all. Rather, my desires/attractions are to simply date other girls...i could care less about the physical intensity/presence of these other girls. However, I can't get it out of my head that I want to start "dating" (and only "dating") other girls. I've been with my current for five years, which, given my general age, necessarily excludes my having dated many other girls. As a result (and i'm not trying to justify my behavior here) I almost think I'm doing OUR relationship a disservice if I don't at least see what other girls are like relationship-wise...and NO, i don't expect her to go along with that.
Anyway, I assume that those of you who have been in long-term relationships to the tune of four years or longer have likely done so at the exclusion of multiple relationships in which you figure out exactly what it is you want in a lifelong partner and/or soulmate. Did you experience similar urges? Again, I can't stress enough that this is not a physical cheating urge; i don't want to go out and sleep with a bunch of women, I simply want to get to know multiple females on a dating level (odd as that may sound). I'm worried, especially as people start asking about marriage given we've been together so long, that since she has been my only REAL relationship, my relationship barometer is grossly skewed. I feel that since it's 3:00 am i'm not making any sense. But, any guys my age who have been in a long term relationship (i've essentially been with this girl since I was old enough to vote) likely understand exactly what I'm talking about. I'm really in need of some anecdotal support in the form of "hell yeah I've been there"...or of some wake the hell up you idiot "i was there for a day then realized how foolish that was" advice. either way. Well, I'm off to bed...hopefully this yields something interesting in the AM.
my relationship may be the longest w/o a ring!
9 1/2 yrs!!!!!!!we just broke up about 6 months ago. 5'9" 110, absolutely beautful. we broke up, never gave it a second thought.life is to short
fast forward to tonight: new girl: 5'11" (live for tall girls, ahhh) thin, beautiful, perfect tan, good career, i could go on...
point being, don't settle and don't worry about the breakup.do what is best for you because women always do what's bext for them, not you in the long run!