Is fantasizing a form of infidelity?
I had this debate with a girl friend yesterday...her argument was that when you secretly long for someone else and fantasize about them you might as well be cheating on your significant other.
Does the actual physical act constitute infidelity, or is it deeper than that and rooted in our own mind? My friend told me if I fantasized about other girls I was being unfaithful to my girlfriend and that I might as well do it physically because at least there isn't anything deeper behind that. Kind of a double edged sword since the fantasizing doesn't have repercussions, however the physical does. She said the fantasizing is worse because it connects mind with bodily desires, while actually cheating only involves the physical act.
I think it is impossible to go through the day and not fantasize about other girls even though I am committed to mine, and during sex sometimes I slip into fantasy mode and pretend I'm doing it with someone else. I wouldn't cheat on her physically, but is this cheating on her mentally? I don't feel bad when I do that because it makes things more interesting and turns me on more when I am not all that into it or tired. I think of it the same way as using some lube occasionally...it just helps things out.
Give it your best shot here, I want to blow her out of the water when I see her next.