Opinions bros..

Went out the other night with a real close friend of mine, at the end of the night it came out taht he not once but twice banged my ex after we broke up, cool, I can live with that, and live without his sorry shady ass. But the problem is this, while dating this girl for 3 years she became close with my neices, and continues to take them out to movies, have sleepovers at her house or whatever...none of my bizness, but for her to go out and bang my best friedn and remain in contact with my family, is like rubbing mud in my face, I cannot have this, I out of anger last night called her house and warned her to stay away from my family, obviously she denied the truth and hung up, my neices are 8/14 and would not understand this most likey and would remain friend with the ex because she did no harm to them and get along well....but this will be a slap in the face to me, and will bother me, some opinions/advice if possible thanks.

I'd talk to the dude about it, and if he has a problem about it kick his ass. I would have made sure she didnt have any contact with your family after you broke up. Dunno whta else to say man, that would definetly put me into a rage.

It's understandable that you are mad. Unfortunately, she's dug her claws into your nieces, and as long as she remains a positive influence on them, there's no reason that she shouldn't see them. The best you can do is to stay civil, as there isn't much else that you can do.

Yes Rambo, I do realize this, stay civil and just leave it alone, but I cannot have this, I know it will bother me and is a slap in my face, I need to stop this, I'll speak with my sister tonight.

I think that your buddy is held at fault too, I mean after a 3 year relationship, to hit her up and not say anything reflects badly on him, to say the least. Gotta place the blame all around, not just on her.

Rambo He's gone as a friend like i mentioned in my original post, he's dead to me, and even tried to approach me with a pathetic apology and when i told him straight up like it is, he tried to twist things.......all good....just want the ex having nothing to do with my family, then I can be happy as always.

Yeah man.. its ****ed up that your buddy did that to you.. You should blame him more then you blame her..

BEAT HIS MUTHAFUKING ASS DOWN

...and tell her to keep her distance, if she don't want the same thing to happen to her.. What kind of loyal friend is that.. Tell you he fuked your girl twice, if he was smart he'd keep his mouth shut.. It depends how serious you were with your girl, but i'd wait till he pisses you off one day, then lay into him hardcore..

I'm stupid like that, my friends and I don't share ex's there is enough pussy to go around, we don't need to keep things close to home like that..

It came out one night, I pryed it out of him, he made a joke and i was like serious and get pushing, pushed the right buttons and he spat it out, he was terrified when he told me, I was shocked more then angry, and I just let it go, and let him go as a friend, I was the better man.....it's okay, I warned her again via email if she didnt take my phone call seriously, I told her I'll proceed in calling her parents and having a discussion with them about her pathetic life, that hopefully solves the problem.

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Originally Posted by monster.

I'm stupid like that, my friends and I don't share ex's there is enough pussy to go around, we don't need to keep things close to home like that..

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Yeah, that's the rule with girls that last longer than a couple months. Most of my girls don't last longer than a week, so I don't have that problem. Do what you gotta do, buddy, I'm glad you were reasonable about it, and yeah, you were the better man. I think you made a levelheaded choice.

Sleeping with a friends girl, or X, whatever the case may be isnt cool at all. IMO he isnt a very good friend if hes bangin' your X like its no biggy and keeping it a secret from you. Secondly, the girl isnt much better either first shes jumpin' on you and then she jumpin' on your buddy, thats not a very good friend either, so if I was on your shoes neither one of these people would still be my friend. Stick up for your self bro, let them know whats up, tell your 'friend' you dont want nothing to do with him anymore and tell your X to hit the road, and if I was you she wouldnt be seeing any of my family anymore, SHE f*cked up right, so its HER loss. Good luck with the whole situation bud.

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Originally Posted by Vice

It came out one night, I pryed it out of him, he made a joke and i was like serious and get pushing, pushed the right buttons and he spat it out, he was terrified when he told me, I was shocked more then angry, and I just let it go, and let him go as a friend, I was the better man.....it's okay, I warned her again via email if she didnt take my phone call seriously, I told her I'll proceed in calling her parents and having a discussion with them about her pathetic life, that hopefully solves the problem.

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You're right, don't fly off the handle.. Self control is important..

Yea bro you did the right thing. Let the friend fade away. As for the ex deffinatly dont let her come round . You need to get her out of your life this wont happen if she hangs with the fam. Do what you have to get the message to her you wont stand for it.

The nieces are your sister's kids? Talk to your sister. I'm sure she'll stop the visits with the kids. I've been in your shoes before, and i know how much it sucks. Best of luck bro....

Yea bro thats not a good friend at all. If its a long relationship and the girl is important to you then friends should know shes off limits IMO. Shes trash if she banged your best bud like that. Id involve everyone and be very civil... she needs to get out of your familys life.

In some situations, violence is necessary. However, this is not one of them. You played the right cards IMO. Keep this playing this game the way you've been handling it so far and things will work out good for you. Sucks to lose a buddy, but this dude was a POS and his true colors finally came out.....at least you know now.

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Originally Posted by rambo

It's understandable that you are mad. Unfortunately, she's dug her claws into your nieces, and as long as she remains a positive influence on them, there's no reason that she shouldn't see them. The best you can do is to stay civil, as there isn't much else that you can do.

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I agree with Rambo. Its a hard pill to Swallow but what are you gonna do ? I had a boy like that once... hell he slept with 2 of my x's. And hung out in the same place as me. All I could do was make things as uncomfortable as possible for him. :unsure:

Thanks bro, some good bros on this board.

Hell to your sister/sister-in-law which ever it may be about the situation. I am sure she will respect that and not allow her kids to go with your x again. Then tell both of them to hit the road.

am i the only guy who doenst care about his x's? this is liike the 32nd thread about someone being pissed about a guy ****in thier ex. come on, she isnt yours now. let go... jesus it makes every guy look like a pussy when he cries about who his x dated. as far as your friends go, shes totally on the market, i wouldnt care if any of my bros ****ed any of my xs. being a control freak is a sure way to go to the grave early bro

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Originally Posted by decadbal

am i the only guy who doenst care about his x's? this is liike the 32nd thread about someone being pissed about a guy ****in thier ex. come on, she isnt yours now. let go... jesus it makes every guy look like a pussy when he cries about who his x dated. as far as your friends go, shes totally on the market, i wouldnt care if any of my bros ****ed any of my xs. being a control freak is a sure way to go to the grave early bro

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Doesn't matter if it's the 1,000,000 thread. People put up their problems for help. I for one know if I dated a girl seriously for 3 years I would care about the things she did/does when we broke up especially if it has to do with my family. I for one cherish having a forum where people actually give care enough to take their time and write helpful posts.

dont preach, the problem he most likly has is she isnt doing what he tells her, not bc of what she did, he lost to control, i may be wrong, but that is what its comin off as. plenty of ppl have the same problem, its bc they love them, not bc of the parts he mentioned.

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Originally Posted by decadbal

dont preach, the problem he most likly has is she isnt doing what he tells her, not bc of what she did, he lost to control, i may be wrong, but that is what its comin off as. plenty of ppl have the same problem, its bc they love them, not bc of the parts he mentioned.

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LMFAOOOOOOOO... Listen to my bro go off about these threads, and then go and give his own advice!!! It's beautiful:D

wasnt going offf at all, just saying there are to many guys who think that once they date a girl, shes hands off, and its not that way at all.

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dont preach, the problem he most likly has is she isnt doing what he tells her, not bc of what she did, he lost to control, i may be wrong, but that is what its comin off as. plenty of ppl have the same problem, its bc they love them, not bc of the parts he mentioned.

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no one's preaching son, I am saying that most people who are with someone for that long at a fairly young age will care about what happens after the relationship as well. but hey your relationships are probably golden, right chief??

well this will be my last post here, if u wanna run your cumhole to me, do it in a pm, dont call me son, or chief

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well this will be my last post here, if u wanna run your cumhole to me, do it in a pm, dont call me son, or chief

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Not need to get hostile. I understand where your coming from, but I still feel you should be helpful and not whine like a school girl because someone's posting "another thread about an ex-girlfriend." If you can't be helpful then get the fuk on. It's imperative you stay on topic here.

your the school girl who went astray, and plz try to refrain from tellin AR members where to go, i mean, who the phuck are you.......... now im done, so post all you want, bc i wont reply, your a big man im sure and can spend hours upon hours talkin **** online. so go ahead hero

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Originally Posted by decadbal

your the school girl who went astray, and plz try to refrain from tellin AR members where to go, i mean, who the phuck are you.......... now im done, so post all you want, bc i wont reply, your a big man im sure and can spend hours upon hours talkin **** online. so go ahead hero

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There's no need to take your chubby agression out on me. I was only trying to help. We need to stick a fork in your leg and let all the gravy pour out. Maybe that would help... On a lighter note, I agree that you need to talk with your sister about her. She would be responsive and understanding..

well i dont consider him a best friend ,a best will protect your back not hit u in the back the most ppl i hate are traitors and cheaters if this happen to me i would put 1 kg of dynamite in his car and kill him...cheaters sucks

that's ****ed man i'm with you keep your nieces away from her

Well I called the sister today and mentioned it, she can't believe it either, as for the neices go she said "I can tell the girls not to talk to her ,but that's not going to change much, they get along real well" etc etc....I came to the realization today that I can live with this, move on and be a better person and not let past hold me back, I just ranted because it was a fresh wound and was looking for some advice, much respect to the bros who actually had something good to say, good looking out.

your buddy is a back stabbing prick. but I think you're stuck with her if she's friends with family members. best to take the high road and be carefu lto aviod her. bad situation bro... I feel for you.

you gonna kick his ass ? Seriously ?