Help Im sick of hiding my gear
Ok heres the deal. On my first cycle my wife said to me "you better not be thinkin about using steroids." Well, here I am 2 cycles later feeling like I need to let her in on my little secret. Anyone have any good things I can tell her to make her see my point of view.:unsure: I want her to know but I don't want her to atempt to stop me.
TNT, Im sure you got some good advice for me bro. Anyone's help is appreciated
Good advice? Yes, but not easy advice.
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Originally posted by RON
TNT, Im sure you got some good advice for me bro. Anyone's help is appreciated.
Why, oh why, has my sleep been disturbed? :D
Okay. Seriously, Ron, the caption says it all. I think I"ve got some good advice, but it is not easy advice.
What if it was your wife, and her particular thing was, say, shooting heroin? Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that doing AS is akin to doing heroin. But I want you to picture the mental position into which this puts a person. You would likely say, "Hey, babe, it's either/or. The smack goes, or I go."
What if the issue were cigarettes? Ditto. In other words, everyone has their limitations as to what is acceptable and what is not. To us, steroids are acceptable. To others, they will not be acceptable. And it's not limited to AS, drugs, or cigarettes. If you are Jewish or Muslim, then pork may not be acceptable. If you live in Utah, chances are that you will find Coca Cola is not acceptable. Different people, different standards.
What you have to decide is, how important is your relationship? If your wife actually set a standard in which it was a choice of either her or the steroids, which would you choose? Your answer to that hypothetical question wll indicate two things: (1) how psychologically dependent you are on AS, and (2) the quality of your marriage in general.
One question that pops up is based on your statement, "On my first cycle my wife said to me 'you better not be thinkin about using steroids.'" Why would your wife have said this in the first place? Obviously, the subject of AS arose in some context around the time of your first cycle. And obviously, you decided to do AS, and continue doing AS, anyway.
I can't tell you what to do, although I will say that I lean on the side of honesty in relationships. Because if your wife ever learns about it from someone other than you, she will wonder (quite reasonably) what else you have been keeping from her. But if you're going to be honest, you have to realize that doing AS may be unacceptable to her (regardless of what others who have responded may say or what they have experienced in their relationships). So you may have to prioritize on what is more important.
Two final thoughts . . . First, there is the matter of d-e-n-i-a-l. Your wife may inately know already that you are doing AS, or she may not - I would not presume to speculate. But I've seen too many counseling situations in which significant others and close relatives go into big-time denial about something: the parent who is in denial about a gay kid, the wife who is in denial about an alcoholic husband, the guy who is in denial about the fact that he's about to be canned at work, ad ininitum, ad nauseam. They may subconsciously know these things, but they don't want to hear about them - they don't want to be confronted with them, and they don't want to be forced into dealing with them. I don't know if that's the case with your wife, but I raise it as a possibility.
Finally, explore the possibility that you may be in denial about a steroid addiction. Physical addiction to steroids is not as common as psychological addiction - the rush of using a needle (regardless of what happens to be in it), the notion that you're get big and bulked, the notion of havihng other secret compadres who are also on the dark side, and other factors that would make it difficult to say no. Not to mention the notion the not using AS will make you any less liked, respected, or less of a nice guy. This is one game in which peer pressure does not belong.
So, have I given you any answers? Nope. And that wasn't my intent. I hope I've helped you explore the situation, but I think you already know that you have to take the responsibility in this situation to do the right thing - whatever it is. And whatever you do, know that our thoughts are with you. :\/: