flack from a spouse

**Nephets** · 12-01-2016, 07:55 AM

Do you guys get any push back from a wife/husband or significant other about the way you eat. Just the general lifestyle stuff like bulk cooking, weighing, meal prep in general. Wife doesn't openly say anything but will just give a dig here or there about it. I'm sure it stems from some sort of insecurity but do you guys deal with that and do you have any tips.

**Obs** · 12-01-2016, 08:55 AM

Does she ever complain about her weight?

**Nephets** · 12-01-2016, 09:02 AM

im sure that's whats prompting it and to be honest as a man that would like to stay married, I've never brought it up. Id say shes 20-25lbs over where she would like to be but really lacks the time/willpower to get er done. We have 4 kids and moms seem to have a hard time putting themselves first. either way, I sometimes feel like im in a tough spot. I'm hoping im not the only one in this situation and can get some feedback on how others handle this.

**Obs** · 12-01-2016, 09:16 AM

Mine complains about her weight and I am fit. She injects me and supports me and I try to get her to run but she says "you don't understand you are fit, it's harder for me". No I tell her don't complain around me then and you should try gaining muscle! I tell her I go to failure and you don't have to. I dont run but I would with her if it would help her. We should support each other and not be mean. That is a good spouse. She wonders why I do this but she is supportive. There isn't much I wouldn't do to get her working on herself with me.

**kelkel** · 12-01-2016, 09:22 AM

Is there anything more that you can do to help with that would give her more free time?
Are you able to pre-pack some healthy food for her as well?
Find something physically that you can do together, besides the obvious. Simple evening brisk walks around your neighborhood, etc.
Some evenings when she gets home try totally taking over and giving her the night off.

**RigPig** · 12-01-2016, 09:28 AM

Originally Posted by Nephets

Do you guys get any push back from a wife/husband or significant other about the way you eat. Just the general lifestyle stuff like bulk cooking, weighing, meal prep in general. Wife doesn't openly say anything but will just give a dig here or there about it. I'm sure it stems from some sort of insecurity but do you guys deal with that and do you have any tips.

Yes every now and again I get the vibe that what I do (diet/training) is annoying her. When she is "on" and training with me I never get that vibe, when she's off and not training I can tell my dedication bugs her. But it comes and goes, I don't think she's trying to be a bitch, she just can't seem to stick with it for extended periods of time. We are both busy and our free time is consumed by our children and business matters. I manage to fit in 45min/day for the gym regardless if I'm too exhausted to think or not. She lets her inner voice tell her to stay home and rest. I don't even bring it up any more because I know she'll get past it.

**Nephets** · 12-01-2016, 09:31 AM

we do work as a good team in taking care of the kids. some nights she is doing most of the work, others its me. I think the problem is even when women get some free time they always seem to find something else to do. At least mine does. As for the weigh, its not something she talks about but I can tell its something that bothers her. Tricky part is if I made her healthy meals or asked her to go to the gym with me I think all she will hear is my husband thinks im fat. Its difficult. shes never asked for my help with diet or fitness so Im just sitting back and letting her try her own thing.

**Nephets** · 12-01-2016, 09:33 AM

Originally Posted by RigPig

Yes every now and again I get the vibe that what I do (diet/training) is annoying her. When she is "on" and training with me I never get that vibe, when she's off and not training I can tell my dedication bugs her. But it comes and goes, I don't think she's trying to be a bitch, she just can't seem to stick with it for extended periods of time. We are both busy and our free time is consumed by our children and business matters. I manage to fit in 45min/day for the gym regardless if I'm too exhausted to think or not. She lets her inner voice tell her to stay home and rest. I don't even bring it up any more because I know she'll get past it.

I jam it in on my lunch break so I know what you mean about fitting it in. I bulk cook when the kids go to bed so my fitness stuff isn't taking any time away from our relationship. Which is important to me.

**Couchlock** · 12-01-2016, 11:00 AM

If got shit about lifting, etc.

Until just yesterday she got back bloods (type 1 diabetic.) and doctor told her LDL was 121

Now today will be the first day of the rest of her life

**Nephets** · 12-01-2016, 11:34 AM

I hope mine doesn't come to that....

**Couchlock** · 12-01-2016, 01:39 PM

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**Obs** · 12-01-2016, 01:47 PM

Originally Posted by Couchlockd

She's not bad looking at all, just silent demon inside her wreaking havoc on lipids

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But today in 2 hours ill have a new gym partner.

Doc scared the shit out of her.

So did I
"Most women don't survive heart attacks or strokes like men do"

I can't wait to transform her into a super hard body, plus she can use her insulin to her advantage for post workout shakes.

Hell yes, that's great! Support the hell out of her! You got the drive don't push her and complain with her to let her know you understand it sucks sometimes. She is cute by the way! Remember have her finish every workout with kagels.

**Couchlock** · 12-01-2016, 02:00 PM

Originally Posted by Obspowerstroke

Hell yes, that's great! Support the hell out of her! You got the drive don't push her and complain with her to let her know you understand it sucks sometimes. She is cute by the way! Remember have her finish every workout with kagels.

I been pushing the kegles idea for 3 years now.....lol

**ghettoboyd** · 12-01-2016, 02:39 PM

im very lucky that my wife is supportive of me with all aspects of bbing.... time in the gym, aas, diet...she worked out with me when I trained at home in our old house for 7 years then we moved and she stopped.... so I joined the gym...she kind of let herself go a bit and I feel like I let her down by joining the gym but she doesn't seem to have any issues with any of it and just loves seeing me happy...

**Nephets** · 12-01-2016, 02:59 PM

my wife is just naturally beautiful, must be the Italian blood. The extra couple pounds were never an issue for me but I can tell its wrecking her confidence. Touchy subject like I said without maker her feel like the weight is an issue for me. which it is not.

**Obs** · 12-01-2016, 04:13 PM

Originally Posted by Nephets

my wife is just naturally beautiful, must be the Italian blood. The extra couple pounds were never an issue for me but I can tell its wrecking her confidence. Touchy subject like I said without maker her feel like the weight is an issue for me. which it is not.

Same way here. Damn they would be happy if they just tried though.

**TRA** · 12-01-2016, 06:33 PM

My EX wife used to give me all kinds of grief, most of it unfounded and simply because it annoyed her I was doing something totally unrelated to her.
My girlfriend constantly tells me how much she admires my self-discipline, which isn't all that believe me, not to stay on a keto diet.
But she runs and runs fast, so I support her as well. Nothing better than a relationship with mutual support, so however you can do that whether it's related to fitness or not will be one of the best things you can do.
I also tell my girlfriend I am trying to be the kind of man physically that she would want to be with and though I don't think it really matters to her if I am muscled or defined or not, she seems to appreciate that I want to be attractive to her and think of her.
Respect for putting wife and family first - I do the same thing. I found gold in a pressure cooker and hardly waste any time at all cooking up protein for the whole week.
Good stuff in this thread.

**tarmyg** · 12-01-2016, 09:19 PM

I go to the gym and my wife grabs a glass of wine, not joking. She really does not like fitness whatsoever. She is, on the other hand, blessed with a very healthy body. Except for the obvious remains of pushing a human out her vagina, she is still wearing the same jeans since college. She never complains about my lifestyle, just tells me, "You got to do what you got to do".

**Nephets** · 12-01-2016, 09:40 PM

That's what I like most about this place and why I've hung around so long. Doesn't matter what kind of support system you have in your life, you can always find support here. Thanks fellas.

**RaginCajun** · 12-02-2016, 06:59 AM

Originally Posted by Nephets

That's what I like most about this place and why I've hung around so long. Doesn't matter what kind of support system you have in your life, you can always find support here. Thanks fellas.

Same here, love this place!!!

**RaginCajun** · 12-02-2016, 06:59 AM

Originally Posted by tarmyg

I go to the gym and my wife grabs a glass of wine, not joking. She really does not like fitness whatsoever. She is, on the other hand, blessed with a very healthy body. Except for the obvious remains of pushing a human out her vagina, she is still wearing the same jeans since college. She never complains about my lifestyle, just tells me, "You got to do what you got to do".

Except when you are on Tren