Is my relationship over ?

**Chemical King** · 04-03-2005, 08:37 AM

Some of you already know about the problems ive had with my missus lately. Well it got worse last night. We went to the local brewery for a kareoke night and got wasted and basicly we had to get back for her dad who was babysiting but she wanted to goto a party so we argued.

Anyway I got back and wrote her a note saying she was out of order cos I wanted to go party as well but didnt wanna take the pi55 out of her dad. I called her alsorts and found an email of hers to her pal saying that she does love me bu tshe isnt in love with me.

She came in at 5am and wrote me a not cos i was alsleep saying the same thing and that we should finish up.

Shes still her though so dunno wats goin on

**stompin** · 04-03-2005, 08:48 AM

maybee she doesnt know what she wants mate,
woman are deffinetly strange creature's by all means,
cant live with them cant live without them lol

you shud sit and have a talk with her see what you both want,

hope everything works out bro

***Narkissos*** · 04-03-2005, 08:52 AM

um...

**Chemical King** · 04-03-2005, 08:52 AM

I dunno what to say really. We were totaly wasted last night but if we had not have been then things wouldnt have got out inthe open.

Im pleased i found out shes not in love with me but if that is the case do you think we can still go on ??

***Narkissos*** · 04-03-2005, 08:54 AM

Good call Stompin

***Narkissos*** · 04-03-2005, 09:09 AM

IF love (the basis of the average functional relationship) isn't present... what other reason have you to try to make it work?

..finances?
...children?

**Chemical King** · 04-03-2005, 09:18 AM

i hear ya but isn't there a difference between been inlove with sum1 and loving them ?

**Elysium** · 04-03-2005, 09:29 AM

Originally Posted by Chemical King

i hear ya but isn't there a difference between been inlove with sum1 and loving them ?

Yea this kinda confused me, i mean, i love my younger brother, but im not in love with him if you know what i mean? Maybe its got to the point where she just doesnt see the same person ans has lost that loving feeling.

**SwoleCat** · 04-03-2005, 09:42 AM

I'm in love w/Messy's avatar.

End of discussion.

On a serious note, how much caring/understanding/serious heart-felt conversation can come out of the two of you going out and getting wasted?

Try going to the gym, workout together, do something healthy for the body/mind, then go out and eat a nice/healthy PWO meal after and talk SOBER.

I bet the results are FAR BETTER.

~SC~

**GQ-Bouncer** · 04-03-2005, 09:52 AM

you guys need some time apart

(and by the way, Im assuming that shes cheating on you)

***Narkissos*** · 04-03-2005, 09:54 AM

***Narkissos*** · 04-03-2005, 10:00 AM

Originally Posted by Narkissos

THat was in response to Swolecat...not to C.K.'s situation

**BlInDsIdE** · 04-03-2005, 10:54 AM

whatever happens with it best of luck bro.

**GQplaya** · 04-03-2005, 11:12 AM

bro i say move on , there is plenty of fish in the sea

**Chemical King** · 04-03-2005, 01:07 PM

there are plenty fish in the sea but theres only 1 I like.

I dont think shes cheating on me cos i always know where she is and what shes doing.

And in response to swoles post, the idea of going to the brewery was to get wasted, its like an annual thing. I just had the thing with the email stuck in my head so when we argued late on i sort of brought it up.

She seems totaly puzzled as to how I know what emails shes sending, but i got a keystroke logger on here and IM catcher

**J-Dogg** · 04-03-2005, 02:33 PM

If you like her, it sounds like you guys should take a break from parties and drinking for a little to get things together.

Talk openly, some times it is arguing in order to vent. Maybe even see if she is willing to seek couple counciling.

Drinking though helps create relationships, it never helps them stay established. Kids are involved so it is more serious, you guys need to have a face to face heart to heart.

**Pale Horse** · 04-03-2005, 02:46 PM

I think you need to ask her if loving you is enough for her and not "being in love". Being in love is more of a passion thing, in time passion can only take a relationship so far and then you need to have important things to hold on to. Caring, respect, physical attraction to some degree are some of those things. Sustaining a lasting relationship is work and takes effort and at times is boring but it is worth in in the end, MY 02

**BARLOW** · 04-03-2005, 03:49 PM

m too tired t give advice

**Bertz** · 04-03-2005, 04:19 PM

man we've all been through it... you just have to face the facts its over, theres no point in dragging it out.

your best bet is to end it now and get to moving on. its ALWAYS best to break up with her first rather htan wait for her to have no feeling left for you then drop you...

if shes not in love with you then there is no point in trying to make it work... give her some space cut off all contact... maybe she needs a reality check but do not beg plead or nothing... just worry about yourself

**MrMondodondo** · 04-03-2005, 07:49 PM

Originally Posted by 1victor

I think you need to ask her if loving you is enough for her and not "being in love". Being in love is more of a passion thing, in time passion can only take a relationship so far and then you need to have important things to hold on to. Caring, respect, physical attraction to some degree are some of those things. Sustaining a lasting relationship is work and takes effort and at times is boring but it is worth in in the end, MY 02

Gotta agree with vic on this one. Going through what I have just been through, having a GOOD woman is a very important part of life.

Keep working at it.

**Red Ketchup** · 04-03-2005, 07:56 PM

Originally Posted by Chemical King

I dont think shes cheating on me cos i always know where she is and what shes doing.
...
She seems totaly puzzled as to how I know what emails shes sending, but i got a keystroke logger on here and IM catcher

No offence bro, but don't you think thats a little creepy?

Could it possibly be part of the problem? You make it sound like there is no trust in your relationship. I know if anyone tried to keep tabs on me that much, I would end the relationship then and there.

Just my 2 cents bro...

Red

**Insane_Man** · 04-03-2005, 08:09 PM

"I love you but I'm not in love with you"

Classic woman line. What it means is that she really does like you but wants to see what she's missing. So maybe you should take some time off. Or you can just tell her to **** herself.

And if you're spying on her and always have ot know where she is every second of the day I don't blame her for feeling perhaps a little trapped.

**SMYL_GR8** · 04-03-2005, 08:45 PM

Originally Posted by SwoleCat

Try going to the gym, workout together, do something healthy for the body/mind, then go out and eat a nice/healthy PWO meal after and talk SOBER.

I bet the results are FAR BETTER.

~SC~

I think I heard that on Dr.Phil.

**HammerCurler** · 04-03-2005, 11:38 PM

Originally Posted by SMYL_GR8

I think I heard that on Dr.Phil.

**Chemical King** · 04-06-2005, 11:04 AM

oh yes, it is over now. I just kicked her out to her mams. I said if she doesnt wanna be here then she can fu*k off.
the house is all in my name or else i wud let her take it over for my sons sake.