Touchy Question....

**Commando_Barbi** · 06-29-2005, 08:36 AM

Ok here it goes.....don't flame me or get mad......I'm not trying to offend ANYONE but...

I recently met a guy by chance. Very intelligent, owns his own architectural business, into bodybuilding (getting ready for a natty show in Aug), 30, single, no baby mama drama....wants to get to know me.....all good things.

BUT there's something naggin at me.

Sometimes when we talk there's a bit of a feminine "tone" to his voice. Our early phone convos were pretty cool...didn't really touch on sex too much. Which as much as I LOVE and MISS sex......I enjoyed because it was nice to hold adult conversation with a man that didn't center around sports or sex. ANYWAY, the other night we were talking and sex did come up and he asked me if I liked anal. I told him truthfully NOT REALLY! He tells me ah thats too bad...So I ask him if he's one of those guys that likes to give but freaks out if you come near his a$$ with a hand, finger, tongue etc. I expected him to say yes.

He did NOT.

He says oh ya I like it when a woman slips in a couple fingers, even thought about letting her slip a dildo in

The convo went south from
there. Likes to be spanked,
hot wax, the works.

SO.....what makes me nervous is the whole "men on the down low" thing. I've read a few articles on it and its kinda scarey. He has made it VERY clear that he likes women and according to him while he's not homophobic (my ex was) he doesn't understand it.

I don't care if he's gay....or bi. We can be great friends. But for me, the last thing I want to do is start dating a guy that bats for both teams.

Im not trying to sterotype here......at all.....but something makes me uneasy.

What do you guys think?

**Heracles74** · 06-29-2005, 08:39 AM

I think you found yourself a certified freak CB...

Good luck with that.

run. He has concidered a dildo up his @ss??? Run. As fas and as far as you can go.

**clockworks** · 06-29-2005, 08:58 AM

Originally Posted by Heracles74

I think you found yourself a certified freak CB...

Word, exactly. He might not be gay, but he's definitely a freak.

**Dally** · 06-29-2005, 09:03 AM

STAY AWAY from that fukin weirdo...

imagine him and you comparing one day who can take the bigger dildo?!?!!?

Ewwww.. FACKK!

(you were close but not "cigar") keepa lookin babe.

**Benches505** · 06-29-2005, 08:44 AM

Absolutely no straight man is going to let anyone or anything come near his butt hole with a dildo!

As far as the finger goes I throw them in the same boat with gays but I have known some freaky dudes that have admitted to it and still claim they are not gay. some of these guys are married and masculine so who knows? Maybe just freaks like the golden shower crowd.

Now as far as him performing anal on a woman, nothing wrong with that!!

**Bigen12** · 06-29-2005, 08:45 AM

Originally Posted by Benches505

Absolutely no straight man is going to let anyone or anything come near his butt hole with a dildo!

As far as the finger goes I throw them in the same boat with gays but I have known some freaky dudes that have admitted to it and still claim they are not gay. some of these guys are married and masculine so who knows? Maybe just freaks like the golden shower crowd.

Now as far as him performing anal on a woman, nothing wrong with that!!

I agree

**IronFreakX** · 06-29-2005, 08:45 AM

make that 3 fingers...

i dunno he's different i guess but i dont wany ne1 coming near my ass only 1 way and thats out nothing in thank you

**Bigen12** · 06-29-2005, 08:52 AM

You may be looking at this the wrong way......

At least he will enjoy shopping, watch tear jerker romance movies and go see musicals with you....

**Commando_Barbi** · 06-29-2005, 08:55 AM

Originally Posted by Bigen12

You may be looking at this the wrong way......

At least he will enjoy shopping, watch tear jerker romance movies and go see musicals with you....

True but!!!!!!!!! I don't want him bringing his boys with us......if they are more interested in him than ME

**Commando_Barbi** · 06-29-2005, 08:53 AM

Uhhhgg!!! I don't know. I'm keeping my distance on this one. Honestly Im really not ready for anything serious. This guy is a first. Last night on the phone he was telling me he just wanted to be spanked.

Hmmm

I'm not the girl for that.

**Benches505** · 06-29-2005, 08:59 AM

Ask him straight up CB! If he is truly Gay he will not want anything to do with a woman sexually (they call women fish!) and if he is Bi they will usually tell you. He might just be a kinky SOB!

**Heracles74** · 06-29-2005, 09:04 AM

Sounds to me like he is Bi.... If he was truly gay... why would he show even any pgysical interest in you??
I think you should say.... Bi - bi !!

**Dave321** · 06-29-2005, 09:10 AM

I dunno about bi/gay/whatever.. but for meeting a guy recently, he has balls to drop the A-bomb on you in a sex convo with dildo talk.... doesn't that scream "my pumps are pink and I don't have the curtains to match??? I just think he may be poking around for a reaction so he can let his boyfriend know whether or not you are cool with it.

**Lostsoul** · 06-29-2005, 09:12 AM

Damn CB, where do you meet these guys of yours?? You're not having much luck these days are ya?

Personally, I think you'd be better off just being friends with this dude. What kind of guy are you looking for and where do you generally meet guys?

**Commando_Barbi** · 06-29-2005, 10:03 AM

Met him in a coffee house in Seattle.

You are right... I'm not. But I think its someones way of telling me I need to focus on this exam and get out of this area.

What am I looking for? A man that's not a serial killer, that can be honest and not cheat.

I know...it's a LOT to ask!

Originally Posted by Lostsoul

Damn CB, where do you meet these guys of yours?? You're not having much luck these days are ya?

Personally, I think you'd be better off just being friends with this dude. What kind of guy are you looking for and where do you generally meet guys?

**Jerzey** · 06-29-2005, 10:12 AM

Originally Posted by Commando_Barbi

What am I looking for? A man that's not a serial killer, that can be honest and not cheat.

I know...it's a LOT to ask!

Join the club!!

**clockworks** · 06-29-2005, 10:19 AM

Originally Posted by Jerzey

Join the club!!

I'm very recently single and am in serious need of a rebound....hows THAT for honest! Oh, I'm not a serial killer either...yet...

**Jerzey** · 06-29-2005, 10:25 AM

Originally Posted by clockworks

I'm very recently single and am in serious need of a rebound....hows THAT for honest! Oh, I'm not a serial killer either...yet...

I would say that sounds honest to me... Time for rebound sex.... just don't go breaking hearts

**Heracles74** · 06-29-2005, 10:20 AM

Was that a "generalized statement CB???

What am I looking for? A man that's not a serial killer, that can be honest and not cheat.

I know...it's a LOT to ask![/QUOTE]

**Money Boss Hustla** · 06-29-2005, 09:24 AM

Vette likes a few fingers...all 5 of them.

**Jerzey** · 06-29-2005, 09:26 AM

Sorry but any guy who would let a woman put something (anything) into his ass would definitely turn me off, that's just not manly...

I want to be clear that I have nothing against gay people.... but I don't want to have sex with a guy that acts gay.

**Commando_Barbi** · 06-29-2005, 10:01 AM

Originally Posted by Jerzey

Sorry but any guy who would let a woman put something (anything) into his ass would definitely turn me off, that's just not manly...

I want to be clear that I have nothing against gay people.... but I don't want to have sex with a guy that acts gay.

Thats kinda where I am. It really turns me off!

**SwoleCat** · 06-29-2005, 10:04 AM

I've had a few girls lick my ass, it was the bomb I won't even lie.

However, if I see fingers or a dildo coming near my shithole, she'll be eating through a straw for a good few months!

There is a sign on my ass that says "ONE WAY ONLY"...................

Oh yeah, Vette ------------- >

~SC~

**clockworks** · 06-29-2005, 10:07 AM

Originally Posted by SwoleCat

I've had a few girls lick my ass, it was the bomb I won't even lie.

The man speaks the truth...don't knock it till you try it...=P its especially good if they are giving you the trombone treatmeat at the same time (you know, playing your trombone).

**956Vette** · 06-29-2005, 09:25 AM

Let's kick his ass!!!

Naw, your secret is cool with me ~SC~

**Dave321** · 06-29-2005, 10:09 AM

I need a butt licking girl...

***Narkissos*** · 06-29-2005, 10:30 AM

I don't think he's gay...just cus he likes a finger up his ass.

He might be..if he likes a 'couple' tho...

Don't run yet m'lady.

Ask him...be straightfoward....find out if he DOES bat both ways before you offset a potentially good thing

~Nark

**ENraged** · 06-29-2005, 10:34 AM

Not going to lie my lady attacked my poor anus with a little dildo once!!!
It was not pleasant and that wont happen again..
But as for being spanked and that jazz..
Hell yea spank my ass and tell me i have been a bad boy ittts alll good.
If the idea of spanking your man and maybe tossing a finger or 2 up the backside doesnt do it for you then you will want to let it be known rite in the beginning. cause it might be somthing that he wouldnt want to be with out in his sex life.

**WildCh1ld** · 06-29-2005, 10:39 AM

Alright I've had my share of kinky things done to me but I don't think I would ever let any chick stick a dildo in my a$$, Chicks have tried slippin the finger in and I still wouldn't let that happen.....But just because he like's to be spanked doesn't sound gay, it's the dildo that makes him gay...

**Money Boss Hustla** · 06-29-2005, 10:36 AM

I see nothing wrong with the playing. People are too insecure in themselves to let a woman touch them down there. Get over it. You're not gay if you enjoy it. Some women are game...some aren't. I dated a chick who went straight for it while giving head. I immediately pulled back...she told me settle down, relax, and try it. She played with it while giving head. One of the best BJ I have ever had. The ejaculation was very intense and volumous.

It's a very sensitive area back there.

PM me CB.

**Commando_Barbi** · 06-29-2005, 10:45 AM

I agree 100% about a little "playing" being ok. It def increases the intensity of an orgasm. It's the dildo and spanking and the intensity in which he talks about it....and that little feminine voice that slips in now and then.. ya know what I mean?

Originally Posted by Money Boss Hustla

I see nothing wrong with the playing. People are too insecure in themselves to let a woman touch them down there. Get over it. You're not gay if you enjoy it. Some women are game...some aren't. I dated a chick who went straight for it while giving head. I immediately pulled back...she told me settle down, relax, and try it. She played with it while giving head. One of the best BJ I have ever had. The ejaculation was very intense and volumous.

It's a very sensitive area back there.

PM me CB.

**clockworks** · 06-29-2005, 10:50 AM

Originally Posted by Commando_Barbi

and that little feminine voice that slips in now and then.. ya know what I mean?

Is it a little feminine voice, or is it that "stereotypical gay lisp"?

**Commando_Barbi** · 06-29-2005, 10:52 AM

Originally Posted by clockworks

Is it a little feminine voice, or is it that "stereotypical gay lisp"?

Not quite a lisp....but not very masuline.

**SexyKitty** · 06-29-2005, 11:01 AM

Originally Posted by Commando_Barbi

Not quite a lisp....but not very masuline.

There are some guys that unfortunately for them, ended up with a voice like that....but really arent gay, but they always end up having people question their sexuality cause of the voice.

My girlfriend is married to a guy like that, when they first got together I had to ask her if she was sure he wasnt gay.....he was very feminine. Anyway, turned out hes not.

I colleague of mine has that voice too, but he's not gay. You always hear people whispering though....."Is he gay?" He actually uses it to his advantage to pick up women, they all think he's gay so he "be-friends" them to the point where they really like him, then he makes his move. My other colleague watched him work his magic in San Diego, they couldnt believe how well it worked.

I wouldnt use the voice to determine if he's gay.....but def watch out for those other issues. I think in your situation, this is the last thing you need.

**Money Boss Hustla** · 06-29-2005, 11:03 AM

Originally Posted by Commando_Barbi

I agree 100% about a little "playing" being ok. It def increases the intensity of an orgasm. It's the dildo and spanking and the intensity in which he talks about it....and that little feminine voice that slips in now and then.. ya know what I mean?

Ahem...don't judge a book by its cover.

**clockworks** · 06-29-2005, 10:41 AM

SK, omg, that is kinda foul.
CB, hey now...I'm not going to turn into one of those AR flirts!! I have my dignity!!...even if it makes 95% of my posts boring...

**Commando_Barbi** · 06-29-2005, 10:43 AM

Originally Posted by clockworks

SK, omg, that is kinda foul.
CB, hey now...I'm not going to turn into one of those AR flirts!! I have my dignity!!...even if it makes 95% of my posts boring...

LOL It's ok Clocky...you can flirt a little..just don't become a stalker

**clockworks** · 06-29-2005, 10:45 AM

Originally Posted by Commando_Barbi

LOL It's ok Clocky...you can flirt a little..just don't become a stalker

"Clocky"...ahh, that brings back warm memories...=)

**robkesl** · 06-29-2005, 12:01 PM

so just cause hes bisexual you wont date him? i didnt think this was true, i have a friend who told me that alot of women wont date him for that reason.

**Commando_Barbi** · 06-29-2005, 12:12 PM

I'm not a lot of women......and NO, I wouldn't date him if he was/is Bi. If that's your lifestyle, great.....I'm all for freedom of choice. I think anyone that wants to marry should be able to...same sex, opposite sex...whatever. But my personal preference is a 100% hetro man.

Originally Posted by robkesl

so just cause hes bisexual you wont date him? i didnt think this was true, i have a friend who told me that alot of women wont date him for that reason.

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