Just got dumped, lol

[farrebarre]

kharma, what goes around comes around.
sometimes a girl will dump her bf for someone a million times worse, a guy who seems appleaing to her, plays the gentlemen role, f ucks her.. then dissappears. Then shes can relish in the whorish side effects of being played by someone she came to realize was actually a million times worse than the guy she dumped..

aha aiight

[marka]

this website is pretty helfull also: sosuave.com
Good to hear many have gone through the same. Its encouraging. I thougt I was weak for having issues not getting over my ex. I guess its more normal than I thought. I think in person, nobody really admits it.

[Polska]

Eventually her nature (sexual desire and desire to test other waters) swelled so large inside her, she was driven to explore them regardless of the consequences. Whore is a word i never use in a serious manner, its a misunderstanding or a side-effect of shit we dont understand, confusion makes us mad, anger generates labels..

I agree with you to an extent. There are numerous reasons for a woman walking away from a man. If her actions are fueled by her sexual desire and her being unfullfilled by her current mate then there is little a guy can do about that. However women's brains generally don't work that way. most women look for more than sex in a partner. the only thing is that what they really want, and what they THINK they want, are two totally different things. why do most women end up with "assholes" over "nice guys"? they think they want the nice guy, but they end up with an asshole. so if you want to keep her, you have to walk that fine line between asshole and nice guy. be too much of either and you're done. if you're a challenge and the girl has more affection/interest/love/etc for you than vice versa, then she will never walk. unless it's a woman with a high sex drive that you can't satisfy, and if her need for the cock is higher than her need for you, she'll walk or she'll cheat. but then that doesn't say much about her interest level for you. a guy with a keen sense for this shit will feel this out and jump ship waaaay before she has the chance to.

[Bojangles69]

I agree with you to an extent. There are numerous reasons for a woman walking away from a man. If her actions are fueled by her sexual desire and her being unfullfilled by her current mate then there is little a guy can do about that. However women's brains generally don't work that way. most women look for more than sex in a partner. the only thing is that what they really want, and what they THINK they want, are two totally different things. why do most women end up with "assholes" over "nice guys"? they think they want the nice guy, but they end up with an asshole. so if you want to keep her, you have to walk that fine line between asshole and nice guy. be too much of either and you're done. if you're a challenge and the girl has more affection/interest/love/etc for you than vice versa, then she will never walk. unless it's a woman with a high sex drive that you can't satisfy, and if her need for the cock is higher than her need for you, she'll walk or she'll cheat. but then that doesn't say much about her interest level for you. a guy with a keen sense for this shit will feel this out and jump ship waaaay before she has the chance to.

yeh the extent you dont agree was my lack of explaining that it most definently doesnt apply to all situations, most often theres many other factors. women do though love sex as much as if not more than men (i have some theories to prove) and yes that doesnt govern thier behavoir as much as men (or men are conditioned to believe so)
what ultimately dictates what a woman WANTs or NEEDS is what she already HAS. When she knows she HAS something, the incentive to retain it is often lost. But yeh its just too subjective to really get into.
all and all i think me and you should write a book and so we can advertise it on the banners

[Polska]

yeh the extent you dont agree was my lack of explaining that it most definently doesnt apply to all situations, most often theres many other factors. women do though love sex as much as if not more than men (i have some theories to prove) and yes that doesnt govern thier behavoir as much as men (or men are conditioned to believe so)
what ultimately dictates what a woman WANTs or NEEDS is what she already HAS. When she knows she HAS something, the incentive to retain it is often lost. But yeh its just too subjective to really get into.
all and all i think me and you should write a book and so we can advertise it on the banners

Exatly. When she knows she HAS you, she doesn't have incentive to retain you. But if you're a challenge and always keep her guessing, it will drive her nuts. (in a good way). We should get DALLY in on this..... he really knows his shit too.

[D7M]

Exatly. When she knows she HAS you, she doesn't have incentive to retain you. But if you're a challenge and always keep her guessing, it will drive her nuts. (in a good way). We should get DALLY in on this..... he really knows his shit too.

yep. you said it best, bro. most women (most not all) are real confused. they think they know what they want, when in reality all they want are the games, the chase. blah, blah, blah. Sorry, but that shlt is so boring

[firmechicano831]

been through it already. It was alot going through it, I even lost like 20 pounds when me and my ex broke up. We were together for 8 years. But the best way is to let go and find someone to replace her. It was hard at nights not having to talk to her but we must move on and be stronger.

[SVTMuscle*]

if you were honestly hurt I dont see why you would put "lol" in the thread name.


But, shes just a girl... there are billions of them out there, just go out and get laid

[GQ-Bouncer]

Your going to be spending alot of time in the gym goin through the ever so infamous 'self-hatred' phase

I know your heart is broken (i'm not just saying that, literally it sinks into your chest and you feel like your dead) but summer is comming up, focus on work & the gym - when you think of her all the time, try thinking about how your going to make her jealous and act as if your life is going better without her if she ever runs into you

[PrairieDawg]

yea I think I'm seeing that its really not worth it. all the fighting we did. I kind of realised that she has alot of issues that were holding us back and that she's not ready for a relationship. thanks to everyone who replied.

[Bojangles69]

Your going to be spending alot of time in the gym goin through the ever so infamous 'self-hatred' phase

I know your heart is broken (i'm not just saying that, literally it sinks into your chest and you feel like your dead) but summer is comming up, focus on work & the gym - when you think of her all the time, try thinking about how your going to make her jealous and act as if your life is going better without her if she ever runs into you

yea serious, i tend to go into a depression every october/november, summer time is prime time for pussy, go out, mingle, this just may be the best thing thats ever happened to you, but DONT let it get you down as hard as it may.. this is a battle between you and you only, no man likes to see his fellow man suffer, especially over a woman. we all know the pain brother, keep your head up.
~Rob

[ShnouzedUp]

if you were honestly hurt I dont see why you would put "lol" in the thread name.


But, shes just a girl... there are billions of them out there, just go out and get laid

yep yep! ur gonna be aiight.... change is good for you anyway.

[Raven8264]

Not quite the same as being dumped, but I can relate. The whole unrequited love thing with this chick at work. I've had to get with others just to help myself move on. Every other chick I'm with I can be totally smooth with. Doesn't matter how hot she is, that doesn't bother me. The only time I actually got nervous was when I met my ex a long time ago, because I felt a connection right off that went a lot deeper than the skin, and that freaked me out. I haven't felt that at all in all these years since, and started to wonder if that part of me had died. This chick at work made me feel that again.

Sucks because we've worked with each other for a long time. I'd always been able to be smooth and be witty with her, until we had a conversation and I got to know her a lot better, and that's when it happened. Now if I try to talk to her I'm fumbling for words and I sound like an idiot. It sucks! So I'm resigned to just being professional with her, and moving on by doing what I've been doing for years, being with 99% of the other women that don't fluster me.

So no, not quite the same, but I know how ya feel.

[ect0m0rph]

I dont agree with the faking it idea. Life is about love and you need to give your all to get all in return. It can be difficult to be dumped but remember the good times. Would you give all that up just so you wouldn't be hurt now.

[DNoMac]

Bojangles and Polska: you guys should be charging by the hour (or by the post?). Good stuff. Keep your head up PD

[littlemantc]

it's harsh mate there's nothing you can do but deal with it. I've been in the same situation. But there is no nice way of saying it.

just get your ass out and get some more pussy

bro i could have not said that any better...you are the man!!!

[SnaX]

there was a few reasons. she just about left me for another guy early in the relationship who she was in love with before me. she's also been best friends with him for a long time. there were arguements about it because I really didn't want her hanging around him. but you can't tell her to drop her best friend either. that and her family wants her to be with him and not me and I was never given a chance by them. its a bitch losing someone this way. oh well..

The fact that you care so much shows how much you would appreciate the other and how great of a guy you are. And she missed out on something really good with someone great as you.
Of course it makes your heart sink, but that goes to show how wonderful you really are, and tells us all just what kind of an amazing person you deserve bro. She's not right for you. You're one is out there, this is just a powerful temptation along the way to getting to her.

[PrairieDawg]

The fact that you care so much shows how much you would appreciate the other and how great of a guy you are. And she missed out on something really good with someone great as you.
Of course it makes your heart sink, but that goes to show how wonderful you really are, and tells us all just what kind of an amazing person you deserve bro. She's not right for you. You're one is out there, this is just a powerful temptation along the way to getting to her.

thanks bro thats deep lol. totally lifted my mood right there

[Mizfit]

I read this entire thread.. and i guess what i want to say is that unless you build up some kinda trust or belief in another - there is no way you can have a real relationship.

At first it's right and justified to be guarded.. (HELL I AM!)

And i think showing less interest in the beginning is true, but as you spend more time with someone and the relationship builds, you do open up and let your guard down, if you don't you might as well be single.

Sometimes relationships can fall apart for the reasons many of you suggest for Prairie to do to keep her interested.

I personally do not let my guard down if i think the person i'm with isn't as interested in me as i am in him.

And i believe in karma, and what is meant to be will be.

[farrebarre]

Bojangles and Polska: you guys should be charging by the hour (or by the post?). Good stuff. Keep your head up PD

lol dont give them any ideas!

[PrairieDawg]

I read this entire thread.. and i guess what i want to say is that unless you build up some kinda trust or belief in another - there is no way you can have a real relationship.

At first it's right and justified to be guarded.. (HELL I AM!)

And i think showing less interest in the beginning is true, but as you spend more time with someone and the relationship builds, you do open up and let your guard down, if you don't you might as well be single.

Sometimes relationships can fall apart for the reasons many of you suggest for Prairie to do to keep her interested.

I personally do not let my guard down if i think the person i'm with isn't as interested in me as i am in him.

And i believe in karma, and what is meant to be will be.

yea you're completely right mizfit. im surprised you could see that just from this thread. thats something that i learned out of this whole thing. you cant always be closed off. now that i look back on it, it messed up alot of relationships.

[taiboxa]

i'd shank her w/ a piece of glass.. ?

[farrebarre]

i'd shank her w/ a piece of glass.. ?

thats why no one asked you HA!