Relationship issues...

[JayceonTaylor]

What up guys...

Ive been seeing my current girlfriend for about 8 months now and on Monday she had a doctors appointment and asked me to come with her.

The appintment was related to her Mentstruation cycle or lack of, one of the questions the specialist asked was abortions and i found out she had 2 in the past prior to being with me.

I havent asked her about them since the appointment, how should i approach the subject? I really like the girl, but it definately put some doubts in my mind.

[zimmy]

after 8 months and you didn't know she did that twice? I'd say you shoudl really try to talk and get to know her. What else don't you know?

[sbeast007]

she must have wanted to tel u....and the docs appointment was the easiest way, she must now be wondering why u havent said anything about it

[juiceboxxx]

just ask her.......not a big dealll


sit down with here and ask her nicly I dont think she will get mad if you ask in a nice/polite manner.

[Katelette81]

She maybe didn't know he would ask about that, but had to answer because it's her doctor.. but regardless, put it this way.. ya it sucks she's had to go through that twice, sucks she made that mistake twice... however, how do you feel about her? would yoiu have dated her if she had 2 kids? Did she make the right deciision by having the abortions? I would look at all angles.

[Mizfit]

i'm not sure how it would really come up in conversation

[Timm1704]

just ask her about it, outright, but with tact. "babe im not sure exactly how to word this, but i have to ask, as its been on my mind....." she will likely know whats coming, which always makes it easier i think

[RA]

I would be out the door so fast it wouldn't have a chance to hit me in the ass

[RA]

timm are you going to rob a bank?

[Timm1704]

lol, as if id admit to that

[SwoleCat]

That's one fertile lady.

~SC~

[RA]

lol, as if id admit to that

I almost mis-took you for a terrorist. JIHAD!

[Timm1704]

lol noooo, im taking up ninja-rery

[RA]

lol noooo, im taking up ninja-rery

Judge swolecat, can I get a ruling? Is ninja-rery a word??

[Timm1704]

lol i was thinking the same thing

[RA]

lol i was thinking the same thing

What was this thread about again?

[SwoleCat]

No it is not.

U are the weakest link!



~SC~

[RA]

No it is not.

U are the weakest link!



~SC~

The judge has spoken.

[Timm1704]

wounded. well, help me out, what exactly am i taking up?

[Timm1704]

lol we have actually hijacked a pretty serious thread here, sorry jayceontaylor

[RA]

wounded. well, help me out, what exactly am i taking up?

ninjaness...lol

[Timm1704]

ahaaa, i like!

[Anna Bollick]

Did you ask her before, if she had ever had, or considered, an abortion? She had no obligation to tell you anything about her past that you did not seem concerned about. I say cut her some slack for that. She was not being deceptive. Now that the cat is out of the bag, it is time to discuss it, though. And if you can think of anything else you would like to ask her about, now is the time. Then either dump her, or let it go, and move on with your relationship. Put all the crap behind you, where it belongs, either way.

Love
Anna

[Mizfit]

Did you ask her before, if she had ever had, or considered, an abortion? She had no obligation to tell you anything about her past that you did not seem concerned about. I say cut her some slack for that. She was not being deceptive. Now that the cat is out of the bag, it is time to discuss it, though. And if you can think of anything else you would like to ask her about, now is the time. Then either dump her, or let it go, and move on with your relationship. Put all the crap behind you, where it belongs, either way.

Love
Anna

I wondered where you were.. i need you to speak with my imaginary friend Trevor.. He is a preop transsexual and keeps trying to get it on with my boyfriend..

Your advice is appreciated

[Anna Bollick]

I wondered where you were.. i need you to speak with my imaginary friend Trevor..

That's YOUR job... He is YOUR imaginary friend. We can't even see him, much less converse with him.

Love
Anna

[Teabagger]

I'm trying to understand if you're upset, and if so what about? The fact she had abortions? The fact she had been pregnant before? The fact she had obviously had sex with someone before you? And if you're not upset...then no problem really.

[taiboxa]

i would try this..
"Hi hows it going, killed anymore unborn children lately?"
that usually gets the ball rolling

[Mizfit]

That's YOUR job... He is YOUR imaginary friend. We can't even see him, much less converse with him.

Love
Anna

but im telling you he exists.. is that not enough?

[Testostack]

i'm not sure how it would really come up in conversation

Yep, kinda awkward situation and uneasy to put in a conversation ......

[taiboxa]

Yep, kinda awkward situation and uneasy to put in a conversation ......

i just answerd this question in post 27

[BG]

i would try this..
"Hi hows it going, killed anymore unborn children lately?"
that usually gets the ball rolling

Then go right back to eating dinner.

[taiboxa]

Then go right back to eating dinner.

EXACTLY!

[Hunter]

I would say she thought it would be a easier way to tell you. Abortion leaves alot of scares emotionally. It is probably something she is still dealing with and is hard for her to talk to you about. She invited you to the office with her so you know she wanted to tell you. I know its hard and akward but imagine how hard it is for you. You need to be sensitive and do more listening then talking. Good luck bro try to understand it from her side

[BG]

This is how you bring it up, "I was driving home from work and I passed the abortion clinic and I thought I saw your car, dont tell me its three times now?"

[Testostack]

i just answerd this question in post 27

didn't see that.....have a good pre bed meal now........