my girlfriend what 2 do

[Bigstiffler]

so me & my girl have been dating for about for months now & i still really dont trust her out without me because of her friends. every single 1 of her friends are whores & go out & get drunk hooking up with random guys & are always dancing on bars. then she wants me 2 let her out with them & wants me 2 trust her i say no ur staying with me bla bla bla then all her friends hate me & think i'm a pyhco boyfriend. but 2 make things come 2gether a little better y i dont let her the within the 1st 2weeks we were dating we went out for a few drinks she was drunk then asked me if she can go dance on the bar of course i said no & she bitched & wined but i never gave in...

then last nite i fall asleep early sry i worked 11hours then worked out for 2 hours so she decided 2 was gonna leave and go home she never does that so i was like ok call me from ur house phone when u get home she started studdering & didnt say ne-thing so i knew she was up 2 no good so she calls not even 5 min later saying "o i'm gonna go 2 my friends house she's haven a party" then i fliped the f*ck out cuz i knew what was up but she ended up going home for the nite i made sure of that

so i really dont know if i should keep it going with the girl or not i really like her a lot but i cant keep up with her what ya guys think??

[Ih8urdsm]

trust is the most important thing...it can be built, but you have to explain to her how you feel and what you feel is missing and needs to be there and if she understands and works with you, great...if not, then she isnt really willing to do what it takes to make a relationship work. its hard, but you really do need to be able to trust the person.

[biglouie250]

ive never believed in trying to change a person. if she is the type of girl that dances on bars, and gets wasted and makes a fool of themselves....ask yourself "do i want to be with a girl like that?" Do you want to be with a person that flat out lied to your face about going home? to me that is more important than the trust issue you obviously have. Its common for guys to say i trust her....i dont trust her friends. That is total BS. If she is a whore she will cheat no matter what, if she is a good girl she wont cheat no matter how slutty her friends are. TRUST ME. Girls see right through that BS excuse and will hate you for it. Her friends are probably chewing her ear off about how much they hate you, because of that as well. If a girls friends hate you...your as good as doomed.

IMO i would never want to be with a bar dancing girl, its low class, gives a bad impression and frankly i have no respect for a girl that does that. Used to wip quarters at girls that did that at the college bars.....

[Kale]

Man this is the most fvcked up thing I have ever read. You want to base a realtionship on this shit. I would dump her ass in two nanoseconds, no, make that one nanosecond. How old are you ?

[Bigstiffler]

yea i try 2 tell her & all she says is that "i trust u when ur out with your friends y not trust me?" i'm like 1st of all me & my friends just go out get a few drinks & play cards or something or chill @ some1's house we dont go out dancing on bars & shit like that & put myselff in bad situations... i just feel like she has to b with me just so she doesnt do anything stupid

[Bigstiffler]

i'm 20 & she's 18

[Bigstiffler]

big louie you are rite about her friends thats all they do is rat her ear off about how they hate me & i'm a pycho.. i've never had any probs with any of x's like this b4 i duno y i'm really putting up with her shyt her own brother tells me i should dump her

[solid-d]

I was with the same type of girl over the winter.. Trust me it will not work as a long term relationship.. Either just have her on the side or if you want a good GF then get a new one.. You will be saving yourself a headache.. And yes, you will not change her bad party habits.. No way, and Yes she will lie to your face again about going out, and she will like about other guys she may be hangout with alone with her GF.. And if all her GF are whores, well sorry to break the news, but shes a whore.. I was there and I was in the same mindset as yourself... Run kid!

[RussianVodka]

I would dump her ass. You can not change her, you have to accept he AS IS or dump her.

[USfighterFC]

the best piece of advice is this. You cant turn a hoe into a housewife.

[J-Dogg]

Get a new girl before now before it turns into a relationship and you grow on each other.

You have been together a month, you live apart, you don't have any kids and you should not have any of those things unless you are both happy with what you have.

It might be fun to let her go out a night and have one of your boys watch her though....video it though.

[J-Dogg]

the best piece of advice is this. You cant turn a hoe into a housewife.

Amen, it cannot be done, I've tried.

[USfighterFC]

Amen, it cannot be done, I've tried.

As have I. It failed miserably and I did nothing but waste my time.

[J-Dogg]

As have I. It failed miserably and I did nothing but waste my time.

Not only did I waste my time, but it was also the first time I let somene break my pride and put myself in a situation I could be hurt.

[fatale]

If you can't trust her then why be with her? I have to say though that it seems like you are controlling her way too much. I do understand that you worry about her hanging out with her slutty friends. Your afraid that your she's going to be influence by her friends to cheat on you. That's kind of stupid to think though, dont you think? Not unless she did anything in the past that had hurt your feelings. If not then you shouldn't be worrying that she might do something wrong because she's with her slutty friends. She have a mind of her own right?

She probably lie to you that night because she knows for a fact that your not going to let her go.

[USfighterFC]

Lock it up already.....there is an attention whore at work

[USfighterFC]

oh wait wrong thread. I meant the other relationship one

[Doc.Sust]

break up with her, that is too shady for me

[USfighterFC]

break up with her, that is too shady for me

Listen to the Doc he knows whats good for ya bro. I agree 100%

[J-Dogg]

If you can't trust her then why be with her? I have to say though that it seems like you are controlling her way too much. I do understand that you worry about her hanging out with her slutty friends. Your afraid that your she's going to be influence by her friends to cheat on you. That's kind of stupid to think though, dont you think? Not unless she did anything in the past that had hurt your feelings. If not then you shouldn't be worrying that she might do something wrong because she's with her slutty friends. She have a mind of her own right?

She probably lie to you that night because she knows for a fact that your not going to let her go.

I disagree on some points.

It is proven that you become who you surround yourself with. If you want to be rich, surround yourself with rich people and model what they do.

If you want to become a whore, get a few slutty friends. You can say what you want about free will, and trust to your mate, but if you were loyal to your man, would you want to watch a bunch of your friends be immature and sleep around on theirs? It would probably disgust you and make them unappealing for you to be in their company.

Call me controlling if you please, but if my girl friend wants to go to the bar, dance on it and have guys gawking at her, trying to look up her skirt, grab her ass, she is not going. She would understand very quick it is not something that is acceptable in a relationship with me.

[BARLOW]

dump her, or let her go to the bar, and spy! then shank her

[abstrack]

WTF are you in a relationship for if you cant trust her? Pretty f'ing stupid if you ask me. You might as well just go out and hoe yourself and be at peace with your mind.

[Bojangles69]

ok that does it, im postn a sticky tommorow about relationships..

[zimmy]

dude...i don't think it's as cut and dry as trust her or don't. At 18...she is in that party mind set. If you aren't...I'd move on just because you are both in different points in your life.

[Andorious]

i'd jus let her go out. if she'd actually cheat on u when given the opportunity thn u really shouldnt wanna b w/ her neway. u can't jus keep her on a leash forever. ive seen friends do this, have a gf, dont wanna let thm go out on their own yet say the relationship is fine. i mean, if she's actually cheat on u neway, she must not like u tht much, so she's not worth ur time

[Kale]

i'm 20 & she's 18

Oh to be young and stupid again !!!!

[TheDfromGC]

dump her, or let her go to the bar, and spy! then shank her

lol, the suttle way to end it

[Mizfit]

You guys started off badly..

end it NOW

[RA]

If you can't trust her then why be with her? I have to say though that it seems like you are controlling her way too much. I do understand that you worry about her hanging out with her slutty friends. Your afraid that your she's going to be influence by her friends to cheat on you. That's kind of stupid to think though, dont you think? Not unless she did anything in the past that had hurt your feelings. If not then you shouldn't be worrying that she might do something wrong because she's with her slutty friends. She have a mind of her own right?

She probably lie to you that night because she knows for a fact that your not going to let her go.

Guys know when a girl is trustworthy or not. I think hes "controlling her" because he knows what shes going to do. If all her friends are sluts then guess what?

[Mizfit]

Guys know when a girl is trustworthy or not. I think hes "controlling her" because he knows what shes going to do. If all her friends are sluts then guess what?

Agreed.. he's scared that she will be who she really is...

[Mizfit]

I admit to having hung around with girls like this before but.. i never acted like them...

The fact that she wanted to hop on a bar and dance when she has a boyfriend and lied to him about going home when she wanted to go to a party is proof enough that she is like her friends..

[RA]

I admit to having hung around with girls like this before but.. i never acted like them...

The fact that she wanted to hop on a bar and dance when she has a boyfriend and lied to him about going home when she wanted to go to a party is proof enough that she is like her friends..

[spywizard]

i'm going to take a little different stance here.. yes you are a psyhco boyfriend...

with that said, that's ok, you are holding her to a standard that you adhere to, not one in which she knows or wants to adhere to... thus you are trying to change her...

thats' a big problem, see because if she does change for you, later she will resent you for making her be the good little girl, just like her daddy did.. but then again, maybe that's what she is looking for, someone to tell her what to do..

either way.. you lose..

[Bigstiffler]

dump her, or let her go to the bar, and spy! then shank her

thats exactly what i'm gonna do!! but we had a long talk last nite i told her she has 1 last chance other wise we are done.. she promised she wouldnt do anything else & sh*t like that. but i guess from what i found it is that she used 2 have all of her ex-boyfriends rapped around her finger & they did anything she wanted & she used 2 cheat on them all the time gooooo figure! i think her biggest thing is that i dont let her get away with shit & take her out shopping when she's mad @ me... i think she's gonna b kicked 2 the curb really soon!

[rar1015]

If you cant trust her and it sure as hell seems like you cant....just end it. It sucks doing it but you'll get over it bro.

[biglouie250]

thats exactly what i'm gonna do!! but we had a long talk last nite i told her she has 1 last chance other wise we are done.. she promised she wouldnt do anything else & sh*t like that. but i guess from what i found it is that she used 2 have all of her ex-boyfriends rapped around her finger & they did anything she wanted & she used 2 cheat on them all the time gooooo figure! i think her biggest thing is that i dont let her get away with shit & take her out shopping when she's mad @ me... i think she's gonna b kicked 2 the curb really soon!

your nuts bro...she cheated on all her ex's?? you want to be with a girl like that? you think your special and different? I have the utmost respect for women when they respect themselves. IMO treat her like the whore she is, do what you need to with her and be done with her. Great chance for you to experiment with things like the donkey punch, the shocker, bukkaki, roman war helmut, cleveland steamers and the ever popular rodeo ride.......

[Panzerfaust]

I would leave that skank behind like tire marks from a bank robbery.

Actually, i never would have messed with that kind of girl to begin with.

[ShnouzedUp]

so me & my girl have been dating for about for months now & i still really dont trust her out without me because of her friends. every single 1 of her friends are whores & go out & get drunk hooking up with random guys & are always dancing on bars. then she wants me 2 let her out with them & wants me 2 trust her i say no ur staying with me bla bla bla then all her friends hate me & think i'm a pyhco boyfriend. but 2 make things come 2gether a little better y i dont let her the within the 1st 2weeks we were dating we went out for a few drinks she was drunk then asked me if she can go dance on the bar of course i said no & she bitched & wined but i never gave in...

then last nite i fall asleep early sry i worked 11hours then worked out for 2 hours so she decided 2 was gonna leave and go home she never does that so i was like ok call me from ur house phone when u get home she started studdering & didnt say ne-thing so i knew she was up 2 no good so she calls not even 5 min later saying "o i'm gonna go 2 my friends house she's haven a party" then i fliped the f*ck out cuz i knew what was up but she ended up going home for the nite i made sure of that

so i really dont know if i should keep it going with the girl or not i really like her a lot but i cant keep up with her what ya guys think??

sounds to me like you and your gf are 2 completely different people with 2 completely different personalities. If u want this to work, you need to learn to trust her. If you can't pull that together this is just a waste of your time, and is only gonna cause you un-needed stress. I suggest you chill out bro, and let your girl be herself. if she really likes you that much shes not gonna cheat on you. there are millions of other girls out there man, remember that. after all if your gonna commit yourself to a relationship you better be happy in it, or whats the point?

[Smak]

sounds to me like you and your gf are 2 completely different people with 2 completely different personalities. If u want this to work, you need to learn to trust her. If you can't pull that together this is just a waste of your time, and is only gonna cause you un-needed stress. I suggest you chill out bro, and let your girl be herself. if she really likes you that much shes not gonna cheat on you. there are millions of other girls out there man, remember that. after all if your gonna commit yourself to a relationship you better be happy in it, or whats the point?

SchnouzedUp is bak up in dis!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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[ShnouzedUp]

by the way, she sounds like my type of girl... the type i would thank for being that type of girl. but would never ever date.