family problem. Very Stressed out. need help

[MAJOR25]

What up everybody. Here I go. I am 24 years old and love my parents very much. I never disrespected them in any way and I never will but I have've been seing this girl for about one year but 5 months serious. She's divorce with 2 lil kids .....very polite kids. she's going to college and a single mother at the same time......that's hard. I know because I know what she goes through. I'm sure my parents will not approve because she used to be mean because back in school they used to called her chubby nicknames. She was a little wild but not that crazy. she never left her house untill she go married (18 yrs). This girl treats me like a king. cooks, keeps her house clean, no drugs, massages my body after working out, massages and does my feet also, When we go out of town, she always makes sure that I have every thing that I need and she doesn't ask for money like my ex-girls. She take care of me like never other girl has. If she low in cash this is what she tells me. "I don't want to go any where because I don't have money for me and my kids"

Should I stay with her and fuk what people/parents say or leave her and go back to drinking from thrus-saturday.

[QuieTSToRM33]

Should I stay with her and fuk what people/parents say or leave her and go back to drinking from thrus-saturday.

if that's why u want to leave her ..... then you have to check ur priorities man

my opinion is to say Fvck what everyone else thinks ...... if u guys are happy .... then fvck em

[Carlos_E]

Be a man and make your own decisions. If you are happy, fuck what everyone else things.

[oldman]

Well bro I am going to give you some advice and take this how you want.

It is your life not your parents and you have to live to make yourself happy not them. I was in the same situation of sorts.. I loved and respected my parents but after I got married and was married for over 4 years I was still dropping everything to do whatever my parents wanted me to do. It was putting a strain on my marriage because my wife felt like she was taking a backseat to everything (and she was). I finally had to stand up to my controlling parents and say I love you, but this is my new family and I will be spending the rest of my life with her. Well this was great for my marriage because I started living for my wife which is how it should have been from the start. Now the bad thing is I have not talked to my parents since. It has been almost 13 years we have not talked. It hurts that they felt I put them off for someone else but my marriage is stronger because of it all.

Go with your heart and your instinct. If you parents love you they will understand.. In my case my parents only wanted to control me and their true colors came out.

My 2 cents.

~Old

[Mizfit]

Hold on - your parents called her names in front of you as a child? ( sounds a little off for parents to do this..)

I agree with the others your adult - make a decision to make yourself happy - if she is a good woman.

[Pooks]

Your parents aren't the ones getting massages, so how would they know anything. Sounds to me like they're just being drama queens, u should regulate on them, flip out n stuff.

[MAJOR25]

if that's why u want to leave her ..... then you have to check ur priorities man

my opinion is to say Fvck what everyone else thinks ...... if u guys are happy .... then fvck em

If your pops is your bestfriend and dad, Would you like to hurt him? by the way he's diabetic. This could maybe affect him. How would you tell him in a way so that he will not get hurt.

[Pooks]

If he's your best friend he'll understand.

It sounds more like your his bitch.
No offense meant.. just saying bluntly, that u have to be honest with your bestfriend, u have to tell him exactly how you feel.. u have to be able to cry infront of him, and with honesty like that, u will win everytime.

I dont see how being diabetic would affect this at all, unless u cut him in a knife battle, and he bleeds to death, since he can't clot his wounds. Bring a candy bar in case he goes hypo i guess, and your bases should be covered.

[MAJOR25]

Well bro I am going to give you some advice and take this how you want.

It is your life not your parents and you have to live to make yourself happy not them. I was in the same situation of sorts.. I loved and respected my parents but after I got married and was married for over 4 years I was still dropping everything to do whatever my parents wanted me to do. It was putting a strain on my marriage because my wife felt like she was taking a backseat to everything (and she was). I finally had to stand up to my controlling parents and say I love you, but this is my new family and I will be spending the rest of my life with her. Well this was great for my marriage because I started living for my wife which is how it should have been from the start. Now the bad thing is I have not talked to my parents since. It has been almost 13 years we have not talked. It hurts that they felt I put them off for someone else but my marriage is stronger because of it all.

Go with your heart and your instinct. If you parents love you they will understand.. In my case my parents only wanted to control me and their true colors came out.

My 2 cents.

~Old

Old
Bro. sounds horrible that you haven't talk to them for somany years. I can't imagine how it feels to not talk to them. My pops and me are very close but he always has told me what to do and what needs to be done. As a good son that I try to be I always do it. My other friends are telling me that they might just be scare about me moving on with someone else. (I forgot to say that I still live at the house with them. Is hard to pay car payment, bills, food, insurance, cell, COLLEGE. I can't do it yet. and also I am the oldest and the only male. I have 3 lil sisters.) Maybe they are not ready to let me go yet, or I don't know. I probably don't make sense because I can't even think right. Too stressed out. The only thing that helps is the gym. This sucks bad..

[Pooks]

Old
and also I am the oldest and the only male. I have 3 lil sisters.)[/I] Maybe they are not ready to let me go yet, or I don't know.

Thats an advantage, not a disavantage. Use it as leverage in any argument. If u know they need you, than u can get away with things. Learn to play the cards. Assert yourself brother.. U're the breadwinner in the family, Time to start changing the rules on them.

[firmechicano831]

I understand the situation that you are in Major but you must take care of yourself first. For them to be happy is seeing you happy. And the only way you can be like that is with your gf so let them know. Do what is right for you and not for them. My parents wanted me to get married with my gf after I bought my first house and I had to tell them that I wasn't ready and that I was the one that was going to make that decision and not them.

[MAJOR25]

Guess what!!!!!

I just had lunch with my dad and we had the best understanding talk about this. I told him what he thought about her was no true and about her being responsible, and all the good things about her. He knows that I'm happy with her so he finally kindda understood my point of view. We never talked like this before andit was a great experience for me and for him also.

You guys are my new best friends and I hope I can help others like you guys helped me too.

By the way, I been going through this for about 4 days already. I just had to get advice from anybody. thanks for everything.

[Timm1704]

poke your parents in the eyes! just lightly, as not to take their vision away from them. this, will learn them......... is there a smiley for eye-poking? it would really fit in here........

[BARLOW]

is this thread a joke? cuz im laughing

[needmorestrength]

wow old sorry to hear this.. Imo this is not fair to you!!!... Major.. Just to let you know my parents due not approve of my girl ( she is a virgin, amazing girl, high morals, never drinks, never swears, RELIGIOUS) but thats the problem.. Different of religions.. I told my parents plain and simple that she is who I am going to spend my life with, I am asking her in the next few months ( hopefullly eh BurgerKing) LOL... anywayz.. glad to see you had a good lunch with him, me n the pops are also very close!