For those who have been following my love life lol

**needmorestrength** · 09-08-2006, 08:56 PM

Sooo As you know we broke up ( I know this isnt what she wanted).. Well I have given her space, and I mean space.. Well over the last few days she has said things like "I want you to know I have always loved you and will always love you know matter what happens".. then yesterday "I need to tell you something... I miss you soooo much"....
Well I changed my number and hadnt had a chance to tell her yet, and she was soooo upset, so I told her I forgot... anywayz talked to day, and as we were hanging up she just broke down crying.. so I called her back and said "no matter what happens I will love you more then I have loved anyone" ... Oh and yesterday she said she would like to come see my place, and told me what days she was off next week, so I told her to come tuesday or thursday........
So what does all this mean???? Mizfit??????

**zipzz** · 09-08-2006, 08:58 PM

*We dont need comments like this.*

Bino

**audis4** · 09-08-2006, 08:59 PM

whats with the weird comments today?

**THE_DOME** · 09-08-2006, 08:59 PM

dude wtf

**needmorestrength** · 09-08-2006, 09:02 PM

You wanna stay around this site, apologize.. this is the love of my life you jackass

**cfiler** · 09-08-2006, 09:04 PM

Maybe she's pregnant?

**mavsluva** · 09-08-2006, 09:06 PM

Originally Posted by needmorestrength

Sooo As you know we broke up ( I know this isnt what she wanted).. Well I have given her space, and I mean space.. Well over the last few days she has said things like "I want you to know I have always loved you and will always love you know matter what happens".. then yesterday "I need to tell you something... I miss you soooo much"....
Well I changed my number and hadnt had a chance to tell her yet, and she was soooo upset, so I told her I forgot... anywayz talked to day, and as we were hanging up she just broke down crying.. so I called her back and said "no matter what happens I will love you more then I have loved anyone" ... Oh and yesterday she said she would like to come see my place, and told me what days she was off next week, so I told her to come tuesday or thursday........
So what does all this mean???? Mizfit??????

You're being tested. You'll know within the next few weeks if you two will once again be a couple. And if it does result in you guys being together, then it will last forever. If not, then you'll know that you both made the best decision to part ways and you'll never have to revisit the thoughts that you're having at this time.

In summary, allowing her over to your new place is a very good move. Regardless of the outcome.

**needmorestrength** · 09-08-2006, 09:08 PM

Originally Posted by mavsluva

You're being tested. You'll know within the next few weeks if you two will once again be a couple. And if it does result in you guys being together, then it will last forever. If not, then you'll know that you both made the best decision to part ways and you'll never have to revisit the thoughts that you're having at this time.

In summary, allowing her over to your new place is a very good move. Regardless of the outcome.

Thanks dude, I hope it is too.. Im just trying to let her know that I want her back, but im not going to beg

**305GUY** · 09-08-2006, 09:10 PM

Originally Posted by needmorestrength

Sooo As you know we broke up ( I know this isnt what she wanted).. Well I have given her space, and I mean space.. Well over the last few days she has said things like "I want you to know I have always loved you and will always love you know matter what happens".. then yesterday "I need to tell you something... I miss you soooo much"....
Well I changed my number and hadnt had a chance to tell her yet, and she was soooo upset, so I told her I forgot... anywayz talked to day, and as we were hanging up she just broke down crying.. so I called her back and said "no matter what happens I will love you more then I have loved anyone" ... Oh and yesterday she said she would like to come see my place, and told me what days she was off next week, so I told her to come tuesday or thursday........
So what does all this mean???? Mizfit??????

sounds like your playing it pretty cool.. my advice KEEP IT UP! make her get on her knees and beg bro. trust me

**mavsluva** · 09-08-2006, 09:11 PM

Originally Posted by needmorestrength

Thanks dude, I hope it is too.. Im just trying to let her know that I want her back, but im not going to beg

Just keep an honest and guarded heart. I'm sure there are a lot of people out there that would love to be missed as much as she misses you. And vice versa.

**305GUY** · 09-08-2006, 09:12 PM

Originally Posted by mavsluva

In summary, allowing her over to your new place is a very good move. Regardless of the outcome.

i disagree.. i would recommend selling her out those days and waiting another week or so.

**needmorestrength** · 09-08-2006, 09:17 PM

Originally Posted by mavsluva

Just keep an honest and guarded heart. I'm sure there are a lot of people out there that would love to be missed as much as she misses you. And vice versa.

Thats dude... Im glad I phoned back and told her her how much I loved her tonight

**needmorestrength** · 09-08-2006, 09:18 PM

Originally Posted by 305GUY

i disagree.. i would recommend selling her out those days and waiting another week or so.

Its been long enough dude... if I wait too long then we will grow distant, correct?!

**C_Bino** · 09-08-2006, 09:22 PM

Sorry about that needsmorestrength...

BTW can I just call you NMS...your name is too long.

**needmorestrength** · 09-08-2006, 09:25 PM

Originally Posted by C_Bino

Sorry about that needsmorestrength...

BTW can I just call you NMS...your name is too long.

for sure dude!! Thats what most people do who know me!

**305GUY** · 09-08-2006, 09:28 PM

Originally Posted by needmorestrength

Its been long enough dude... if I wait too long then we will grow distant, correct?!

well how long has it been? a couple of weeks? if i recall shes the one who told you "she cant take it anymore" with something having to do with different faiths? so i would play it like your still pissed (but still love her), but really are getting by just fine and are in no rush to get back together.. its a fact that you will get back together so the longer you wait the more better and passionate the makeup sex will be

... atleast give it a month or more JMO

**audis4** · 09-08-2006, 09:30 PM

Originally Posted by zipzz

I am a fvcking jackass....will you guys ever forgive me for my 2nd grade comment?

ya, you are a jackass....

**305GUY** · 09-08-2006, 09:31 PM

however if it was you who either fvcked up in some way or broke it off with her, THEN by the sound of how things are going, i would start playing it towards getting back togther..but since shes the one causing trouble make her wait!

**audis4** · 09-08-2006, 09:33 PM

Originally Posted by 305GUY

however if it was you who either fvcked up in some way or broke it off with her, THEN by the sound of how things are going, i would start playing it towards getting back togther..but since shes the one causing trouble make her wait!

ya, I agree with this.

**needmorestrength** · 09-08-2006, 09:35 PM

Thanks Bino!!!!!!!! 305 guy, theres a lot of reasons, and her depression is one of em too... And thats what is killing her is that I am making it seem like I am getting by just fine!! I think Id like to see her next week for an evening.. then just play it totally cool after that.. Anywayz I guess I should not get my hopes up about her coming up

**pumpd4lif** · 09-08-2006, 09:36 PM

i would just stay freinds any pain u have experianced in the past if not delt with will come out in other negitive waysbut i dont know the curcumstances of the whole situation.but u are past the hard part correct?.well gl anyway bro hope things work out in ur favor.the reason y most relationships dont work out is because people lose respect for one another .u go from being afraid to saying the wrong thing to not caring how the other person feels about what u say as long as both party,s remain to respect each other nothing but good can come out.in any relationship the excitment(infatuation)will always die down no matter what to people will only stay together if u work at it it is a full time job.as long as use to are willing to work on each other as a team and continue to respect one another use 2 will have a long lasting loving relationship.all this is coming from someone who is in love with falling in love(me).ive been married for 7 years now and the only reason y me and my wife who i have GROWN to luv so dearly because thats what happens u grow to luv someone after the infatuation were,s off.it only works if u work it.relationships are about respect team work and dedication to one another.gl again.

**needmorestrength** · 09-08-2006, 09:41 PM

Originally Posted by pumpd4lif

i would just stay freinds any pain u have experianced in the past if not delt with will come out in other negitive waysbut i dont know the curcumstances of the whole situation.but u are past the hard part correct?.well gl anyway bro hope things work out in ur favor.the reason y most relationships dont work out is because people lose respect for one another .u go from being afraid to saying the wrong thing to not caring how the other person feels about what u say as long as both party,s remain to respect each other nothing but good can come out.in any relationship the excitment(infatuation)will always die down no matter what to people will only stay together if u work at it it is a full time job.as long as use to are willing to work on each other as a team and continue to respect one another use 2 will have a long lasting loving relationship.all this is coming from someone who is in love with falling in love(me).ive been married for 7 years now and the only reason y me and my wife who i have GROWN to luv so dearly because thats what happens u grow to luv someone after the infatuation were,s off.it only works if u work it.relationships are about respect team work and dedication to one another.gl again.

As hard as that was to read LOL.. it makes perfect sense!!!! and over the last few months I havnt cared what I said to her, and thats definatly something I have corrected!!! I really really just want her back in my life

...as gay as this sounds im sitting here crying.. Just want it back and I have been doing really good to keep my distance and not act desperate

**305GUY** · 09-08-2006, 09:49 PM

Originally Posted by needmorestrength

I really really just want her back in my life

...as gay as this sounds im sitting here crying.. Just want it back

okay from the sound of this ^^ forget my previous advice and let her come over... just be a man about the situation and let her know that if you guys DO get back together that you dont have time for all this bullshit about religion and breaking up and shit... tell her your sick of playing games and love her and just want to be with her.. but be a man about it, if you catch my drift (no tears serious voice)

**pumpd4lif** · 09-08-2006, 09:52 PM

yea i know my typing is horrible.but on another note at one point and there has been many points i had to sit down with my wife and look her in the eyes after i asked her to sit down and i said i am madly in love with u this she new and her the same with me.and then i asked her y are u so mad some times what im getting at is if u sit down everytime an argument, comes up i know it is hard to be the bigger person especialy when ur rite,but ask her or urself comnly y are we yelling y are we fighting.u ever come home feeling like u want to be so nice and the instant u walk into the door ur hole mood goes down the toilet.well that is all the bad shit u and her never delt with all the direspect all the selfishness is all coming out every time u look at each other.u have to want to luv someone to luv themtak a second just a second out of everyday ur with her and just sit her down and tell her u know no matter what we dont ever halve to yell at each other or fight with each other.there will be days use to will slip up but u always have to stop and step back and ask y y am i yelling y am i being a dick or vis versa.im a asshole by nature so i am constantly working on myself but if i can do it or shall i say me and my wife can do it anybody can.i am very selfish with how i want things and i know it and my wife knows it but i am alwyas trying to change that i am going to be the best dad the best husband i can be so in the end i know that i did everything i possibly could to make my wife and little girl happy.the best thing to is always step back and look at how u r being and then look at how u want to be things will work out in the end.but u have to be happy with who u r before u can be happy with someone else.

thats it im getting my own colum in the newspaper lol gl man
religion should never be an issue if that is part of the problem if she is cristian or catholic they are supposed to not judge any one my wife is a budist and me personaly i just beleive in a higher power.religion should never get in the way of how u feel towards anyone induvidual.u should try to explain that u can support her religion and she should be able to support ur beleifs without passing judgment ONLY GOD WILL JUDGE.

**needmorestrength** · 09-08-2006, 10:34 PM

Originally Posted by 305GUY

okay from the sound of this ^^ forget my previous advice and let her come over... just be a man about the situation and let her know that if you guys DO get back together that you dont have time for all this bullshit about religion and breaking up and shit... tell her your sick of playing games and love her and just want to be with her.. but be a man about it, if you catch my drift (no tears serious voice)

TOTALLY understand and agree dude

**vermin** · 09-09-2006, 10:19 PM

Don't know your history, but you characterized her as the love of your life. If that is true, then "playing it", as various folks have suggested in various ways, does not come into to. Straight and honest is the only way to deal in that situation - if it works out then it is on an honest base that you can build off of, if it does not, then you know it is based on the absolute 100% honest you, and not on some game. Something similar to what 305 (most recently) says, I suppose.

**Polska** · 09-10-2006, 12:09 AM

where's Bojangles on this ? that cat knows his shit.

My opinion: You broke up for a reason... why beat a dead horse?

Do you know why she's crying and telling you she misses you? It's because YOU PULLED AWAY... Rejection in the ultimate challenge, and women respond to challenge. even on a subconscious, subliminal level. she may not even realise why she's missing you; but it's because you're pushing her away and she's pullng. this push/pull is universal in human pair bonding.

In the end it's all a game. that is why YOU NEVER GO BACK TO AN EX. i will live by that rule until I am dead. it's just not worth it. why go back to a dirty slate? Things may be well and good for awhile but usually just go right back down to shit.

**bor** · 09-10-2006, 03:41 AM

Originally Posted by 305GUY

sounds like your playing it pretty cool.. my advice KEEP IT UP! make her get on her knees and beg bro. trust me

I agree - you're playing it REALLY good!

Don't back down, if she wants you she'll come and get you!

Don't break your guard, think about the big picture, if you want to be with her this is what you gotta do, so do it!

BEst of luck