Advice guys and girls I'm desperate

[dedic8ed1]

There's this girl at my doctors office,real sweetheart man nice little cutie,and she's puttin out the vibe pretty strong but I'm such a bitch about throwing the game down cause I'm 26 still livin with my bro and his wife for 1 or 2 more months and I just put on 25 pounds in four months and I don't feel I'm at my most confident potential,and even know I'm not ripped like I was in april she's still on me which says alot about her ya know not shallow on the physical aspect,I really think not talking to this girl would be a mistake what should I do people?

[Foskamink]

dig deep and find ur inner self ur ripped self. my gym trainer will say
"only you can stop you"
"the ones who tell you that u cant do it are the ones who cant do it"
"u need to see where u want to be or u will never get there"

[Foskamink]

same saying 3 times... but its 3 times more then u had before!! and +3 is a lucky number

[dedic8ed1]

Great advice bro thanks,
Any females got any info

[Phreak101]

Just ask her if she'd like to grab lunch, you'll know immediately by the vibe she puts out if she's interested.

Not much more to it than that.

[Mizfit]

If She Is Giving U Vibes- Why Not See If She Wants To Go For A Drink Or Something - Can't Hurt

[doittoit]

OR SOMETHING? That's where it all starts. Damn teenagers and there hip-hop bee boppin........lol jk

[Bojangles69]

There's this girl at my doctors office,real sweetheart man nice little cutie,and she's puttin out the vibe pretty strong

who cares? shes just a girl. your overwhelming yourself with BS. JUST talk to her. it is the most normal and natural thing to want to talk to people.


[QUOTE=dedic8ed1]but I'm such a bitch about throwing the game down cause I'm 26 still livin with my bro and his wife for 1 or 2 more months [QUOTE=dedic8ed1]

you backwards rationalizing yourself OUT of the situation. you judging yourself by the perceived standards of another person (which is the number one cause of inferiority complexes btw) it DOESNT matter, YOUR making it matter. if you communicate to her you think it matters, she will too, if you communicate you dont give a shit, nor will she.

and I just put on 25 pounds in four months and I don't feel I'm at my most confident potential,and even know I'm not ripped like I was in april she's still on me which says alot about her ya know not shallow on the physical aspect,I really think not talking to this girl would be a mistake what should I do people?

hmmm. the best thing you could do is dream and fantasize about kissing her and sexing her and never actually do it. that way when your 78 you could look back at all the opportunities you let slip threw your fingers like sand. you can live a life vicariously through the eyes of other people who are in fact getting laid and have decided than can fall into a rut of "anaylsis paralysis" everytime they see a girl, or simply spark a conversation and escalate in a natural way.

if its not "natural" for you and you feel ashamed of expressing affection for a female because your a MAN and you've been raised to be independent and mummified to emotion or have compromised your esteem in some way. there only one way to overcome it, ask the fvcking girl if she she wants to hang out.

just think... how many times you could have walked by "the one" or a potential lover. just breezed on by one day and you never said a word to her but she could have been your "soul mate". how many times people pass up the chance to experience love because thier scared of something.

now im putting more pressure on you than i should though. because you shouldnt go into it looking for your "soul mate" youll become clingy or hostile far too quickly. just keep it simple. open mouth. let the words "you wanna hang out sometime" flow into her ears into her brain down to her heart and eventually to her vagina lol. serious, if you cant keep it simple do it for mankind than, because with genes like yours you are in fact "affectively sterile" and if you fail to disribute your DNA it will be weeded out of existence. if we had a world full of genes like that wed all be dead. so yeh keep it simple, no pressure, just realize the fait of mankind is riding on it .. ; )


oh btw people who have game dont "throw it down".. they play it.
your just watching from the bleachers, so dont fill your head with delusions of grandeur, it will work against you.

[dedic8ed1]

Bo jangles I must say you speak with a high level of intelegence aand I respect you for it a great deal,your advice could be no more the truth and I thank you for your input thanks guy for your help I'm gonna man up and speak to her tomorrow I'LL keep yous posted

[chest6]

Just talk to her. I have the same problem. If it goes wrong u know it wanst meant to be

[Bojangles69]

Bo jangles I must say you speak with a high level of intelegence aand I respect you for it a great deal,your advice could be no more the truth and I thank you for your input thanks guy for your help I'm gonna man up and speak to her tomorrow I'LL keep yous posted

Thank you. But if you truley want to thank me just swallow your fear, do what is the most natural thing in the world, show this woman the affection you feel for her, and dont use her response to wean out, attribute or attach any BS to your identity. Even if her response is favorable. All that means, or all ANYTHING means, is either she was meant for you or she wasnt. Read deeper into it and you'll find theres no value there, only a world of chaos and speculation that will have no real truth to afford you.

[cfiler]

Try to relax, and just talk to her. If things go well, then ask her out. Keep the pressure low for both you and her. Don't worry, it will all be fine.

[IIIIIIIIIIII]

if she works at your doctors office then CALL HER.. u wont have to be face to face and maybe ull be more comfortable over the phone.. just a thought

[mavsluva]

It's Risk vs. Reward. If you take the risk, you walk away with a reward regardless of the outcome. Here's why:

1. You're afraid to approach a woman, so here's your chance to face this fear.
2. You did it and you've now got the opportunity to establish some future plans with her. Congrats!
3. You did it and come to find out, she's not intested in you at all. This enables you to forget her and move on to the next opportunity. Better luck next time!

Take the plunge, bro. Her response, whether it be in your interest or not, will not make or break you. Heck, most of the time, the member of the opposite sex is at home having these same thoughts about YOU, so do both of yourselves a favor and go for it. Just be a gentleman and you'll do fine.

Good luck!

[rake922]

A little off topic....

dedic8ed1 , how could a woman in the doctors office frequently giving you vibes? Are you there often? I am curious.

[zimmy]

lol if she works there mang...got to tell ya from first hand experience...don't shit where you eat.

[Deluge1]

Bro just lighten up and have fun with it. Stop building things up so much in your head - thats just a resipe for disaster.

You'll obviously care if things don't work out but don't let her know that. Try to come off as indifferent as possible. Make it look like its not a big deal whether she does or not.

Personally I wouldn't ask her out on a date. Just invite her over to your house to chill and watch a movie or something - keep it casual.


And like I said before, don't build things up so much in your head. Start looking at every girl as your future EX-girlfriend.

Every girl is just practice for the next...

[Damien_III]

Its better to regret something you have done than regret something you have not done. So go for it! If she shoots you down well then at least you know which is better than sitting there thinking what if....

[dedic8ed1]

A little off topic....

dedic8ed1 , how could a woman in the doctors office frequently giving you vibes? Are you there often? I am curious.

I didn't say frequently giving me vibes,though I was there twice for 2nd time for a repeat visit for some blood work but both times there was shear text book
"Talk to me" eye contact and heavey flirting and plus she was acting nervous like she wanted me to say something but was shy about it.

[pumpd4lif]

bro u better put on that P family charm u know u got the gift of gabb so put ur thing down my brotha and let me know how bad she blushes

[carguy_z28]

Go for it bro!! If you do and you het shot down, Im sure there is lots of other doctors office's where you live!!! Kidding, you sound like your half way in with her now, just got to put the icing on the cake and ask her out!! Good luck.

[LM79]

Hell yer man go for it.

I read this thread yesterday and there is some good advise.

I broke up with my ex 2months ago, we were engaged. A couple of weeks ago i saw 1 of her bridesmade's to be... anyway she flirted with me, we had a tequella shot then went our ways.
I couldn't stop thinking about her.

So this morning i rang the beauty salon she owns and asked out.... she said yes!
so now i'm bouncing off the walls with a big stupid smile on my dial.

Just ring her man. i was going wait until i seen her again, or until i had my next chest wax at her salon. but its easy on the phone.
Just look at it like if she says no you would have still made the girls day, she would be flattered.

JUST DO IT!!!!

[dedic8ed1]

Hell yer man go for it.

I read this thread yesterday and there is some good advise.

I broke up with my ex 2months ago, we were engaged. A couple of weeks ago i saw 1 of her bridesmade's to be... anyway she flirted with me, we had a tequella shot then went our ways.
I couldn't stop thinking about her.

So this morning i rang the beauty salon she owns and asked out.... she said yes!
so now i'm bouncing off the walls with a big stupid smile on my dial.

Just ring her man. i was going wait until i seen her again, or until i had my next chest wax at her salon. but its easy on the phone.
Just look at it like if she says no you would have still made the girls day, she would be flattered.

JUST DO IT!!!!

Congrats man that's the shit bro,I'Mgoingfor it

[Bojangles69]

Congrats man that's the shit bro,I'Mgoingfor it

dude how often do you actually see this girl? just everytime you go to the doctor? because you said you'd talk to her today but todays passed and your saying your still gonna do it, im a little confused about the timeline here..

whens the next time you see her?

[dedic8ed1]

I don't have to go to the doctor so I was gonna call the office talk to my friend that works there about her and go from there

[Bojangles69]

I don't have to go to the doctor so I was gonna call the office talk to my friend that works there about her and go from there

Yeh shit it works, sometimes you just need that extra edge of attraction though the first time you met her to really make it work though.

Because theres no space to really persuade, court or seduce her through a middle man. Your kinda just placing a bet and hoping the wheel stops on red or w/e.

But if anything just make sure you so SOMETHING.

[ginkobulloba]

I was just thinking about this one time I was at the doctor's office and the nurse was this cute, little 20 something girl was definitely throwing me some good vibes. I was playing into it and I'm sure that under normal circumstances I could've at least got a number close out of the deal. Then the little cutie asks why I'm there and I pause for a second and say "I think maybe I was with a lady that wasn't so clean." She looks at me, smiles and says "Oh, well I'll leave it up to the doctor to check that out. I really hope it's nothing." Yeah, me too I said. She gives me this smile that said even if my dick was rotten she still would consider fvcking me. What a little sweetie.

Where was I going with this? Uhh, perhaps nowhere, but it's a funny story. Turns out it was a false alarm, my dick was just fine but I was too embarrased to get this girl's number. I think that's understandable though.

[slob]

ahaha gingko I don't think anyone can hate you for feeling that way after what you said hehe