What Would You Do?

[xlxBigSexyxlx]

My older bro and sister in law are 27ish. They have 2 kids, young.

They constanstly abuse drugs, drinking, and smoking. They have been in and out of jail various times. They always ask me for money and my parents. Then they come over, always drunk, and lie and steal our money and things.

They are obviously terrible role models for the kids. They are coming over now actually....to "wash the car" and they need food. Its ridicluous.

They take their daughters birthday money that she collects, and shes 5!

What should I do? I try telling them stuff, but they get mad and want to fight. I have an urge to just call the cops, cuz they would be busted easily, but is that the right thing todo? Then my parents can take the kids and actually have someone to look up to and care for them.

uuuhhh...anybody?

[Hackamaniac]

Unless the kids are in danger I wouldn't turn them in...It's a hard decision because it might be the only way they'll clean up there life..

[Merchant_of_Death412]

we waz takin care ma cuz n he acted all lik dat. ma dad unstrapped n toldem wise up fool or i dum u down. he was cool afta dat. N he got a job 2. tuff luv ma man.

[xlxBigSexyxlx]

Its like, if I dont call cops, they are gonna do something stupid and either die or end up in jail. But when? ya know....the time we wait, the more shit happens. Its been going on for years, an dits just now hitting me real bad....hell, he tried to steal my credit card to get money for smokes and beer.

IM HIS FREAKN' BROTHER!!!!!!! c'mon


well, they're disclipline is called, to normal people, child abuse.

[PROTEINSHAKE]

sometimes in life there are situations where eliminating people from you life is necessary for the good of yourself & those around you.Family is Family & it would take some pretty horrible things to make me tunr away from family. You are in a tough spot. If the kids arent in immediate danger, I would say that your bro & sis in law will eventually shoot themselves in the foot somehow.Hopefully, the kids dont get hurt in the process.When kids are involved, it changes everything.

[l2elapse]

have you talked to the kids about the parents? i think that could solve it

[xlxBigSexyxlx]

another thing, he is commisioned to carry a gun. cops have been at their apartment cuz of gun shots.

he gets drunk and target practices his closet...its crazy.

loaded guns, with a 2 and 5 year old....

[xlxBigSexyxlx]

have you talked to the kids about the parents? i think that could solve it

what do you mean? they are only 2 and 5...they dont understand much, at least the 2 year old ya know.

[Hackamaniac]

If he's shooting guns around your nephews drunk I'd have to do something...I just don't know what would be the best for everybody..

[xlxBigSexyxlx]

yeah, see I just hit a reality check. and I dotn wanna keep helping them out with their lies and sorry sick lives.

I told him the cps is gonna take the kids one day, and they both threatnted to have something "done" to me if that ever happens....i dont know what that means, but doesnt sound good.

its gonna take alot for me to call the cops on them, but Im to the point to where Im lost on what todo.

they refuse to stop their abuses....refuse to go to therpy...and they r always right, no matter what happens...

[perfectbeast2001]

bit of a predicament dude. Are the kids being abused? If so I would tell the police. If not I would just stay away from the whole family.

[PROTEINSHAKE]

ever see that show intervention? it could be time if he's shooting guns off & shit.......

[xlxBigSexyxlx]

bit of a predicament dude. Are the kids being abused? If so I would tell the police. If not I would just stay away from the whole family.

lol, thats it. I cant stay away, cuz they keep coming over. My parents would cut them off by now, but then the kids would suffer. Thats the only reason my parents keep them afloat, cuz the kids.

well, when they come over shortly, if anything gets outta hand, im standing up for myself and my mom, cuz my dads at work. Then that will probably lead to cops.

[xlxBigSexyxlx]

ever see that show intervention? it could be time if he's shooting guns off & shit.......

no I havent. can you explain please?

[PROTEINSHAKE]

its a TV show where people have hit rockbottom,whether addiction or something that is interfering with their lives & other peoples lives in the worst way..They(family or friends) call people in,cops,therapists,CPS, whatever it takes to get them on track..its a total life intervention.

[big L 17]

do your parents no that they are shooten guns with the kids in the house you need to tell them maybe they will step in

[dan991]

I would say to cut them off. Sometimes you have to literally hit rock bottom before you realize what is what. Also, instead of giving cash, and loaning money, look into gift cards. Get them gift cards where they can only buy food and clothing. No other junk. Something like Walmart or whatever. Keep in mind they can't get cash from a gift card, and if they buy anthing and return it, they'll get another gift card and not cash. Atleast this way you know the kids have food and clothes. I wouldn't give them any cash cause they'll just drink it up. Also, consider calling the Dept. of Social Services in your area and get their help. It's hard on the kids but it's better to intervene now than to have to do it later after the cops get involved and the kids are put into risky situations or harms way.

Good Luck

[xlxBigSexyxlx]

thanks ev1.

Im at a difficult point right now.

but things always seem to workout.

[PROTEINSHAKE]

good luck bro. I'm sure you will do what you feel is right.

[LatinoPR]

.....i don't know what to said.....makes me sad very sad when kids are involved....i'll pray for her...







LPR.

[Merchant_of_Death412]

ma cuz was called ronin cuz he aint lissen 2 nobody. only way deal wit dem is tuff luv. in dis case kill or b killed cuz dudes seem whack as all get out

[gixxerboy1]

ma cuz was called ronin cuz he aint lissen 2 nobody. only way deal wit dem is tuff luv. in dis case kill or b killed cuz dudes seem whack as all get out

He is asking for a serious advise. Cant you stop your retarded slang BS for a minute?. If you have something worth while to say type it like a human.

[Hellmaskbanned]

He is asking for a serious advise. Cant you stop your retarded slang BS for a minute?. If you have something worth while to say type it like a human.

Nah dawg diz hiz gangsta persona while he be on da intanet he gotz to keep dat shiet pimpen pimpen

[dedic8ed1]

Alright I have alot of experience with drug abuse and I can tell you that a family intervention is very neccessary at this point before somebody really gets hurt or the kids get put in a bad situation that can scar them for life.Your hole family must sit them down without the kids around and discuss with them that there hurting the people around them and effecting the lives of there kids dramaticly.
The only way people change there drug using life style is when there left with no choice but to do so,I don't know what kind of drugs there using but that will determine how long a road there is ahead of you and your family

"Some times people have to lose everything to gain the will to do anything"

[skipp]

IMO

If you're in a position to care for the children, I would ask them to voluntarily (sp?) enter themselves in a program. My brother was the same way, with a 6month old kid and we let him just continue and gave him foor & $$ when he needed it. And he died of an OD... I'd much rather be the asshole then a worse situation.

Goodluck bro.

[dedic8ed1]

If this guys able to carry a gun he's probably a ego maniac man as well as not being able to rationalize with his lose lose situation.It took me a short stint at sleeping in the woods and a short stay at the worlds most dangerous county jail before I realized that no one is gonna change my life but me,but there's some people out there that don't want to change and that's all up to you and your family to expose his and her problems to open there eyes to this destructive lifestyles.Another thing is that if your family keeps helping them it's not going to help the situation,but because there's kids involved they are moraly obligated.I'm really sorry to hear this man but all I can say is good luck and if you wanna PM me with questions or advice on how to go about helping them on a serious levek I'M here,

[cfiler]

I'd call child and family services. The children are suffering from not having proper parents, and may be being abused.

[dedic8ed1]

I'd call child and family services. The children are suffering from not having proper parents, and may be being abused.

Yeah but that would cause more problems and send the parents in real bender,counter productive if you ask me,once you get kids in that system it's really a difficult thing to deal with,I would say that's a last resort

[STYLE74]

ever see that show intervention? it could be time if he's shooting guns off & shit.......

DAMN bro we must think the same because i was thinking the same exact thing before i got to your post, i think they might be perfect candidates for that show the way he explains it.

[Terinox]

another thing, he is commisioned to carry a gun. cops have been at their apartment cuz of gun shots.

he gets drunk and target practices his closet...its crazy.

loaded guns, with a 2 and 5 year old....

Alright now THAT is just ridiculous. If you're being dead serious, and it's a serious post, well all I can say is the kids come first, no matter what. You're the brother, and although it's a whole different ball park when you separate children from their parents, if it's in THEIR best interest, after all, they are YOUR niece/nephew.

You try and talk, they don't listen. You try and get them some help (try, if you haven't already), and it doesn't/hasn't helped. You truly are left with no other choice here IMO.

[ginkobulloba]

I'd have them disposed of. Whacked. Murdered. You get the picture. But I live in a place where that's an easy task to accomplish. Still, worth considering.

[xlxBigSexyxlx]

Alright now THAT is just ridiculous. If you're being dead serious, and it's a serious post, well all I can say is the kids come first, no matter what. You're the brother, and although it's a whole different ball park when you separate children from their parents, if it's in THEIR best interest, after all, they are YOUR niece/nephew.

You try and talk, they don't listen. You try and get them some help (try, if you haven't already), and it doesn't/hasn't helped. You truly are left with no other choice here IMO.

Yeah, its not a joke post. Its really ****ed up. You would think being 27, they would both mature and realize what they r doing.

Im gonna try talking to them today, but it probably wont go through. my niece pretty much stays with us, cuz she hates it over there. Its like a house of hell basically....I walked in one time, and it was actually cloudy from all the smoke. Thats cant be good for the kids, plus they r always cusing and such.

[xlxBigSexyxlx]

thanks ev1 for the advice and support.

I feel like things r coming to a close very soon, but in what way, not exactly sure.

all I can say is, pray.

[Timm1704]

call the cops, and kick the living shit out of the pair of them. brother or not, they sound like real scum

[slob]

If that was my brother. I'd beat the SHIT out of him and tell him to wake the **** up. I'd drag both their asses down to the police station and threaten to report all the shit they've done.
Also I'd call some kind of child protection agency to get the kids out of there or at least try and get them in foster if you are unable to do it yourself.
That's no kind of life to be living, especially if you have kids.

[auslifta]

Hard call.but those kids are your family,you need to step in.take action to help the kids regardless of legallity.id rather have my brother off side with me knowing the kids are in good health,rather then turning a blind eye.
First,find out the extent of your legal power to step in, if that doesnt work,take your own action,and get approval from your parents.
I believe you have a duty of care for the children,i havnt had much to do with guns but i think loaded weapons and young children should be keept as far away as possibly.best of luck,ill pray for the kids.