First date suggestions/where to take her

[dedic8ed1]

I havn't gone on a serious date in 2 years I've been consumed with trying to acheive alot with out any distractions or realtionships.If I ask this girl out I don't wanna do the cheesy dinner and a movie thing I don't drink so the bar's out of the question so where should I take this girl,I need someting original any ideas?

[rake922]

you're gonna go to the doctors' office just to ask her out?

I'm just wondering

[Polska]

you haven't even asked her out yet? buddy, you're putting the horse before the chariot here...

[rake922]

you haven't even asked her out yet? buddy, you're putting the horse before the chariot here...

Yea I think you should talk to her 1st and slip her your number..

[dedic8ed1]

you're gonna go to the doctors' office just to ask her out?

I'm just wondering

Well a friend of mine asnwers the phones there so I'm gonna ask her what she thinks of her just to break the ice and then I'll tell her I want to call her and try see if it's cool

[dedic8ed1]

Slip her my # wouldn't that make me look cocky maybe that's to much pressure for her,and probably make me look stupid

[kloter1]

dont give out the number. ive done it TONS of times and 1% actually call.

take her somewhere totally out of the ordinary. something like a driving range, fishing, snorkelling... well anything on the water has always worked for me.

i lov jet skiis

[Polska]

dont give out the number. ive done it TONS of times and 1% actually call.

take her somewhere totally out of the ordinary. something like a driving range, fishing, snorkelling... well anything on the water has always worked for me.

i lov jet skiis

+1 on that. ask for her number

[gixxerboy1]

Dinner is a great first date. You guys can site and talk and get to know each other.

[cfiler]

Yeah, something different is always good. That way if the date sucks, you still had a good time doing something.

Rock climbing is pretty cool, horse back riding.

I've had real good luck with renting a scooter/moped and riding them over to a park for a picnic.

[gixxerboy1]

Yeah, something different is always good. That way if the date sucks, you still had a good time doing something.

Rock climbing is pretty cool, horse back riding.

I've had real good luck with renting a scooter/moped and riding them over to a park for a picnic.

I think for a first date you have to do something were you are interacting with each other more.

[dedic8ed1]

Alright bojangels the all advice guru give it to me champ

[Bojangles69]

I havn't gone on a serious date in 2 years I've been consumed with trying to acheive alot with out any distractions or realtionships.If I ask this girl out I don't wanna do the cheesy dinner and a movie thing I don't drink so the bar's out of the question so where should I take this girl,I need someting original any ideas?

ahahahah!!!
OK you say its been 2 years so I'll try to be reasonable with you.
Sometimes i do fvcked up shit, im not sure of your type of personality but you seem more conservative than liberative.
The BEST is to NOT let her know at all till she gets there. It works like a charm.
One time I told a girl to dress formal, than i took her ass to mickey dees. Was she angry? Yeh, but she laughed so hard and was so embarassed at the same time. I created emotions that turned into a memory shed never forget. ANd i know she secretly admired me for it. She didnt say it but she had her own way of showing me.

Here some rules, if shes classy take her to wall mart or a monster truck ralley, if shes poor or low class take her to a museum, something fancy but cheap, and a cool one if you have any locally. The key is to take her out of her element. TRUST ME when i say this shit works. Women respond sexually to novelty more than anything. Anything new gets them going, new shoes, new people, new places, new bf's, new anything.

I would just ask her if she wants to get together sometime. Tell her you want to take her out. Leave the word "date" out (read smans thread for a further explanation why)
Dont let her know anything about where shes going. All you have to do is be slightly unique in a non-wierdo way in your in. 90% of m/f'ers are taking woman to dinner, movies, bowling etc. Too conventional and lame to say the least and sure to end off with a good night kiss at the most if they're lucky. Remember.. MYSTERY, SURPRISE.
Theres a million unique places you can take her. If you find yourself in a jumble and no place is "good enough". Dont go on the date at all. Your putting her on a pedistal and you'll be doomed to failure.
2 years means shit. Throw that shit out the window, dont EXPECT shit. Go in with the "this probaly wont work out but ill enjoy it for the moment" attitude and you'll be surprised how far something as simple as SIMPLICITY itself cant take you.

[dedic8ed1]

Good advice bo thanks man

[gixxerboy1]

Bojangles gave some good advice but i think that depends on the age of the girl and its a big risk taking her to something thats complete opposite of what she likes. If she is miserable at a monster truck rally i wouldn't be surprised if she made and excuse to leave early.

There is nothing wrong with asking her what she would like to do.

[SMAN12b]

BO, you are definetly the relationship GURU !!!!

you are great!!!!!!!!

[dedic8ed1]

Yo bojagels what part of jersey you from sj canden county

[cfiler]

I think for a first date you have to do something were you are interacting with each other more.

You interact with her after the date.

[Mizfit]

Bowling is always a favorite of mine.. I SWEAR!

[Bojangles69]

Bowling is always a favorite of mine.. I SWEAR!

lewzer, stop LYING!!!!!!

[Bojangles69]

Yo bojagels what part of jersey you from sj canden county

central jerz, monmouth country area.

[Mizfit]

lewzer, stop LYING!!!!!!

what's wrong with bolwing



Joe first dates take her for drinks or dinner.

[dedic8ed1]

Bowling is always a favorite of mine.. I SWEAR!

Really I never thought of that but I guess it's things like that that are different than the bar or a resteurant,wanna go bowling

[Bojangles69]

yeh honest that another reason why MOVIE FVCKING SUCK first date. Because you dont learn a g/damn thing about the person you took.
You leave the movies all tired and shit (unless it was good which is rare) Than its like "what the fvck do we do know" hmm i can ask her to go back to my place.. NOT. because you didnt say shit to her during the movies, failed to establish comfort with her, and without comfort you have nothing, no day 2, no sex NADA ZIP ZERO ZILCH. Interaction is a must the first date. But interaction with a clutch is better. Like not where the date depends 100% on you 2 talking to each other but a place where you can interact with each other OR the environment, which ever suit the given moment best. More choices = quicker comfort. Quicker comfort = your thingy into her thingy.

[Mizfit]

ahahahah!!!
OK you say its been 2 years so I'll try to be reasonable with you.
Sometimes i do fvcked up shit, im not sure of your type of personality but you seem more conservative than liberative.
The BEST is to NOT let her know at all till she gets there. It works like a charm.
One time I told a girl to dress formal, than i took her ass to mickey dees. Was she angry? Yeh, but she laughed so hard and was so embarassed at the same time. I created emotions that turned into a memory shed never forget. ANd i know she secretly admired me for it. She didnt say it but she had her own way of showing me.

Here some rules, if shes classy take her to wall mart or a monster truck ralley, if shes poor or low class take her to a museum, something fancy but cheap, and a cool one if you have any locally. The key is to take her out of her element. TRUST ME when i say this shit works. Women respond sexually to novelty more than anything. Anything new gets them going, new shoes, new people, new places, new bf's, new anything.

I would just ask her if she wants to get together sometime. Tell her you want to take her out. Leave the word "date" out (read smans thread for a further explanation why)
Dont let her know anything about where shes going. All you have to do is be slightly unique in a non-wierdo way in your in. 90% of m/f'ers are taking woman to dinner, movies, bowling etc. Too conventional and lame to say the least and sure to end off with a good night kiss at the most if they're lucky. Remember.. MYSTERY, SURPRISE.
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Walmart? wouldn't work for me - the truck rally i might find intreging - only because i would assume he was trying to include me in something he enjoys.

In regards to the su[rise elmeent - we gotta know how to dress and what to wear.

Let me bring u back to my damn bowling thing.. Some guy took me bowling . on our first date a few yrs ago. I was wearing a mini skirt and paltforms - if i had known we were going bowling i would of #1 cancelled, but #2 - worn something different if given the option.

[gixxerboy1]

central jerz, monmouth country area.

How old are you? I know a lot of people in Monmouth county. I grew up in Tom's River.

[Mizfit]

Make sure your car is clean if you pick her up. Inside and out. Dirty cars r an isntant turn off.

Bring breath mints - badbreath is an instant turn off.

hold all doors and open her car door.

Ask her what she finds interesting, what she does in her spare time - appear interested even if your not.

[dedic8ed1]

Walmart? wouldn't work for me - the truck rally i might find intreging - only because i would assume he was trying to include me in something he enjoys.

In regards to the su[rise elmeent - we gotta know how to dress and what to wear.

Let me bring u back to my damn bowling thing.. Some guy took me bowling . on our first date a few yrs ago. I was wearing a mini skirt and paltforms - if i had known we were going bowling i would of #1 cancelled, but #2 - worn something different if given the option.

Ha!as soon as he saw the skirt he probably made a change of plans and went right to the bowling alley

[powerliftmike]

It doesnt really matter where yall go. best to be in your own element tho, otherwise chance of successful date goes down. like dont do something you know nothing about or hate. Ive had a few dates where we go out to the country and shoot my guns. alot of girls actually like that stuff. 22s are best cause the arent too loud and dont kick.

sometimes its cool not to even have a plan and just go back to her place or she come over to yours. good luck mate!

Bowling is always a favorite of mine.. I SWEAR!

I havent been bowling in like 10 yrs, but it actually alot of fun. i dont like the smoke smell everywhere tho.

[Bojangles69]

what's wrong with bolwing



Joe first dates take her for drinks or dinner.

Well first off if its the weekends they have the dj's with the music and the lights and it creates a chaotic environment where you really cant get confortable with each other, granted you can have fun. But im not taking a girl out to be her personal entertainer or circus clown. Fun is great but it works against guys at a certain extent.
Lets see, I really have no where private to isolate you in bowling alley. In a museum we can hop into one of those little shakey airplane simulators (or w/e the fvck is nearby) and make out like we're on a plane (which is cool as shit if youve never done)
I dont know i just have my preferences is all, and i have no idea who the hell joe is btw..

[powerliftmike]

Make sure your car is clean if you pick her up. Inside and out. Dirty cars r an isntant turn off.

only applies to interior. nothing better than a just coming back from off-roading. haha

Bring breath mints - badbreath is an instant turn off.

yea. thats a given.

hold all doors and open her car door.

id like to add be mindful of where you park. like dont place the passenger side next to a puddle of mud, or step hill. yea its happened.

[Mizfit]

It doesnt really matter where yall go. best to be in your own element tho, otherwise chance of successful date goes down. like dont do something you know nothing about or hate. Ive had a few dates where we go out to the country and shoot my guns. alot of girls actually like that stuff. 22s are best cause the arent too loud and dont kick.

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See i love when a guy does this. i have had guys bring me to car shows and stuff of that nautre and im happy because it shows me how they r in thier element.

You learn something about your date and they get to see how u fit.

It's an awesome game plan

[Bojangles69]

Walmart? wouldn't work for me - the truck rally i might find intreging - only because i would assume he was trying to include me in something he enjoys.

In regards to the su[rise elmeent - we gotta know how to dress and what to wear.

Let me bring u back to my damn bowling thing.. Some guy took me bowling . on our first date a few yrs ago. I was wearing a mini skirt and paltforms - if i had known we were going bowling i would of #1 cancelled, but #2 - worn something different if given the option.

OMFG wallmart rocks!!! They have beds i can throw you on, pillow fights, try on crazy hats, those little pools full of plastic balls we can wrestle in!!!!!!!!!! my wallmart is the shit..
but a lot of this really depends on the guy though too but it really is a lot easier than a lot of people think.

[gixxerboy1]

Well first off if its the weekends they have the dj's with the music and the lights and it creates a chaotic environment where you really cant get confortable with each other, granted you can have fun. But im not taking a girl out to be her personal entertainer or circus clown. Fun is great but it works against guys at a certain extent.
Lets see, I really have no where private to isolate you in bowling alley. In a museum we can hop into one of those little shakey airplane simulators (or w/e the fvck is nearby) and make out like we're on a plane (which is cool as shit if youve never done)
I dont know i just have my preferences is all, and i have no idea who the hell joe is btw..

Well that's why you don't take her to DJ's you take her to that new place in Long Branch. And you get a table. I wouldn't take her to a club which i consider DJ's for a date. Lounges are a good place.

[Mizfit]

FOR THE RECORD.

i hate bowling... some women ask men how much money they make and what kind of car they drive .. Not me

I ask if they bowl and if their sure they like women - to me the anwers tot hese questions will either win me over or make me walk away. (Men usually think me asking them if they bowl is a trick questiona nd they lie and say YEs- Dumbasses..)

[Bojangles69]

How old are you? I know a lot of people in Monmouth county. I grew up in Tom's River.

24. I know a few people from toms river too.

[powerliftmike]

dont give out the number. ive done it TONS of times and 1% actually call.

always take control. dont ever give out your number without getting hers. it takes balls to make that first phonecall and break the ice. remember girls dont have balls (not the ones i date anyway ), they wont make the call. so if you dont have her number youre screwed.

[Mizfit]

OMFG wallmart rocks!!! They have beds i can throw you on, pillow fights, try on crazy hats, those little pools full of plastic balls we can wrestle in!!!!!!!!!! my wallmart is the shit..
but a lot of this really depends on the guy though too but it really is a lot easier than a lot of people think.

Walmart here has no beds.. and it's kinda ghetto..IMO

Shopping sure we have dept stores

[Mizfit]

always take control. dont ever give out your number without getting hers. it takes balls to make that first phonecall and break the ice. remember girls dont have balls (not the ones i date anyway ), they wont make the call. so if you dont have her number youre screwed.

I give out fake numbers

I have a friend who doesn't get much traffic and pretend to be her - so the number will get them some where

[Superhuman]

who cares if everybody goes to dinner on a date? the reason is because it works... well it works for ME. if you are comfortable with yourself then it is perfect, especially if the place is busy and you have a lot of time to talk before the food comes. after the dinner take her on a long walk and sit on a park bench or something and talk to her some more kiss her