Serious need some help

**l2elapse** · 11-24-2006, 01:29 AM

Ok well some of you know that my ex and i broke up about 1.5 months ago and we dated for well over 3 years and she still means a lot to me even though she broke up with me. She still "loves" me, just doesnt think i am the one. But anyways we havent talked much at all and im not trying to get back with her but i was thinking about getting her something for christmas, just like an awesome gift like diamond earings or something with a note explaining the situation and kinda make her be like, whoa he really does love me. Good idea or no? I know some will say shes my ex and shes the ex so stay away but we were too close and knew each other too well

**LawMan018** · 11-24-2006, 01:54 AM

I know what you mean bro, and I would have done the same if we didn't break up on "bad terms". A gift for an ex... hm... Well start out with a nice card, her favorite flower, and a gift that means a lot eh? Check out the International Star Registry, type that in on google. You can name a star after her, pretty cheap too. Best gift in my opinion.

**CSAR** · 11-24-2006, 08:03 AM

Words are the best gift. Send her a nice card. Oh, and crotchless panties are awesome too! j/k Don't be offended, I'm serious about the card and nice words.

**neardark** · 11-24-2006, 08:18 AM

Originally Posted by CSAR

Words are the best gift. Send her a nice card. Oh, and crotchless panties are awesome too! j/k Don't be offended, I'm serious about the card and nice words.

If your not good with words... you buy two cards ... one with a great text in it, and another one blank.

You copy the text on the blank card.... be sure to make mistakes so that she thinks that you wrote it...

Dont forget to throw the other card in the thrash.

**MAXIMA5** · 11-24-2006, 08:40 AM

Originally Posted by neardark

If your not good with words... you buy two cards ... one with a great text in it, and another one blank.

You copy the text on the blank card.... be sure to make mistakes so that she thinks that you wrote it...

Dont forget to throw the other card in the thrash.

yOU'RE AN EVIL GENIUS. I NEVER THOUGHT OF THAT.

**epc512** · 11-24-2006, 08:55 AM

if she breaks up with u then she doesnt love you..even though she says she does...similar experience here....dont believe her and dont waste your money.

***G-1000*** · 11-24-2006, 09:03 AM

Originally Posted by neardark

If your not good with words... you buy two cards ... one with a great text in it, and another one blank.

You copy the text on the blank card.... be sure to make mistakes so that she thinks that you wrote it...

Dont forget to throw the other card in the thrash.

I'm going to try this

**beuleux** · 11-24-2006, 09:19 AM

Originally Posted by epc512

if she breaks up with u then she doesnt love you..even though she says she does...similar experience here....dont believe her and dont waste your money.

Been there too bro, get used to it bud theres plenty more heartache on lifes highway.

If it doesnt kill you it makes you stronger

**epc512** · 11-24-2006, 09:39 AM

damn females....wicked creatures

**Andorious** · 11-24-2006, 11:01 AM

Originally Posted by justinandrews7

Ok well some of you know that my ex and i broke up about 1.5 months ago and we dated for well over 3 years and she still means a lot to me even though she broke up with me. She still "loves" me, just doesnt think i am the one. But anyways we havent talked much at all and im not trying to get back with her but i was thinking about getting her something for christmas, just like an awesome gift like diamond earings or something with a note explaining the situation and kinda make her be like, whoa he really does love me. Good idea or no? I know some will say shes my ex and shes the ex so stay away but we were too close and knew each other too well

either your in denial or you dont realize what your saying. why would you get an ex diamond earings if your not trying to get back together?
a card is a nice idea, or something super small if you guys are still close which it sounds like your not cause you said you havent talked much. if you want to let her know you still love her, you can make her realize that with nice words and a sentimental gift. If you know her as well as you say you do, you will be able to think of something that reminds her of how well u know her. many girls will attribute your paying attention and getting to know her on such a deep level, as love, and consider it a rarity among men.
saw someone mention the star thing, that has had mixed reactions. some girls actually have said to me their bf did it, and it was the most pointless gift they ever got.

**king6** · 11-24-2006, 11:05 AM

Do you want to get back together?

**thebritskie** · 11-24-2006, 11:16 AM

yeah diamond earrings sound like kind of a big gesture. i dont know your exact situation but i dont think a really big gift is going to help.

**paulzane** · 11-24-2006, 11:21 AM

Tell her to "fcuk off" ..... use the money to have a blow out or spend it on a date with a new chick!

**needmorestrength** · 11-24-2006, 01:21 PM

Originally Posted by neardark

If your not good with words... you buy two cards ... one with a great text in it, and another one blank.

You copy the text on the blank card.... be sure to make mistakes so that she thinks that you wrote it...

Dont forget to throw the other card in the thrash.

Absolutly amazing

**l2elapse** · 11-24-2006, 02:21 PM

Originally Posted by Andorious

either your in denial or you dont realize what your saying. why would you get an ex diamond earings if your not trying to get back together?
a card is a nice idea, or something super small if you guys are still close which it sounds like your not cause you said you havent talked much. if you want to let her know you still love her, you can make her realize that with nice words and a sentimental gift. If you know her as well as you say you do, you will be able to think of something that reminds her of how well u know her. many girls will attribute your paying attention and getting to know her on such a deep level, as love, and consider it a rarity among men.
saw someone mention the star thing, that has had mixed reactions. some girls actually have said to me their bf did it, and it was the most pointless gift they ever got.

im not in denial, and our situation is pretty unique as she still means a lot to me so i just wanted to make sure how she knows much she does mean to me

**mick-g** · 11-24-2006, 02:28 PM

A girl that breaks up with a guy and say that "your not the one" has 1. most likely found someone else, or 2. wants to causual date other ppl. Buying her expensive jewelry is just going to make her feel uncomfortable and you foolish. Get real bro and face the facts. Yes you can maybe be friends, but i think the bf/gf thing is out.

**Andorious** · 11-25-2006, 10:22 AM

Originally Posted by justinandrews7

im not in denial, and our situation is pretty unique as she still means a lot to me so i just wanted to make sure how she knows much she does mean to me

as i said then, get something smaller, cause if she accepts those earings, then you two just drift apart further, ur really gonna regret it. you may not think so now but that's cause she has probly been you whole world for 3 years or w/e. but U WILL regret it if it doesnt work out. if u wanna make the effort, i encourage that, cause u should go after what/who you want. but dont spend that much, it isnt needed.

**Johny-too-small** · 11-25-2006, 10:57 AM

Bro, dont let the door hit you harder than it has to on your way out. She "kicked" you out.

Like many of us bros that are in your situation or have been in your situation, the emotional shock can be huge. I think that your in shock, buddy. Its hard to realize that, yes, you're on your own now. She made that decision for you.
The sooner you start taking care of yourself, the sooner you can start moving forward again. A few months from now you'll be living life without regret but she wont when she sees how much better you are.

**bigbouncinballs** · 11-25-2006, 11:28 AM

write her a letter telling her how you feel and that it was great while it lasted and that you'll always remember what you had blah, blah, blah. go get a single rose today and stick between some books to flatten it out and put it in with the letter. thoughtful but not overdone

**prncezzml** · 11-25-2006, 11:33 AM

Originally Posted by justinandrews7

im not in denial, and our situation is pretty unique as she still means a lot to me so i just wanted to make sure how she knows much she does mean to me

So wait, why did u guys break up? She said "I love you, but you're not the one"? I definitley would NOT get her anything for x-mas. I would say you could maybe send her a holiday card and maybe some nice chocolates or something, otherwise she might think you're being a stalker.

**prncezzml** · 11-25-2006, 11:35 AM

Originally Posted by mick-g

A girl that breaks up with a guy and say that "your not the one" has 1. most likely found someone else, or 2. wants to causual date other ppl. Buying her expensive jewelry is just going to make her feel uncomfortable and you foolish. Get real bro and face the facts. Yes you can maybe be friends, but i think the bf/gf thing is out.

agreed

**Rye_guy** · 11-25-2006, 01:21 PM

dude, if your both over, and your not tryin to get back with her, why the hell would you get her an xmas gift, let alone diamond earings?

send her an xmas card with a pic of you shagin some twinkie... that;d be a good gift.

**MAXIMA5** · 11-25-2006, 04:08 PM

I agree. Don't waste your money and make yourself look stupid.
If you dated her, you should know her parents. Send them a card. They'll be sure to tell her you did, and she'll wonder why she didnt get one.

My ex does this to me every year and my parents always bring it up in front of my fiancee. My ex is kind of sneaky in that regard, but it might work for you.

**Foskamink** · 11-25-2006, 04:13 PM

Originally Posted by justinandrews7

Ok well some of you know that my ex and i broke up about 1.5 months ago and we dated for well over 3 years and she still means a lot to me even though she broke up with me. She still "loves" me, just doesnt think i am the one. But anyways we havent talked much at all and im not trying to get back with her but i was thinking about getting her something for christmas, just like an awesome gift like diamond earings or something with a note explaining the situation and kinda make her be like, whoa he really does love me. Good idea

sorta like me in a way. but yeh man get the earings thats what im saving for at the moment. just do it dont listen to another person, its got nothing to do with the price or meterial object, its the value of the commiment time and dedication you put into getting her a gift of this, im getting mine them because i think she deserves them and will look good on her and i want to be the one to buy her them, and make sure u tell her nothing is as beautiful as her but this is the closest thing you could find, corny some may say but its often true if ur in love.

**MAXIMA5** · 11-25-2006, 04:14 PM

Mink,

it's his EX, not his girlfriend or some chick he's dating. Some would call it creepy.

**cfiler** · 11-25-2006, 04:27 PM

The best would be something to make her think.

You could create a cd, with all her favorite songs, and be sure to start with your old song (chicks always have a song, either the first time you danced together, or what was playing when you first kissed, ect.)

A picture of the two of you having fun before you broke up.

A copy of her favorite movie, of the first movie that the two of you watched together.

A dozen of her favorite flowers.

Something to remind her of the "good times" when you were dating. It will show her that you still want to be with her, and that you put effort into the gift.

**K.Biz** · 11-25-2006, 05:28 PM

Seriously, write her a letter. dont give her a gift.

first of all she doesnt deserve a gift, let alone f*ckin diamond earings.. are you out of your f*cking mind? dude shes your EX. thats right your EX.

ok let it settle in. EX

aight now that we have got through that. dont buy her a gift. your words in a card should be enough. and think of it this way. u had to spend money to get her that card. so thats the gift. man some guys just dont get the hint. if she wants to be back together with you. then she will after she reads your card. if not then u wasted who knows how much money on the earings. DO NOT buy her earings... i repeat DO NOT BUY HER EARINGS. shes not worth it. your better then that bro

**l2elapse** · 11-25-2006, 07:14 PM

Originally Posted by cfiler

The best would be something to make her think.

You could create a cd, with all her favorite songs, and be sure to start with your old song (chicks always have a song, either the first time you danced together, or what was playing when you first kissed, ect.)

A picture of the two of you having fun before you broke up.

A copy of her favorite movie, of the first movie that the two of you watched together.

A dozen of her favorite flowers.

Something to remind her of the "good times" when you were dating. It will show her that you still want to be with her, and that you put effort into the gift.

good ideas but im not trying to get back with her

**Kale** · 11-25-2006, 07:17 PM

Originally Posted by neardark

If your not good with words... you buy two cards ... one with a great text in it, and another one blank.

You copy the text on the blank card.... be sure to make mistakes so that she thinks that you wrote it...

Dont forget to throw the other card in the thrash.

You win the "Sneaky Bastard of the Year" award. Brilliant !!!

**Bojangles69** · 11-25-2006, 07:32 PM

Originally Posted by justinandrews7

Ok well some of you know that my ex and i broke up about 1.5 months ago and we dated for well over 3 years and she still means a lot to me even though she broke up with me. She still "loves" me, just doesnt think i am the one. But anyways we havent talked much at all and im not trying to get back with her but i was thinking about getting her something for christmas, just like an awesome gift like diamond earings or something with a note explaining the situation and kinda make her be like, whoa he really does love me. Good idea or no? I know some will say shes my ex and shes the ex so stay away but we were too close and knew each other too well

I hate to explain people to themselves.. but just my opinion that you ARE trying to get back together with her.
People will decieve themselves right up untill the point they get a big flat "get the f out of my life" comment from thier ex.

That may or may not be the case with you, or you just may or may not *believe that is the case. But i would advise you to absolutely NOT under NO circumstances even drop a dime on her. (they may have sounded like "dont kill her " in ebonics)
But serious, I have this weird feeling that she knows how much you love her already. A lot of times guys think the problem is that she doesnt know how much he loves her. When in fact, she does know.. exactly how much.. and that is exactly why she cut him off.

An abundance of love will often scare some chik off way quicker than a lack of love.. trust me.

**l2elapse** · 11-25-2006, 07:49 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

I hate to explain people to themselves.. but just my opinion that you ARE trying to get back together with her.
People will decieve themselves right up untill the point they get a big flat "get the f out of my life" comment from thier ex.

That may or may not be the case with you, or you just may or may not *believe that is the case. But i would advise you to absolutely NOT under NO circumstances even drop a dime on her. (they may have sounded like "dont kill her " in ebonics)
But serious, I have this weird feeling that she knows how much you love her already. A lot of times guys think the problem is that she doesnt know how much he loves her. When in fact, she does know.. exactly how much.. and that is exactly why she cut him off.

An abundance of love will often scare some chik off way quicker than a lack of love.. trust me.

for like the 5th time im not trying to get back with her. If i wanted to get back with her i would talk to her about getting back together

**Bojangles69** · 11-25-2006, 08:17 PM

Originally Posted by justinandrews7

for like the 5th time im not trying to get back with her. If i wanted to get back with her i would talk to her about getting back together

Than you must be one of those altruistic people.
I'll put it this way, if you have the money and feel that obligated to do a good deed and reward someone with diamonds who imo doesnt deserve shit, than go for it.
I still would not advise it however, the logistics of it just dont resonate with my thought process.

**Carlos_E** · 11-26-2006, 07:35 AM

Originally Posted by justinandrews7

Ok well some of you know that my ex and i broke up about 1.5 months ago and we dated for well over 3 years and she still means a lot to me even though she broke up with me. She still "loves" me, just doesnt think i am the one. But anyways we havent talked much at all and im not trying to get back with her but i was thinking about getting her something for christmas, just like an awesome gift like diamond earings or something with a note explaining the situation and kinda make her be like, whoa he really does love me. Good idea or no? I know some will say shes my ex and shes the ex so stay away but we were too close and knew each other too well

Bad idea. If you two broke up she does not deserve diamond earrings or any expensive gift. Do not try and buy someone's affection. It's how you end up being used. If you want to show her how you feel just tell her. Write her a letter and send flowers.

**Carlos_E** · 11-26-2006, 07:43 AM

If you do not want her back why do you want to let her know how much you love her? Remember, you're not the one for her. Move on and save the diamond earrings for "the one."

**guest589745** · 11-26-2006, 08:35 AM

**** that, she'll probly take the earrings and wear em when she goes out with her new boyfriend, **** that.

**MAXIMA5** · 11-26-2006, 08:40 AM

Originally Posted by Carlos_E

Bad idea. If you two broke up she does not deserve diamond earrings or any expensive gift.

I agree.
No earings. She'll wear them with a matching pearl necklace some other dude gives her.

**guest589745** · 11-26-2006, 08:45 AM

You have to remember girls don't think like that.

She's not gonna say "Wow he really does love me"

Shes gonna say "Why did he get me these? Doensn't he get it? God. Oh well, I can sell em on ebay and buy some *Edited* I guess...."

**MAXIMA5** · 11-26-2006, 08:56 AM

Hahahaha!

**Carlos_E** · 11-26-2006, 10:11 AM

Originally Posted by Skullsmasher

**** that, she'll probly take the earrings and wear em when she goes out with her new boyfriend, **** that.

Originally Posted by MAXIMA5

She'll wear them with a matching pearl necklace some other dude gives her.

Exactly! Why do you want to make her look better for someone else? That's why I don't give ex boyfriends cycle advice. I tell them to run dbol and winny tab cycles for 20 weeks.

**guest589745** · 11-26-2006, 10:24 AM

Originally Posted by Carlos_E

Exactly! Why do you want to make her look better for someone else? That's why I don't give ex boyfriends cycle advice. I tell them to run dbol and winny tab cycles for 20 weeks.

So bajanbastard is your ex?! LMOA !!!

Read his recent posts and you'll know what I mean lol.

Jokes you guys, jokes.

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