Need Girl Advice Please!

[briancb1]

Arrite bros...

When I started dating my current GF, we used to fool around quite a bit. She would never go too far, but I had some - she's a virgin "saving" herself for marriage.
By the 3rd to 4th month she decided that even dry fvking was too much and said it was too much......its now month 9.

So I've been a huge PUSSY and took her rules for the last 4 months, doing nothing sexually.... its bugged me but I hate seeing her cry whenever I tell her I want more for her and its not easy - my weak spot I guess.

Now I meet this total BOMBSHELL HOTTIE (5'1" 105lbs, B cups, tight ass, tan, jet black hair...) through one of my friends and she is really into me and she digs my body (gotta love that), and our personalities are very compatible.

She want's to go out some time with me like right now, but I've been comming up with excuses about work and school stuff and she's just waiting to hang out with me again....

Christmas is right around the corner and my current GF's birthday is like at the end of this month...
I know i start anything I should break her off first, but I feel like a total dick doing that now, when she prolly wants me around the most...

What would you do, seriously no crazy answers....


between a rock and a hard place

[king6]

You shouldn't feel bad, it's not really natural to not have sex, it messes with your head. Do you love your current gf? I'm guessing not, because you are considering leaving her. I admit the timing is pretty horrible, with the holidays and all, but by saying she is saving herself for marrige, she is putting alot of commitment pressure on you, which is not right. If you are having doubts now then you best break it off, while you have a rebound girl lined up. Otherwise it will just end later, or you will marry her, either way.

[lucabratzi]

well if u think ur goin to marry the girl and u think u can wait then u should...doesnt sound like ur goin to marry this girl and ur frustrated with gettin no poon...if it really bothers u that much then dump her and move on...but i would dump her before holidays and **ay..save urself some money...

[prncezzml]

You shouldn't feel bad, it's not really natural to not have sex, it messes with your head. Do you love your current gf? I'm guessing not, because you are considering leaving her. I admit the timing is pretty horrible, with the holidays and all, but by saying she is saving herself for marrige, she is putting alot of commitment pressure on you, which is not right. If you are having doubts now then you best break it off, while you have a rebound girl lined up. Otherwise it will just end later, or you will marry her, either way.

Well he KNEW she was saving herself for marriage from the beginning, so if he can't hold out he shouldn't have been with her in the first place. If she's not ready for sex, then that's a valid and brave choice. Not saying I could ever do it, but some people have deep religious values.

To original poster: You sound like you are probably young, and probably not ready to get married, so do the honorable thing and let her go before you hurt her even more by cheating on her. I know guys can only hold out for so long She will be OK, yeah it sucks, but if you're not willing to wait for her and stay faithful, you need to tell her.

[soccer#3]

i'd dump her. sounds like ur after 2 different things. u want action and she wants comedy. the two dont mix. dump her easy cuz its christmas i guess and start datin the other "hottie". good luck

[ToTheBuckeT21]

I had a girl say she was saving it for marriage.. one of the nicest girls i've ever known real church goer and all that jazz, we still hooked up and whatever and started dating she was 22 and about 2 months into it she finally decided that she would be happier having sex with me before moving away to school and regret not doing it.. i told her no because i respected everything she believed in but she talked me into it.. so the savin for marriage card only goes so far.. but like it was sad not having sex is not good, its not natural for the human body and mind. If you don't think you are going to marry her don't live your life based upon her beliefs.

[briancb1]

I've asked her about marriage, and she says its at least 7 years down the road.... I'm 22, so 22+7 = 29 = basically having sex twice when I was in my twenties (from a previous hack girl, god alcohol is evil....) not ideal I guess.


I guess I will wait to see how serious this new girl really is. I mean if she just wants to fvck and then gets bored of me then I guess thats nothing to jump at either.

My friends can turn girls in and out sooo fast its unbelievable. I have a hard time dumping girls.... her parents and her entire family like me so much its unbelieveable. Her friends think I'm the "perfect match" for her....

Damn I wish I was a little more tough

[prncezzml]

I've asked her about marriage, and she says its at least 7 years down the road.... I'm 22, so 22+7 = 29 = basically having sex twice when I was in my twenties (from a previous hack girl, god alcohol is evil....) not ideal I guess.


I guess I will wait to see how serious this new girl really is. I mean if she just wants to fvck and then gets bored of me then I guess thats nothing to jump at either.

My friends can turn girls in and out sooo fast its unbelievable. I have a hard time dumping girls.... her parents and her entire family like me so much its unbelieveable. Her friends think I'm the "perfect match" for her....

Damn I wish I was a little more tough

It's OK to not ALWAYS be a tough ass. Would you want to turn girls in and out and hurt people? It doesn't sound like it. But if you are staying with her just because you're scared to leave her, then I guess you do have to get a little tough.

[TheMachine]

It's OK to not ALWAYS be a tough ass. Would you want to turn girls in and out and hurt people? It doesn't sound like it. But if you are staying with her just because you're scared to leave her, then I guess you do have to get a little tough.

Agreed

[abstrack]

If you love her and think that she is the one then it may all be worth it, but if you can honestly just she isnt the one then I would take the other girl out and take advantage of the opportunity.

[needmorestrength]

dude it sounds like the girl I just stopped dating.. Because of religious reasons she wanted to wait until she was married, and to be truthful I would have waited... She was awsome, trust worthy, etc... buuuut that ended... stupid nurses work too much!!!

[briancb1]

Dude I would wait a year or a couple if I knew if she was the one, but even mentioning it gets her all worked up (doesn't like to talk about it). She hasn't said that she thinks I'm marriage material or what not, even though I told her that she would make a good wife (with all honesty).

I think I will just take it step by step. I'm not going to pull a typical "be an ass hole for no reason for 2 weeks then break up with her after I start a fight" kind of a deal.

[Z12]

NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!! If you've only slept with a couple girls, a couple times, then the last thing you are ready for is marriage. If you waited seven years to sleep with this girl, girl number three, then you will have missed out on so many other, willing girls, you will regret it. The last thing you want to be is a grown man with regrets about how many girls you've slept with.

Also, if she says 7 years until marriage, then I don't think she's that into you. If she was, she'd want to get married tomorrow, snatch you up while she can. Enjoy your youth and don't get stuck with somebody who is gonna string you along for so many years. -Z

[abstrack]

Wait until you get your x-mass presents then dump her,lol

Just make sure you dont spend to much on her.

[needmorestrength]

Wait until you get your x-mass presents then dump her,lol

Just make sure you dont spend to much on her.

terrible

[BIG TEXAN]

Wait until you get your x-mass presents then dump her,lol

Just make sure you dont spend to much on her.

LMAO!!! What a prick....

prncezzml has by far given ya the best advice...

[captainfalcon]

Well he KNEW she was saving herself for marriage from the beginning, so if he can't hold out he shouldn't have been with her in the first place. If she's not ready for sex, then that's a valid and brave choice. Not saying I could ever do it, but some people have deep religious values.

To original poster: You sound like you are probably young, and probably not ready to get married, so do the honorable thing and let her go before you hurt her even more by cheating on her. I know guys can only hold out for so long She will be OK, yeah it sucks, but if you're not willing to wait for her and stay faithful, you need to tell her.

well put

[Bojangles69]

Arrite bros...

When I started dating my current GF, we used to fool around quite a bit. She would never go too far, but I had some - she's a virgin "saving" herself for marriage.
By the 3rd to 4th month she decided that even dry fvking was too much and said it was too much......its now month 9.

So I've been a huge PUSSY and took her rules for the last 4 months, doing nothing sexually.... its bugged me but I hate seeing her cry whenever I tell her I want more for her and its not easy - my weak spot I guess.

Now I meet this total BOMBSHELL HOTTIE (5'1" 105lbs, B cups, tight ass, tan, jet black hair...) through one of my friends and she is really into me and she digs my body (gotta love that), and our personalities are very compatible.

She want's to go out some time with me like right now, but I've been comming up with excuses about work and school stuff and she's just waiting to hang out with me again....

Christmas is right around the corner and my current GF's birthday is like at the end of this month...
I know i start anything I should break her off first, but I feel like a total dick doing that now, when she prolly wants me around the most...

What would you do, seriously no crazy answers....


between a rock and a hard place

Ahh dude, DO WHAT THE FVCK YOU WANT.
WHY?
Its gonna happen anyway. The longer you drag the shit out the harder you make it and more chance you'll only prolong her resistance to the situation ending or the pain she experiences when it does.
Your answer to problems is not to be a nice guy or wait till when the "timing" is right.
And you know what? Thats even worse to wait till Christmas. Your anchoring another memory into her mind that she will reflect on when your gone after the holidays and its just more shit she has to train her mind to disassociate from.

If it was me I would by default realize these facts. I would know Im actually making things worse.
Id call up my gf and tell her a more ambigous and vague version of what you told us making it absolutely impossible for her to press for detail. Dont get cold on her but dont give in to anything you dont feel or want to do either.

Be human, tell her the deal. She WILL RESPECT YOU MORE FOR IT.
How many fvcking times some chik told me "ohh i need some time" or "i love you but im really too busy with work and school" or some bullshit.
F**K THAT!
If you love someone nothing gets between that, there is no "excuses".
Love conquers all.
And its great when they want to be "friends" but you actually cant because you dont respect the way they broke up with you and realized if they were straighforward and honest youd actually respect them more for it. (bo doesnt hear those excuses anymore though lol)

Its perfectly ok to be sex hungry or w/e. EVERYONE goes through phases. Its the only way anyone grows. People ex's are out ****ing random strangers now and former sluts are in monotonous relationships. Its life bro, just go with the flow.

[chest6]

I always like Bojangle's responses to girl probs..and I agree with yet another hee..

U need to tell her whats up...plain and simple

[sbeast007]

would she be willing to try other stuff like oral thats not too bad then..after doing that for a while she might be desperate for a bit

[sofus99]

Well imagine that you wait those "at least seven years", get married, and then find out that you are COMPLETELY incompatible in bed. Don't laugh, it does happen on occasion that people who otherwise seem like the perfect couple just can't make it work sexually.

Dude, don't waste that many years of your life waiting for something that MAY happen one day in the distant future. With the chance of sounding like a primitive beast, I would never involve myself with someone I had not been to bed with - when the sex it great it is 10% of a relationship, when it sucks it is 90% of it - and when it is non existent, it is a pain in the ass.

Kudos to you for respecting her beliefs and wishes, but as many others already said, sex is really a solid part of a modern relationship, and denying it to your partner will most likely leave him or her so frustrated that the person will eventually seek it elsewhere.

Do the right thing, tell her how you feel, in as gentle a way as possible, and break of the relationship so you can find some girl more compatible with your own state of mind.

[king6]

Or wait those seven years, and then she decides she doesn't want to marry you. Then your a 29 y/o guy who has only slept with a couple of girls. That is wasted youth.

[perfectbeast2001]

so if she wont have sex cant you do other stuff instead (oral ect). If not then dump her ass.

[gixxerboy1]

Also it sounds to me like there are some real issues why she wont have sex. If she is starting to cry when you talk about it then i would think its more then just i want to wait for marriage.

[briancb1]

ehhh, no she won't touch me in anyway. Asking her to put my johnson in her mouth is like asking for a million dollars, already been down that road.

These are all really good valid points you guys are making.

Here is my new question:
What should I do:

A) Wait to see what really happens with the new girl. If things start to get serious, break it off with my GF, holidays or not

B) Same as "A", just after the holidays.

C) Break it off with my GF just because "the relationship is nice, but I found out its really not for me". Getting the new girls is not a factor.

D) ***A Choice I Missed***


Thanks Guys/Girls

[mavsluva]

I think you need to evaluate what's best for you in looking at it in two ways; short term and long term desires. If you can vision yourself being with your girlfriend long term, then your short term desire (this other girl) should not be a consideration. If you cannot vision yourself being with your girlfriend long term, then your short term desire should be to make a change.

Making decisions based upon long term desires always enables us to use better short term judgement.

[Chitown Raider]

I would take some time and go out with the other chic n see if she puts out. If she she does keep her on the side for rainy days.

[Kale]

Whats wrong with ? Thats not real sex is it ?

[Timm1704]

tough call, but what everyone has said is what i was gonna say. if you dont see your future being with your current girl, get rid, post haste! i myself wouldnt even consider being with a girl who was into the whole "no sex after marriage" thing, you must have realised this when you got with her? or did you just assume it was a gimmick?

[beuleux]

Excuse my ignorance but what is dry fcuking?

[Timm1704]

Excuse my ignorance but what is dry fcuking?

i think its when you basically both get naked, and instead of any intercourse you just rub bodies lol. to me, that sounds very painful as it would take alot longer. id imagine russell the sex muscle would be red raw

[beuleux]

I've asked her about marriage, and she says its at least 7 years down the road.... I'm 22, so 22+7 = 29 = basically having sex twice when I was in my twenties (from a previous hack girl, god alcohol is evil....) not ideal I guess.


I guess I will wait to see how serious this new girl really is. I mean if she just wants to fvck and then gets bored of me then I guess thats nothing to jump at either.

My friends can turn girls in and out sooo fast its unbelievable. I have a hard time dumping girls.... her parents and her entire family like me so much its unbelieveable. Her friends think I'm the "perfect match" for her....

Damn I wish I was a little more tough

Am I reading this right... You are 22 and have had sex on only two occaisions in your life? If thats the case the only advice you need my friend is you need to get out more, there is a whole world out there with loads of punani get out there and live a little, you wont be sorry.

[Superhuman]

LISTEN BRO!!!! Sex isn't everything... it's sooooo hard to find a good girl nowadays. The fact that she is saving herself is awesome... Especially if she is hot! Who cares about some hot horny slut when you have a girl here who you could possibly spend your life with and have AMAZING sex with! ALSO, you know that your current gf doesn't have some dirty little past u know?

I would use the holidays and her birthday to sit down and talk with your current gf about the future. See if you think that you will be together forever and imagine yourself walking down the aisle with her. If you guys can make it work then stay with her and DON'T **** around

HOWEVER, if your current girl is wishy-washy and isn't sure if she wants to marry you and loves you, then dump her ass and go hook up with the hot little slut!

[beuleux]

Girls that like sex are not sluts, they are just people that enjoy life, Most if not all the guys here like sex and have had sex with more than one woman... are they all sluts too. To call a girl a slut because shes had more than one partner is nothing more than puritanical double standards. Why dont we all go out and buy our women a nice blue baggy thing with eye vents to wear. This is the 3rd millennia f'fux sake... Humans (men and women) have sex with eachother! its a fact of life.

[abstrack]

Girls that like sex are not sluts, they are just people that enjoy life, Most if not all the guys here like sex and have had sex with more than one woman... are they all sluts too. To call a girl a slut because shes had more than one partner is nothing more than puritanical double standards. Why dont we all go out and buy our women a nice blue baggy thing with eye vents to wear. This is the 3rd millennia f'fux sake... Humans (men and women) have sex with eachother! its a fact of life.

[stayinstacked]

First off, sex is just part of a healthy relationship. Second, she is saying that she wants to wait at least 7 years to get married? Well, sounds like she has it all figured out then doesn't she? Doesn't sound like an exciting relationship to me man. There are just some things in life you can't plan. You just feel a certain way and you go with it, moments like these are what makes life so special. Some of these people have this huge game plan for their life, what college they want to be in, what job they want to do, when and where they want to get married, where they want to live, etc. But as you mature you realize that the road you may have went down was a hell of alot different than you planned on, but your the guy who is happy, and the asshole who had everything figured out is miserable.

[beuleux]

First off, sex is just part of a healthy relationship. Second, she is saying that she wants to wait at least 7 years to get married? Well, sounds like she has it all figured out then doesn't she? Doesn't sound like an exciting relationship to me man. There are just some things in life you can't plan. You just feel a certain way and you go with it, moments like these are what makes life so special. Some of these people have this huge game plan for their life, what college they want to be in, what job they want to do, when and where they want to get married, where they want to live, etc. But as you mature you realize that the road you may have went down was a hell of alot different than you planned on, but your the guy who is happy, and the asshole who had everything figured out is miserable.

Well said!... BTW your avy is just so wrong.. so funny but yet so wrong

[ecs44]

throw one on her when she is sleeping,glue those cheeks then tell her she had a wet dream

[Chitown Raider]

First off, sex is just part of a healthy relationship. Second, she is saying that she wants to wait at least 7 years to get married? Well, sounds like she has it all figured out then doesn't she? Doesn't sound like an exciting relationship to me man. There are just some things in life you can't plan. You just feel a certain way and you go with it, moments like these are what makes life so special. Some of these people have this huge game plan for their life, what college they want to be in, what job they want to do, when and where they want to get married, where they want to live, etc. But as you mature you realize that the road you may have went down was a hell of alot different than you planned on, but your the guy who is happy, and the asshole who had everything figured out is miserable.

Good points bro.

[Terinox]

I can't speak from experience, because I really have none, but, here is my 0.02 cents anyways.

First off, you've been with this girl for only 9 months, and she says she wants to wait 7 years to get married. What makes you think you two would even get married, and if you did end up getting married, there is just far too much time from now until then to know what will happen, a million things could come up. Now I'm not saying it's just all about sex, but 7 years? Are you kidding me? This sounds really bad, and I don't mean it to, but what if in your 6th year of waiting for number 7, you get hit by a bus and die (God forbid), but it IS possible, and poof, there goes 6 years of possible sexual pleasure down the drain.

Second, why does she go all emotion when you talk about it? There could be some sensitive issues in her past. Childhood drama? Sexual abuse? Etc... It has only been 9 months, I mean, how well could you even know her? Are you completely open about everything? Do you know her inside and out? Etc...

Don't get into the game of juggling the girls. Either break it off with this one now, and then explore other options, but do not put 2 girls on the table, it will complicate things, and if you do cheat on the current GF, she will not forgive you and it'll just make things messy.