I totally think it is a crutch. There are lots of things that you want to do in the moment but should take some time to think about. We are evolved creatures who can make rational decisions in the face of carnal desires. Just my opinion
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I totally think it is a crutch. There are lots of things that you want to do in the moment but should take some time to think about. We are evolved creatures who can make rational decisions in the face of carnal desires. Just my opinion
I am 37 near your age and I think cheating is terribly wrong.Quote:
Originally Posted by beuleux
Oh yeh so you are, I wasnt meaning any one person in particular, I dont mean just on the board, there are a lot of youngsters who speak with the blinkers of youthfull idealism in general, anyway peoples cirmumstances very so widely I dont think anyone has the right to say they should or shouldnt do it, I was defending the right to cheat if one felt it absolutely necessary and unavoidable but I dont agree with cheating as a sport if you like when one has all the benefits of an otherwise normal happy relationship. So to answer Narks original question YES it is an emotional crutch, Ive never heard a fat person try to justify being fat by saying Im geneticaly programmed to like fatty food, besides women cheat too the genetic argument doesnt extend to them so whats thier excuse. All said and done a long time close friend of mine cheats on his wife left right and centre, rightly or wrongly its not for me to say, I dont despise him and I trust him implicity just like I did before he started cheating, hes the same guy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Carlos_E
People ask if im on steroids now. I say no because....im not. I do know what you're saying though. Lying is never a good thing, even in cases where "the lie would do more good than the truth" and to be in those sort of situations in the first place something ****ed up has happened. The more people lie and think they can get away with it, the more they'll do it...like a bad habit. Like Johan said, yes we're animals but we're evolved animals, we're beyond primal instincts. My mate last night told me he's unhappy in his relationship. He's told me he takes his girlfriend for granted and believes he's not good enough for her and basically just wants to be on his own for awhile now but doesn't want to break up with her cause it will destroy her. He hasn't cheated on her but I told him he's either gotta fix that or move on. Cause five years from now, if he's still with her, and he's still unhappy, the need to cheat will get bigger and bigger. He needs to do the big thing now to save more hurt later on.Quote:
Originally Posted by dhriscerr
crutch
Bojangles....question. How would you feel if you were in a relationship with a girl and you caught her cheating and the best she could come up with is I dunno why I did it I just felt the biological urge to do it?
LoL, some people just cant eat pizza everyday, they need some chineese every now and again!
Interesting thread. Much more intellectually challenging than the usual fare. How to argue this? Hmmm....
I'd have to say cheating is wrong any way you choose to look at it. To me, saying "I'm I guy! It's in our genes to cheat!" is a pitiful excuse for lack of self control. People have an excuse for every type of bad behavior (ADHD, abusive parents, bullying, etc.) these days.
We've gone from an age where actions could be viewed as black or white to the gray shades of behavior justification. I don't claim to ride any white horse or hold any moral high ground, because I have often been tempted to cheat. Nor can I say that I'm pure of heart and spirit for the same reason. I honestly don't know how I would choose to behave if I didn't have two children. More than any quality I could hope to possess, they are my primary source of moral strength. I can't imagine having to explain to them that mommy is divorcing daddy because daddy couldn't control himself and had sex with a woman other than mommy. That would be unbearable.
Lying is an accursed vice. It is only our words which bind us together and make us human. If we realized the horror and weight of lying, we would see that it is more worthy of the stake than other crimes.... Once let the tongue acquire the habit of lying and it is astonishing how impossible it is to make it give it up.
-Montaigne
Can we go back to immature threads now please Nark? :lol:
bump!
Wait we evolved? From the looks of it, it looks like were going way down hill.
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Originally Posted by Bojangles69
Yeah I am not going to win any spelling bee's. LOL
We are still animals, and as a species we cant fight our natural nasty behaviors. Some of us can on and individual level though but not many.
Look at small kids. They take whatever they want when they want it. That behavior is certainly genetic and not learnes.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bojangles69
Its natural for us humans to grab what we want.
But we learn as we grow that we can resist the urge to just steal whatever we want because it has negative consequenses.
Im sure we are geneticaly all prone to beeing thieves, but how many of us are realy a thief even when given the oppertunity?
There is no question that we have alot of desires and urges because of our genetics, but there is also no question that we have a certain ammount of controll over those urges, simply because we have a mind capable of making descisions. No other animal can do that to the same extent.