Do you feel the experience led up to the seperation with your wife? ( I ask this one because I know a woman who's child was killed in a bus/car accident and it strained the marriage )
Absolutely, it has never been the same since. We are not actually separated, we basically live as house mates for the good of my 14 yo son.
Did you pretty well know her death was coming?
I think I knew the minute I looked at the first CT scans that she was not going to make it. The a couple of weeks later after I had done some research on the web I knew it would take a miracle for her to survive.
Did you blame yourself at all? (it's obvious it's wasn't your fault but alot of people feel blame when someone dies)
All the time, my wife keeps pointing out to me that very thing, she has since found Buddhism and is completely at peace with the whole thing but for me it will eat me for the rest of my life that I didnt do enough to try and save her
Did this experience help lead you to move to asia?
No it really had nothing to do with it. We had Jazzy created and we actually took her with us as we couldnt bare to leave her behind so she is not sitting at the foot of our bed in Singapore
Again, thanks for the responses, this day will just suck each year and not much you take from it
(except the pride that only you can feel knowing that you did everything you could and that you will see her again some day
) The woman who's teenage son was killed had him die on the first day of the school year and within a week of her birthday. She won't even celebrate it till sept.
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My father died from a brain tumor when I was about 14, and I was reading over how she died on the site and that breathing thing at the end, my dad did the same thing when he passed away.
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