Question for the gay members

[goodcents]

I think it would be interesting to have a conversation about this subject from the point of view of a gay member to maybe get to understand it better. I used to be a homophobe years ago till I started getting more into the business world and assist many different types of people. I am not gay just curious about the day to day things that you do. Please lets show our maturity here Just wandering things like this to get it started:
When did you "know" you were gay?
Did your family approve?
Do you feel you are treated differently?
What do you see as a stereotype by other straight or even gay friends or public?
I offer this as a respectful serious decussion so we can share ideas and get rid of "false" information I think it would be great to keep a gay thread open so that gay members and straight members could just talk freely about this or just communicate with others in a mature way. Please if someone post something bad, could we just delete the offensive response.

[goodcents]

I think we are "big" enough to treat this like adults

[zodiac666]

I think we are "big" enough to treat this like adults

i'll mail you a check for $5,000 if no one is suspended/banned and the thread is still open by morning, that's how confident i am that admin will maintain order.

[MFT81]

i'll mail you a check for $5,000 if no one is suspended/banned and the thread is still open by morning, that's how confident i am that admin will maintain order.

They'll wait to lock it till 12:01 tomorrow afternoon just to piss you off..

[BG]

I have some gays friends that are great, but Ive met others that arent. The ones I dislike are the ones that dont respect you being straight, back int the day its was so hard going and seeing Junior at Twilo, but on the other hand you could go see Victor C and things were fine, guess just like straight people theres the good and the bad. Cant beat 2 male incomes though!!!! D.I.N.Ks

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[Carlos_E]

I have some gays friends that are great, but Ive met others that arent. The ones I dislike are the ones that dont respect you being straight, back int the day its was so hard going and seeing Junior at Twilo, but on the other hand you could go see Victor C and things were fine, guess just like straight people theres the good and the bad.

Now you know how I felt when I used to go to the new Sound Factory. I know it was supposed to be straight but I got tired of the women hitting on me. I have to say though. I used to get more phone numbers from guys going there then going to a gay club. The first time I went I left with 8 numbers.

Cant beat 2 male incomes though!!!! D.I.N.Ks

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You ain't lying. In the past 4 weeks I have bought lots of toys. 60 gig PS3, 24" widescreen LCD monitor and end of this week I'm buying a Tivo series 3.

[chest6]

Cant beat 2 male incomes though!!!! D.I.N.Ks

Double
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True. I have neighbors that live across the street from me..2 gay guys. Both doctors. They have like 8 cars..lambo..porcshe(sp?) ferrari.. rich bastards

[kihop]

I have some gays friends that are great, but Ive met others that arent. The ones I dislike are the ones that dont respect you being straight, back int the day its was so hard going and seeing Junior at Twilo, but on the other hand you could go see Victor C and things were fine, guess just like straight people theres the good and the bad. Cant beat 2 male incomes though!!!! D.I.N.Ks

Double
Income
No
Kids

Maybe i was too zoned out at the time but from what i remember junior's, audience in soundfactory was primarily gay...incredible hard house..

this was also the time when peter gatien and micheal aliq had no troubles from limelight and tunnel.

clubs like paladium, system, shelter, club usa were still around

[spywizard]

i'll mail you a check for $5,000 if no one is suspended/banned and the thread is still open by morning, that's how confident i am that admin will maintain order.

just use my paypal account..

[email protected]

[zodiac666]

just use my paypal account..

[email protected]

double or nothing on the next gay thread

[spywizard]

double or nothing on the next gay thread

nope.. send away.. or you sir are banned..



jk,,,, or am i???

[goodcents]

i'll mail you a check for $5,000 if no one is suspended/banned and the thread is still open by morning, that's how confident i am that admin will maintain order.

Waiting on my check

[DSM4Life]

Waiting on my check

[BITTAPART2]

good idea bro, b ut i definatly see a lock coming when all the ignorant immature people start clowning. hopefuly we can remain mature about this fellas. bump

[Panzerfaust]

In before the lock

[STYLE74]

In before the lock

+2 I don't see gay or straight white or black, I just see people for who they are. There are trash people of ALL races and backgrounds and gay or straight. It's all about who the person is and his/her values and how they were raised.

[DSM4Life]

+2 I don't see gay or straight white or black, I just see people for who they are. There are trash people of ALL races and backgrounds and gay or straight. It's all about who the person is and his/her values and how they were raised.

Unfortunately you are the minority on this one. Its sad but it’s the truth.

[Indymuscleguy]

+2 I don't see gay or straight white or black, I just see people for who they are. There are trash people of ALL races and backgrounds and gay or straight. It's all about who the person is and his/her values and how they were raised.

I couldn't have said it better!

[cj1capp]

When did you "know" you were gay?
Did your family approve?
Do you feel you are treated differently?

i am not gay but these questions seem they would apply to all people despite sexual preference.


When did you "know" you were gay (straight) for me it was at around the age of 5 or 6 i knew i was in love with this girl named melissa.




Did your family approve? did my family approve of my first true love , no they hated her they thought she was just using me.


Do you feel you are treated differently? no my parents hated booth
my sisters and mine choices in those we wanted to have relationships with.



I think this just says that people are people and what ever hang ups or prejudice's some people personally have are sings of intolerance and narrow mindedness.

Who i love or fack in no way effects any one else .
i enjoyed your post and I hope it will get others to open their minds and hearts.

[goodcents]

When did you "know" you were gay?
Did your family approve?
Do you feel you are treated differently?

i am not gay but these questions seem they would apply to all people despite sexual preference.


When did you "know" you were gay (straight) for me it was at around the age of 5 or 6 i knew i was in love with this girl named melissa.




Did your family approve? did my family approve of my first true love , no they hated her they thought she was just using me.


Do you feel you are treated differently? no my parents hated booth
my sisters and mine choices in those we wanted to have relationships with.



I think this just says that people are people and what ever hang ups or prejudice's some people personally have are sings of intolerance and narrow mindedness.

Who i love or fack in no way effects any one else .
i enjoyed your post and I hope it will get others to open their minds and hearts.

Good response. I see this as an interesting thread if more people respond like you I like the different angle you put on it too

[DSM4Life]

“….. just curious about the day to day things that you(gay people) do”

Why would it be any different then any straight person? Not sure if you meant to state the question this way.

[gixxerboy1]

“….. just curious about the day to day things that you(gay people) do”

Why would it be any different then any straight person? Not sure if you meant to state the question this way.

It has to be different. I spend 80% of my day thinking about banging some hot girl. So that only leaves 20% of my day that we would have in common.

I'm only joking. Its 70%

[cj1capp]

It has to be different. I spend 80% of my day thinking about banging some hot girl. So that only leaves 20% of my day that we would have in common.

I'm only joking. Its 70%

I think you are not looking at the question in the right light.
You spend 80% of your day thinking about banging some hot girl. But rather see it as you spend 80% of your day thinking about banging some hot PERSON.
My best friend who is gay thinks about banging a hot person just as much as i do, what's between their legs is a small detail. The fact is we as people have the same desires wants and needs.

[gixxerboy1]

I think you are not looking at the question in the right light.
You spend 80% of your day thinking about banging some hot girl. But rather see it as you spend 80% of your day thinking about banging some hot PERSON.
My best friend who is gay thinks about banging a hot person just as much as i do, what's between their legs is a small detail. The fact is we as people have the same desires wants and needs.

You are post is correct. I was trying to be a little humorous.

and if you ever refer to whats being between my legs a SMALL detail I'll kick your ass

[cj1capp]

You are post is correct. I was trying to be a little humorous.

and if you ever refer to whats being between my legs a SMALL detail I'll kick your ass

Cool gixxerboy you got me LOL.

I just love all of this tolerance understanding and compassion , i better double check that Im at AR.

[ru-ga-ru]

Ibtl

[STYLE74]

SO much love in here!!! I love you all!!!!!

[zodiac666]

i would think the answers to those 4 questions would be much different from someone that was gay. i always try to show respect to everyone until they give me a reason not to but sometimes i do come across as an asshole to sensitive people. and i do use profiling a little bit, for example if someone told me they had spent their whole life growing up in iraq or afghanistan i would probably assume they didn't treat women very well just from what i witnessed over there, but i would still treat them with respect until they gave me a specific reason not to. looks like this might be an entertaining thread.......

[ru-ga-ru]

One question that I want to know is:

Once they knew that they were gay, did they ever try to have sex with the opposite sex just to see if they made the right choice?????????

[DSM4Life]

One question that I want to know is:

Once they knew that they were gay, did they ever try to have sex with the opposite sex just to see if they made the right choice?????????

Most start out having sex with the opposite gender because of the pressure that society puts on them to be "normal."

Being gay is more then what gets your rocks off. I feel that being gay is when you can emotionally and physically be attached to the same sex.

[cj1capp]

One question that I want to know is:

Once they knew that they were gay, did they ever try to have sex with the opposite sex just to see if they made the right choice?????????

once you knew you were straight did you ever have sex with a man just to see if you made the right choice? Now that you flipped the question dosen't that sound absurd .

[DSM4Life]

once you knew you were straight did you ever have sex with a man just to see if you made the right choice? Now that you flip the question dosen't that sound absurd .

Your question does not make sense to me (maybe i am reading it wrong).

Most gay people have always had feelings toward the same sex but most wont act on them because they are afraid to or are taught to be ashamed for what they feel. This is why i stated before most gay people start out having sex with the opposite gender not because they want to but because its the "normal" thing to do.

Does that answer you ?

[cj1capp]

Your question does not make sense to me (maybe i am reading it wrong).

Most gay people have always had feelings toward the same sex but most wont act on them because they are afraid to or are taught to be ashamed for what they feel. This is why i stated before most gay people start out having sex with the opposite gender not because they want to but because its the "normal" thing to do.

Does that answer you ?

"Originally Posted by ru-ga-ru
One question that I want to know is:

Once they knew that they were gay, did they ever try to have sex with the opposite sex just to see if they made the right choice?????????"



I always knew i wanted to sleep with women i never had to sleep with a man to find I made the correct choice in the first place. That is the question I was answering .
I understand you point about having sex with a person of the opposite sex if you are gay to try and "fit in" but as the original question was posed I did not look deeper i took the question as it was posed.

[cj1capp]

Your question does not make sense to me (maybe i am reading it wrong).

Most gay people have always had feelings toward the same sex but most wont act on them because they are afraid to or are taught to be ashamed for what they feel. This is why i stated before most gay people start out having sex with the opposite gender not because they want to but because its the "normal" thing to do.

Does that answer you ?

here it is aging but carols answered the question better than i did

"Your train of thought here is incorrect. You're asking from the point of view that being gay is a choice. It isn't a choice. It's just how it is. I can ask you the same question. Have you ever had sex with a guy to make sure you made the right choice? That you really like women? I have always been attracted to men. I have no attraction or desire for women and when I look at them the idea of having sex with a woman is slightly repulsive. I don't understand how straight guys do it. But whatever, that's your thing. Who am I to judge. If you're straight, think how you feel at the idea of having sex with a guy. It's the same way I feel about having sex with a woman."

[Tock]

One question that I want to know is:

Once they knew that they were gay, did they ever try to have sex with the opposite sex just to see if they made the right choice?????????

I've liked guys ever since 3rd grade, when I had the hots for the lifeguard giving me swimming lessons. Nevertheless, I had been brought up with the notion that every fellow got married, had 2.3 kids, a dog, a house in the suburbs, and a station wagon. I bought into that because I had no clue that it could be any different. I didn't know what gay was until after I had been in the military for about a year.

Anyway, I had a couple of girlfriends . . . actually, they decided I was going to be their boyfriend, and we ran around and did things together. One time, back when I was keeping books for a church, my girlfriend and I made out on a church altar (I had keys to the church), and I felt up her breasts. Wasn't any big thrill to me, but I was 19 at the time, and curious to see what all the fuss was about.
I had another girlfriend later, we were in her home -- alone -- and she took off her top and I felt her up. Again, no biggie for me, although she liked it.

That's about as close as I ever got to that sort of thing . . . I did it mostly out of curiousity, and my girlfriends seemed to want to do it, and I figured I may as well do it because sooner or later it was gonna happen anyway. It was about as exciting to me as browsing through a stamp collection.

--Tock

[Dude-Man]

It was about as exciting to me as browsing through a stamp collection.

--Tock

You know... some people really love stamps.

[cj1capp]

Dam zodiac
I was in the first desert storm and saw women treated very badly by my standards but my neighbors are from IRAN and i got say they love each other intensely and it seems with much respect.
I know we all have our predetermined ideals of how some different is. But if we do, what we are doing here, that is examining our predetermined ideals
then I believe there is hope for us as communities , societies and humanity in general.

[zodiac666]

Dam zodiac
I was in the first desert storm and saw women treated very badly by my standards but my neighbors are from IRAN and i got say they love each other intensely and it seems with much respect.
I know we all have our predetermined ideals of how some different is. But if we do, what we are doing here, that is examining our predetermined ideals
then I believe there is hope for us as communities , societies and humanity in general.

well like i said even if i had a predetermined ideal of someone i would treat them with respect unless they confirmed that ideal. there were a couple muslims in my unit and all our terps were muslims, many had grown up in countries like iraq and afghanistan but most had spent at least a few years in a free country and they dispised the culture towards women over there even more than me. i just think someone who has lived in a culture that doesn't treat women with respect for their whole life would have a much higher chance of treating women badly themselves (i dont expect goodcents to back me up here, lol)

[acciaio]

When did you "know" you were gay?

Someone says they were gay since thay born, someothers discover it even after being married and having childs... I think it depend even on the different types of experiences one have with the opposite sex and the way one react to succes and delusions...
My parents are really open minded so even if i would say i was gay nothing changed to them, my sister brought home a couple of both men and they become close friends, they where open even with my first girlfriend and with my sis. boyfriend so maybe i'm a lucky one...
I have to say one think, almost all the gay i know are very pleasant guys and really really polite, i wish some straight learn a little from them...
By the way goodcents you are a brave one, starting a post like this can attract many hilarious and dumb comments toward you, good job!

[DSM4Life]

When did you "know" you were gay?

Someone says they were gay since thay born, someothers discover it even after being married and having childs... I think it depend even on the different types of experiences one have with the opposite sex and the way one react to succes and delusions...
My parents are really open minded so even if i would say i was gay nothing changed to them, my sister brought home a couple of both men and they become close friends, they where open even with my first girlfriend and with my sis. boyfriend so maybe i'm a lucky one...
I have to say one think, almost all the gay i know are very pleasant guys and really really polite, i wish some straight learn a little from them...
By the way goodcents you are a brave one, starting a post like this can attract many hilarious and dumb comments toward you, good job!

How did you know you were straight ?

It’s the same thing. The only difference is being straight gets embraced, while being gay can most of the time turn you into an outcast.


P.s
"I think it depend even on the different types of experiences one have with the opposite sex and the way one react to succes and delusions... "

If it was based on experience then why when a gay couple raises a child from birth most of the time the child is straight ?

My point being that different people like different things.