Ran into the Ex tonight

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 03:52 AM

My buddies wanted to go to this sports bar where I first met her. So I said o.k. let's stop by, well there she was. I never knew how much it could hit one at a specific time. She was like one of the guys she would go out drinking with me and my friends or we could just hang out together.
but more importantly she was always there to listen. I felt like I was in a scene from the twilight zone when I talked to her, two total strangers.

**PROTEINSHAKE** · 03-26-2007, 05:11 AM

so, what next man? how did you leave it off w her?

**Receiver84** · 03-26-2007, 06:17 AM

I'm curious too? Don't leave us hangin' bro!!!!!!

**Mighty Joe** · 03-26-2007, 06:32 AM

Originally Posted by getnjakked

so, what next man? how did you leave it off w her?

Not to hyjack this thread bro, but your Avatar is a killer

**STYLE74** · 03-26-2007, 06:46 AM

Yeah comon chi what happened?

**wishmasterATM** · 03-26-2007, 10:33 AM

was there romantic song playing when you guys saw each other again?

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 11:38 AM

Originally Posted by getnjakked

so, what next man? how did you leave it off w her?

We were both a little drunk we talked then she stormed out of the bar with this g/f of hers who was rather annoying. I followed her out told her g/f to go back inside this doesn't concern her. She left and we talked for a few a little bit. I'm not gonna hold my breath, I told her how I felt about her and if she is too blind to see the light then oh, well. Besides I am starting to see that blonde chick from the gym I mentioned before in another thread.

**Schmidty** · 03-26-2007, 11:44 AM

Originally Posted by Chitown Raider

We were both a little drunk we talked then she stormed out of the bar with this g/f of hers who was rather annoying. I followed her out told her g/f to go back inside this doesn't concern her. She left and we talked for a few a little bit. I'm not gonna hold my breath, I told her how I felt about her and if she is too blind to see the light then oh, well. Besides I am starting to see that blonde chick from the gym I mentioned before in another thread.

I would stay with the blond if i were u

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 11:48 AM

Originally Posted by Schmidty

I would stay with the blond if i were u

That's what i am gonna do. Time for a new start

**Mighty Joe** · 03-26-2007, 12:27 PM

Originally Posted by Chitown Raider

That's what i am gonna do. Time for a new start

Ditto bro!!!

**PROTEINSHAKE** · 03-26-2007, 12:28 PM

new is good....experience other things..you will know if its going to come back around...u did your part bro.

**Rye_guy** · 03-26-2007, 01:08 PM

gotta love these kinds of threads

**rubix6** · 03-26-2007, 02:06 PM

that really sucks

**firmechicano831** · 03-26-2007, 02:37 PM

stick with the blonde but show us pics of the two.

**johnmacdan** · 03-26-2007, 03:16 PM

Originally Posted by Schmidty

I would stay with the blond if i were u

Schmidty is half right, do them both.

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 05:37 PM

Originally Posted by firmechicano831

stick with the blonde but show us pics of the two.

Here's a pic of me and the ex from about a month ago. I will try and get a pic with the blonde I am gonna see her Wednesday.

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 05:38 PM

Originally Posted by getnjakked

new is good....experience other things..you will know if its going to come back around...u did your part bro.

Thanks bro.

**anabolicshark** · 03-26-2007, 05:43 PM

dont look back man!!! i have, i have done it all my life.... Blonde HAS MY VOTE TOO... (well still waiting on the pic, if nothing pull some james bond trick with your phone or something...)

**anabolicshark** · 03-26-2007, 05:44 PM

by the way im in chitown too, do you ride? which gym do yo ugo to? i ride also...

**taiboxa** · 03-26-2007, 05:45 PM

ur apart for a reason.. leave it at that.

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 05:47 PM

Originally Posted by anabolicshark

dont look back man!!! i have, i have done it all my life.... Blonde HAS MY VOTE TOO... (well still waiting on the pic, if nothing pull some james bond trick with your phone or something...)

Thanks. I will get a pic of her and show you guys after our date on Wednesday.

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 05:49 PM

Originally Posted by anabolicshark

by the way im in chitown too, do you ride? which gym do yo ugo to? i ride also...

I am in the NW burbs by Arlington Heights. I used to ride but I sold my Ninja 750. I go to XSport in Arlington Heights off Golf and Arlington Heights rd. Sometimes, if I am in the city I will go to the Brickyard. Where do you workout at?

**anabolicshark** · 03-26-2007, 05:54 PM

close, i work by north and clark (pipers alley).. so i do my cardio there...(parking sucks) and i live by elston and lawrence (strippers alley) and i do all my lifting there, but more then often i am in Niles gym...
good luck on wed... if you do get a bike again, let me know bro, there is a lot of us from xports that meet and ride sunday nights.... 10-15 guys almost every weekend

**Benches505** · 03-26-2007, 05:54 PM

Originally Posted by taiboxa

ur apart for a reason.. leave it at that.

That is some good wisdom right there!

**taiboxa** · 03-26-2007, 05:56 PM

Originally Posted by Benches505

That is some good wisdom right there!

i went against it a while ago.. when my most recent GF and i broke up... back in october?.. went bout 6 weeks then >< like 1 day after i told someone NOT TO GET BACK TOGETHER.. i did the almighty NO NO and hooked up w/ her.. yeah we are DEFINETLY not together anymore! ><

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 05:57 PM

Originally Posted by anabolicshark

close, i work by north and clark (pipers alley).. so i do my cardio there...(parking sucks) and i live by elston and lawrence (strippers alley) and i do all my lifting there, but more then often i am in Niles gym...
good luck on wed... if you do get a bike again, let me know bro, there is a lot of us from xports that meet and ride sunday nights.... 10-15 guys almost every weekend

What time are you in the Niles gym?

**anabolicshark** · 03-26-2007, 06:00 PM

i guess its the hardest thing, when you have to think totally opposite of what you feel... i have done similar things in my past... the only thing that ever worked was "total shut down" dont listen to same music, dont go to same places, dont do anything that could remind.... if strict and have good friends, and you meet new ones as you go out 2-3 months and you are fine... more you cheat and remeber or get reminded you add a month per memory...

**anabolicshark** · 03-26-2007, 06:01 PM

niles-if not 11am-1 pm then 9-10pm... at least 3-4 times a week

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 06:08 PM

Originally Posted by anabolicshark

i guess its the hardest thing, when you have to think totally opposite of what you feel... i have done similar things in my past... the only thing that ever worked was "total shut down" dont listen to same music, dont go to same places, dont do anything that could remind.... if strict and have good friends, and you meet new ones as you go out 2-3 months and you are fine... more you cheat and remeber or get reminded you add a month per memory...

Good points there. The good thing is there wasn't really much music that we shared or had a song. I usually meet a new girl every weekend when I go out so it takes my mind off things. But, yeah it's when you go back and think about her that makes it harder to forget.

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 06:12 PM

Originally Posted by anabolicshark

niles-if not 11am-1 pm then 9-10pm... at least 3-4 times a week

I'll have to stop by next week around that time in the evening. If you know what time your gonna be up there ahead of time could you send me a PM and maybe I could train with you. I have been training solo for the longest so it would be a chaqnge of pace to have a spotter.

**anabolicshark** · 03-26-2007, 06:16 PM

for sure bro.. i would love to have actually someone who knows how to spot, i prefer machines and cables to those posers that come there and stare themselves to death...

you do the same man, if coming my way feel free to PM

**Chitown Raider** · 03-26-2007, 06:22 PM

Originally Posted by anabolicshark

for sure bro.. i would love to have actually someone who knows how to spot, i prefer machines and cables to those posers that come there and stare themselves to death...

you do the same man, if coming my way feel free to PM

Sounds good bro. I'll send you a PM next week, taking this week off for recovery.

**Jacky_Zebsten** · 03-26-2007, 09:19 PM

where's the blondes pic?

**DSM4Life** · 03-28-2007, 09:12 PM

-"Never long for anyone in your past, for there is a reason why they never made it to your future."

**Bojangles69** · 03-28-2007, 09:32 PM

Originally Posted by Chitown Raider

Good points there. The good thing is there wasn't really much music that we shared or had a song. I usually meet a new girl every weekend when I go out so it takes my mind off things. But, yeah it's when you go back and think about her that makes it harder to forget.

This is what you *think, and this is how it may APPEAR.

Thats not what I believe.

EVERYTIME your mind reaches back into its memory banks and recalls "precious moments" or w/e you want to call them, what your mind is actually doing is the OPPOSITE of what it does when you first meet a chick who interests you.

Its called simple "association"

When you meet a new girl for instance, (who your compatable with) she may have things about her that other guys would normally not like, but you will associate good things to her behavoir rather than mark it off as a flaw, all her flaws become virtues. Thus follows the quote "love is blind".

The whole process of "falling in love" is how quick and how strongly we make these associations in our mind.

When you BREAK UP however, your mind does the EXACT OPPOSITE. And this what people dont understand. YOU HAVE TO THINK ABOUT THEM IN ORDER TO FORGET THEM (this doesnt apply to everyone but id def say to most ppl)
Even those who repress the thoughts will have dreams at night.

But the whole point is your now learning to "dissassociate" all these little things about her that you associated with good. And a lot of times people go past the dissassociation stage and start to associate these things over time with BAD things.

The funny thing is how often these bad things actually are a more accurate interpretation of your partner then when you were first in love with them.

My main point being, and you might not be conscious of it. Everytime you think about her. You WILL get a negative feeling now. This is how your mind preserves its well being and psychological health. Because the equation of
thoughts + the negative feeling you get when you have the thoughts = the process of forgetting/dissassociation

Thats why YOU MUST THINK ABOUT THEM TO FORGET THEM.
It is natural. 100%.
Over time (different periods for everyone) you'll wind up reassociating everything you believed about her to a new belief system, one that actually more accurate, and she won't be worth a seconds time in your mind anymore.

regards ~ Bo

**DNoMac** · 03-28-2007, 09:51 PM

Bo's title should be changed to AR's Resident Psychologist. Nice post

**anabolicshark** · 03-28-2007, 11:47 PM

Dear BO,

as much as i agree,i really hate to but i do, i still believe-and this is my personal experience, that a person needs alone recovery time, balance what ever you want to call it to get a grasp of reality without the memories and as naturaly they came back could think of them to associate hate and negative feelings with them..
i personally still cant get over many... between you and i lol, but i sure hate them all
good post, i totally agree..but it does not work equally good for all

**Chitown Raider** · 04-07-2007, 06:19 PM

Well, here you go this is my new girl the blonde I met at the gym.

**RuhlFreak55** · 04-07-2007, 06:23 PM

HOLY SMOKES BATMAN........she's a 10.......cha ching......go chitown go.....rofl....i thought this thread was gonna be like "so i ran into my ex today WITH MY TRUCK" rofl