A pleasant experience I had at the gym today
It seems that a certain moderator by the name of Pete235 was correct not all AAS users are stuck up snobs.Today at the gym while I was having my shoulder and traps workout I spot this huge guy working out and I think to myself "This is one huge guy,he uses AAS but huge none the less"Anyway he asks me where the gym's standing calf machine was since he's only visiting Winnipeg & didn't really know his way around the gym.To finish the story after my workout was done I started to talk to him again in the change room and asked him what his height and weight is.He told me he's 5'11 240lbs,so I ask him in a respectful tone if he uses AAS and he tells me that he's been bodybuilding for 12 years & did use AAS for about 2-3 years but for personal reasons decided to stop.I thanked him for being so honest and told him that it actually refreshing to meet a serious bodybuilder who has done AAS and is not stuck up and is honest about his use.Who knows maybe I'll be fortunate someday to meet another bodybuilder like that someday:)
It's all in the wording . . .
Ladies and gentlemen, allow me to introduce you to the art of being subtle...
If you ask someone outright, "Do you use steroids?" you'll get a negative answer - one that may not be very civil. Because the question is presumptuous, especially if you do not know the person. And, for better or worse, many people who do use AS have some heavy-duty hang-ups about their own use.
So change the question. Start with a compliment, and ask them if they have done any cycling. As in, "Very impressive...Are you doing any kind of cycle?"
Why? Because cycle is an inside word - and if you use that term, it will demonstrate that you have an inside knowledge about AS. You may still not get a positive answer, but at least your question will not be perceived as a presumptuous slap-in-the-face by a stranger.
I work in a counseling environment, where asking about one's drug and alcohol use is normal. And in most cases, the way a question is worded willremove any potential threat that a patient might otherwise perceive. I have often asked patients, "I see you work out. Have you been doing any kind of cycle?" And nine times out of ten, I get an honest answer.
Realize two things: First, that what you are asking is a very personal thing. Second, that you are actually asking the question with your own goal in mind - namely, seeking advice from someone who probably knows more about steroids than you do. That person doesn't owe you advice, and if you come on like gangbusters, you are sure not to get any. So be subtle - it goes a long way.
Re: It's all in the wording . . .
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Originally posted by TNT
Ladies and gentlemen, allow me to introduce you to the art of being subtle...
If you ask someone outright, "Do you use steroids?" you'll get a negative answer - one that may not be very civil. Because the question is presumptuous, especially if you do not know the person. And, for better or worse, many people who do use AS have some heavy-duty hang-ups about their own use.
So change the question. Start with a compliment, and ask them if they have done any cycling. As in, "Very impressive...Are you doing any kind of cycle?"
Why? Because cycle is an inside word - and if you use that term, it will demonstrate that you have an inside knowledge about AS. You may still not get a positive answer, but at least your question will not be perceived as a presumptuous slap-in-the-face by a stranger.
I work in a counseling environment, where asking about one's drug and alcohol use is normal. And in most cases, the way a question is worded willremove any potential threat that a patient might otherwise perceive. I have often asked patients, "I see you work out. Have you been doing any kind of cycle?" And nine times out of ten, I get an honest answer.
Realize two things: First, that what you are asking is a very personal thing. Second, that you are actually asking the question with your own goal in mind - namely, seeking advice from someone who probably knows more about steroids than you do. That person doesn't owe you advice, and if you come on like gangbusters, you are sure not to get any. So be subtle - it goes a long way.
I agree with this post 110% TNT,and guess you wouldn't since you weren't there.But take my word for it I was somewhat subtle and respectful(I didn't come on like Gungbusters)and in fact I complimented him on his physique as well.But more so I think that I used the right tone of voice.
