Lost BOTH parents in 2 months !!!

[SMAN12b]

Well after my mother's 17 month struggle with her health and finally going home to her maker two short months ago....Her husband of 60 years, MY FATHER, has gone to be with her today!!

No warning, no signs....this morning he was happy and doing what he loved to do...... he collapsed and had a massive heart two months after his beloved wife, MY MOTHER passed.

42 years old, and now I am an orphan in two short months

His last words to my mother were that he would be with her soon!!!


It is just so surreal as I never could imagine my father not being here to take care of his kids like he has all his life

I feel so lost now!! :-(

[Hoggage_54]

Sorry to hear that bro. My condolences.

[AnabolicErick]

man i am sorry... i hope everything gets better. do you have a family that can support you during this sad event? i would hate to know waht it feels like dude

[goose]

Dude...Sorry to hear this mate.I wish you the best,your a good guy.

[maxex]

Well after my mother's 17 month struggle with her health and finally going home to her maker two short months ago....Her husband of 60 years, MY FATHER, has gone to be with her today!!

No warning, no signs....this morning he was happy and doing what he loved to do...... he collapsed and had a massive heart two months after his beloved wife, MY MOTHER passed.

42 years old, and now I am an orphan in two short months

His last words to my mother were that he would be with her soon!!!


It is just so surreal as I never could imagine my father not being here to take care of his kids like he has all his life

I feel so lost now!! :-(

I'm sorry for your loss.

[Prada]

My condolences, stay strong bruh.

[gigem]

sorry about your loss brother stay strong and its obvious you have alot of friends here i dont know you but im here. i havent lost my parents but lost my granfather last year whom i was very close to its not easy and it helps to talk or it was in my experience my condolences

[Benches505]

I'm so sorry for your loss and pain brother!

Dad went to take care of his partner in life and they live on through you. 50% her 50% him

Now it's up to you to fill those shoes.

[STYLE74]

Hey Sman my condolences to you and your family, so sorry for your loss bro. My prayers are with you and your family.

[Kristofer68ss]

your in my prayers sman.

I have one left, if she died...I am not sure what i would do.

God Bless bro.

[I_Want_Abs]

im sorry to hear that man, i couldnt even imagine what it would feel like.

we are here for ya bro

[PROTEINSHAKE]

So Sorry to hear that SMAN... stay strong brother, for what its worth, Im sure I speak for everyone when I say we are all here for you in any way that we can be.

[number twelve]

sorry to hear bro, i lost my mom when iwas 14, im 20 now. it was tough, i cant imagine losing 2 parents. a lot of times it seems when a couple grows old together, they stay alive for each other. and once one passes away, the other living spouse loses the will to live.

[Lexed]

we all die sooner or later.... but think of it this way. There not gone forever you will see them when your time is up

[kaberle_15]

My condolences SMAN,

you are a strong guy and will rise above these dark days and have friends here that will support you.

[BG]

Sometimes life takes a shit, its suc's, stay strong, never forget and make them proud.

[bpm1]

dont be afraid to grieve or feel the sorrow you have, it is the only way to come to grips with it. i lost 2 children at the same time and i swallowed the pain. it has taken almost 6 yrs to come to grips w/it because i never allowed my self to grieve.ive cried my tears now and had therapy to deal with it. i can honestly say i can think about them without coming apart like before.what im trying to say is what ever you are feeling let it flow and try to talk about it w/trusted friends or even a therapist if u need.peace my brotha, god grant you peace in your heart, we are with ya all the way

[SMAN12b]

dont be afraid to grieve or feel the sorrow you have, it is the only way to come to grips with it. i lost 2 children at the same time and i swallowed the pain. it has taken almost 6 yrs to come to grips w/it because i never allowed my self to grieve.ive cried my tears now and had therapy to deal with it. i can honestly say i can think about them without coming apart like before.what im trying to say is what ever you are feeling let it flow and try to talk about it w/trusted friends or even a therapist if u need.peace my brotha, god grant you peace in your heart, we are with ya all the way

OMG bpm1- I can't even imagine what that put you through...I was bad tonight and am trashed, it happened so sudenly and only 2 months after my mother so no one expected it...THANK GOD i have 3 sisters and 1 brother to help get through this!!

[needmorestrength]

Wow.. to BPM1 and SMAN12B im so sorry for your losses!! .. SMAN if you ever need to talk feel free to message me!!! It doesnt matter how old your parents are, they are still your parents, losing them never gets easier!! Surround yourself with other family members!!!

[SVTMuscle*]

im sorrry to hear that man, thats def a horrible thing to happen to a cool dude

[takedownII]

Like your dad said, they are together now, so you know they're happy. Sounds like they really loved eachother.

I wish you the best bro and if you need anything let me know.

[SMAN12b]

thank you everyone!!

I am just extremely numb right now and YES, drunk !! I can only taek so much, but after tonight, that will be it as far as drinking!!! I just can't imagine a life without my father to bail me out of all the trouble I still get in at 42

[rugbySwoll]

my thoughts and prayers are with you bro, i dont know what i'd do with out my parents, its kinda scary to think about it.....

[HORSE~]

Buddy you got pm....

You are an incredible person my freind and I am so sorry that you are haveing to go thru this....

Just rest ashured that your father and mother are holding hands in heaven right now looking down upone you and your siblings relishing in the fact that they raised such incredible children....

There job is complete yours has bairly begon....Make them proud and raise your son the same way they raised you....Help him to become the best person that he can be....

You are truly one of the best peolple that I know and I am glad to have the prevalege of calling you a freind....

God bless you and yours my freind.....

[SMAN12b]

Buddy you got pm....

You are an incredible person my freind and I am so sorry that you are haveing to go thru this....

Just rest ashured that your father and mother are holding hands in heaven right now looking down upone you and your siblings relishing in the fact that they raised such incredible children....

There job is complete yours has bairly begon....Make them proud and raise your son the same way they raised you....Help him to become the best person that he can be....

You are truly one of the best peolple that I know and I am glad to have the prevalege of calling you a freind....

.

I just dont' think I have the strength anymore !!!!!!!!!!

[gigem]

well bro ive already given you my condolences but i see your having a tough time understandably! like i said i dont know you but i can tell you have strong character and that requires an inner strength. when my grandpadied it took me a while to realize what had actually happened like it was all a dream but now i realize that everything in life happens as its supposa to. your mom and dad are together again and out of all this tragedy is something they wanted. god bless ya bro take care of yourself and your son and the rest of your family

[SMAN12b]

Thanks , but I jsut dont' think I have enough right now anyway to get through. I know I dont' have a choice , but this is my weak moment....thank you all for caring...I knwo I will get through this , and couldn't do it without my extended AR family/////////// thank you for giving me a place to let this all out!!!!!!!!!!!

I am just lost right now!!

I know they are finally together again, along with his parents, and two children that went before them...... it is the rest of the siblings that are stuck in this hell on earth without them

[THE JU-ICE]

Sorry for your loss.

[thetank]

my condolences man..im sorry to hear about your loss. its gotta be tough living without your mother and father..but for a husband to live without his wife has to be a very difficult thing to experience as well..when a man or woman that has been with someone for a very long time loses their partner it usually seems like a big piece of them is missing..like something they need was taken and they just want it back..i used to live beside an old couple afew years ago..the woman had lost her husband early 2005 sometime, and the next following months she seemed to become very distant..she was always a very social vibrant and open person..with an amazing sense of humour..but you could tell she was becoming more and more withdrawn since his death. she didnt leave her house much, and would sit on her porch with this listless, empty expression..like her heart and soul were gone and she was just kind of left surviving, but not really 'livin' ya know...i used to cut her lawn every now and then because our properties werent really separated, and we had a riding lawnmower..so ide just do both at once..anyway i had just finished her yard and she was outside, so i went and sat down with her and we talked for a bit..and when i asked her how she was doing, she said..."i miss my husband. i just...i miss my husband."...damn was it ever sad to hear..we talked about him for a little bit then it started to spit rain so she went inside and i went to finish my parents yard, and that was the last time i ever talked to her..less than 3 weeks later she died..she was old, but still in her 70s' probably..no medical condition, in good shape for her age and physically quite healthy...it was sad..but i never thought of it as any kind of coincidental tragedy really..even tho she was someone i knew well enough that it made it personal, i almost felt more at peace for her than i felt mournful...it was like she was given back what was taken, what was missing..something she needed that wasnt in this life anymore ya know..so she moved onto where she could find it(or him) again..i have alot of beliefs but im not religious at all persay, and dont have any kind of specific idea of what happens when we die because it was something ive read, or was taught..but just from my experience, sh*t like that gives me faith spilling out the ears that theres something beyond the time we spend here..our lives are so short that it only makes sense to me that theres something fundimental and important waiting for us when it ends..and stories like these, confirm my faith in that idea.
anyway again im sorry for your loss bro..and glad to hear youve got people with you to get through it...know youve got bro's here too.
peace
tank

[slob]

**** mate that is no good. My dad just passed away a month ago tommorrow after battling a brain tumor for 18 years!! I know the feeling!!! Now I'm 21 years old and living by myself :\
Life's a bitch mate but its the sour things in life that make the sweeter things, that much sweeter!
Chin up !

[auslifta]

sorry mate, thats no good , im sure they are happy to be with each other again. prayers and thoughts are with you and your family

[paulzane]

Sorry to hear SMAN ..... grieve for now as you have to to get things out of your system and to move forward BUT the main thing is to celebrate their lives and all the good they have done for you

[shrpskn]

My condolences to you and your family.

Stay strong and keep your head high.

As this time of grief passes, it should make you even stronger.

All the best bud,

[energizer bunny]

Im realy sorry to hear that, it must be horrible for you and your family! my friend who has just turned 23 lost both his parents within a year! its been about 1 half years now. he seems to be moving on but you can never tell. try and be strong!

[audis4]

sman im sorry bro!!
don't say you don't have the strength, stick in there and keep your head up bro! start praying if you haven't before, helps me a lot

[jerseyboy]

I know all about loss. My heart is with you bro. Stay strong.

[*Narkissos*]

That's rough SMAN.

My prayers go out to you.

[SMAN12b]

Thanks guys!!

[Bojangles69]

Yeh bro honestly I wanted to write something yesterday but I just had no idea what I could say to really ease your mind.
All I can really say is try to have FAITH. Its one of those mysterious little things about life that you don't always have to understand but its always somehow carried me through my bad times in life.
And try and focus on positive things. I'm not sure w/e I can really say. G/luck! if you're as strong headed as a man as you seem over these forums I imagine you'll do quite alright. Take care bro.
~Bo

[goodcents]