Freaken Ex GF...

[batlin]

*sigh*, I just got an email from my ex today... THE ex, the one I wanted to marry and still to this day would marry her in a heart beat.. she broke up with me almost 2.5 years ago and I am still f'ed up over her.. I have tried and tried an tried to get over her but she is the reason I haven't really had a great relationship since because I compare everyone to her.. so I told me self I wouldn't contact her or email her or anything anymore after last year when I emailed her (kinda drunkenly) that I was still not over her and still wanted to be with her..
So, today I get an email from her to say hi and tell me her life sucks right now.. which is EXACTLY how we got back together last time.... (we went out on a few dates and then i never heard from her till she emailed me saying "hi" to break the ice... well.. I got one again and now.. well.. All I can think about it "I HAVE A CHANCE!!!!" and I am thanking god.. but on the other hand I am like "god damn it, just when I thought I might be able to get over this b*tch"
How do women know exactly when to email you to throw you into a tail spin?

[PEWN]

i was in the same boat man... they just know.... i dated a girl for 5 years.... broke up and i tried the out of sight out of mind thing... but every time she knew exactly when to send that text message or call in order for me to keep thinking about her..... im fine now and i just keep telling my self there are plenty of girls out there and you will find one that will make her seem like nothing one day.... Keep your head high .... and dont respond to her no matter what... just resist...

[taiboxa]

well if it didnt work before why would it work now?

[edgarr]

*sigh*, I just got an email from my ex today... THE ex, the one I wanted to marry and still to this day would marry her in a heart beat.. she broke up with me almost 2.5 years ago and I am still f'ed up over her.. I have tried and tried an tried to get over her but she is the reason I haven't really had a great relationship since because I compare everyone to her.. so I told me self I wouldn't contact her or email her or anything anymore after last year when I emailed her (kinda drunkenly) that I was still not over her and still wanted to be with her..
So, today I get an email from her to say hi and tell me her life sucks right now.. which is EXACTLY how we got back together last time.... (we went out on a few dates and then i never heard from her till she emailed me saying "hi" to break the ice... well.. I got one again and now.. well.. All I can think about it "I HAVE A CHANCE!!!!" and I am thanking god.. but on the other hand I am like "god damn it, just when I thought I might be able to get over this b*tch"
How do women know exactly when to email you to throw you into a tail spin?

I doubt you should marry someone that you call a "bitch" and that you feel "f'ed you up" and that you feel that you can only contact her via email when you are drunk and why cant she call you, whats with the email? That tells me she is only interested in hearing her side of the conversation! Your done with her, move on!

[batlin]

Yea I know I know...

but it is still tough!

[Panzerfaust]

I would not return the text or email period! Yeah, it might be hard but it only sets you back when you should be moving forward in life.

You only have one life to live so why spin your wheels for 5yrs+ only to look back later and regret it.

[Psychotron]

I have that problem. I am all good until I have to see my ex in a magazine, watching the 2008 olympics is a no go for me lol First girl i ever actually loved

[Zipper]

They fvcking do it just to keep us on the line so they always have something to fall back on! Fvcking bitches.

[youknowit45]

Ive always found it more of a control issue for them.. They like to know your still there for them thinking about them

[batlin]

Exactly, for all I know she just broke up with her boyfriend and just needs someone to give her attention.. thing is I am not strong enough willed to ignore her...
I need to find my balls.. granted they are the size of grape nuts right now, but i still need to find them

[Stock]

*sigh*, I just got an email from my ex today... THE ex, the one I wanted to marry and still to this day would marry her in a heart beat.. she broke up with me almost 2.5 years ago and I am still f'ed up over her.. I have tried and tried an tried to get over her but she is the reason I haven't really had a great relationship since because I compare everyone to her.. so I told me self I wouldn't contact her or email her or anything anymore after last year when I emailed her (kinda drunkenly) that I was still not over her and still wanted to be with her..
So, today I get an email from her to say hi and tell me her life sucks right now.. which is EXACTLY how we got back together last time.... (we went out on a few dates and then i never heard from her till she emailed me saying "hi" to break the ice... well.. I got one again and now.. well.. All I can think about it "I HAVE A CHANCE!!!!" and I am thanking god.. but on the other hand I am like "god damn it, just when I thought I might be able to get over this b*tch"
How do women know exactly when to email you to throw you into a tail spin?

She is inbetween guys right now, hence "Her life Sucks...". She is looking for someone to pass the time and she knows you are an easy target. She will use you again because she knows she can. If you would man up and quit being a little bitch in the relationship, you will be much better off. AS long as she is dictating the terms you wont get anywhere with this one.

We have all had one that we would have done anything to try and make it work, only to get hurt. You need to decide your future and move on...

[youknowit45]

Well bump on anyone who said ignore them.. Its the hardest thing to do but really the easiest way to drop her is to find someone else.. Even though you still are crazy for her there is always someone else out there your going to find thats better than her.. After that long of not seeing eachother things wont ever be the same.. the notebook movie is a fake in my eyes.. Best of luck to you with whatever you decide

[Juggernaut]

DO NOT TEXT HER BACK! Under no condition whatsoever. Wait until you get a second text.

But before you answer that second text you post here and I tell you the next step.

If you've already made contact you've shown your hand.

[StoneGRMI]

Well, we already know that you either have or are going to text/email/call her back anyway soooo.....why ask us?

Good luck man! Been there, done that and it didn't work so I wish you the best!

[NotSmall]

well if it didnt work before why would it work now?

Yes but like Jesus said - There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path.

(or was it Morpheus? )

[RA]

Listen to juggy if you want her...otherwise MOVE ON

[batlin]

Well first off, she isnt the type that would email again.. she barley emails as it is, doesnt respond to emails 90% of the time also (she is like that with everyone) So if i dont respond to this email, i wont hear from her again...

Second, it was myspace, so she knows I am single now... last time we talked (over christmas we were both seeing people)

And yea I know, we broke up once, so why would I think it could work... well there were a lot of things that sucked for the breakup.. lots of thing happend... it was her friend that had a personal vendeta against me because she didnt think I was attractive enough for her.. so she started making up lies about me.. saying I was hitting on girls in the gym, shit like that... and when a girl has her best friend telling her this stuff.. they tend to believe them.. well turned out 2 days after she broke up with me her friend had already had a guy lined up for her... and well my ex refused to date him.. she has since stopped being friends with this lady but by that time I had already f'ed things up.. and that is why we broke up.. shi*ty


I totally understand what you all are saying.. i will just fvck my self up more if i email her so I am trying my hardest to resist....

[Kratos]

Send her this
Then never talk to her again.

[batlin]

[ftony]

I would not return the text or email period! Yeah, it might be hard but it only sets you back when you should be moving forward in life.

You only have one life to live so why spin your wheels for 5yrs+ only to look back later and regret it.

Good advice bro,Following it isnt going to be easy, but its the right thing to do....Always move foward, never back...

[WEBB]

They fvcking do it just to keep us on the line so they always have something to fall back on! Fvcking bitches.

Guys do this to girls too...or at least i have.....

[BG]

Hang out with her ONCE more. Email her and tell her you want to see her. Jerk off 3 maybe 4 times before you go. Get her a little drunk then bang the shit out of her, I mean break her back, punch her in the throat (maybe not that far ), fuc her like never before. Then dont call her back or answer her emails for a month. If she keeps trying to see you after a month, give it a try again, but wear the pants this time and never let her have the upper hand again you p ussy.

[buffgator]

Sometimes you have to just accept life and move on. I dated a girl for a year and was totally in love with her, but as time moved on she grew more distant from me until we broke up. I was devastated, I kept her picture on my desk for 2 years always thinking about her and praying she would be mine. I never heard from her after the break up then 2 years later she started sending me letters through my parents address because she did not know where to find me. She said all sorts of things about how she missed me and thought that she made a mistake leaving me, it was heart wrenching because by this time I was already married. I wrote her a letter back, and just said to late I am married now, and I hope that you can find a guy that makes you as happy and loves you as much as I would have. She never wrote back, 2 more years whent by and I saw her at a store, we both looked at each other and whent our seperate ways not acknowledging each other. I saw that she was now wearing a wedding ring. I went home and cried all night, I loved her so much, and still have times that my heart yearns for her. I am married now though and I love my wife very much. I just tell myself that life goes on and I put her picture back up in my photo album in the closet, and keep moving on with my life.

[BG]

You guys sit here and wonder how the "Douche Bags" get the hot girls, they like asshole guys, plain and simple. Good girls like bad boys, treat'em bad they stick around, treat them good they fuc your friends.

Now, for the guy who made this thread, your no challenge to that girl, she knows she's got you, your the fall back on guy, maybe years from now when she doesnt find a guy she will marry you. This being because she know she can control you, send you to work to pay the bills while she watches Oprah. Now as I said in my above post, treat her bad then walk away, if she keeps coming you got her, but I dont mean a few days of not talking to her, a fuc'n month at least, she will shit her pants. Why the fuc you think all those battered women go back to their husbands and say " baby it was my fault you beat my ass and closed my eye"?? Because women are stupid and they are attracted to the opposite of whats good for them.

Treat that bitch bad, let her know your have balls and arent fuc'n part women. When you done fuc'n her, spit on her just put an !! point on it. If she dont call back...atleast your sorry ass got the last laugh.

[BG]

Man you guys are bitches, fuc'n man up. Or settle for a "decent" girl, but not the one you really wanted.

[WEBB]

ROFLMFAO....I love you BG...you really know how to put the !!!! on any topic....well done sir, well done...

[BG]

Sometimes you have to just accept life and move on. I dated a girl for a year and was totally in love with her, but as time moved on she grew more distant from me until we broke up. I was devastated, I kept her picture on my desk for 2 years always thinking about her and praying she would be mine. I never heard from her after the break up then 2 years later she started sending me letters through my parents address because she did not know where to find me. She said all sorts of things about how she missed me and thought that she made a mistake leaving me, it was heart wrenching because by this time I was already married. I wrote her a letter back, and just said to late I am married now, and I hope that you can find a guy that makes you as happy and loves you as much as I would have. She never wrote back, 2 more years whent by and I saw her at a store, we both looked at each other and whent our seperate ways not acknowledging each other. I saw that she was now wearing a wedding ring. I went home and cried all night, I loved her so much, and still have times that my heart yearns for her. I am married now though and I love my wife very much. I just tell myself that life goes on and I put her picture back up in my photo album in the closet, and keep moving on with my life.

Holy shit, if I can get you an appointment with Doctor Phil will you go??? Kept her picture on my desk of her for 2 years , must have helped alot when jerking off alone to porn huh? Get some new ass and move on. She comes back one day then good, but dont waste your time with a broken heart, shit you only live once.

[BG]

ROFLMFAO....I love you BG...you really know how to put the !!!! on any topic....well done sir, well done...

Somebodys got break the news to them.

[Stock]

Well first off, she isnt the type that would email again.. she barley emails as it is, doesnt respond to emails 90% of the time also (she is like that with everyone) So if i dont respond to this email, i wont hear from her again...

Second, it was myspace, so she knows I am single now... last time we talked (over christmas we were both seeing people)

And yea I know, we broke up once, so why would I think it could work... well there were a lot of things that sucked for the breakup.. lots of thing happend... it was her friend that had a personal vendeta against me because she didnt think I was attractive enough for her.. so she started making up lies about me.. saying I was hitting on girls in the gym, shit like that... and when a girl has her best friend telling her this stuff.. they tend to believe them.. well turned out 2 days after she broke up with me her friend had already had a guy lined up for her... and well my ex refused to date him.. she has since stopped being friends with this lady but by that time I had already f'ed things up.. and that is why we broke up.. shi*ty


I totally understand what you all are saying.. i will just fvck my self up more if i email her so I am trying my hardest to resist....

Man, you are a glutton for punishment....

[SnaX]

To batlin:
You sir, need to stop kidding yourself. Don't be that guy who wastes his life living in a fantasy world of what won't be. She has nothing to offer you. You will find someone who can really amaze you if you actually stop to take a look at some of the wonderful people in the world.


She didn't want you then, so why would she want you now? Other people will look at you if you chase this, see who you are after and think, "Wow this guy is with her? I can see he really doesn't care about himself."

I'm saying that there is probably a 19879832432987% chance (like my percentage?) that there is a hottie/loving/fun woman out there who is looking for a person like yourself. You just have to man up enough to take a look.

[buffgator]

Holy shit, if I can get you an appointment with Doctor Phil will you go??? Kept her picture on my desk of her for 2 years , must have helped alot when jerking off alone to porn huh? Get some new ass and move on. She comes back one day then good, but dont waste your time with a broken heart, shit you only live once.

I did move on, I am not a believer that there is only one girl out there, I believe that theres thousands I could be married to and just as happy. I did not just sit around how the hell do you think I got married? I fu3Kin dated and whent out and had fun.

[SnaX]

I did move on, I am not a believer that there is only one girl out there, I believe that theres thousands I could be married to and just as happy. I did not just sit around how the hell do you think I got married? I fu3Kin dated and whent out and had fun.

Agreed

[batlin]

God damn! you guys are freaken' brutal!! i love it!
Thanks all, I told my best friend that he has to kick me in the nuts if I respond to her.. and he WILL (he has done it in the past and i hurt for a week)

[batlin]

I KNEW something was up about 2 weeks ago when I saw she had changed her Myspace pic from one with her and her current BF to one that was taken when me and her were together.... I think she was fishing for me to email her at that point honestly...

[kman]

Hang out with her ONCE more. Email her and tell her you want to see her. Jerk off 3 maybe 4 times before you go. Get her a little drunk then bang the shit out of her, I mean break her back, punch her in the throat (maybe not that far ), fuc her like never before. Then dont call her back or answer her emails for a month. If she keeps trying to see you after a month, give it a try again, but wear the pants this time and never let her have the upper hand again you p ussy.

Words of wisdom. Spoken like a true New yorker. I would def. break her back in one more time,ignore her for awhile, then she will more than likely be wanting to get back with you,,,from there the balls in your court,,,,

[Kratos]

Words of wisdom. Spoken like a true New yorker. I would def. break her back in one more time,ignore her for awhile, then she will more than likely be wanting to get back with you,,,from there the balls in your court,,,,

Didn't Mike Tyson once say "I'll fuc ya till ya love me." ??

[goaheadandhitme]

*sigh*, I just got an email from my ex today... THE ex, the one I wanted to marry and still to this day would marry her in a heart beat.. she broke up with me almost 2.5 years ago and I am still f'ed up over her.. I have tried and tried an tried to get over her but she is the reason I haven't really had a great relationship since because I compare everyone to her.. so I told me self I wouldn't contact her or email her or anything anymore after last year when I emailed her (kinda drunkenly) that I was still not over her and still wanted to be with her..
So, today I get an email from her to say hi and tell me her life sucks right now.. which is EXACTLY how we got back together last time.... (we went out on a few dates and then i never heard from her till she emailed me saying "hi" to break the ice... well.. I got one again and now.. well.. All I can think about it "I HAVE A CHANCE!!!!" and I am thanking god.. but on the other hand I am like "god damn it, just when I thought I might be able to get over this b*tch"
How do women know exactly when to email you to throw you into a tail spin?

Yea I got one just about like this, twice a year or so she calls me all lovey dovey, " I always just miss you sooooo much, whatever happened to us, on and on, and on. Just about the time i'm ready to say "i'l be at your house in 30 minutes", she turns her phone off for another six months. Great ain't they?

[bulldawg_28]

Baitlin, your story sounds very similiar to my own. I'm going to skip telling you what happened between me and my ex, and I'm going to tell you what you should do. Don't email, don't call or text her, just burn those bridges and NEVER look back. Looking back only causes YOU pain. Nobody else, except YOU!! Life is too short to live in the past, look foward into the future.

As for your myspace, I'd put a picture up of you having a good time, partying with other girls. Show her that you're not going to sit around and be depressed because of her. Show her that you don't need her to be happy.

I know you probably hear this a lot, that time heals all things. Well, I disagree with this. After suffering for about a year after the break up, I decided **** it, I'm gonna change. I started going out more, partying more, met a lot of people, and had some of the greatest times of my life. You can get over her, you just need to change the way you think about her. In the meantime, have you considered counseling? I wen't through a coupel sessions, and it does help. I wish you the best bro. Don't let this bitch get the best of you. If you ever need to talk shoot me a pm.

[taiboxa]

send her my way.. im bored.

[DIESELPWR]

Big guns is most definately rite.. i never thought on a bodybuilding forum there would be this many hopelessly romantic dudes out there.. but treat them good and they will leave u but treat them like shit and they stick like glue