Need Girl Advice

[king6]

There is this girl I work with, whom I have liked for quite some time now. Saturday night, she calls me wanting to get together, she sounded upset. She had a fight with her mom, and wanted someone to talk too. So I went, we met at a bar and talked and drank. Right off the bat, we were flirtatious and holding hands. After we left, we were making out in the parking lot, and then went to her place and had sex. (Couldn't bust a nut, stupid PCT ) She is bi-sexual, and said she had not been with a guy in like a year. I told her that I liked her for quite some time, she said she liked me too. I also told her I didn't want this to be a one night stand, and she said it wouldn't. I can't help but think she gave it up real easy, but we have known each other for 6 months, so maybe it is not so bad. We were with each other Saturday night, and I saw her at work Sunday, but didn't have a chance to talk to her, then I had to work overtime, and she went home to sleep, since we didn't sleep all night. I don't know if I am paranoid or not, but she seemed a little distant at work, I texted her after work and she got back to me, she said she was going to sleep, and I was too. I will see her tonight, just wondered if you all think there is a relationship hidden in here somewhere? Our work schedules are jacked up, so it is hard for us to spend time together. When should I call her and ask to see her again? I don't want to come off too clingy or obsessed, but I do really like this girl.

[dupa95]

carefull about that bi thing may be a lez hidden there. my 2 cents

[DSM4Life]

It sounds like you are really looking forward to a relationship with this girl. I would say back off a little bit and just enjoy what you have now. If you start pushing all your feelings on her in such a short amount of time you might scare her away. Just be careful in how you say things. The only thing that jumped out for me is when you said, "I told her that I liked her for quite some time." Instead of saying that why not just reply "I like you to."

Dr. Phil OUTTTTTTTTT

[gixxerboy1]

I agree with DSM.

Also she might not want people at work knowing. So maybe she over compensated.

I dont think its a big deal she slept with you the first night. Why do make a # rule that makes it acceptable. If she wanted to sleep with you and didnt just because of a rule that doesnt change her. Also flip it around you slept with her the first night are you a bad person?

[Odpierdol_sie!]

yeah i got to agree wit the last two.
If you aint been like this with a chick b4, then you bet your ass you dont know the script with hanging back a little. I have done it a few times, and suffered after it too. If she likes you then it will happen, just be patient, dont push it too hard. If you want my advise, the best thing you can be to her is a really good friend. If she is comfortable with you that way she will open up alot better.
Time my friend that is all you need.

[mavsluva]

You will most likely have stronger feelings for her than she'll ever have for you because honestly, she feels as if you've already conquered her (because you two have slept together). Therefore, her desire to be pursued by you is not as good as it once was. Regardless of her sexual orientation.

Good luck!

[WEBB]

play it cool man....dont crowd her and stop worrying so much....

[stocky121]

my advice is dont take webb's advice haha

[5ifthCitizen]

agree with the others man. give her a lot of space now. let her know that u dont need her.

[Gear]

In a sitution like that you never know what can happend mate. This is a female you're dealing with lol. One day they can think one way, and the next day they can think the total opposite. Just go with the wind mate.

-Gear

[king6]

Very good advice all. I was worried about crowding her, and seemeing obsesed and needy, I thought about not calling her today, because we would see each other at work tonight, but we don't see each other that much at work. So I texted her and said I was going to Subway, and asked her if she wanted anything. I was going to ask her tonight after work if she wanted to get together Tuesday night and spend some time together. Hopefully that is not too needy. I left her place Sunday morning with her, saw her a couple of times at work, then I worked overtime, and she went home. Didn't see her all day today, but will see her tonight. I don't want to crowd her too much, but I also don't want to seem like it was a one night stand, and I don't care about her.

[king6]

You will most likely have stronger feelings for her than she'll ever have for you because honestly, she feels as if you've already conquered her (because you two have slept together). Therefore, her desire to be pursued by you is not as good as it once was. Regardless of her sexual orientation.

Good luck!

Mavs, I always hold your advice and wisdom to the highest standards, which makes me sad to here this, what else can I do to try and have a relationship. I told her before we had sex that I didn't want a one night stand, and she said it wouldn't be.

[WEBB]

have you ever lied to a girl about it not being a one nighter...maybe she did it to you just to get some...sorry man, but you need to play it cool...

[boarder034]

i seem to notice that when i get out of a relationship i think of all the things that would have made it work. And i just started to realize that if its ment to happen itll work out. And usually when u have this cando carefree attitude is when you start meeting people. Think about it, how many times have you looked for something, cant find anyone, you gget a gf finally stop worrying about it, and suddenly everyone wants you! So i just stopped looking around, noticed i do alot better in meeting people that way lol...and maybe if you show that your a strong person without her she'll be even more attracted to you and things will turn tide and workout

[king6]

have you ever lied to a girl about it not being a one nighter...maybe she did it to you just to get some...sorry man, but you need to play it cool...

Wow, never even thought about that.

[WEBB]

sorry man i didnt mean to come across like a dick here, but i know girls that have lied to me about it so just be ready for thta, but if you play it cool and make it seem like you are interested but that she is not your world already i think you got a shot.....

[king6]

sorry man i didnt mean to come across like a dick here, but i know girls that have lied to me about it so just be ready for thta, but if you play it cool and make it seem like you are interested but that she is not your world already i think you got a shot.....

It's all good, I guess time will tell, like all you guys say, I will give her some space and not crowd her, and hope for the best.

Just once, I would like to post a chick thread, where everything works out for once.

[mavsluva]

Mavs, I always hold your advice and wisdom to the highest standards, which makes me sad to here this, what else can I do to try and have a relationship. I told her before we had sex that I didn't want a one night stand, and she said it wouldn't be.

Simply don't have sex with a woman until you've reached a point in your relationship to were it can be 100% mutual. The problem is, she knows there are millions of other king6's out there and you're now part of that group in her mind. Guys that are really looking to win a woman's heart will hold out on anything and everything to win her heart in the end.

My advice to you is to move on and use this as a learning experience.

[goodcents]

My advice, keep hitting it as long as you can and use that bi side of her before you fuk upand some guy like me is hitting her and her friends

[WEBB]

My advice, keep hitting it as long as you can and use that bi side of her before you fuk upand some guy like me is hitting her and her friends

Goodcents Goodcents wake up wake up man....your dreaming again...hahahha

[goodcents]

Goodcents Goodcents wake up wake up man....your dreaming again...hahahha

Killjoy

















but really, she's bi and he never even brought it up to her to call a friend over? Wtf? As soon as I hear that, I've got the phone handed to them

[Stock]

Act like you dont give a fvk what happens, and be patient...

[vote for pedro]

I would just act like it never happened and carry on like we always did. Then you can see if she's really backing off from you or you just paranoid. There's obviously some attraction there she did sleep with you. Just be casual with her and she'll loosen up a bit.

[gixxerboy1]

OMG. The relationship chances aren't over. She didnt loose interest. Its been 24 hours since you left her. She may want a relationship too but that doesn't mean you are in one yet. Don't play games or blow her off. But you dont need to be in contact 24/7.

I left my girls house yesterday morning too. We haven't seen are texted each other as much as you are doing to this girl.

[Sir Lifts-a-lot]

BACK OFF DUDE! You are scaring her, or maybe she is worried about it getting out to people you work with. Girls can be weird with that shit.

[goodcents]

[QUOTE=gixxerboy1]OMG. The relationship chances aren't over. She didnt loose interest. Its been 24 hours since you left her. She may want a relationship too but that doesn't mean you are in one yet. Don't play games or blow her off. But you dont need to be in contact 24/7.

I left my girls house yesterday morning too. We haven't seen are texted each other as much as you are doing to this girl.[/QUOTE]


Well it's over then

[gixxerboy1]

[QUOTE=goodcents]

OMG. The relationship chances aren't over. She didnt loose interest. Its been 24 hours since you left her. She may want a relationship too but that doesn't mean you are in one yet. Don't play games or blow her off. But you dont need to be in contact 24/7.

I left my girls house yesterday morning too. We haven't seen are texted each other as much as you are doing to this girl.[/QUOTE]


Well it's over then

maybe. If its over i just saved alot of money.

[NightWolf]

Im not sure i understand how many days has passed since you sleept together, but my question is: how is she towards you? i mean you say that you txt her sometimes and that you called her and asked if she wanted something from subway.. does she txt or call you? what i can say (and all girls will agree with this) is that if a she is a littel intrested and you are all over her, like calling and txt all the time she will QUICKLY lose interest. I have seen that happen soooo many times. if you think about it, its almost the same with us guys.

[king6]

Im not sure i understand how many days has passed since you sleept together, but my question is: how is she towards you? i mean you say that you txt her sometimes and that you called her and asked if she wanted something from subway.. does she txt or call you? what i can say (and all girls will agree with this) is that if a she is a littel intrested and you are all over her, like calling and txt all the time she will QUICKLY lose interest. I have seen that happen soooo many times. if you think about it, its almost the same with us guys.

Not too much, she is working late today, I asked her last night if she wanted to get together after work, and she said she would probably be too tired, so she said we could do something Thursday, I was going to ask her to do something tonight, but I think I will hold off, and just be patent.

[briancb1]

don't get into chicks at work - hasn't worked TWICE for me. Hell afterwords.

[Bigen12]

Not too much, she is working late today, I asked her last night if she wanted to get together after work, and she said she would probably be too tired, so she said we could do something Thursday, I was going to ask her to do something tonight, but I think I will hold off, and just be patent.

I'd stop asking her out,

You asked her out, she declined, it's very important that you make her come to you.

Go out with your friends, have some fun.

If she asks you why you haven't asked her out again, tell her that you've been very busy, going out with your friends after work, and that you'd love to go out again, for her to just tell you a night for ya'll to do so.

[nbkandrew13]

dude any girl that has sex first night is a slut, if she is bi dont you think she figured it out by having lots of sexual experiences????????? im sorry bro doesnt mean dont have a great time with her theres girls u fuk and girls you marry.............. if it looks like a duck and quacks its a duck even if it says its a rabbit it is what it is nothing more nothing less ... and yes a man that has sex on the first date is a manwhore.. i always tried to hit it first date because i wanna know what i got it always served me well i knew that if i couldnt close a girl then she wasnt closeable

[nbkandrew13]

and quit trying so hard christ the best way to get rid of a girkl is to be nice to her the best way to keep one is not give a fuk... these only work till they are @ 30 31 , when they actually grow up it gets much more complicated

[king6]

dude any girl that has sex first night is a slut, if she is bi dont you think she figured it out by having lots of sexual experiences????????? im sorry bro doesnt mean dont have a great time with her theres girls u fuk and girls you marry.............. if it looks like a duck and quacks its a duck even if it says its a rabbit it is what it is nothing more nothing less ... and yes a man that has sex on the first date is a manwhore.. i always tried to hit it first date because i wanna know what i got it always served me well i knew that if i couldnt close a girl then she wasnt closeable

We did have sex the first night, but weve known each other for 6 months, and we went out, we admitted our feelings for each other.

Here is an update, We hooked up Sat night, and since then we still talk, but have not had a chance to see each other. She texted me last night just to talk, and we agreed to go out tonight, I said I would call her in the afternoon, and I did, also texted her twice asking if she still wanted to go out, but It's almost 7, and I have not heard from her, she has not answered my one call or my 2 text messages. So I got some Jim Beam and some coke, I'm gonna relax tonight not worry about her. What pisses me off, is she said she is not into games, and she wanted a relationship. So if she is full of shit, that is fine, I will just tell everyone at work what we did.

[nbkandrew13]

bro i totelly feel you of course she says shes not into games what else can she say. so bro if you want an oppurtunity listen stop calling if she calls dont answer call back later or text her im in a movie ill hit u up later...... please listen if you dont start trying to be a little of a challenge its over....... dont say nuthin to nobody even though your crazy about her keep it on the down low, its ok to care for her but you have to chill.. dont be immmature dont be a prick. just its all good

[king6]

bro i totelly feel you of course she says shes not into games what else can she say. so bro if you want an oppurtunity listen stop calling if she calls dont answer call back later or text her im in a movie ill hit u up later...... please listen if you dont start trying to be a little of a challenge its over....... dont say nuthin to nobody even though your crazy about her keep it on the down low, its ok to care for her but you have to chill.. dont be immmature dont be a prick. just its all good

Will do bro, I'm already pissed at her, so I don;t plan on talking to her for a few days, a friend of hers is getting together with her friday night and wants me to come, but im blowing them off. Im tired of this shit, if she wants me, she knows my number.

[nbkandrew13]

hey if she calls and tells you come on do it just make very little effort you know what i mean

[gixxerboy1]

We did have sex the first night, but weve known each other for 6 months, and we went out, we admitted our feelings for each other.

Here is an update, We hooked up Sat night, and since then we still talk, but have not had a chance to see each other. She texted me last night just to talk, and we agreed to go out tonight, I said I would call her in the afternoon, and I did, also texted her twice asking if she still wanted to go out, but It's almost 7, and I have not heard from her, she has not answered my one call or my 2 text messages. So I got some Jim Beam and some coke, I'm gonna relax tonight not worry about her. What pisses me off, is she said she is not into games, and she wanted a relationship. So if she is full of shit, that is fine, I will just tell everyone at work what we did.

She might not have been into games. But maybe she isn't into being annoyed either. If you said you would call in the afternoon thats fine and you did. Why not leave it at that. you probably pissed her off too, texting 2 times. also.

[king6]

She might not have been into games. But maybe she isn't into being annoyed either. If you said you would call in the afternoon thats fine and you did. Why not leave it at that. you probably pissed her off too, texting 2 times. also.

Yeah, probably, maybe I don't know. A bunch of us from work are getting together tonight at a bar. She is suppose to be there, don't know if I want to go or not. I just want to know if we are going to have a relationship or not, if not fine, I will move on. I just don't like being ignored, and left wondering.

[l2elapse]

i would go and just ignore her the whole time