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Ok so Ive had a huge crush on this girl since highschool (15 years ago) and we met the other day, she cuts hair. She was really busy but she did recagnize me and was plesant. I have no idea if shes involved but Im wanting to find out if I can sweep her off her feet. Thinking of dozen roses and a note hinting that I want to date her.....what do ya think?
Last edited by Rookie1974; 12-27-2007 at 12:07 PM.
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Ummm how bout you just ask her? Like converse with her and somehow bring up that your single, or ask so are you married? Just ask her bro, when she says no then great ask her on a date. If she says yes then hold off. You can also tell off her body language if she is into you or not.
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yea thats what I was thinking...probably the best bet however, she was really busy due to the holidays. She initiated the conversation and said bye when she was leaving. If I go back in there 1. it will be blatently obvious and 2. she may not be able to talk anyhow.
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I too think it would be best to talk to her first, at least find out if she's involved. If she's married would you really want to send her roses? If not then you might as well determine that first.
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+1Originally Posted by Ima******ger
Common sense 101. Initiate a conversation first to discover if she is available or not.
Geez, i'm surprised any of you ever get women the way you think. You don't just send flowers to a woman out of thin air. sheesh!
***No source checks!!!***
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Thanks for the advice, what in the world am I going to go back in there for? another haircut or try and get a word in edgewise while she is working?
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go back in two weeks or even a week. Normally when time and money permits i get my haircut every week to keep it short on the sides and always looking fresh. That would be a way to get back in there. Or if you have long hair, go in there and ask for her if she is not busy and then ask her to show you some hair products like gel, wax, foam, glue, etc.....then ask how the hell she has been, its been 15 years you married yet! ya know, jokingly, just kinda harmless flirt/joke with her and listen to her body language. If she seems good to go then say, well hey hate to bother you at work but how bout we get a drink this weekend (or whenever she's not busy) and catch up on things!
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good idea,
My hair is a medium length and the chick that cut it did leave the sides a bit "raggy" (inexperienced) I could go back to get that fixed....hell she told me come back when she said goodbye.
Now for a shot of nerve!
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Perfect bro! Also throw in the hair products for a bit longer chat IF she is not busy. But yeah def.! Just throw in there when you about to leave and say, hey we should catch up get a drink or something this weekend, you busy? You got this one in the bag bro! Let us know how it goes!
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Go with the direct approach, women love a confident man, build up your confidence by saying hello to 10 beautiful woman a day that you see on the street. Sure some will diss you, but most will respond positively. Flowers and gimmicks can have negative backlash.
Don't over think it, go get it.
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good luck bro. i was in your shoes a few months ago. hope yours goes better then mine. hahah
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agreed man... geezz... you don't just send roses to this girl, shell freak out and think ur a stalker... talk to the girl, make her laugh and be smooth... step ur game up brotha!!
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Read the book "Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists" by Neil Strauss.
Really interesting read.
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You've had a crush on a girl for 15 years?
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well we were friends in high school, a friend of mine dated her.
Ive always liked her and have always wanted to date her. she is so sweet, or at least she was ( I have no idea what she is like now)
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dude. do not send a dozen roses, obviously you need to work on your game...DO NOT send the roses..
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This thread is cracking me up, don't know why but Im actually lau***ng out loud........ Everyone's an expert
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do not send flowers, yet....go back tomorrow telll her you need some better shampoo and gel now since the cut she gave turned out great and you wanna use something she recommends...then you are back there right away and she will remember you fo sho...when she recommends something tell her you want to do your hair up nice for new years party you are attending and ask her what she is doing, if she says hangin with my husband at home back off if she says a bunch of girls are all going out give her your number and say maybe you can all meet up...easy as 1 2 3 bro....
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You get her a dozen roses and you are automatically disqualified from ever dating her, it pretty much makes you a stalker and she will not hesitate to reffer to you as one to her friends.
First, Look for a ring next time you see her. I would not even go in the next day, it's too desperate.
Go in for another hair cut, request her to cut your hair. Find things about her to poke fun of her about...from the past maybe in high school....maybe her hair looks much better now? Maybe try to involve the stylist working next to her with the convo...."wow, do you know this lady?" always works after she says somthing either funny or just stupid.
Don't show up trying to beg though. She is going to talk while cutting your hair, you should not have a hard time finding out of she is married with kids or seeing someone seriously.
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OOOOOOHHHHH smooth!!!
Thats the right idea.
Remember mate, that if a girl fancies you then theyre gonna say agree to go on the date with you (well 9 times outa 10 as they might have other issues), theyll agree to give you their number though at leasty. So when you approach her, all you have to do is find out if shes single, if shes single then you can just ask her if she maybe wants to meet up for a drink sometime, if she fancies you and shes single then she will agree. If shes single and doesnt fancy you then she will disagree, if shes attached then leave her alone straight away (well, just be friendly, say that you hope shes happy and she can have a great new year).
Go in to the shop and ask to buy some hair products (gel or wax or whatever), when you ask her, just start chattin, straight away ask her what shes doing for new years (this is the key YOU MUST CASUALLY SAY THIS), after youve asked her what shes doing for new years, prompt her...so say 'are you spending time with the family, with your partner and kids?'...once youve said that you hit the nail on the head...she will either say that she is spending time with them (in which case you end it there and wish her a happy new year and leave)...or she will say that she doesnt have kids or a partner...when she says that shes single and tells you what shes getting upto thats when you ask her if shed like to go out for a drink in the new years...then say exactly as i tell you 'ok, well give me your number and il txt you, itll be nice to meet up sometime, if you like'...keep it simple...READ HER BODY LANGUAGE.
Once you get her number (if you do) then just start txting her nicely.
Remember that if a girl is single and interested in you, then unless you act like a total fool, you cant fail to get their number. If they fancy you they will be waiting for you to ask for their number.
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Spot on britbb! If it was a girl I went to school with Id just straight up talk to her and ask her as im very front about these things...even girls i dont know. Hair sylists are very talkative and you can always find out what their status is and or story. Youve hit a very easy target bro, go and get her sometime soon. I like the hair gel/shampoo idea, that would work perfect so their is no akward moment and you are face to face versus "head down, head up, turn to the side" LOL, this should be easy for you bro, body langauge says it all!OOOOOOHHHHH smooth!!!
Thats the right idea.
Remember mate, that if a girl fancies you then theyre gonna say agree to go on the date with you (well 9 times outa 10 as they might have other issues), theyll agree to give you their number though at leasty. So when you approach her, all you have to do is find out if shes single, if shes single then you can just ask her if she maybe wants to meet up for a drink sometime, if she fancies you and shes single then she will agree. If shes single and doesnt fancy you then she will disagree, if shes attached then leave her alone straight away (well, just be friendly, say that you hope shes happy and she can have a great new year).
Go in to the shop and ask to buy some hair products (gel or wax or whatever), when you ask her, just start chattin, straight away ask her what shes doing for new years (this is the key YOU MUST CASUALLY SAY THIS), after youve asked her what shes doing for new years, prompt her...so say 'are you spending time with the family, with your partner and kids?'...once youve said that you hit the nail on the head...she will either say that she is spending time with them (in which case you end it there and wish her a happy new year and leave)...or she will say that she doesnt have kids or a partner...when she says that shes single and tells you what shes getting upto thats when you ask her if shed like to go out for a drink in the new years...then say exactly as i tell you 'ok, well give me your number and il txt you, itll be nice to meet up sometime, if you like'...keep it simple...READ HER BODY LANGUAGE.
Once you get her number (if you do) then just start txting her nicely.
Remember that if a girl is single and interested in you, then unless you act like a total fool, you cant fail to get their number. If they fancy you they will be waiting for you to ask for their number.
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Also im sure if she was soooo happy to see you then she will def. be up to going out for a drink or 2 unless like stated, if she has a partner.
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go for it man unless she has a guy then that would suck ,would be awkward convo lol
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Didn't you look at her ring finger? Sounds like something that shouldn't be too hard to do. Just wait til you actually need a freakin haircut and go back. You've waited 15 years, what's another couple of weeks? Just don't do anything stupid, please. On second thought, please do something stupid so it makes me look better to the female population. Thanks!
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Well she was cutting hair and did not have a ring on, but then neither did the chick next to me that was gabbin bout her hubby???
There are about 10 girls in that salon cuttin wigs. Going in im going to be assisted by the door girl for the wax "stuff" Ill heve to be pretty smooth to get back to her,
Great advice, she aint gettin flowers till I get some action....or at least a good date!
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dont just get some chick u havent seen n a few years flowers, that is a really bad idea
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You know what mate, ive got a better idea. I know what will happen, youll go in and ask for some wax or whatever and the wrong girl will serve u. Then youll panic and fuk up.
Just go in, take the wax and go upto her (if shes not the one serving u) and say, hi how are u, i thought id just come back for some wax, but also i wanna do something else...something i shoulda done when i was in school with you, ask you if you wanna come out for a drink with me...then just ask her, say that if shes got a guy then its cool no worries but youd like to take her out.
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Make sure first she doesnt have a boyfriend or husband in her life. If she doesnt then id ask her for coffee first instead of roses.
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Send her a pic of your cock..... just kidding. Set up a social event before you go in next time like a barbecue or something. When you are in and talking, invite her and a mate. Take it from there.....
Thing is asking her out at work in front of customers etc puts you both on the spot. The invite idea will be easier for to say yes to and if she turns it down its not like you just got blown out in front of a shop full of customers....... better for you both. If she turns up with her man then too bad.... shit in his burger. If she turn up with crotchless panties and a tub of margarine your in luck.....
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Absoloutley F*****G halarious!....I will need to borrow somones fathead camera for the cock pic!!!
getting dissed in front of the whole shop is a bit risky.
I kind of think bottom line....due to the fact that she will likely be "bunkerd down" when I walk in It will be obvious that I am attempting to talk to her....and when I ask it'll be obvious why I came back in.
Its really her loss if shes got a mate or whatever...
Thanks for the replys
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i agree with what some of the other guys said..dont just go send her flowers, that could be interpreted the wrong way and come off kinda creepy i think...jmo...talk to her and see what the deal is
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I've asked girls out out there jobs all the time. It not like your announcing it to everyone. Seriously man up.
If there is a girl at the counter that would help you just say I i know (what ever her name is) and ask her for help. Then start the convo. Your making this into a huge product. I would have banged her already.
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First things first... you know her, or kind of know her... do you remember what she was like?
what she use to be in to?
what kind of sense of humour she has?
if she likes a giggle and you are kind of witty then you could get in her "interested book" straight off the bat.
Dont ask for her number, thats a 50/50 quetion and a bad idea.
Dont ask for her number but offer her yours, most woman like to be in control and dont want to go giving it to some divvy who might start meithering the shit out of them in texts.
Do find out what she is in to.. gym, social, coffee or juice etc.
Next time you are in there talk shit to her, be witty but only if she likes a laugh... Girls fall for that everytime...
Dont make it look like you are there for nothing else coz you will look like a weirdo. Calling in there more than twice in the next two weeks is suicide... it will let her know you are interested but not convince here you are a nice guy, you will run the risk of being labelled as "that weirdo who worries about his hair too much".
Do find out if she knows her old friends that will give you a level talking point and make her feel she can trust you etc... this will require you to find out if she knows them still... facebook etc might be of help to you on this.
Dont make like you know here too well she might think you are a stalker.
The whole point in conversation, to find out about her and to tell her things about you (things you already know she likes) you knowing about her first hand will give you an advantage and know what to go for.
I aint gonna go on but these are just a few of the things you should be looking at, on the BF husband etc if there is one, who cares? you want her or not?
lastly you got many things you can use to take her out or just meet up, if its near lunch time do a walk by carrying a paper or something accidentally bumping in to her.. that works a charm (forces convo)!
if she has time go for coffee or something.
If she has to get back to work (this you should know), Tell her before she tells you that you have to run because you are late for something (this is where knowing what her patterns are will come in handy) but if she has time in the future then you should go for a drink or something.. doing this will make you look ok and not a complete twat.
if you do your homework before hand you can easily pick this broad up, if she is single you got her in the palm of your hand.
Most women are easy.. you just got to push the right buttons.
Best of luck with it.
P.S post some pix of her.
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Go to her work and stay parked for a while, find out what car she drives and follower her to her house. Sit out there for a few days (need to bring food and water, oh don't forget the diapers) and see if she is living with someone. After you figured out her routing, while she is at work break into to her house and go through her stuff to get good intel on her.
Or you could just strap on a pair and walk in and shoot the shit for a bit.
BTW don't do what I said in the first paragraph.
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Or you could just ask her out.
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OR tell her you got a huge cock.
If she beds you and then finding out she says you aint got a huge one, tell her you thought it was and as you are stood there cock in hand you may as well get the business done!!!
works a charm.. just don't forget your cosh in case she says no... And remember its not rape if you shout SURPRISE!!!!
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LOL!!!
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if you send her flowers out of nowhere...u might as well send a blimp over there with ROOKIE1974 is a stalker written on it. u been outta high school 15 yrs & still got no game bro?? Go back there casual, get a little clean up job on the wig, get some gel & shit & tell her it was really nice seein you bla bla bla.... you need to be fishing for answers before you do ANYTHING that will make u look like a tool... hell, its been a long time since you've seen her.......nothing like showing a little interest in HER current life-chicks love it when u act interested in them -duh
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another AFC
Not much game, but a dam good career. I havent lived in my hometown for at least 10 years
Ive got some cofidence built up about this...I can see it going well either way, if she's gat a BF / Hubbay and is HAPPY than good for her. If not.....I got this!
Thankx bros, almost made a big F-UP.
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You could give her this XMAS present http://www.thatvideosite.com/video/3782
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