Do i have the right to be mad?

[DSM4Life]

:sad:

hahaha

now thats a good one.

[Carlos_E]

Going to make this long story short. I broke up with my boyfriend on Thursday. He was emotionally more into the relationship than i so it was easier for me to deal with. We been together for little over year and we do live together. I went out sat for my **ay and meet someone. The new guy i met has been texting me Sunday throughout the day. Nothing sexual just cute stuff about himself or telling me I’m cute etc. It’s like when you first meet someone and you’re in the "puppy love" stage. So anyway, Sunday night my X b/f happens to look at my phone and my messages which he has NEVER done in the past to my knowledge. After reading the messages he flips. Telling me I’m a f**king liar, that he hates me and for me to go live at this other guys house. All said out of anger. Well I walk away and let it be for the night since it was late. He on the sofa and me in the bed with wondering thoughts.

Now i understand why he would be hurt about this but at the same time i keep saying in my head WTF were you doing on my phone. I feel like saying obviously you were looking for something so don’t be pissed off when you find it. Also how the f**k are you going to disrespect me like that by totally breaking my privacy/trust like that ?!

You broke up with him. You should move out. Living together after a break up will be a disaster. Plus any new guy you meet will be weary that you're still living with your ex. He'll wonder if you're still having sex.

Broke up on Thurs and meet him on Saturday, where is the cheating?

Close enough. Sorry to say but if you can meet someone that quick you didn't care much in the first place.

Well its easy when you are the breaker. I bounced back pretty quick this time

Whore!


I wish my bf was a whore.

[DSM4Life]

You broke up with him. You should move out. Living together after a break up will be a disaster. Plus any new guy you meet will be weary that you're still living with your ex. He'll wonder if you're still having sex.

Close enough. Sorry to say but if you can meet someone that quick you didn't care much in the first place.

Whore!


I wish my bf was a whore.

Working on moving out as we speak.

[Carlos_E]

Working on moving out as we speak.

That is the best. I would hold off on dating or keep it under cover until you move out. It will hurt him more that you have moved on so quickly.

IM me. You never told me why you two broke up.

[Kale]

fine ill guess ill have to do it

I love this !!

[Tock]

I have a cell phone, but I rarely use it because I don't understand it. I have to pull the battery out to turn it off. Ya, it's one of those pay-as-you-go phones, costs me $7 a month.
I still use a 1938 Automatic Electric Tombstone rotary dial phone for everything else. It's cool. http://www.phonevault.com/catalog/An...0s40s/ae50.asp

But to answer your question, yes, you have the right to be mad. Actually, any time you experience an emotion, it's your honest emotion, the natural consequense of your circumstances. IMHO, if it's your emotion, you have the right to it. As far as good mental health goes, it's much better to own your emotions, whatever they are, instead of trying to deny them, or blame them on other people.

But I think you were asking about privacy, and setting up boundries on your phone's data records. Seems to me that's the sort of thing you negotiate with your sweetie, and over a period of years, those boundries may loosen up, depending on how your relationship matures. It's like pocketbooks. Some women don't care if hubby looks around the purse, and other women chop off anyone's hand that opens it up.
Unless you gave permission to the contrary, though, I should think that not even a boyfriend should be browsing through your data banks.

Sounds like you handled everything well, though. Nevertheless, I'm sorry to hear that things didn't work out between you two. Long-time sweeties are the best things going, and they're hard to come by. I hope your prince will come soon . . .

[Tock]

Some folks are suited for serial monogamy, others prefer sticking with one person for decades. Depends on your background, which works for you.

If you're wanting to see what a happy relationship that endures for 50 years or so looks like, take a close look at couples that have been together for 50 years. Yeah, old people. One of the best ways to live happily ever after with someone for 50 years, is to find people who have done it, and take a close look at what they do every day.

Just a thought . . .

[RANA]

That is the best. I would hold off on dating or keep it under cover until you move out. It will hurt him more that you have moved on so quickly.

IM me. You never told me why you two broke up.

I agree with that.

[RANA]

Close enough. Sorry to say but if you can meet someone that quick you didn't care much in the first place.

I disagree, he met someone. I meet people everyday, does not mean he slept with him. I am assuming that the feelings for his b/f had faded away. It happens, that is why (I am guessing) they broke up, but it was wrong of his ex to go through his phone.

[goodcents]

I went through one of my ex's phone and sure enough some dude was on it saying I love you and you never call any more (well it wasn't that funny at the time)

[RANA]

I went through one of my ex's phone and sure enough some dude was on it saying I love you and you never call any more (well it wasn't that funny at the time)

I see your point, did you confront her?

[DSM4Life]

I went through one of my ex's phone and sure enough some dude was on it saying I love you and you never call any more (well it wasn't that funny at the time)

Your heart had to dropped.

[goodcents]

^No I was getting and losing alot of chics back then and yes I confronted her, she got mad and changed her passwordShe had some good stuff (the crazy ones always do)

[goodcents]

We all have our sorted ex stories to tell

[RANA]

Shit I had an ex that broke into my house while I was out of town, crazy bitch.

[DSM4Life]

Shit I had an ex that broke into my house while I was out of town, crazy bitch.

HAHA

Where you are dear

[RANA]

Hell, she went through my stuff and had the nerve to confront me when I got back about phone numbers that were in my dresser. She must have forgotten that I was a single male and I don't toss anything away. Those were old numbers, about a year or two old.

[DSM4Life]

Ok i have a good story.

I dated this chick for about a year. She totally fell crazy for me. She would tell me she loved me cant live without me and all that jazz. Well she got to be too much and we broke up. About 6 months after the phone calls/texts started to die down. About a year later i am riding my bike and i notice this car following me (i notice stuff like this). So i do a few lane changes and such to see if i am crazy and sure enough its following me! I am on a gixxer750 so of course i just take off and lose them. Well i go home after that and am in my driveway putting my bike away. By now its like 3:30am and its really quite where i live. I see headlights coming around the corner and i take notice of who it is since its late. ITS THE SAME CAR ! The car slowly pulls up and stops in from of my house which has tint so i can't see who is in the car. Well i start taking my gear off to get ready to either go at it or just get shot ghetto style but the door opens and who pops out, CRAZY BIOTCH !

She said :Oh, hi i was in the neighborhood.
Me: I said in the neighborhood you live 45 mins away !
She: i was just checking in seeing how you were doing. You ride too fast so i waited on the corner for you to come home. (waited for about an hr and a half)

I pretty much flipped and said she was crazy and she left. I started sleeping with one eye open after her.

[RANA]

Are you going to marry her?

[Renesis]

No wonder you turned gay.

[DSM4Life]

No wonder you turned gay.

I have been stalked twice by physco women ! I wish i could marry my right hand, we been together for YEARS, never fight and is always ready for a good time.

[Z-Ro]

Ok i have a good story.

I dated this chick for about a year. She totally fell crazy for me. She would tell me she loved me cant live without me and all that jazz. Well she got to be too much and we broke up. About 6 months after the phone calls/texts started to die down. About a year later i am riding my bike and i notice this car following me (i notice stuff like this). So i do a few lane changes and such to see if i am crazy and sure enough its following me! I am on a gixxer750 so of course i just take off and lose them. Well i go home after that and am in my driveway putting my bike away. By now its like 3:30am and its really quite where i live. I see headlights coming around the corner and i take notice of who it is since its late. ITS THE SAME CAR ! The car slowly pulls up and stops in from of my house which has tint so i can't see who is in the car. Well i start taking my gear off to get ready to either go at it or just get shot ghetto style but the door opens and who pops out, CRAZY BIOTCH !

She said :Oh, hi i was in the neighborhood.
Me: I said in the neighborhood you live 45 mins away !
She: i was just checking in seeing how you were doing. You ride too fast so i waited on the corner for you to come home. (waited for about an hr and a half)

I pretty much flipped and said she was crazy and she left. I started sleeping with one eye open after her.

wow man, i would have shat in my pants, i am paranoid as it is

[Logan13]

Dsm we'll kick his ass for ya

You do not have to like Bossman 1986's opinion anymore than he has to like yours. Why is tolerance OK only when it is given in the direction in which you approve?

[Amorphic]

You do not have to like Bossman 1986's opinion anymore than he has to like yours. Why is tolerance OK only when it is given in the direction in which you approve?

i guess thats why we have to tolerate you logan

[DSM4Life]

i guess thats why we have to tolerate you logan

[J-Dogg]

33 post damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn, i just got in.

I didn't cheat read the thread before you reply.


I talked to him today on the phone. I said listen, i am a little angry that you went through my phone. He quickly started making excuses saying that he was trying to turn off my phone etc etc which i quickly i shot all of them down cause they were just straight out lies. He finally broke and said i thought you cheated on me and i was so…. hurt. He said it in such a sad and sincere way I almost felt bad. I wanted to kill him with kisses !

Anyway i don't hold grudges...well i try not to. I might not be in love with him but I still love him so i can't rag on him. He is emotionally hurt and we all know that is the worst kind of pain there is so I dropped it. I just said in the future ask me and i will honestly tell you anything. We made up and life is better now.

Hats off bro, you did the right thing.

[Carlos_E]

i guess thats why we have to tolerate you logan

[Renesis]

You do not have to like Bossman 1986's opinion anymore than he has to like yours. Why is tolerance OK only when it is given in the direction in which you approve?

Because it isn't as if he went about it in a respectful manner. He doesn't have to agree with what gays do. Just don't be disrespectful and childish about it by saying ewww.

[Logan13]

Because it isn't as if he went about it in a respectful manner. He doesn't have to agree with what gays do. Just don't be disrespectful and childish about it by saying ewww.

If he said "Sexy" that would be a whole different story...? Do you honestly believe that most hetero men would read that and not think the same damn thing as he did?

[Logan13]

i guess thats why we have to tolerate you logan

most tolerate me becuase they know I can hand them their ass..........

[Renesis]

It is one thing to think it is another to act on it. If I acted on all my thoughts women would probably have A) slapped the shit out of me or B) sent me to jail.

[Logan13]

It is one thing to think it is another to act on it. If I acted on all my thoughts women would probably have A) slapped the shit out of me or B) sent me to jail.

I understand, but I doubt that saying "eeww" rises to that level. Regardless, I still value your input.

[Kale]

i guess thats why we have to tolerate you logan

Come back of the century !!!

[goodcents]

omg kale that new girl is a 10 I confussed though, didn't you have the ex up a couple of days ago? Want to share the story with your internet brothers? We all like a good story.

[goodcents]

She kind of has a hispanic look too

[Kale]

omg kale that new girl is a 10 I confussed though, didn't you have the ex up a couple of days ago? Want to share the story with your internet brothers? We all like a good story.

Yes that was the ex, very long story and you have to understand Thai girls and Thai culture, but to cut a long story I wasnt prepared to give her a future with me, so she ended up finding another dude and moving to Hawaii. I liked her a lot but she had to do what was going to giver her a good future and I cant blame her for that. Thankfully there are plenty more fish in the Thai sea as you can see.

[goodcents]

^You seem to upgrade each time too

[Renesis]

Damn I know I see And no Logan of course it doesn't rise to that level, but it still doesn't need to be said.

[Carlos_E]

Damn I know I see And no Logan of course it doesn't rise to that level, but it still doesn't need to be said.

Exactly. Instead of eww, he could have closed the window and skipped the thread. If I posted ewww at every ugly girl friend and wife you guys post on here my post count would be 1,000 times higher.

[Renesis]

Exactly. Instead of eww, he could have closed the window and skipped the thread. If I posted ewww at every ugly girl friend and wife you guys post on here my post count would be 1,000 times higher.

OUCH LOL