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  1. 01-25-2008, 06:22 PM #1
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    Unhappy My Parents Just Told Me Their Getting A Divorce, 5 Minutes ago.

    Hello all,

    Im 25, Live on my own, my mom calls me up today while I was at work. I work for my step dads company. She said "Me n Mark wanna talk to you today if you can make the time, Im thinking I didnt do anything wrong??? They wanted to talk at thier house. We sat down. When my mom came home from work, I said "So whats up guys, you wanted to talk?" My mom said, "Mark an I are getting a divorce".

    I didnt see it coming, kinda pisses me off. I feel bad for my mom ya know, two good people, He's my step dad, shes my bio mom. F*n sucks, im torn, I've never been in this situation before.

    Anyone been here?
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    Sorry to hear that, did they say what lead them to their decision?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ima******ger View Post
    Sorry to hear that, did they say what lead them to their decision?
    Thanks man,

    Nope, I thought I'd give it a day, and talk to my mom about it later.
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    That's really tough, hopefully they can part as friends and you can still be close with both of them.
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    JUst be happy that this happened when you were an adult and not during your adolescent years like most people.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ima******ger View Post
    Sorry to hear that, did they say what lead them to their decision?



    it was me ...
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    Quote Originally Posted by 305GUY View Post
    JUst be happy that this happened when you were an adult and not during your adolescent years like most people.
    Yeah, it cant be near as hard as an adult as it is as a kid.
    Still, it sucks. Sorry to hear that.
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    Man that sucks my parents split while i was in 9th grade wasnt to hard on me i dont like to let shit get to me i looked at it in a postive way it sucks but i dont think 2 ppl should be together if there not happy obviously they cant work it out so i was happy as long as thats what my mom wanted. Either way sorry to hear that try looking it in a positive way even thow at times its hard.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pewntang View Post
    it was me ...

    So, you and Mark still dating?


    With all kidding aside, that sucks man. I wish you and your family the best during these hard time.
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    It sucks.

    Keep in mind that the relationship they had between them is something that only they can decide upon. There wasn't anything you could have done to prevent or resolve their problems. What happens between them in the future is something only they can plan.

    On the up side, you can still be friends with both parents. Your mom will still be your mom, and your stepdad will still be your stepdad. You don't have to take sides in anything.

    You'll probably be greiving for a while; here's something you may find helpful:
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grief
    Everyone grieves when they experience a significant loss. And you've just had one. Talk things through with us and other folks when you need to, and take time to mull things over when you need to do that.
    Things may not improve any, but you'll eventually resign yourself to the way things are.


    We're with ya . . . it'll be ok . . .
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    Unfortunately I cant relate never knowing who my real father was and being lied to about it my whole life until I was 21...my mom buys me a beer and say gotta tell ya something you know mike your "father" I was like ya she said "hes not your father some dude I had a one night stand with from the local bar is" but sorry to hear about that It must be eating you up inside...
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    Sorry to hear that. It's rough, I've been there. Remember one thing, be there for your Mother. It's going to be rough on her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by soulstealer View Post
    Unfortunately I cant relate never knowing who my real father was and being lied to about it my whole life until I was 21...my mom buys me a beer and say gotta tell ya something you know mike your "father" I was like ya she said "hes not your father some dude I had a one night stand with from the local bar is" but sorry to hear about that It must be eating you up inside...
    Oh jeez
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    Sorry to hear the bad news. If they can't get alone i guess its better this way. Goodluck.
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    Thank you soooo much everyone, too yes as mentioned I gotta be there for my mom. And as above mentioned, there wasnt anything I could have done to change the situation, unless I reccomended coudeling. Too, Im glad I wasnt in 9th grade, although its still killing me.

    Soulstealer, ouch. talk about akward situation

    Tock, Thanks for the link.
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    Thought maybe if ya heard that it might make ya feel a little better....
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    Most "normal" people endure hardship. Those that get the "brady bunch" life will never learn what life is truly all about... overcoming the things which we think will kill us.

    My parents divorced when I was ten years old.... my mother blew her brains out shortly there after. Family life was not what you'd call spectacular for a few years preceeding it either. I could go on and on.

    But... I've grown to learn that life is what you make it. Carry on my wayward son. There will be good times ahead soon enough, and some bad times sure enough as well. One thing is for certain... we all die in the end. You can either crawl in a hole and give up or see what each new day brings. Life is one hell of a journey for most of us. Relax and enjoy the ride because it really isn't all that serious in the end. All that matters is what's in YOUR heart.

    Laugh! It beats the shit out of crying.... believe me, I know.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 3bd View Post
    Most "normal" people endure hardship. Those that get the "brady bunch" life will never learn what life is truly all about... overcoming the things which we think will kill us.

    My parents divorced when I was ten years old.... my mother blew her brains out shortly there after. Family life was not what you'd call spectacular for a few years preceeding it either. I could go on and on.

    But... I've grown to learn that life is what you make it. Carry on my wayward son. There will be good times ahead soon enough, and some bad times sure enough as well. One thing is for certain... we all die in the end. You can either crawl in a hole and give up or see what each new day brings. Life is one hell of a journey for most of us. Relax and enjoy the ride because it really isn't all that serious in the end. All that matters is what's in YOUR heart.

    Laugh! It beats the shit out of crying.... believe me, I know.
    wow,

    ya no brady bunch here, no siblings to talk to, just friends.

    <------Only Child.

    I'll have to get out and ride to take my mind off it....As soon as the rain clears up out here.
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    been there done that. it bites. but once you get you get used to the situation you will adapt and life will be just fine. its just tough in the beginning. wish you and your family the best bro.
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    I have never being in this situation but If I was you and didn't know what to do, I would get on my knee and pray to the one that can really help you in your thought......wish you and your family the best bro.
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    Sorry to hear that man!

    But gotta tell you one thing, I am same age as you, my parents got divorced when I was 8.

    It was so damn hard back then, now... well, it was their choice, Im an independent guy now so I guess it wouldn't be too bad if it happened now.

    Keep in touch with both of them (if you want) and support your mama, all you can do.

    Good luck.
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    Been there but at a very young age , kinda trashed all hope for all relationships . Just be glad they did it now, and not @ 10 years old . Feel for ya bro Take Care
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    Quote Originally Posted by soulstealer View Post
    Unfortunately I cant relate never knowing who my real father was and being lied to about it my whole life until I was 21...my mom buys me a beer and say gotta tell ya something you know mike your "father" I was like ya she said "hes not your father some dude I had a one night stand with from the local bar is" but sorry to hear about that It must be eating you up inside...
    Fcukin hell ... that must have been rough!
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    Quote Originally Posted by paulzane View Post
    Fcukin hell ... that must have been rough!
    Ya dude unfortunately I now believe that was a huge part of the reason I went into self destructive mode... almost immediately jumped to really hard rec drugs and tried to throw my life away.... took me almost 3 years to clean up the mess and I'm at the final stages now.... getting off probation soon and paying all the debts I rang up....

    Sorry for the Hijack bro.... really didnt mean that to happen...
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