So I’ve been seeing this girl and we are getting closer. We have a great time together, we’ve already had are first few arguments and those even were resolved well, which is how generally I judge a relationship.
Her brother is driving me nuts. She is a great girl, and has a younger brother who is 17. He is in an alternative education school. The first few weeks we were together he was having emotional problems. It kind of sucked because she was growing on me, I was not sure what was going on because it threw her for a loop. He was cutting himself. He told her about it, and it put a lot of pressure on her as she did not know whether to tell their parents or try to help him. It was not long prior to this she was out of a marriage and going though a lot, she was in the hospital herself because she was so messed up from her last split up that she was not eating. The guy treated her like shit though; hurt her physically just did awful things to the girl.
So that was the first few weeks. Now, it’s been a few months but since then the younger brother has had to go to court to resolve some drug issues I think (I am not 100% sure). Prior to going to court, he ends up getting his girl friend who he always cheats on and breaks up with preggers. After finding that out, a few days later his girl friend wants to abort, he wants to keep the kid, he’s all upset about that then. A day after that, he has his court date and he drops dirty when they test him.
Today the kid takes a bottle of pills. They have to transfer him to a hospital 80 miles away because he cannot be pumped with charcoal because of a different medication he is on. They were trying to get him to throw up but he’s resisting.
I’m not in a place to be, but I’m frustrated with this kid. Is he that selfish that he does not realize what he is putting his family though? His mother passed out when she found him, his sister is going to be a wreck I know. She is helping her mom out with his fines because Moms can't afford all the fines the kid is getting, she is just getting back on her feet. I definatly wish I could throw money at the problem, but I know that is not gonig to fix it. The kid is going through a lot, but he just made some god awful choices. If it was one of the chain of events, it would not be so bad, getting a girl preggers at 17, you can work hard, grow up and be okay. You can get a drug charge and turn around. This kid just has a huge chain of events and he just does not seem to want to turn them around.
I hope to god he is okay, but I don’t know if I want to shake the shit out of him or try to help him.