God help me please i tought i could avoid depression.. sounds like i am human after a

[yannick35]

Where do i start, its been a while in my current job that i have been storing emotions.

They put an ex army guy in charge of the IT department where i work has a supervisor. Worst thing ever.

Its been a year now and this guy is just a pain, rush rush rush pression and stress.

This morning in a meeting i put me on charge of all the support part, we have close to 1000 users, and night calls and more.
My GF works in the purchasing department and he started blabing against her and her work and i got really mad, after all that is my GF and i do love her. He is always screaming and looks at you like he wants to kill you.

Each meeting with him is crushial and has much has you try hard to work good there is always some negative that will come out.

I got mad and took my coat and left, went straight to the clinic, i tought i could andle all this stress and other things happening but turns out i couldnt.

The medical doctor asked me a tone of question, hell i dont want to kill myself, i just need some freaken time off the see clearly out of this.

I spoke to the guy many times, went higher then him ever to the human ressource to find help but nothing.

I got a week off and need to go see a shrink to control my emotions.

Me and my GF have a house, we are in talk maybe move to another part of the country where the people are less stressed.

I really hope that this happens because i am tired of this job, i not that many people would say look elsewhere but to be honest its really hard to go on an interview when you work 50-60 hours a week.

I am not afraid to work but at some point the brain doesnt want to anymore.

I dont know if employment insurance would pay if i leave my job to move to another part of the country at least for a month until i find another job upon arriving over there.

I mean computer technicien with 15 years of experience that shouldnt be to hard to find another job.

Has far has my job goes i am meeting the IT director tomorrow morning and the human ressources has well, i am also going to go see a shrink.

Doctor gave me pills to take but i didnt i dont like drugs and depression pills are the worst, i dont want to commit suicide far from it, since my back pain is getting much better my life at least physically is getting so much better, but the job YAAAA

Sorry for the rant, there has to be some sign in there that its time to move on, after all wanting a better job without stress is not to much to ask, i am not greedy about money. Some place that has no night calls and at least i get the holidays off and not have to be on call that week.

[NATE0406]

sorry to hear about your problems bro. first off dont quit your job untill you have another lined up. the economy is shit right now bro and just count yourself lucky to have a job. secondly just sit back and relax bro. you cant be mad at your employers for all the stress. you voluntered for the extra responsibility. but with you being a computer tech it wont be hard for you to find a job. every business (small and large) needs computer techs. i would just put you resume online and see what happens. but stress is a part of working bro. you will find it no matter where you go. good luck

[yannick35]

Thanks NATE0406 to be honest i have done many IT places and i never got the level of stress this place has to offer.

[calgarian]

I agree with Nate about not leaving the Job. I am in IT and you know how I deal with scumbags like ur buddy there. Every thing has to be by the book. If the request is not in writing I am not doing anything abut it . I have to eal with a bitch like that In my current Job . World revolves around her. So I just get anal abut request rules and regulations and she backed off.

If your Girl friend is in purchasing and you are in IT why he was bitching abut her work in front of you? I think he know how to push your buttons and I think you are really helpfull person and you were trying to help that asshole. Try this do not get stress about it. Every thing has to be in writing and approved by your boss. If your boss didnt approve it fvck it.

Welcome to the world of IT. Its a thank less job. I am systems Analyst I know what goes on in Helpdesk.

Cheers and good luck Bro.

[yannick35]

I agree with Nate about not leaving the Job. I am in IT and you know how I deal with scumbags like ur buddy there. Every thing has to be by the book. If the request is not in writing I am not doing anything abut it . I have to eal with a bitch like that In my current Job . World revolves around her. So I just get anal abut request rules and regulations and she backed off.

If your Girl friend is in purchasing and you are in IT why he was bitching abut her work in front of you? I think he know how to push your buttons and I think you are really helpfull person and you were trying to help that asshole. Try this do not get stress about it. Every thing has to be in writing and approved by your boss. If your boss didnt approve it fvck it.

Welcome to the world of IT. Its a thank less job. I am systems Analyst I know what goes on in Helpdesk.

Cheers and good luck Bro.

the guy is my supervisor, you see the picture he is an asshole for sure.

I am meeting the IT boss tomorrow and will be talking to him about is attitude.

Not because he was in the army that he can treat us like shit like he does

[BritishColumbian]

Change is hard. but its like pulling off a bandaid, it sucks at first but then it feels great. You have to make some changes, life is to short to be unhappy. If your not happy you must make some changes like quiting or whatever. Its the hardest thing in life to do but why would you put yourself through that shit? Now is the time to man up and take control of your life and fix whatever is making you unhappy, hang in there bro!

[yannick35]

Change is hard. but its like pulling off a bandaid, it sucks at first but then it feels great. You have to make some changes, life is to short to be unhappy. If your not happy you must make some changes like quiting or whatever. Its the hardest thing in life to do but why would you put yourself through that shit? Now is the time to man up and take control of your life and fix whatever is making you unhappy, hang in there bro!

Thanks i know all of this, but if i quit i have a house to pay, i am going to see a shrink and have 1 week off work.

[j4ever41]

i would say don't quit until you secure another job don't let some asshole take money out of your pocket and then your unable to pay your debts just get your game plan together and do whats best for your interest, if you are going to have a week off use it to take a deep breath,relax and check out your options,as mentioned above sometimes change is hard and it takes a strong person to move foreward just let them know how strong you are bro.

[DSM4Life]

I agree with Nate about not leaving the Job. I am in IT and you know how I deal with scumbags like ur buddy there. Every thing has to be by the book. If the request is not in writing I am not doing anything abut it . I have to eal with a bitch like that In my current Job . World revolves around her. So I just get anal abut request rules and regulations and she backed off.

If your Girl friend is in purchasing and you are in IT why he was bitching abut her work in front of you? I think he know how to push your buttons and I think you are really helpfull person and you were trying to help that asshole. Try this do not get stress about it. Every thing has to be in writing and approved by your boss. If your boss didnt approve it fvck it.

Welcome to the world of IT. Its a thank less job. I am systems Analyst I know what goes on in Helpdesk.

Cheers and good luck Bro.

calgarian is right. Learn to use their rules against them. Me being in a Union i have it down to a science. You get out your handbook and do everything, i mean EVERYTHING by the book. He is going to get pissed but your following policy and there's nothing he can do. As he starts to back off you do the same.

[GT2]

Ditch the job bro. A change is always healthy

[j4ever41]

calgarian is right. Learn to use their rules against them. Me being in a Union i have it down to a science. You get out your handbook and do everything, i mean EVERYTHING by the book. He is going to get pissed but your following policy and there's nothing he can do. As he starts to back off you do the same.

this is true seems people like to adhere to policy and procedure when it is in there benefit but when you flip it on them all of the sudden their not such lovers of policy any longer

[Panzerfaust]

Find another ****ing job! Call in sick if you have to. Nothing is worth health problems.

[J-Dogg]

He's trying to get to you, don't let him. People have different styles of managing people. He is pushing you constantly.

I am appricative of my employee's, when they really need help, I'm there. But it is very rare that I act surprized at what they accomplish, even if I am. I'll always ask for more, even if I do tell them "good job".

[yannick35]

Well that really paied off didnt it, i am on sick leave for a month now, and my co workers have to split my work load which is huge.

Do i feel good about this, you bet i dont, i really dont and i am not happy about it either but has the doctor said i have to rest and get my body back into working condition.

My medical doctor is going to talk to my IT director about the supervisor, and try to reason the IT director to do something about it since i am the second person on sick leave because of all is bully attitude and stress level.

Who knows my sick leave might even be extended to two even three months.

I really hope this guy gets what is coming to him for all that mental cruelty he puts on people.

Ex military bullshitter is what he is, should have gotten shot between the eyes that would of had solved many issues LOL

[DCI]

calgarian is right. Learn to use their rules against them. Me being in a Union i have it down to a science. You get out your handbook and do everything, i mean EVERYTHING by the book. He is going to get pissed but your following policy and there's nothing he can do. As he starts to back off you do the same.

Lol, I love doing that in work In work for me personally I get paid from the neck down. I was told today why I didn't take incinative I said I don't get paid near enough to think.

But as the lads have said stay in the job until you have something else lined up and then when you know you leaving do as little as possible without hurting your reputation. Other than I am way outta depth here.

[yannick35]

Good stuff going on me and my two other co worker gang up on my nasty supervisor, i went to human ressource to fill in an verbal arrassement complaint.

My 2 work buddies are witness to the whole thing and will back me up 100% they really want this supervisor to leave because he is a total dick ever since he has been working at my job.

We all had something against him but guess we never took the time to talk about it.

Now i dont know what the charges can be on verbal arrassement that happened more then once and bullshitting, talking behind co workers back and bashing co workers when you are a supervisor.

I really hope that he gets fired for all that he caused.

[firmechicano831]

Hopefully things get better and they get rid of his ass. I've worked in jobs full of stress and its really not heatly for anyone. I wish you the best bro, keep us informed.

[yannick35]

Here is the news, we got the verdict he is no longer supervisor and was charged with verbal harassement, he got a written notice and final warning, next time he screams at someone or acts like a jerk he is fired.

I am seeing a shrink right now and it just feels good, i realize that i have a lot of things to change has well in order not to be affected by situations or people like this, and yes stand up for myself.

I acted the right way by leaving and saying nothing, if i would have screamed at him or hit is fat ass then my verbal harassement charges would have done nothing.

I am schedule back to work in the next year around January 20th, i really wanted to go back November 20th but my medical doctor would not clear me to go back, he said i still have to much hate and anger inside me and going back at this point would do nothing.

My girlfriend works at my job in the purchasing deparment, the company receptionist lives just around the corner at 5 minutes from my house and i got my work buddies dropping by when they have couple minutes, i live at 5 minutes drive from my job.

Now they been telling me that my EX SUpervisor is really nice with everyone and is a changed man, so you see it was all an act, ex army boy here is afraid to lose is job.

What a piece of shit.

[jnewton86]

nice job man, way to put that piece of sh** in his place. dnt take crap from no one

[PT]

sorry bro but im going to be the person to rain on your parade. your taking 3 months off work because your stressed?? welcome to the real world, deal with it. you had to leave work and walk to the clinic because your boss yelled at you? suck it up and move on. what the hell are you going to do if your girlfriend get killed by a drunk driver or you lose your job? you'll end up in a freaking instituation. i say toughen your ass up because you'll never survive in the real world the way you are bro. i can run a list of things that happened to me past you that would make you blow your head off but i dont feel sorry for myself. i never stopped going to work because i had to much anger.

[JiGGaMaN]

JiGGaMaN did not have the time to read your long ass rant. However, I do wish you a good day, sirrrrrr.

[yannick35]

sorry bro but im going to be the person to rain on your parade. your taking 3 months off work because your stressed?? welcome to the real world, deal with it. you had to leave work and walk to the clinic because your boss yelled at you? suck it up and move on. what the hell are you going to do if your girlfriend get killed by a drunk driver or you lose your job? you'll end up in a freaking instituation. i say toughen your ass up because you'll never survive in the real world the way you are bro. i can run a list of things that happened to me past you that would make you blow your head off but i dont feel sorry for myself. i never stopped going to work because i had to much anger.

Its hell right now with this guy one of my co worker is also on sick leave, this guy is pure evil, i didnt leave because of stress, i left because i was just damn tired of is attitude and the way he kept bullying us around all the time.

Many people up to date went on sick leave at my job, i never quit understood why? depression has its ways to creeping on you without you knowing it.

You start losing some sleep, getting depressed and you dont know why? your mood keeps changing all the time.

2006 i lost my father to cancer, he decided to die at home and me and my mom cared for him the whole time, beleive me i am tough, but at some point working for a lying bastard that stirs shit around all the time, anyone brain would give out.

Going to HR was my shrink advise and it paied off big time, he is no longer supervisor and next time he yaps he is out.

[binder]

That sucks.

Not all ex-army are that way though. This guy is just an asshole. 6 year ex army sergeant here and i'm as laid back as it gets. I'm strict on rules but if someone messes up at work let them know and life goes on.

It's hard to say put him out of your mind. There are people like that here at the hospital I work at and it does get to you. Use your week off to relax and maybe try to get some interviews. Also, don't think at all about work and don't discuss it with your gf when you are off. Just completely cut that part out of your life for the week vacation.

I agree with the not wanting to take drugs. It depends on what he gave you though. I do not like the anti-depressant medications but the anti-anxiety medications for temporary use seem to work great for people with high stress lifestyles. You might talk to him about that. Something like xanax or ativan. Discuss it with your doctor. He's there to help and I'm sure would listen to your concerns.

[sizerp]

Yanni, are you like that guy from Office Space? The stapler guy who gets moved into the basement. LOL.

[PT]

so your going to be off work for 3 months because of this? how do you pay your bills?

[rockinred]

sorry bro but im going to be the person to rain on your parade. your taking 3 months off work because your stressed?? welcome to the real world, deal with it. you had to leave work and walk to the clinic because your boss yelled at you? suck it up and move on. what the hell are you going to do if your girlfriend get killed by a drunk driver or you lose your job? you'll end up in a freaking instituation. i say toughen your ass up because you'll never survive in the real world the way you are bro. i can run a list of things that happened to me past you that would make you blow your head off but i dont feel sorry for myself. i never stopped going to work because i had to much anger.

I am with you on this one.... sounds like yan is milking the system. Not trying to dis on you yannick, but take a couple of man pills and drive on.

[yannick35]

Did not mean to sound like an idiot and no i am not bashing army guys at all, this guy just has an attitude problem and i am sure its not related to the army at all.

Guys a lot of depressions are due to pilling up, after a year or two of dealing with this, talking to the guy, talking to the boss seeing that nothing is done then there is a feeling that sets in and you lose confidence.

My medical doctors doesnt want to clear me to return to work because i still have frustration a lot of it, and yes i need to deal with this and not take things has personal has i do, i just went for breakfast with one of my work buddies this morning and he told me that M ex supervisor is still stiring up shit at the job acting like a baby, and crying to the boss because of really dumb things.

He is a poison and he has to leave the company, more power to me when i come back because if he acts like this i am going back to HR.

This guy has stired a lot of shit in the company, talked behind peoples back, bash even the big boss and yet found ways to get out of it.

Now he has been charges with verbal harasement and yet wants to get back at us by telling lies and stiring up more shit.

The HR department hired a personal shrink and that person is trying to rebuild our IT group, the shink said that this guy was the poison and it would be better for him to leave before everyone gets sick.

Yeah i am on sick leave and plan to be back within 3 months, i have a lot of things to clear up in my mind, has well has rest , 2006 has been a very long year , my father died of cancer after a 2 year battle, he died at home so me and my mother cared for him during this time. We also lost a couple of animals that where dear to us.

So this off time is good for me now, we never get complete off time at this job and that sucks, christmas time we have to be on call, holidays, and we are also on night calls has well.

My goal now is to get back stronger and for now that is what life is putting in front of me.