Relationships = average physique?

**Carmine20** · 11-26-2008, 09:51 AM

does this ever happen to anyone else, whenever i start to get in a serious relationship with someone i always start to lose intreast in the way my physique looks (not totally i just feel i dont need to be as strict with dieting)? typically not having a six pack bothers me but when i have a girlfriend its not as big of a deal to me? im not looking foward to marriage.lol..

**redz** · 11-26-2008, 09:52 AM

Well it comes down to wanting to appeal to the opposite sex. When you are locked down you tend not to care as much. For me I`m maried and am in the best shape of my life. Its all abotu dedication goals and why we are training. I did it for appeal for a long time now I just do it to prove to myself what I can do and who I am.

**sizerp** · 11-26-2008, 11:10 AM

Definitely. There are a variety of reasons why I want to look my best at all times. For me, it depends if the girl I'm dating is into fitness/bodybuilding, if she's health conscious or not, and whether the relationship is hindering my ability to train/diet appropriately for my own goals.

The majority of decent women (wait... is there such a thing?) seem to be pleased with a moderately good physique, a.k.a. as long as you're not a fatty bobatty. My one chick would say "damn you so hot" whenever I was nekkit... where I was like "damn I can improve here, and here, and here, etc..."

So that being said, it's kinda de-motivating if the GF already thinks you're where you need to be. I suppose it beats the chick saying, "yeah you could use a bit more development on your left pectoral, or traps..." LOL. Don't get me wrong, honest critique is great... from your trainer or bro... I like the "damn you hot" so much better from the woman, it raises my self confidence and makes me better in the sac.

**scottythebody** · 11-26-2008, 04:49 PM

Mine suffers, not because I care less about appealing to the opposite sex if I'm in a relationship, but because it's just too hard for me to eat as frequently as I would like to when I'm seeing someone compared to when I'm single

**DSM4Life** · 11-26-2008, 05:34 PM

Yes. Your priorities change. Should you totally neglect the gym ? No but spending time with the SO is a good substitute from time to time.

**BuffBuffalo** · 11-26-2008, 05:38 PM

Yeah Ive made the mistake of letting a girl upset my routine, won't let it happen again either.

**DSM4Life** · 11-26-2008, 05:44 PM

Originally Posted by BuffBuffalo

Yeah Ive made the mistake of letting a girl upset my routine, won't let it happen again either.

Yeah you will

P is EVIL !

**sizerp** · 11-26-2008, 05:49 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

Yeah you will

P is EVIL !

Penis?

**DSM4Life** · 11-26-2008, 05:52 PM

Originally Posted by sizerp

Penis?

Naa the other P

**sizerp** · 11-26-2008, 05:54 PM

Ahhh... peckers.

**DSM4Life** · 11-26-2008, 05:55 PM

Originally Posted by sizerp

Ahhh... peckers.

The nasty Taco's

**sizerp** · 11-26-2008, 06:00 PM

Yeah but where else do you stick it? In the bum?

**sizerp** · 11-26-2008, 06:01 PM

Like Bill and Ted?

**DCB83** · 11-26-2008, 09:49 PM

I do my best to stick with my routine. This way, if i break up, i don't look like crap and more b!tches come my way.

**gst528i** · 11-27-2008, 03:23 AM

It threw me off my routine. Alot of time you hear " you'd rather spend time at the gym than me". Or she pull down the panties and makes you stay. Or uses the mouth to persuade you to stay. Or use the ass to make u stay. Or use tits to make you stay.
Then there is guilt.
Plus the insecure ones that dont want you to get healthy and good looking.
I have increased my gym days, diet and commitment to myself.

But i think if you find the right girl (very hard) than it's very possible to balance both.

**outlawmuscle** · 11-27-2008, 04:23 AM

Naww

**sizerp** · 11-27-2008, 09:00 AM

Originally Posted by gst528i

Plus the insecure ones that dont want you to get healthy and good looking.

Yes!. That's so why the more buck I get, the finer women I find

That's how it should be anyway.

***JDMSilviaSpecR*** · 11-27-2008, 09:09 AM

I never commit myself to a chick unless she is physically fit / active. And I'm too involved into fitness to ever let my body go.

**JiGGaMaN** · 11-27-2008, 09:56 AM

oh man i put bitches on notice whenever they get too comfortable, like 'yo, im in love with your body not you, you best be gettin on that treadmill, woman!'

**DSM4Life** · 11-27-2008, 10:15 AM

Originally Posted by JiGGaMaN

oh man i put bitches on notice whenever they get too comfortable, like 'yo, im in love with your body not you, you best be gettin on that treadmill, woman!'

Let me guess, still single ?

***JDMSilviaSpecR*** · 11-27-2008, 10:42 AM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

Let me guess, still single ?

Excellent observation Watson

**JiGGaMaN** · 11-27-2008, 02:02 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

Let me guess, still single ?

I prefer the term 'Trap Evader'. Gettin locked down is for suckas. plus, i got a lot of love to spread around. It would be doing the world a great injustice for me to get into a relationship.

**calgarian** · 11-27-2008, 02:53 PM

Originally Posted by JiGGaMaN

I prefer the term 'Trap Evader'. Gettin locked down is for suckas. plus, i got a lot of love to spread around. It would be doing the world a great injustice for me to get into a relationship.

remember condums have only 98% of success rate.

**sizerp** · 11-27-2008, 02:54 PM

Originally Posted by calgarian

remember condums have only 98% of success rate.

1 word. Vasectomy.

**calgarian** · 11-27-2008, 02:55 PM

Originally Posted by sizerp

1 word. Vasectomy.

nah u never know when u need to make more soldiers...i will pass. use Anal instead

**scottythebody** · 11-27-2008, 03:45 PM

Originally Posted by sizerp

1 word. Vasectomy.

No need to do that, just give the girl a fake name

**AandF6969** · 12-05-2008, 04:03 AM

I'm going to continue eating clean and working out, definitely not going to let myself go when I get married. Two words - Divorce Insurance. If it happens, I want to make sure I can still go out and bang hot chicks easily.

**Chitown Raider** · 12-05-2008, 06:40 PM

I've noticed this with couples who have been married or in a long-term relationship. However, I have slacked off personally with my dieting not eating as healthy and as often. But, the way I see it is I've worked hard to get where I'm at. A few years ago I was a tad chubby mostly just out of shape. I never want to go back to those days.

**40plusnewbie** · 12-05-2008, 06:44 PM

I put on like 80 pounds of fat after getting with the girlfriend who is currently my wife lol

Fortunately for me I"m in my mid-life crisis right now and it's manifesting itself by me being obsessed about getting into good physical condition so like 70 or more pounds of that is gone. Hopefully by next year I will be in the best shape of my life (appearance wise).

p.s. Does this mean I will want to dump my wife and/or get girlfriends? I used to be a manwhore when I was young

**Chitown Raider** · 12-05-2008, 07:00 PM

Originally Posted by 40plusnewbie

I put on like 80 pounds of fat after getting with the girlfriend who is currently my wife lol

Fortunately for me I"m in my mid-life crisis right now and it's manifesting itself by me being obsessed about getting into good physical condition so like 70 or more pounds of that is gone. Hopefully by next year I will be in the best shape of my life (appearance wise).

p.s. Does this mean I will want to dump my wife and/or get girlfriends? I used to be a manwhore when I was young

Sounds like you want some friends with benefits.

**Reed** · 12-05-2008, 10:47 PM

For me personally I actually become more focused and dedicated during a relationship. Like redz said its all about goals. When I'm single I need to go out and mingle at the bars etc. But when I'm together with someone I really can just be a homebody and really really focus on my physique. Just my .02 cents

**rockinred** · 12-06-2008, 10:52 AM

definitely holds some truth to it... but most dedicated people who train hard, do so for various other reasons... many do it for work related stuff, many do it for the mental challenge, and many do it for health... those who do it to look good for girls only have a bigger chance of falling off when they settle down.

**Chitown Raider** · 12-06-2008, 02:29 PM

Originally Posted by Reed500

For me personally I actually become more focused and dedicated during a relationship. Like redz said its all about goals. When I'm single I need to go out and mingle at the bars etc. But when I'm together with someone I really can just be a homebody and really really focus on my physique. Just my .02 cents

Makes sense.

Originally Posted by rockinred

definitely holds some truth to it... but most dedicated people who train hard, do so for various other reasons... many do it for work related stuff, many do it for the mental challenge, and many do it for health... those who do it to look good for girls only have a bigger chance of falling off when they settle down.

When I first started training it was to look better and get laid more. But after the years I got more into it. So when I settle down she will have to undersatnd this is who I am and I was like this before I met her.

**Narkissos** · 12-08-2008, 02:07 AM

Relationships don't affect my physique.

I'm a competitor.

**Panzerfaust** · 12-08-2008, 04:09 PM

I think I do better when I am in a relationship.

**fit4ever180** · 12-09-2008, 04:21 AM

Originally Posted by calgarian

remember condums have only 98% of success rate.

UHHH BULLSHIT! The pill is 98-99%, but condoms are more like 60%...

**StoneGRMI** · 12-09-2008, 08:42 AM

Originally Posted by muriloninja

I think I do better when I am in a relationship.

Me too. I'm not at the bar as much and I seem to have more of a consistent schedule.

**ghettoboyd** · 12-09-2008, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by gst528i

It threw me off my routine. Alot of time you hear " you'd rather spend time at the gym than me". Or she pull down the panties and makes you stay. Or uses the mouth to persuade you to stay. Or use the ass to make u stay. Or use tits to make you stay.
Then there is guilt.
Plus the insecure ones that dont want you to get healthy and good looking.
I have increased my gym days, diet and commitment to myself.

But i think if you find the right girl (very hard) than it's very possible to balance both.

your right bro,ive been married for 10 years and my wife workes out at the same time as me on her bowflex.so we actually spend time together while both doing something we love.by keeping ourselves in shape it keeps us attracted to each other even after all this time.its also a turn on for both of us to watch other peeps be attracted to her/me.sex for us is awsome cus we both have more endurance.so i say to those whom let themselvs go,dont do it if you can help it.