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    Can't forget

    Just wondering if anyone has ever been with someone and then broke up with them for what ever reason but you don't seem to forget about them.
    I had this girl that was about 5'8, gorgeous body, sexy legs, hips and face. Model material. She had the best body and face but I knew we weren't meant for each other because of our differences. When I see her or think about her I still feel like I love her. I can't get her off my mind because I know that if I had wanted to stay with her she would be my gf now. I guess it just hurts seeing her with someone else now.
    Any here have the same problem where ur heart keeps going back to someone?
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    Ive had a simular problem, it seems like you dont want to be with them but you cant stand the thought of them being with someone else so you stay with them. It never gets better and the longer your with them the harder it is to let go. Better off letting them go as soon as you know shes not the one. Obviously you had your reason and your just second guessing your decision. If there was any doubt then it was the right decision!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MalibuD View Post
    Ive had a simular problem, it seems like you dont want to be with them but you cant stand the thought of them being with someone else so you stay with them. It never gets better and the longer your with them the harder it is to let go. Better off letting them go as soon as you know shes not the one. Obviously you had your reason and your just second guessing your decision. If there was any doubt then it was the right decision!
    Wise words I would be a millionaire if I had dumpmed my first wife when I should have

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    LOL, So why did it take so long Kale?

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    Quote Originally Posted by firmechicano831 View Post
    LOL, So why did it take so long Kale?
    Because I was a wimpy p ussy then !!!

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    It's called wanting what you can't have. You might have to kill her to get over this... (in your mind that is not physically.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by MalibuD View Post
    Ive had a simular problem, it seems like you dont want to be with them but you cant stand the thought of them being with someone else so you stay with them. It never gets better and the longer your with them the harder it is to let go. Better off letting them go as soon as you know shes not the one. Obviously you had your reason and your just second guessing your decision. If there was any doubt then it was the right decision!
    Words to live by. i just realized this not too long ago. So simple yet makes so much sense and i didnt think of it when i needed to.

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    Old flames die hard.

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    the only girl really i am in real love with is now my wife...sorry guys...rest were just for making out...........

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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    the only girl really i am in real love with is now my wife...sorry guys...rest were just for making out...........
    did she make you type that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by sizerp View Post
    did she make you type that?
    I thought I turned off the cam feed....


    Come here

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    The way you talk of her.....almost sounds like lust.

    I mean that you describe her physically. Have you jerked off yet today? lol.

    I think of a different girl or ex every time I jerk it, so I feel you.

    It's always painful to see them with someone else. What really helps is if the other guy is a douche bag, or like in my situation, my ex was with a girl not a guy.

    I sounds "pigish" but a honestly, I feel like sex has to be very good in a relationship to keep a guy around. If it's not, that guy is going to always think about his ex, how much she used to like to have sex, or what she did. You have to feel comfortable with each other in bed or that guys temptations to wander just got 10 times worse.

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    btw, there has to be a clinical or phycological name for this?

    Wanting somthing you can't have, or not wanting someone to be with someone else?

    Everyone knows how it works though. Best way to get back your ex, or to make her want you back, is to move on and not need her.

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    i hear what your sayin man, its been a while since i was with my ex but i still cant seem to forget about her..

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    ive been in love twice in my life. the first one i dont think about anymore since its been ages. the most recent one i do think about now and then. cant help but feel attracted to her or think about her sometimes but its not something i will be going back to so all you can do is move forward. enjoy the good memories and dont cling on to the past

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    I've been in love once and still am. My GF split up with me 3 weeks ago and I was with her 10 months. No cheating, nothing. She said she doesnt feel the same anymore. We get on so well, but she is a lot older than me.

    Its ****ing hard and I hate feeling like this.

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    I've been in love once and still am. My GF split up with me 3 weeks ago and I was with her 10 months. No cheating, nothing. She said she doesnt feel the same anymore. We get on so well, but she is a lot older than me.

    Its ****ing hard and I hate feeling like this.

    Anyone got any sensible advice, I'm all ears.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Swifto View Post
    I've been in love once and still am. My GF split up with me 3 weeks ago and I was with her 10 months. No cheating, nothing. She said she doesnt feel the same anymore. We get on so well, but she is a lot older than me.

    Its ****ing hard and I hate feeling like this.

    Anyone got any sensible advice, I'm all ears.
    Attachment is tough to deal with. When the girl is stuck in you, like a knife.

    Just breathe. Listen to music, do something to release your energy. Lift, write, dance, talk to friends about it to get another perspective. Try to take your mind off it, and let time be the healing force.

    Life will seem hazy when you're on the run. Just realize that loving the person would cost you everything, regardless of the fun.

    Just breathe. It's all right. You know everything comes from within, even things you don't want credit for like the fact that you love the person still. You have to believe you're something even without that person, take a look back... you'll see.

    Oh yeah, go talk to other people. Don't be a ghost.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sizerp View Post
    Attachment is tough to deal with. When the girl is stuck in you, like a knife.

    Just breathe. Listen to music, do something to release your energy. Lift, write, dance, talk to friends about it to get another perspective. Try to take your mind off it, and let time be the healing force.

    Life will seem hazy when you're on the run. Just realize that loving the person would cost you everything, regardless of the fun.

    Just breathe. It's all right. You know everything comes from within, even things you don't want credit for like the fact that you love the person still. You have to believe you're something even without that person, take a look back... you'll see.

    Oh yeah, go talk to other people. Don't be a ghost.
    Thank ou very much, your 100% right.

    I've been occupying myself, but stuff starts me off and I'm back to square one.

    The thought of her being with someone else makes me so ****ing angry I cannot explain it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Swifto View Post
    Thank ou very much, your 100% right.

    I've been occupying myself, but stuff starts me off and I'm back to square one.

    The thought of her being with someone else makes me so ****ing angry I cannot explain it.

    Lifting is good and always has been.
    Yeah that thought of another guy sucks, but you know what? You're better off without her m8. There's SOOOO many wonderful girls out there. What makes her so special anyway? I bet you there's 100% someone else you'll sync up with even more. Go find some fun snatch in the meanwhile

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    Quote Originally Posted by sizerp View Post
    Yeah that thought of another guy sucks, but you know what? You're better off without her m8. There's SOOOO many wonderful girls out there. What makes her so special anyway? I bet you there's 100% someone else you'll sync up with even more. Go find some fun snatch in the meanwhile
    good advice bro

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    Kale great advise. It's just that the sex wasn't that great to be honest, but her body, face, hair and legs where so smooth that it felt like silk. Besides she let me try anything on her when ever I wanted. What I do is that I hit the gym hard and since she;s on my friends list on myspace I hope the bitch see's my new pics this coming summer. LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by firmechicano831 View Post
    Kale great advise. It's just that the sex wasn't that great to be honest, but her body, face, hair and legs where so smooth that it felt like silk. Besides she let me try anything on her when ever I wanted. What I do is that I hit the gym hard and since she;s on my friends list on myspace I hope the bitch see's my new pics this coming summer. LOL
    Yup been there, super hot girls but either the sex was horrendous or their head was empty. To such an extent that people ask you if you're crazy to let her go but beauty can only take you so far for so long.

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    <<<<<<<<<<<< WARNING lONG STORY>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
    Yea I know what your going through, I swear this is a typical thing for guys, When I was with my ex i wasnt happy near the end of the relationship, I told my mates I might split with her so many times coz i wasnt finding myself attracted to her like when i met her, to the point where she was asking me for sex coz i wasnt botherd having it with her any more, we had been going out for 7 months and for a lot of that we pretty much lived together and saw her every day. As i was saying as the time went on and i was going off her, I wasnt treating her right, not really showing her much attention, when we went out i would be eying up every girl i saw. Eventualy she started to lose the feelings for me (as any girl would), we nearly split a few times and then one day she just ended it.

    All of a sudden I was like WTF you cant splitt up with me, how fckin dare you..... I was raged.....then i carmed down and started the bargaining stage.... i should have shown her more attention, dont end it with me bla bla bla...... and any way she was like i just dont feel the same any more, which i caused through my actions, but i know it would never of worked long time any way, she deff was not the one, but even knowing that it still hard to let them go. Now its bout 4 weeks later i still think about her every day its so fckin annoying. I keep thinking of her with other guys and stuff, I have cut all connections with her coz i dont want to know what shes doing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sizerp View Post
    Yeah that thought of another guy sucks, but you know what? You're better off without her m8. There's SOOOO many wonderful girls out there. What makes her so special anyway? I bet you there's 100% someone else you'll sync up with even more. Go find some fun snatch in the meanwhile
    Your exactly right mate. But its hard to realise that isnt it. I will, but its not going to happen overnight. As my dad said, "**** her, there's plenty more fish in the sea son!".

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    Quote Originally Posted by LivingToBeBig View Post
    <<<<<<<<<<<< WARNING lONG STORY>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
    Yea I know what your going through, I swear this is a typical thing for guys, When I was with my ex i wasnt happy near the end of the relationship, I told my mates I might split with her so many times coz i wasnt finding myself attracted to her like when i met her, to the point where she was asking me for sex coz i wasnt botherd having it with her any more, we had been going out for 7 months and for a lot of that we pretty much lived together and saw her every day. As i was saying as the time went on and i was going off her, I wasnt treating her right, not really showing her much attention, when we went out i would be eying up every girl i saw. Eventualy she started to lose the feelings for me (as any girl would), we nearly split a few times and then one day she just ended it.

    All of a sudden I was like WTF you cant splitt up with me, how fckin dare you..... I was raged.....then i carmed down and started the bargaining stage.... i should have shown her more attention, dont end it with me bla bla bla...... and any way she was like i just dont feel the same any more, which i caused through my actions, but i know it would never of worked long time any way, she deff was not the one, but even knowing that it still hard to let them go. Now its bout 4 weeks later i still think about her every day its so fckin annoying. I keep thinking of her with other guys and stuff, I have cut all connections with her coz i dont want to know what shes doing.
    Quote Originally Posted by Swifto View Post
    Your exactly right mate. But its hard to realise that isnt it. I will, but its not going to happen overnight. As my dad said, "**** her, there's plenty more fish in the sea son!".
    Yeah -- gotta almost take it one day at a time. Flames die hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sizerp View Post
    Yeah that thought of another guy sucks, but you know what? You're better off without her m8. There's SOOOO many wonderful girls out there. What makes her so special anyway? I bet you there's 100% someone else you'll sync up with even more. Go find some fun snatch in the meanwhile

    She finished it because I'm younger (less mature) and other things which I cannot mention here. But I think we can work it out, but is that me just clinging onto her or should I let her go as she wasnt happy with the way things were. She was happy, but she was never 100% on me and her, she claims.

    We didnt argue alot and got on very well, we are very alike.

    I havent just lost a gf, but a best mate too, thats what hurts.

    She says I cannot keep ringing her and go cold turkey to make this easier, but thats making things easier for her isnt it?

    Cant believe I'm asking advice on the ****ing internet about an ex gf, WTF! Dont give a shit though, more opinoins are better...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Swifto View Post
    Shes everything I've ever wanted in a woman. Brunette, gorgeous, no too tall, intelligent, caring, sensitve etc...She ticks every box I've ever thought of, thats why this is so hard.

    She finished it because I'm younger (less mature) and other things which I cannot mention here. But I think we can work it out, but is that me just clinging onto her or should I let her go as she wasnt happy with the way things were. She was happy, but she was never 100% on me and her, she claims.

    We didnt argue alot and got on very well, we are very alike.

    I havent just lost a gf, but a best mate too, thats what hurts.

    She says I cannot keep ringing her and go cold turkey to make this easier, but thats making things easier for her isnt it?

    Cant believe I'm asking advice on the ****ing internet about an ex gf, WTF! Dont give a shit though, more opinoins are better...
    I have been there bro. It's tough to let go, but you gotta. If she doesn't dig on you, there's not much you can do, and honestly there's other better ones out there that will give you the love you deserve, like I've said before.

    If you cling onto her, and keep giving her attention, it's going to hurt more than ever because either way she'll not be with you. It's the worst feeling ever to love someone and not have them love you back I know.

    I think that what got to me most was the fact that, the last girl I felt for, didn't feel for me... aka she wasn't ready for a relationship and wasn't over her EX yet. It sucks cause usually I am the one bashing chicks and breaking hearts. This one time I actually opened myself up, it wasn't reciprocated.

    Do stuff to take your mind off, hard as it sounds, go talk to other girls. Get a hooker, anything.

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    Swifto if she still talks to u just give her some space but send her flowers at work saying thinking about u. Nothing big. Maybe put note on her car or something like that. Let her fly and if it comes back it's urs bro.

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    Quote Originally Posted by firmechicano831;4347***
    Swifto if she still talks to u just give her some space but send her flowers at work saying thinking about u. Nothing big. Maybe put note on her car or something like that. Let her fly and if it comes back it's urs bro.
    I need to let her go, then if she comes back, shes mine.

    At the moment, being upset constantly and her seeing me down isnt working. She needs to see me happy and laughing etc...Doing well. Thats who she fell in love with at first, not the person she see's now.

    I know what to do, but its hard to actually do it.

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    Let me tell you from experience on a different relationship I had which is my current gf now. Same thing happend to me like what you're going through. But you know what! If you love something. Fight for it, don't let it slip it away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by firmechicano831 View Post
    Let me tell you from experience on a different relationship I had which is my current gf now. Same thing happend to me like what you're going through. But you know what! If you love something. Fight for it, don't let it slip it away.
    I'm not letting it slip, but this isnt working. I'm pushing here further away I think.

    She gets anoyed when I ring her.

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    i saw my wife the first day i met her she is a beutiful pain in the ass but i love her for that

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    Quote Originally Posted by firmechicano831 View Post
    Just wondering if anyone has ever been with someone and then broke up with them for what ever reason but you don't seem to forget about them.
    I had this girl that was about 5'8, gorgeous body, sexy legs, hips and face. Model material. She had the best body and face but I knew we weren't meant for each other because of our differences. When I see her or think about her I still feel like I love her. I can't get her off my mind because I know that if I had wanted to stay with her she would be my gf now. I guess it just hurts seeing her with someone else now.
    Any here have the same problem where ur heart keeps going back to someone?
    It's probably just because she's so hot.
    My ex-ex-girlfriend was totally gorgeous, and I still feel like I should be with her sometimes when I think about her. But you know what, NO I SHOULDN'T! THAT BITCH WAS CRAZY!!
    I think it's just something in a guy's head where you feel like a hot girl is a prize. It'd be like having the sweetest car you'd ever want but you got rid of it cause it sucked to drive. You'd miss that car, but in reality it's not the car for you.

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    You're right Wolfcraft. It was just the looks for me but I knew that our goals and differences were so great it wouldnt work out even if we tried.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WOLFCRAFT View Post
    It's probably just because she's so hot.
    My ex-ex-girlfriend was totally gorgeous, and I still feel like I should be with her sometimes when I think about her. But you know what, NO I SHOULDN'T! THAT BITCH WAS CRAZY!!
    I think it's just something in a guy's head where you feel like a hot girl is a prize. It'd be like having the sweetest car you'd ever want but you got rid of it cause it sucked to drive. You'd miss that car, but in reality it's not the car for you.
    i think this is a major problem for most guys when they are trying to get over someone, even on a subconsious level.

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    Your mind wants to remember the good times, not so much the bad. Have you noticed when you think of an ex you start thinking about all the fun shit you did? If you remembered the bad stuff it wouldn't be an issue...

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    Quote Originally Posted by F4iDom View Post
    Your mind wants to remember the good times, not so much the bad. Have you noticed when you think of an ex you start thinking about all the fun shit you did? If you remembered the bad stuff it wouldn't be an issue...
    I think that is completely true, and I am more or less happy with what I have now.

    Having said that, there is one ex I do think of from time to time. Hot bod and always up for fun.

    firmechicano831, post up some pics of your ex, that will help you get over her

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    can you do that or will you get banned? If i post pic up of her?

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