Girl 1, or girl 2

[J-Dogg]

I’ll get right to the point.

Girl 1, I love, she’s my ex. I was with her for 6 years. I still love her.

The good:
She is very caring, always supportive of my choices. Stands behind my business choices and honestly looks up to my accomplishments in a weird sort of way. Her family is awesome, they adore me. She is also absolutely stunning. As pretty as can be, she is a 9 in looks, a 7 in the body. The happiest times of my life were spent with her. When I use to come home, she would glow upon my entering, she was always so excited to see me and it made me feel great. Our relationship was pretty good. Oh, she is AWSOME with children, selfless girl, almost to a flaw.

The bad:
I don’t like her “best” friends. She’s kind of a “fag hag” and her best friend is a pill head, she has to pay more attention to him than me or he gets upset. Before anyone ask….no she is not “doing him” and never has, just trust me on that. She’s kind of messy, or a pig, leaves plates all over and stuff. Does not have a ton of time to spend with me, and I like to be spoiled. She can be emotional to an unstable point.

Girl 2: I was dating her for about 4 months, just never gave her a chance, but am considering it.

The good:
Spoils me with attention, all the time. Always wants to see me, but is patient also. Really mature, yet still 21 years old. Career is going good for her. Amazing body and really cute, looks a 7/8 and body a 10. Seriously, I have an accurate eye and can’t find anything wrong with it. She has her own transportation, apartment ect. Gets along really good with all my friends, they love her. She’s fun and I get along with all her friends also.

The bad:
She’s 21, I’m 28. I like her Dad a lot, but her Mom was not the best mother to her, and I don’t really like her lifestyle. She has “gotten” with one of my friends before me. My best boy slept with her mom. That’s really about all the bad.

I’m kind of leaning toward girl 2, but I still love girl 1. Girl 2 just suits me better, we have more in common, we can do things with friends in a group setting and still spend time alone too. I still just love girl 1 and we are different in a lot of ways, but it kind of balances us out I guess?

Been thinking about it all week. Not sleeping with either or anything. I know I don’t “need” a girlfriend. But I want one.

[FireGuy]

I didnt even get halfway through and already knew you are going for #2. It wont workout and you will eventually go back to #1.

[TTexas]

I disagree with the guy above me. Somethings kinda sad about losing someone that u were close to for such a long time and u had all these great moments with. There is a reason u two have known eachother for so long and still arent married, or not even together.
I mean do what think is right brah, but thats just my .02.
good luck with whatever u choose...
Im not in any position to give advice on this subject, i just got a fat chick to suck me off

[higherdesire]

Bro I wish you the best, i just hope you don;t set yourself up for the repeat performance! Good luck on this one but I bet you know the answer huh?

[FireGuy]

I disagree with the guy above me. Somethings kinda sad about losing someone that u were close to for such a long time and u had all these great moments with. There is a reason u two have known eachother for so long and still arent married, or not even together.
I mean do what think is right brah, but thats just my .02.
good luck with whatever u choose...
Im not in any position to give advice on this subject, i just got a fat chick to suck me off

Dude, I agree with you, I think he will be with #1 but only after he gets #2 off his mind.

[spywizard]

I’ll get right to the point.

Girl 1, I love, she’s my ex. I was with her for 6 years. I still love her.

The good:
She is very caring, always supportive of my choices. Stands behind my business choices and honestly looks up to my accomplishments in a weird sort of way. Her family is awesome, they adore me. She is also absolutely stunning. As pretty as can be, she is a 9 in looks, a 7 in the body. The happiest times of my life were spent with her. When I use to come home, she would glow upon my entering, she was always so excited to see me and it made me feel great. Our relationship was pretty good. Oh, she is AWSOME with children, selfless girl, almost to a flaw.

The bad:
I don’t like her “best” friends. She’s kind of a “fag hag” and her best friend is a pill head, she has to pay more attention to him than me or he gets upset. Before anyone ask….no she is not “doing him” and never has, just trust me on that. She’s kind of messy, or a pig, leaves plates all over and stuff. Does not have a ton of time to spend with me, and I like to be spoiled. She can be emotional to an unstable point.

Girl 2: I was dating her for about 4 months, just never gave her a chance, but am considering it.

The good:
Spoils me with attention, all the time. Always wants to see me, but is patient also. Really mature, yet still 21 years old. Career is going good for her. Amazing body and really cute, looks a 7/8 and body a 10. Seriously, I have an accurate eye and can’t find anything wrong with it. She has her own transportation, apartment ect. Gets along really good with all my friends, they love her. She’s fun and I get along with all her friends also.

The bad:
She’s 21, I’m 28. I like her Dad a lot, but her Mom was not the best mother to her, and I don’t really like her lifestyle. She has “gotten” with one of my friends before me. My best boy slept with her mom. That’s really about all the bad.

I’m kind of leaning toward girl 2, but I still love girl 1. Girl 2 just suits me better, we have more in common, we can do things with friends in a group setting and still spend time alone too. I still just love girl 1 and we are different in a lot of ways, but it kind of balances us out I guess?

Been thinking about it all week. Not sleeping with either or anything. I know I don’t “need” a girlfriend. But I want one.

easy...

Girl 1 = she doesn't need you, she has her "fags" (your term) to hang with and need her

girl 2 = needs and wants you..

easy decision..

[RuhlFreak55]

gone fishin.....i would never tell someone to pick between people....you have to decide for yourself. I know if it was me i'd have a very hard time letting go of someone that i'd had all that time with and experiences with etc....

[QuieTSToRM33]

Do what will make you happy.

[j4ever41]

i am not going to try to tell you who to pick,i have enough trouble with that myself,i can tell you that dating someone for 4 months vs a 6 year relationship is hard to compare,the longer the relationship= the more complex a lot of times,things like in the beginning a person that was a little messy and left plates laying around might not get on your nerves but 4,5,6 years into the relationship it starts getting on your last nerve.

[heaven_lee]

If I may?? I would say neither at this point. If you're actually thinking about dating another girl if you are still in love with the first girl then you shouldnt be with either one. The 21 year old may seem mature and stable but chances are she still doesnt know what she wants and you could get caught up in her and possibly hurt.

[Rugger02]

If I may?? I would say neither at this point. If you're actually thinking about dating another girl if you are still in love with the first girl then you shouldnt be with either one. The 21 year old may seem mature and stable but chances are she still doesnt know what she wants and you could get caught up in her and possibly hurt.

My thoughts exactly, It's all fun and easy right now, but girls change. Big time.

But I would have a real hard time with the clingy guy friend too. Other than that Girl 1 sounds great.

[FireGuy]

99% of the time when someone tells of two choices it's the latter of the two they prefer, it's human nature. Dont believe me, try it out on yourself. This happens at all levels and with the simplest of things.

[J-Dogg]

I guess I could make a case for either of them and it's hard to explain. I honestly do love girl 1, but we have been apart for a year.

I feel I could get over her, If i gave another girl a chance, but it's been me really, just not willing to let go.

With girl 1, she does not get along with my friends. Most of my friends are married or in serious relationships, i'm 28...so are they, most have kids. I'm a adult.......while she is older than girl 2, she is far less mature. When she hangs out with her friends, it's at her gay guys friends and I'm just not invited. She just does not feel comfortable around my friends then, I've tried.

Girl 2, is only 21, but she needs me less than girl 1. Girl 2 has her own car, apartment and makes good money. She just likes to give me attention. Girl 1 lives with her mom, drives her moms car when she can't and is too broke to buy herself any transportation.

Heaven, I do love girl 1, but sometimes I feel like I should just move on I guess? I think I could love another girl. I love her, but I don't know that we are compatiable enough. I'm to the point I want a serious relationship. When I first started dating girl 1, I was 22 and she was 19....the first 4 years we drank and screwed. The last 2 I worked all the time, she hung out with her friend. It worked, and I was happy.....but I might be looking for somthing different.

Confusing to me is all....and it's a choice I have to live with for awhile.

[Bojangles69]

Ok you have a girl 1 & 2.
Girl 1 it didn't already work out with, I'd leave that alone.

Girl 2s mom is a whorebag. But Girl 2 seems motivated and independent. Thats attractive in a girl.
But still, consider this.

We take another situation.
Where theres girl 1,2 and also a 3,4,5.

Now you have more options. And if girl 4 had less cons and more pros than girls 1 & 2 they now become obselete.
Girls 1 and 2 are just whats in your life right now. But if it was me personally, I'd control your "I want a girlfriend" idea. And exercise what you said afterwards about "I know I don't need one though".

I'd casually hook up with 2, and wait for #'s 3,4, and 5 to come around. Also this will give you 2 time to either grow on each other, or grow away from each other.
People always wanna rush into things, and I think thats what you're doing.

Keep it casual and you can't go wrong. I'd wait another 4-5 months, see how things change, than maybe make a decision than. You're obviously confused right now, which is the foundation of your thread, which makes me believe you need time to sort out that confusion, not us.

[BuffedGuy]

There is something special about a guy's first.

[J-Dogg]

Ok you have a girl 1 & 2.
Girl 1 it didn't already work out with, I'd leave that alone.

Girl 2s mom is a whorebag. But Girl 2 seems motivated and independent. Thats attractive in a girl.
But still, consider this.

We take another situation.
Where theres girl 1,2 and also a 3,4,5.

Now you have more options. And if girl 4 had less cons and more pros than girls 1 & 2 they now become obselete.
Girls 1 and 2 are just whats in your life right now. But if it was me personally, I'd control your "I want a girlfriend" idea. And exercise what you said afterwards about "I know I don't need one though".

I'd casually hook up with 2, and wait for #'s 3,4, and 5 to come around. Also this will give you 2 time to either grow on each other, or grow away from each other.
People always wanna rush into things, and I think thats what you're doing.

Keep it casual and you can't go wrong. I'd wait another 4-5 months, see how things change, than maybe make a decision than. You're obviously confused right now, which is the foundation of your thread, which makes me believe you need time to sort out that confusion, not us.

Understand that,

there has been girls 3,4,5,6 and so on over the past year. To be honest, I've kind of been dating too much over the last year. I had been hanging out with girl 2, for about 9 months, but I waited 5 months to start dating her. Over about 7 months though, I was spent time with 3/4 other girls.

These are just the 2 that I'd consider taking seriously. I think all girls have their flaws. Girl 1, mostly her lack of motivation, she is emotionally unstable at times and the people she surrounds herself with.

girl 2's only real flaws are her age, but she makes up for it with maturity I guess. And her Mom's a whore.

I don't want to not consider girl 1 because it did not work a year ago. Couples go through ups and downs. A year later we still love each other, some times absence makes the heart grow fonder.

[IM708]

Girl 2

[Bojangles69]

Understand that,

there has been girls 3,4,5,6 and so on over the past year. To be honest, I've kind of been dating too much over the last year. I had been hanging out with girl 2, for about 9 months, but I waited 5 months to start dating her. Over about 7 months though, I was spent time with 3/4 other girls.

These are just the 2 that I'd consider taking seriously. I think all girls have their flaws. Girl 1, mostly her lack of motivation, she is emotionally unstable at times and the people she surrounds herself with.

girl 2's only real flaws are her age, but she makes up for it with maturity I guess. And her Mom's a whore.

I don't want to not consider girl 1 because it did not work a year ago. Couples go through ups and downs. A year later we still love each other, some times absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Yeh, its the nature of the beast.
Your real answer to that question would be to simply look at how much YOU and #1 have changed since you split.
Because there may be a newfound love, but I personally believe the "love conquers all" cliche is complete bs. And if you 2 haven't changed enough, its inevitable to run itself to the ground again.

So obvious real answer for that situation would have to come from trying again. (which I'm not a fan of)

With girl #2, I personally wouldn't give 2 shits about the age. If she REALLY IS mature.
Age is an issue of mind over matter,
and if you don't mind,
it doesnt matter.

+ I see so many friggn 22 & 23 year old dating guys 27-30.
SO MANY. 21 is just 1 year.
The age issue just in my eyes really is no issue at all. Its a hard decision to make, and I still love my highschool gf, first girl I did anythin with. And I STILL think about WOW, sometimes I just wanna be with her so bad.

But another side of me is like "hmm, maybe those are just Romeo and Juliet movies playing in my head" maybe I'm being wayy too idealistic or having a faith that has no real validation.

I have seen you debate people recommending both sides though, which tells me one thing, this thread is not going to help you make a decision, but it might help push you another milimeter closer to it. G/luck!

[JiGGaMaN]

I disagree with the guy above me. Somethings kinda sad about losing someone that u were close to for such a long time and u had all these great moments with. There is a reason u two have known eachother for so long and still arent married, or not even together.
I mean do what think is right brah, but thats just my .02.
good luck with whatever u choose...
Im not in any position to give advice on this subject, i just got a fat chick to suck me off

same here. cheers.

why would you go with the second girl? im assuming 'got with' your buddy means your buddy fisted her. have some dignity dude. i would just go with neither because i dont really trust your ratings for either. we need some pictures and possibly video footage.

[KingTenderloin]

U obviously care a lot about girl 1, ive read several threads about her. I think u want to want #2 but i bet u stick with #1. Personally id go with #2 long enough to work out a threesome with the mom then get back with #1. We can give u alot of advice but u gotta do whatever makes u happy

[Bojangles69]

U obviously care a lot about girl 1, ive read several threads about her. I think u want to want #2 but i bet u stick with #1. Personally id go with #2 long enough to work out a threesome with the mom then get back with #1. We can give u alot of advice but u gotta do whatever makes u happy

This man deserves a noble prize, with my sick twisted mind I can't believe that thought never even passed my mind.

DO IT!!

[Matt]

Both...

[GT2]

Comeon, someone had to post it.

[Kale]

How about Option 3.

DSM4LIFE ? !!!!!

[redz]

I say option 2, there is nothing worse than a women who pays more attention to one of her male friends then you.

[DSM4Life]

Asking us to make the decision for you

[J-Dogg]

Not really looking for anyone to make the choice for me. Just looking for feedback or experince from others. Conversing with it, some times allows me to think more clear.

[DSM4Life]

Not really looking for anyone to make the choice for me. Just looking for feedback or experince from others. Conversing with it, some times allows me to think more clear.

Do yourself a favor and stop thinking too hard about it. In time the answer will come.

[J-Dogg]

Do yourself a favor and stop thinking too hard about it. In time the answer will come.

You are probably right, i need to work on just taking it easy and worry less.

[firmechicano831]

take number 2 bro.

[J-Dogg]

same here. cheers.

why would you go with the second girl? im assuming 'got with' your buddy means your buddy fisted her. have some dignity dude. i would just go with neither because i dont really trust your ratings for either. we need some pictures and possibly video footage.

I live in a town with a population of about 10k residents. MOst of those residents are in the senior citizen class. Age 50+

there are VERY few semi attractive/attrative girls in their 20's that have not slept with a guy I know, or girl I know for that matter.